Orientation: Ask Me

[+ Avalon]

When an escort's site says regarding orientation "ask me" what are we to assume? Why not be upfront and open?

[Kevin Slater]

You can assume he wants you to ask.

 

Kevin Slater

[+ José Soplanucas]

http://ilikepinga.com/2017/07/13/people-never-learn/

[Nvr2Thick]

It's kind of like escorts who don't post clear pictures or who omit basic stats. You don't know their motivations for posting an incomplete ad, and any assumption has little value. You have to decide whether it's worth your while to pursue missing information that may be critical to your search. For me, an ad is the escort's first chance to catch my interest. Certain gaps and ambiguities, to me, are uninteresting.

 

Some clients are going to say, "well, I have a conversation with prospective escorts regardless, so I may as well call him and ask." Others are going to decide, "well, he hasn't explicitly stated that he aligns with my preferences, so I'm not inclined to follow up and check when there are escorts available who are more forthcoming in their ads."

[wooly]

Kevin Slater appears to always defend actions of escorts and if I was an escort I would probably do this also. Still, it irritates me when an escort puts "ask me" on anything. I agree with Avalon. Why not just be upfront with this information.

[+ José Soplanucas]

http://media.tumblr.com/cece3ccaad7454ec88d73d5ecacba0f6/tumblr_inline_mrr4b1criN1qz4rgp.gif

[LaffingBear]

I thought it was portrait or landscape, meaning he does it standing up or laying down.

 

Wow, do I spend too much time with MS Office!

[MikeBiDude]

It just means “ask”, so simple.

[+ oldNbusted]

RM doesn't have a "face down, ass up" option yet, so "ask me" will have to do in the meantime...

[samhexum]

o·ri·en·ta·tion

ˌôrēənˈtāSH(ə)n/

noun

1. the determination of the relative position of something or someone (especially oneself).
   "the child's surroundings provide clues to help in orientation"
   
   • the relative physical position or direction of something.
     plural noun: orientations
     

It means 'which direction do you want me to point it-- North, East, South, or West?'

[MikeBiDude]

Kevin Slater appears to always defend actions of escorts and if I was an escort I would probably do this also. Still, it irritates me when an escort puts "ask me" on anything. I agree with Avalon. Why not just be upfront with this information.

If you don’t like “ask” move on to the next...leave them for me. Or ask them why they “ask”

[MikeBiDude]

Hmmmm....all definitions seem to fit, verb and noun, lol

 

ask

ask/Submit

verb

1.

say something in order to obtain an answer or some information.

"he asked if she wanted coffee"

synonyms: inquire, query, want to know; More

2.

request (someone) to do or give something.

"Mary asked her father for money"

synonyms: request, demand; More

noun

1.

a request, especially for a donation.

"it was an awkward ask for more funding"

2.

US

the price at which an item, especially a financial security, is offered for sale.

"ask prices for bonds"

[+ oldNbusted]

If you don’t like “ask”move on to the next...leave them for me. Or ask them why they “ask”

 

One guy told me it was to add an air of mystery to his escorting persona. Since none of us know his business, I think we have to assume it works for him, even if it doesn't work for so many here.

[rvwnsd]

Why is asking such a problem?

[Good Grief]

Why is asking such a problem?

 

For real, yes. If you want to know, ask.

 

Don't we do that in life on a daily basis if we're not sure or haven't been told complete info?

 

(pardon the same gif from the (fucking) ask me thread)

 

http://persephonemagazine.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/karishma-1.gif

[+ sync]

When an escort's site says regarding orientation "ask me" what are we to assume? Why not be upfront and open?

 

It's a practice that has irritated me since it began. Escorts have the individual right for whatever "ask me" option(s) they wish, but no explanation I have seen/heard has justified the pointlessness of it for me. Whenever I see it, I exercise my individual right to move on to someone else.

[+ freecahill1965]

For real, yes. If you want to know, ask.

 

Don't we do that in life on a daily basis if we're not sure or haven't been told complete info?

