Post-first time thoughts/questions

[maxgoof]

Hi guys,

 

I just had my first escort experience and have some thoughts and questions that I wanted to share.

 

I had been trawling Rentmen for a few weeks, and last night finally decided I wanted to give it a go and book an hour with a guy. I'm in my mid 30s and my boyfriend was away. We play with others and he approved of me trying this out. I messaged the escort quite late; he got back to me immediately and said he could be at mine in half an hour. I realize this is quite abrupt and I should have planned ahead. I wasn't able to exchange more messages or speak with him about what I was looking for. Usually, when booking ahead, how much conversing do you have with the escort? How much detail do you go into about what you're looking for? In hindsight, I wish I had more time to express myself.

 

He arrives promptly and he is gorgeous. Toned, sexy, a killer smile. I lead him to the bedroom and tell him it's my first time with an escort. He tells me he usually begins with the exchange of money; I have it ready in an envelope and hand it to him. He quickly checks it, and puts it away. He then reveals a bottle of baby oil and says he likes to start with a message, "To help us get to know each other." I start panicking in my head: I actively don't like massages, and there was no mention of this on his ad. "I don't really like massages," I say awkwardly. "Ok, so straight to the sex," he says. I wasn't sure if this was an awkward or simply a straightforward moment; I was very nervous.

 

He asks for "intimate lighting," so turns off all lights except the bathroom light, leaving the bathroom door ajar. I don't like this, as it was quite dark and I like having sex in relative brightness. I thought, "I'm paying you so I can enjoy how hot you are." The darkness made that difficult. I suppose I should have said something, right?

 

We start kissing and immediately I'm disappointed. I am big on kissing and he was clearly holding back. It was all just pecks on my lips, one after another. No passion, no tongue, I don't think his mouth even opened once. I later noticed that Kissing wasn't listed as one of the activities on the What I'm Into section of his ad. This is one instance where I realize how important it should have been to communicate with him beforehand. If kissing is in fact not something he advertises, I wouldn't have hired him in the first place.

 

I suck him off and get off on his moaning. However when I look up, he has his eyes closed and he's looking away from me. I assume he's thinking of someone else, and here I truly realize this is a transaction, that this is not real sex like I have with my boyfriend. It's disappointing, but definitely very interesting to actually experience.

 

I then have to ask him to suck me off. I didn't like that I had to ask him, but it didn't seem like he was going to had I not asked. The blowjob he gave me was, like the kissing, dispassionate, at least when compared to my boyfriend's, or guys we hook up with on other occasions.

 

After a bit more lip-pecking, he reaches for the condoms and lube. It felt like it had barely been ten minutes. "Not yet," I say, and he complies. After a few more minutes of foreplay, he again reaches for the condoms and this time I just let him. It still felt too soon and rushed, but I was over resisting. I have my legs in the air and he fucks me, and I think, "It feels so good to have a man this hot inside me." While fucking me though, he never makes eye contact; he has his eyes closed, his face even turned away. It felt like he found me so repulsive that he couldn't keep his eyes open. I realize having to stay hard for anyone is an incredible skill, and I think what these guys do is amazing and of such value, but I couldn't help find it dispiriting. I like a guy looking into my eyes as he's thrusting into me, kissing me, holding me close. This was rote and dispassionate.

 

After a couple changes of position, I make myself cum while he's fucking me. I don't know what time it is but I realize how quick it's been. There is no post-coital cuddling and kissing, like I imagined. He gives me a few more lip pecks, gets up and says, "I should be going."

 

"Has it been an hour already?" I say.

 

"Usually it's over when the client cums, I don't really look at the clock."

 

He heads to the bathroom to get rid of the condom. I check the time on my phone: it had only been 30 minutes since he arrived! I feel so stupid for cumming so quickly, but realize it's also indicative of how not into it I was. Like I just wanted to get it over with.

 

I ask if I can help him cum. "Oh no, I've already cum today." He smiles awkwardly. I would have wanted to see him cum. Is this something you make explicit beforehand? Is this expectation unfair?

 

He gets dressed and calls an Uber. As he waits, we chat. He is so friendly, it makes me sad the sex was so disappointing. He tells me he too has a boyfriend, and I imagine how different the sex with him must be. "He's lucky," I say. He laughs.

 

When he leaves, he gives me the deepest lip-peck he had given me and strokes my shoulder. He was only with me for 45 minutes. It made me feel cheated, like I didn't get everything I paid for. Should I have asked him to stay longer?

