When good clients go awry (bad)..

[Mocha]

A real life email from a client on Rentmen I've met before (anonymous of course):

 

Hey there, I saw your ad and wanted to say hello and to see if you happened to be available this evening for an incall. We met up when you were in town about 6 mos ago and enjoyed the session. Realize it's short notice but figured it never hurts to check

Now, I have good memory and also I archive messages so I can recognize previous contacts. So after about 20 minutes (which is very quick for an email), I caught his message and replied. No response. I then had his number from a previous booking and sent him a text, in case he missed the email. No response.

 

I'm thinking, why would he even reach out if he's going to pussy out and not respond back? In other cases, I've had clients on adam4adam (seems the level of communication etiquette between Adam and Rentmen clients seems to becoming increasingly similar) send me messages on there asking for an appointment. My number is posted on my ad. They didn't have an issue calling the first time, but send an email there when I'm not online, which I don't end up getting for a few hours. By then, either they left town or I left town or either of us can't fit into schedule.

 

I also had another client whom claimed we met in another city. We discussed an appointment a few days ahead of time, but between then and the day of...there were unanswered texts, long delays between texts, and then finally cancelling of the session the day of.

 

Clearly from the email above, I've not done shit wrong for them to be so passive aggressive. But, it seems like some of the second-time clients need to be on probation. Seems like second time clients make up 70% of cancellations or flaky behavior. They're more likely to flake on the 2nd time than the first, but more likely to stay committed to the 3rd, 4th and 5th times than the 2nd. I don't know if it's fear that the second time won't be as good as the first, or they are married/partnered (the example above is). I don't know if they just like the feeling of booking, but knowing well they aren't able to. Or maybe if they don't hear a 50% off BOGO deal on the very first reply, they think they'll be watching the same movie twice for full price, instead of $1 redbox rate.

 

That's the other thing too. Some second time clients seem to want it for less. One guy the other week claims he paid me $100 first time. Then he flaked the night we were supposed to meet. Luckily the next day I ended up meeting him again and having a great time at the 1st time rate, but we didn't go through that drama on the 1st appointment. Knowing damn well, he almost fainted in pleasure during the sex. The 2nd time was just as good. He got off before I got off.

 

I try to have conversations with clients like these and let them know that their inconsistency causes issues in my work/personal life. I've come to realize some clients genuinely don't realize they're being dicks, and need someone to tell them they're behavior is inappropriate. It's good to know I can share with people that we're not all just dropping into cities like flight attendants. Respect and communication and fairness is to be expected. Lots of effort, time and money goes into taking care of these clients request, so to be monkeying around with scheduling is a disservice to all the hard work and commitment I put into making things happen.

[+ JEC]

When it comes to sex there is no predicting behavior. I imagine there are people here married and straight/bi who are in the DL which makes this emotionally and logistically complicated. Could also be during that 20 minutes he found someone else. I feel for thw providers who must deal with a seemingly endless barrage of communications and crazy - which KM sure only a fraction of turn into revenue.....

[Mocha]

When it comes to sex there is no predicting behavior. I imagine there are people here married and straight/bi who are in the DL which makes this emotionally and logistically complicated. Could also be during that 20 minutes he found someone else. I feel for thw providers who must deal with a seemingly endless barrage of communications and crazy - which KM sure only a fraction of turn into revenue.....

 

That is true. Sometimes it all comes down to the primitive fact that its sex. For the most part though, there are people out there who have enough conscience to understand it's just not proper to stand up a professional. Some gay guys refer to gay sex as being as easy to find as pizza delivery.

 

Yet, what mature adult calls/emails Pizza Hut, orders a bunch of toppings...and then goes silent and disappears when asked for phone number and address?

 

That said, I'm getting fed up with the aggravations of gays and gay sex. I just keep getting burnt. I think I'm going to go bi and find me a White woman. Seems like they are the main ones who approach/reciprocate or compliment me, even at the gay bars. While the gays have stank face and they get mad when you fuck them, and then get mad when you don't fuck them. Like what the fuck do we want!?

[bigvalboy]

I think I'm going to go bi and find me a White woman.

 

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[Maximus69]

Girl thats why us escorts always have to keep hustling, we constantly have to replace those clients that have left us for other boys with lower prices, or just plain disappeared lol. :D

[+ Tarte Gogo]

Just want to confirm, as a client, when really horny, I'll contact one escort and will then be thinking about it for half an hour which makes me more horny, so I can't stay without options for tonight, so I'll contact another one, and by the time I get anything back, I'll say yes to the first of the 2 who replies, so then I have to say sorry to the other one.

 

It is unfortunate, but it isn't my brain making decisions at that point.

[+ VictorPowers]

Girl thats why us escorts always have to keep hustling, we constantly have to replace those clients that have left us for other boys with lower prices, or just plain disappeared lol. :D

Everyday We Hustling!

[+ JEC]

Just want to confirm, as a client, when really horny, I'll contact one escort and will then be thinking about it for half an hour which makes me more horny, so I can't stay without options for tonight, so I'll contact another one, and by the time I get anything back, I'll say yes to the first of the 2 who replies, so then I have to say sorry to the other one.

 

It is unfortunate, but it isn't my brain making decisions at that point.

"When it comes to sex there is no predicting behavior....." <=== that's what I'm talkin' 'bout

[Mocha]

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I said White woman, not White lady.