 

(pardon the same gif from the (fucking) ask me thread)

 

http://persephonemagazine.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/12/karishma-1.gif

Good grief all as long as they are willing to suck, fuck and be merry does it matter. Though in my little experience, those that have had the orientation of gay I have found to give the best head, just saying.

[kevininsa]

It just means “ask”, so simple.

 

Why is asking such a problem?

 

Because some people are introverted and shy and have dealt with it their whole lives. It is an ordeal to inquire to begin with. So now we're going to make the introverted client feel MORE uncomfortable by calling someone who he is NOT compatible with, or charges MORE than he's willing to pay; but won't know until he asks. So he asks and then he is dejected and ends up not looking anymore.

It's NOT simple.

It IS a problem.

Not everyone is like you. So if the escort wants to run their business that way, that's up to them. But I guarantee they are probably losing a little along the way.

[kevininsa]

And before anyone comments, I am that person. And almost every time (all but one) I have talked myself into calling an "ask me" ad, I have been disappointed. They're over my budget. Or they then want to haggle which makes me equally uncomfortable after I've said they're too high. Or they don't include something that's a deal breaker for me, but they wanted an "air of mystery" in their ad. By the time I hung up with the "ask me", I was so drained that I no longer had the energy to hire. It takes a lot of energy to be "on" when you're an introvert.

So just post the information. It's "so simple". Why is posting the information "such a problem"?

[I-zik]

Damn this thread got brutal. Someone actually posted the Webster’s definition of “ask”.

http://pedestriantv-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/images%2Farticle%2F2014%2F04%2F01%2F0df8f22c_jay-z-rap-disgusted-6bb61e3b7bce0931da574d19d1d82c88-1584_large.gif

[Despardo]

Oh heck. It probably means they're straight, or mostly, but don't want you to just wright them off without making contact.

[rvwnsd]

And before anyone comments, I am that person. And almost every time (all but one) I have talked myself into calling an "ask me" ad, I have been disappointed. They're over my budget. Or they then want to haggle which makes me equally uncomfortable after I've said they're too high. Or they don't include something that's a deal breaker for me, but they wanted an "air of mystery" in their ad. By the time I hung up with the "ask me", I was so drained that I no longer had the energy to hire. It takes a lot of energy to be "on" when you're an introvert.

So just post the information. It's "so simple". Why is posting the information "such a problem"?

 

Actually, I have quite a bit of anxiety about talking to people I don't know. That's the major reason why I prefer to use email. I also hate not getting what I want and find that the little checkboxes, even when filled out, often do not provide sufficient information for me. So I ask. Via email. And if I don't feel like an escort is going to work out I don't hire him.

 

It really is that easy. And THAT's coming from someone who suffers from anxiety.

[+ oldNbusted]

Why is asking such a problem?

 

And, why is not asking such a problem?

[+ Tarte Gogo]

It really is that easy. And THAT's coming from someone who suffers from anxiety.

Everyone's anxiety is slightly different.

 

It is not easy for me to ask very personal questions to someone I have never met, even by email. Much worse on the phone. So I skip the ad and move on to the next escort which does not say "ask".

 

But it is up to escort to remain private, and as a side effect to miss out because of my lack of abilities.

[MikeBiDude]

Because some people are introverted and shy and have dealt with it their whole lives. It is an ordeal to inquire to begin with. So now we're going to make the introverted client feel MORE uncomfortable by calling someone who he is NOT compatible with, or charges MORE than he's willing to pay; but won't know until he asks. So he asks and then he is dejected and ends up not looking anymore.

It's NOT simple.

It IS a problem.

Not everyone is like you. So if the escort wants to run their business that way, that's up to them. But I guarantee they are probably losing a little along the way.

And really we are only talking about Rentmen, right?

 

How do you handle prospecting for escorts elesewhere when other resources have even LESS info than RM and “ask” for specific info? What about an escort’s own personal website....do they all little boxes checked off with your preferred requirements ?