 

I'm sorry for going on and on, but I wanted to get my full experience written down, for myself and anyone interested in reading. While I ultimately found the experience rushed and disappointing, I feel like I learned a lot. I definitely won't stop me from hiring again, and soon. What should I have done differently? Or more of? I am a bit confused by his performance, because his reviews are abundant and stellar. I suppose it also had to do with chemistry. But for what I paid, I thought I was going to get passion. Was he just not one of the best? Or am I being unrealistic?

 

If you've made it this far, thank you for reading, and any thoughts would be very welcome. I'm new to this, I'd like to learn and not have to overthink it so much.

[Sandlapp]

Been there. I hate it when they hold-back on the kissing. I always say up front that kissing is very important to me. I also do some research in the form of reviews and comments on this forum. However, I have still had the experience of arranging a meeting with some scorching hot guy only to have him kiss me like I'm his sister. So, I put up a RM profile in which I make it clear that if you're not willing to kiss me full-on with tongue, then we're not a match. I refer guys to that and ask if they think we're a match before arranging a meeting. I've also gotten better about asking clearly for what I want like "I need you to wash your pits" or "flex for me."

[Jim Corrigan]

I've been there.Good chemistry can be elusive.You can find what you are looking for.There are many amazing escorts out there, pm me.

[Lab12]

That feeling of being cheated, sucks. I am very sure you are not the first person to feel like this after your first ever meeting with an escort but just as in life we learn from our mistakes, you just have to learn from this. As stated already there are several amazing escorts out there. Try and do some vetting on here if you want to hire someone, RM reviews aren't always reliable but there are some guys in this forum that I trust to give good info on most of the good escorts that there are.

[Mo Mason]

It always seems a bit rushed when you jump right into foreplay and sex. My last meeting with an escort was the same way.. it was awesome and he was really hot, but he was out the door in 30 minutes. If you don't like massage, then maybe just sit and chat for 10-15 minutes at the beginning.

 

But really you should have taken more time during the initial texting/email to communicate exactly what you were looking for.

[MikeBiDude]

While fucking me though, he never makes eye contact; he has his eyes closed, his face even turned away. It felt like he found me so repulsive that he couldn't keep his eyes open. I realize having to stay hard for anyone is an incredible skill, and I think what these guys do is amazing and of such value, but I couldn't help find it dispiriting. I like a guy looking into my e

 

However when I look up, he has his eyes closed and he's looking away from me. I assume he's thinking of someone else, and here I truly realize this is a transaction

You may also need to review your own realistic expectations about an encounter.

[caliguy]

I would find it really creepy for some stranger to want to stare in my eyes while I was fucking them. The kissing part wasn't listed which is no fault of his own.

 

Next time ask for a BF experience. Everyone knows what that means.

[gallahadesquire]

Conversation is all. I'm amazed that you did all that in 30 minutes ... at my age, it would take 3 hours.

 

I recently opened up the Hidden Nerd of a Very Well Respected escort. Wheee! We texted about muscle cars for an hour or so. That was great fun! And I didn't feel I was wasting his time.

[+ José Soplanucas]

http://ilikepinga.com/2017/08/29/clients-escorts/

http://ilikepinga.com/2017/08/31/first-contact/

Hi guys,

 

I just had my first escort experience and have some thoughts and questions that I wanted to share.

 

I had been trawling Rentmen for a few weeks, and last night finally decided I wanted to give it a go and book an hour with a guy. I'm in my mid 30s and my boyfriend was away. We play with others and he approved of me trying this out. I messaged the escort quite late; he got back to me immediately and said he could be at mine in half an hour. I realize this is quite abrupt and I should have planned ahead. I wasn't able to exchange more messages or speak with him about what I was looking for. Usually, when booking ahead, how much conversing do you have with the escort? How much detail do you go into about what you're looking for? In hindsight, I wish I had more time to express myself.

 

He arrives promptly and he is gorgeous. Toned, sexy, a killer smile. I lead him to the bedroom and tell him it's my first time with an escort. He tells me he usually begins with the exchange of money; I have it ready in an envelope and hand it to him. He quickly checks it, and puts it away. He then reveals a bottle of baby oil and says he likes to start with a message, "To help us get to know each other." I start panicking in my head: I actively don't like massages, and there was no mention of this on his ad. "I don't really like massages," I say awkwardly. "Ok, so straight to the sex," he says. I wasn't sure if this was an awkward or simply a straightforward moment; I was very nervous.

 

He asks for "intimate lighting," so turns off all lights except the bathroom light, leaving the bathroom door ajar. I don't like this, as it was quite dark and I like having sex in relative brightness. I thought, "I'm paying you so I can enjoy how hot you are." The darkness made that difficult. I suppose I should have said something, right?

