Asking a Client's Full Name

[MichBoyBlake]

If I ever ask a client anything, I always caveat it with you don't have to answer if you don't want to and I'm very clear about that. I think asking a full name is definitely not a reasonable question, unless you've been talking to a client for a while and they seem a bit dodgy and difficult to work things out with. But I would much sooner just apologize and ask to schedule for a later date, than ask for a full name or 2 pictures. I honestly wouldn't even ask for 1 picture haha.

 

Generally I ask what the client is looking for and why they want to book me, although usually clients answer that question close to initial contact, before I can even ask. The other question I like to ask is like, roughly what their age is, meaning just giving me a decade would be fine. But I also always make sure to add that they don't have to answer that question if they don't want to, and I personally have no issues with any ages. I just like to ask because on my end it's sorta nice to have a very rough idea of what to expect in terms of age when meeting a client for the first time.

 

Full name is way too much. I might ask a first name after I've booked someone, but that's really just to have a name so that in the future I can remember the client and not constantly give off a rude, "who are you? i don't quite remember" vibe. BUT even then I also wouldn't ever expect whatever name I'm given by a client to necessarily be their real name, and I honestly don't care if it's a fake name or not. It's just much better and much more humanizing to try and remember a client by a name rather than something really dumb like "client A" or "client B", if that makes sense.

 

I should note though that if I get a bad vibe from a client that can't be shaken off, I'm also not afraid of just simply telling someone something like sorry, i'm getting a bad vibe from you and you aren't helping fix that vibe so I'm not willing to book with you at this time. I do try to work with people A LOT though so that has really only happened like twice, and one of those times I was pretty convinced the guy wanted me to show up at a hotel with some drug that I couldn't figure out because I didn't understand the like code-name he was giving me for the drug and I don't do drugs at all lol.

 

 

EDIT: added last paragraph

Edited May 23, 2018 by MichBoyBlake

[hougalwizard]

Abour a year ago I moved from a single family house to a secure high rise condo which requires a guest (other than food delivery ppl) not only to fully identify the resident but also provide a picture ID that is swiped for a permant record. Needless to say, this makes for a complete bilateral lack of anonymity With the recent escalation in rates and an apparent decrease in providers willing to host, I am debating whether it is worth the additional cost of a hotel, especially given the fact that I have an erratic schedule to deal with anyway. I’ve met a local provider at a motel which turned out to be a motel which specialized in “short term” (hourly) guests. Needless to say, it wasn’t the Ritz. What to do?

[+ Just Sayin]

@hougalwizard a "no-tell" motel seems to be appropriate; I'd proceed in that direction

[img2ciya]

Abour a year ago I moved from a single family house to a secure high rise condo which requires a guest (other than food delivery ppl) not only to fully identify the resident but also provide a picture ID that is swiped for a permant record. Needless to say, this makes for a complete bilateral lack of anonymity With the recent escalation in rates and an apparent decrease in providers willing to host, I am debating whether it is worth the additional cost of a hotel, especially given the fact that I have an erratic schedule to deal with anyway. I’ve met a local provider at a motel which turned out to be a motel which specialized in “short term” (hourly) guests. Needless to say, it wasn’t the Ritz. What to do?

Are you able to bring someone in with you without going through all of that (literally "escort the escort") and not have to do the ID scan, etc.? I've done that at some hotels when their guest policies are not very friendly.

[rvwnsd]

Ive never been asked for my full name. I wouldnt give it first meeting...

Same here, on both counts.

 

...I used to give a fake first name. Now I use my real name....

Again, same here.

 

...In an odd way, using a fake name reminded me of being in the closet. Its simply too much work to keep track of the lies, an extra layer of caution/pressure on all communications and interactions....

I never thought about the use of fake names as reminding one of being in the closet, but that's a great point. For me, it was too much to remember and keep track of. When I used a fake name and would then not respond when the guy would use "my" name it was obvious it was fake.

