Did I mess up?

[Curious]

Hey! Long (not that much tbh) time listener, first time caller.

 

I come for advice because I'm in a conondrum. I hired a guy some time ago (maybe a year), he was my first time hiring and we ended up unexpectadly having a three-way with one of his escort friends (paid of course) and in the middle of it all and after the extra expenditure and my lack of knowledge, I didn't tip them, had no cash left over because I didn't know you should, I felt real bad but it couldn't be helped.

 

Now I'm getting the itch of hiring one of them again but once in the past (several months ago) I sent him a message but got no response back.

 

Should I not bother or could it have been an honest mistake and try to contact him again?

 

Is it reasonable to think that a guy won't want to see you again if you don't tip him?

[Beancounter]

This is not a conundrum. You are under no obligation to tip. If you paid the agreed upon fee the first time a follow up appointment shouldn't be a problem. Any escort that expects a tip in addition to his regular fee shouldn't be in the business.

 

Undoubtedly you will hear opinions running the gamut here. Do what makes you feel comfortable and what you can afford. At the end of the day your opinion is the only one that counts.

[+ Funguy]

The perrenial tipping question.

Ask 100 clients - get 101 answers.

 

There are numerous threads on the subject. I HOPE they did not expect a tip and are not reacting to the lack of one. A tip, if given, is the icing on the cake and should always be accepted as offered: Boy, was that a great time!

Not giving a tip does not mean you didn't have a great time.

 

As to lack of response: I use an app for Gmail (laptop or desktop only) to let me know if and when the recipient has received my email. If opened and escort chooses not to respond - his loss. But I do make sure it was opened.

Called streak.

[LaffingBear]

No.

 

Theres no absolute obligation to tip.

 

Dont overthink it. Just plan for a gratuity next time. In addition to being a nice way to express appreciation, most of us enjoy giving the tip. Think of it as a way to add to your own experience.

 

And, if its really bothering you, if you hire the same guy, if you're very pleased with the session, be a little extra generous with the tip. You can even tell him "I was really happy last time, but ran out of cash because we hired the third guy. So, here's a little extra."

[thonglovertx]

I wouldn't worry about it too much- You have to remember that they see lots of people, so if it's been a year, they prob won't remember that. Also, a lot of escorts are a little on the flaky side (not all) and might have just forgot to respond. Just shoot them another correspondence - if they don't reply move on to try a different flavor....

[Curious]

Ok this helped, thanks so very much! I guess I won't sweat it and if he don't want the business then it's his loss.

 

I'm gonna hold up because there's this guy who is in my To-do list that is out of the country and I'd rather wait and see if he returns for my pre-planned date otherwise I'll continue my search.

[+ poolboy48220]

and given the circumstances, with the third guy unexpectedly joining - I'm surprised you had enough cash on hand to cover them both, much less come up with a tip. It's possible, after a year, that the guy has just retired. I'd try contacting one more time if you're really interested. Emails get lost. What do you have to lose?

[Curious]

and given the circumstances, with the third guy unexpectedly joining - I'm surprised you had enough cash on hand to cover them both, much less come up with a tip. It's possible, after a year, that the guy has just retired. I'd try contacting one more time if you're really interested. Emails get lost. What do you have to lose?

I know he's not retired because he is advertising himself; but yeah I basically had running around cash and I got the sessions money from an ATM so when he offered the other guy I basically had that amount. (He have me a pretty good discount for both too)

[BluDay]

The old tipping rule is you did it if the person being tipped didn't own the establishment - think hairdressers. If they own the place, they are making money. People who don't own a place (still like hairdressers) you would tip. Escorts own their own business (no pun intended) so according to the classic tipping rules, aren't due one. Consider that they are setting the price, and should set it to make their business worth it.

 

In your case, an unexpected significant expense came up. Even if you were expecting to tip, your original guy should realize you spent more than you had planned on the outset.

 

I fear I don't usually tip either - because I'm dealing with the business owner. I have tipped when the session has gone longer than planned.

[+ VictorPowers]

I'm sure they had a great time. No tip needed. Do not feel obligated here. Some clients tip, others don't. No need to overthink it.

[jawjateck]

You respect them. Yall have fun. They provide service consistent with their representation. You pay the agreed rate. You have done them no wrong whatsoever. You have done right. It's their loss if they choose not to retain you as a customer.

 

As for the first meeting, I hope the addition of the second escort was something you really wanted to experience; that is, that you got what you wanted and NOT what the first escort wanted. In any event, never yield to pressure to add-on fees for services or additional participants.

[Pepper Young]

I never tip. I pay the advertised rate, never ask for a discount, am showered and smell nice. If the date involves dinner or a sporting event, I pay for that too. So I feel that anything extra is not necessary.

[+ VictorPowers]

I never tip. I pay the advertised rate, never ask for a discount, am showered and smell nice. If the date involves dinner or a sporting event, I pay for that too. So I feel that anything extra is not necessary.

The most valuable part of your message involved the cleanliness part!