 

We start kissing and immediately I'm disappointed. I am big on kissing and he was clearly holding back. It was all just pecks on my lips, one after another. No passion, no tongue, I don't think his mouth even opened once. I later noticed that Kissing wasn't listed as one of the activities on the What I'm Into section of his ad. This is one instance where I realize how important it should have been to communicate with him beforehand. If kissing is in fact not something he advertises, I wouldn't have hired him in the first place.

 

I suck him off and get off on his moaning. However when I look up, he has his eyes closed and he's looking away from me. I assume he's thinking of someone else, and here I truly realize this is a transaction, that this is not real sex like I have with my boyfriend. It's disappointing, but definitely very interesting to actually experience.

 

I then have to ask him to suck me off. I didn't like that I had to ask him, but it didn't seem like he was going to had I not asked. The blowjob he gave me was, like the kissing, dispassionate, at least when compared to my boyfriend's, or guys we hook up with on other occasions.

 

After a bit more lip-pecking, he reaches for the condoms and lube. It felt like it had barely been ten minutes. "Not yet," I say, and he complies. After a few more minutes of foreplay, he again reaches for the condoms and this time I just let him. It still felt too soon and rushed, but I was over resisting. I have my legs in the air and he fucks me, and I think, "It feels so good to have a man this hot inside me." While fucking me though, he never makes eye contact; he has his eyes closed, his face even turned away. It felt like he found me so repulsive that he couldn't keep his eyes open. I realize having to stay hard for anyone is an incredible skill, and I think what these guys do is amazing and of such value, but I couldn't help find it dispiriting. I like a guy looking into my eyes as he's thrusting into me, kissing me, holding me close. This was rote and dispassionate.

 

After a couple changes of position, I make myself cum while he's fucking me. I don't know what time it is but I realize how quick it's been. There is no post-coital cuddling and kissing, like I imagined. He gives me a few more lip pecks, gets up and says, "I should be going."

 

"Has it been an hour already?" I say.

 

"Usually it's over when the client cums, I don't really look at the clock."

 

He heads to the bathroom to get rid of the condom. I check the time on my phone: it had only been 30 minutes since he arrived! I feel so stupid for cumming so quickly, but realize it's also indicative of how not into it I was. Like I just wanted to get it over with.

 

I ask if I can help him cum. "Oh no, I've already cum today." He smiles awkwardly. I would have wanted to see him cum. Is this something you make explicit beforehand? Is this expectation unfair?

 

He gets dressed and calls an Uber. As he waits, we chat. He is so friendly, it makes me sad the sex was so disappointing. He tells me he too has a boyfriend, and I imagine how different the sex with him must be. "He's lucky," I say. He laughs.

 

When he leaves, he gives me the deepest lip-peck he had given me and strokes my shoulder. He was only with me for 45 minutes. It made me feel cheated, like I didn't get everything I paid for. Should I have asked him to stay longer?

 

I'm sorry for going on and on, but I wanted to get my full experience written down, for myself and anyone interested in reading. While I ultimately found the experience rushed and disappointing, I feel like I learned a lot. I definitely won't stop me from hiring again, and soon. What should I have done differently? Or more of? I am a bit confused by his performance, because his reviews are abundant and stellar. I suppose it also had to do with chemistry. But for what I paid, I thought I was going to get passion. Was he just not one of the best? Or am I being unrealistic?

 

If you've made it this far, thank you for reading, and any thoughts would be very welcome. I'm new to this, I'd like to learn and not have to overthink it so much.

[+ Keith30309]

I've had similar experiences a few times and so am sympathetic to your situation. What I've done to try to minimize it happening is, first, to be Really clear with exactly what I want - I have a lengthy RM profile- and make sure my prospective companion has read it. It sounds like you got the generic experience... if you don't ask for extra pickles on your Wendy's burger you get the same combo #2 as everybody else.

Secondly, I'm careful in who I hire and it usually involves vetting written reviews or forum comments. Also I've found that hiring based purely on physical looks doesn't end well - look for personality first and then physical type second.

 

Even that isn't foolproof. A few weeks ago I had a really lousy experience with a guy about whom there were some positive comments and I had made sure he read my profile. It seemed as if he completely ignored my written preferences... I even ask him mid-stream if he'd read it ("yeah...and?").

 

Try again! My first experience was horrible but you gotta get back up on the horse. Find someone here on the forum and who has some positive commentary.

