Alex Dreamlover: "I'm not a prostitute. I'm an escort."

[+ saminseattle]

This is a good reminder that prostitution, or sex work, as I prefer to call it, is not the same as escorting. While people often use the terms interchangeably or euphemistically, the distinction is legally important. The exchange of money (or anything of value) for sexual contact is a crime in most jurisdictions. Escorts, in contrast, provide someone companionship for a fee, which is legal. Such companionship may be more common than people think. Sometimes people just want to spend time hanging out with a cute guy, or go on a “date” as part of their coming out process, or go to a dinner or event with a smart, sexy companion. Such engagements might just involve conversation and there are some providers who mix in coaching or counseling from a supportive, gay-friendly perspective. There could also be a physical component, like massage (w/out a HE) or cuddling that would not cross the line into illicit sexual contact. This has been discussed here before, and many real-world examples have been cited: http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/a-session-with-no-sex.111157/; https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/time-only.106963/#post-993783 (post 2), https://www.companyofmen.org/threads/cuddle-up-day-and-miscellaneous-mentions.120706/, https://www.nytimes.com/2016/06/19/fashion/professional-cuddling.html, https://blogs.lawyers.com/attorney/sex-crimes/the-main-difference-between-prostitution-and-escort-services-24035/. Much of this would strike most people as strange, particularly if the rate involved is $300/hour, but that doesn’t mean it isn’t a real phenomenon. Many people also thought it was strange to spend $6,000 on a shower curtain, but it still happened. http://articles.sun-sentinel.com/2002-08-30/lifestyle/0208290536_1_shower-curtain-tyco-funds

 

Of course, it seems likely that many people who provide escort services also go beyond mere companionship to additionally provide sexual services for their clients. In doing so, they are probably crossing the line from legal to illegal activity. But this also raises questions of proof. In general, I suspect that the longer the time spent together and the more hanging out/non-sexual companionship is involved, the harder it would be for the State to prove that prostitution laws are being violated. Ponder this: if an older, wealthier man starts dating a young pretty woman and buys her lots of jewelry and then starts providing her an allowance, are they engaged in prostitution, the exchange of money for sex? Arguably, yes, but that would be a much harder case to prove than the case of a 10-minute blow job in a dark alley for $50. I don’t know what’s going on with this particular advertiser, but perhaps he’s trying to attract a clientele that is more like the former than the latter.

[Rudynate]

I don’t know what’s going on with this particular advertiser, but perhaps he’s trying to attract a clientele that is more like the former than the latter.

 

He just provides a singular experience, such as few others can provide.

[+ StLouisOct]

Brings to mind an ancient joke:

 

Guy in a bar asks the gorgeous blond on the next stool if she’d take a million dollars so that he could fuck her. She quickly agrees. He then asks if he could fuck her for fifty dollars. She angrily responds: “No!! What do you think I am?” He answers: “I’ve already determined what you are. Now we’re just haggling the price.”

Totally off point, but it reminds me of the story about Noah Webster (of dictionary fame) when his wife found him in a compromising position with a woman on his lap. " Mr. Webster, I am startled!," she exclaimed. "No my dear," he replied, "We are startled. You are amazed."