 

But it's so true. Most places in public, whether traveling, hotel bar, gay bar, outdoor festival...white women are always the first to hit on me. More so than gay and straight guys combined. I had one stop me as I was walking out of the doctor's office and say, "you have nice calves". I was flattered but I was like dang...why don't gay guys approach anymore in public? It's almost become pointless to go to Gay bars anymore. When I make the first move on the guys, they always end up having a boyfriend.

 

Same thing happened at a gay bar the other day. No Gay guys talked to me, but had a couple white women admire me.

 

I'm starting to wonder if gay bars are places to meet women and straight clubs are places to meet men. But I don't have time for them guessing games either.

[Eye4Muscle]

I said White woman, not White lady.

 

But it's so true. Most places in public, whether traveling, hotel bar, gay bar, outdoor festival...white women are always the first to hit on me. More so than gay and straight guys combined. I had one stop me as I was walking out of the doctor's office and say, "you have nice calves". I was flattered but I was like dang...why don't gay guys approach anymore in public? It's almost become pointless to go to Gay bars anymore. When I make the first move on the guys, they always end up having a boyfriend.

 

Same thing happened at a gay bar the other day. No Gay guys talked to me, but had a couple white women admire me.

 

I'm starting to wonder if gay bars are places to meet women and straight clubs are places to meet men. But I don't have time for them guessing games either.

Your comment brings up an interesting phenomenon and issue in the gay community. Why are so many gay men reluctant to engage one another in public with any kind of conversation? For another forum I know.

[+ poolboy48220]

We're hanging out with different crowds. The guys I see at the bar are not reluctant at all to start a conversation. Quite the opposite. Whether I get a word in edgewise in that conversation is another matter.

[gallahadesquire]

You found a picture of the Real Me!

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[bigvalboy]

Your comment brings up an interesting phenomenon and issue in the gay community. Why are so many gay men reluctant to engage one another in public with any kind of conversation? For another forum I know.

 

I don't find that to be true at all. Might depend on local, population density, community attitude, I don't know really, but I'm originally from LA and recently transplanted myself in FTL, and I found the guys in LA, all ages, were very open to starting conversations with strangers. FTL might be a little more friendly, but there is that southern hospitality at work and the gay community here is smaller and more cohesive.

[marylander1940]

A real life email from a client on Rentmen I've met before (anonymous of course):

 

Hey there, I saw your ad and wanted to say hello and to see if you happened to be available this evening for an incall. We met up when you were in town about 6 mos ago and enjoyed the session. Realize it's short notice but figured it never hurts to check

Now, I have good memory and also I archive messages so I can recognize previous contacts. So after about 20 minutes (which is very quick for an email), I caught his message and replied. No response. I then had his number from a previous booking and sent him a text, in case he missed the email. No response.

 

I'm thinking, why would he even reach out if he's going to pussy out and not respond back? In other cases, I've had clients on adam4adam (seems the level of communication etiquette between Adam and Rentmen clients seems to becoming increasingly similar) send me messages on there asking for an appointment. My number is posted on my ad. They didn't have an issue calling the first time, but send an email there when I'm not online, which I don't end up getting for a few hours. By then, either they left town or I left town or either of us can't fit into schedule.

 

I also had another client whom claimed we met in another city. We discussed an appointment a few days ahead of time, but between then and the day of...there were unanswered texts, long delays between texts, and then finally cancelling of the session the day of.

 

Clearly from the email above, I've not done shit wrong for them to be so passive aggressive. But, it seems like some of the second-time clients need to be on probation. Seems like second time clients make up 70% of cancellations or flaky behavior. They're more likely to flake on the 2nd time than the first, but more likely to stay committed to the 3rd, 4th and 5th times than the 2nd. I don't know if it's fear that the second time won't be as good as the first, or they are married/partnered (the example above is). I don't know if they just like the feeling of booking, but knowing well they aren't able to. Or maybe if they don't hear a 50% off BOGO deal on the very first reply, they think they'll be watching the same movie twice for full price, instead of $1 redbox rate.

 

That's the other thing too. Some second time clients seem to want it for less. One guy the other week claims he paid me $100 first time. Then he flaked the night we were supposed to meet. Luckily the next day I ended up meeting him again and having a great time at the 1st time rate, but we didn't go through that drama on the 1st appointment. Knowing damn well, he almost fainted in pleasure during the sex. The 2nd time was just as good. He got off before I got off.

 

I try to have conversations with clients like these and let them know that their inconsistency causes issues in my work/personal life. I've come to realize some clients genuinely don't realize they're being dicks, and need someone to tell them they're behavior is inappropriate. It's good to know I can share with people that we're not all just dropping into cities like flight attendants. Respect and communication and fairness is to be expected. Lots of effort, time and money goes into taking care of these clients request, so to be monkeying around with scheduling is a disservice to all the hard work and commitment I put into making things happen.

 

Flakiness has reached epidemic proportions!

[+ José Soplanucas]

I am amazed at how we keep taking anecdotal evidence to diagnose the state of gayness, or clients, or escorts, or human kind.

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[+ lookingforfunny]

I think clients escorts alike have to figure out what is best for them in the heat of the moment. A provider will book their schedule and sometimes have to say sorry or reschedule, just the same as when a client may have inquired about two separate providers to see which one will respond. Perhaps, they are busy working, etc. So, you both end up trying to delicately balance the two. I have difficulty when a provider constantly calls to rebook, when I am not available. I always inform the person that I will contact them again when I am ready to rebook. Often they get upset and make it about me because they continue to text and I may not respond because it is a busy week, or what have you. The point is, communication can be overwhelming both ways. I certainly understand the hustle.