 

Are you able to bring someone in with you without going through all of that (literally "escort the escort") and not have to do the ID scan, etc.? I've done that at some hotels when their guest policies are not very friendly.

I used to hire a guy who would host me at his apartment from time to time. At first, if he escorted me upstairs we did not have to go through the rigamaroll of presenting and swiping an ID. Then the policy changes and guests whom he met in the lobby and escorted up had to present their ID and it became too much trouble for him to host. We would simply play at my hotel.

[Frequentflier]

Abour a year ago I moved from a single family house to a secure high rise condo which requires a guest (other than food delivery ppl) not only to fully identify the resident but also provide a picture ID that is swiped for a permant record. Needless to say, this makes for a complete bilateral lack of anonymity With the recent escalation in rates and an apparent decrease in providers willing to host, I am debating whether it is worth the additional cost of a hotel, especially given the fact that I have an erratic schedule to deal with anyway. I’ve met a local provider at a motel which turned out to be a motel which specialized in “short term” (hourly) guests. Needless to say, it wasn’t the Ritz. What to do?

 

Did you move into Trump tower? That process sounds ridiculous. Can you meet a guest in front of the building and get them upstairs without their ID being swiped into an electronic record?

[hougalwizard]

Really going OT here, but: No, not Trump related at all. Apparently the stepped up security was, however, indeed paid by one or more of several governmental security services during a prior election cycle, and maintained by the HOA because of several high profile residents. This occurred prior to my move in, and the residents in question were unknown then to me. I‘ve learned there are a number of governmental agencies responsible for varying protectees (including, federal, state, local and international). Depending on who's in residence, BTW, the only way some residents apparently bring in unregistered guests is if the guest arrives in the parking garage with a resident and can thus bypass security. I suspect there are some wink-and-tip ways I’m not privy to yet, especially in the Penthouses, which have separate access.

[AJ Doyle]

Recently an escort I haven't met before asked me to send two photos and my "full name", so he could verify my identity before he would agree to meet. I said no and explained it was for privacy reasons. He replied he wanted to know for security reasons. He is apparently new to escorting, but I wondered if there could be some entrapment attempt involved.

 

For whatever reason, have any of the providers here asked for a client's full name? I wanted to make sure I haven't slipped into a parallel universe where this is standard practice.

 

~Thanks

I don't see anything wrong with asking for a photo, but asking for a full name is a bit ridiculous! I only require a photo if I am hosting. As the client is coming into my personal space and I want to know who to expect at the front door. If I am doing an Outcall I might ask for a photo, but don't require it and normally don't even bother asking for one.

[Bearofdistinction]

Recently an escort I haven't met before asked me to send two photos and my "full name", so he could verify my identity before he would agree to meet. I said no and explained it was for privacy reasons. He replied he wanted to know for security reasons. He is apparently new to escorting, but I wondered if there could be some entrapment attempt involved.

 

For whatever reason, have any of the providers here asked for a client's full name? I wanted to make sure I haven't slipped into a parallel universe where this is standard practice.

 

~Thanks

 

I Just Tell Him -- I am ACHMED ABBUBU AHMIR!!

[bongripper]

I prefer to be contacted by text or email initially. But if someone wants to book via leaving a voicemail I have my real first and last name on my voicemail and ask for theirs if they want a call back. A lot of times someone will call get the VM not leave a voicemail and then send me a text with only a first name. Which I am cool with. The first and last name thing on VM is mainly to dissuade potential clients from scheduling that way or if they want to I have theirs and they have mine. I know that people on both the provider and client side have had bad experiences but I think the best experiences happen when you go forth with an open and honest heart. But to each his own.

[nsguy45]

I Just Tell Him -- I am ACHMED ABBUBU AHMIR!!

Or Michael Cohen.

[bongripper]

Or Michael Cohen.

David Dennison works too. Has an “imperial flair” to it.