[MikeyGMin]

Connections (Looking you in the eye and really being there WITH you.) is a really tricky and intangible thing. Through no fault of your own, other than lack of experience, you didn't take any time to make a connection with him. He was offering a massage as a way to ease into the session. Since you don't like receiving it might have been a good idea to offer him the massage and take some time to get comfortable with one another. If the massage in either direction was out of the question, you really would have benefited from just chatting with him for awhile. Spending the first 15 minutes just chatting goes a long way towards acknowledging each person's humanity.

 

That sad, he simply isn't a good escort if he has a "cum and go" policy. A good escort who is interested in repeat business would have spent that time at the end of the session getting to know you better.

[+ Keith30309]

http://ilikepinga.com/2017/08/29/clients-escorts/

http://ilikepinga.com/2017/08/31/first-contact/

Also check out @tylerthebadwolf s comments at http://badwolfblog.com/blog/2017/01/27/how-to-contact-an-escort/#

(Tons of great, insightful material in his blog!)

[wklucas]

There are many sympathetic things that could be said here......but - you've been "trawling" RM for several weeks.....you say that you are BIG on kissing (as am I, isn't everybodyo_O).....you contact & arrange with a guy who does not specify kissing & you don't clarify that before hiring.....you fucked up......(of course, no guarantees - some escorts say yes to kissing & deliver the closed-mouth pecking (or even less, if possible) too.....& as a client, it's something that's simply would be no fun to have to attempt to force that activity)......don't get discouraged though.....in the future simply try to ascertain compatibility through better screening & communication before hiring.

[MiamiLooker]

Was he just not one of the best?

No

[+ sync]

The first experience with just about anything is not without a learning curve. Your "staying power" throughout thirty minutes of disappointment is admirable. I would've probably bailed after the first ten minutes of your experience. Being armed with what you have learned from this experience should considerably enhance your next hiring experience. Onward!

[+ Funguy]

You want someone who gazes into your eyes while you are kissing and fucking ( sorry to be so crass ) you should give Mike Gaite a jingle.

Not only will he kiss your face off but he will look deep into you with the most incredibly sexually stirring eyes.

I don't know your location but if Mike does pass thru, don't hesitate.

 

Chemistry could be the missing link you did not have but it sure sounds like it was more. The escort knew you were new to this and it should have been the opposite of what you had - more time than less, not hurried at all, let YOU explore a bit.

 

We can all learn from your post, even those of us who do this often. Vetting the new guy is vital - esp here on Daddy's. I think it is the most reliable source in the field - not everybody will agree with all the reviews but there is a consensus most of the time.

Also, do not be afraid of posting a 411 on someone who you are thinking about. Let your big head do the thinking, the little head will have more fun.

[RyanDean]

I think you've answered many of your own questions, @maxgoof.

 

But, yeah, it can be tricky -- especially because hiring is different than hooking up.

And those differences can be what make the experience so much hotter, if you understand them.

 

So it seems your takeaways from this one are:

1/ you like to confirm mutual expectations before making the appointment;

2/ deep kissing, intimate interaction and BFE-type connection is important to you;

3/ you like to be able to look at the gent, with the lights on;

4/ you're generally not much for massage but also don't want to get down to it right away;

5/ you like post-coital cuddling;

6/ it's important for you to see him cum.

 

All of those things might seem like no-brainers to you, but I think everyone here would have their own list of main preferences. A gent can't be expected to read your mind. Indeed, I have found that most experienced gents use a bit of a template for charting how the encounter plays out. Sometimes they do so for ambience, sometimes as a subtle way of managing the time (ie the length of a playlist). My most recent hire (someone I was seeing for the second time) did the exact same thing he did our first time -- setting up the music, adjusting the lighting, etc -- but, because I communicated my interests simply and plainly prior to and during our encounter, I never felt like the template overwrote my wants (which it does seem like it did with your encounter).

 

I find it a bit weird that a well-reviewed guy asked for and counted the money upfront, as that's not been typical for me. But good reviews guarantee nothing. I find that good reviews (on Daddys) are a mostly reliable indicator that the gent is legit. But I read all reviews, as well as the ad text (and the boxes checked), very carefully to get a sense of whether and how the gent and I might be a good fit. And I then use the email/text exchange that follows to assess whether my first impression was accurate. And the second I get the sense that it won't work, I try to put on the brakes.

 

And as with any hobby, it can take a few attempts before you find your groove. I'm glad you're game to try it again.

[ChicagoGuy]

Just my thoughts. Escorting is a business and these escorts are there to play out our fantasies. It's really just a matter of finding the best 'actor' among them. I like pretty much everything that @maxgoof likes. But I have so far learned that these things only happen in more meaningful encounters. And Rentmen is not the site to look for them in. All of them will play you. You just have to be the better player. You have the money, so you have the power in this scenario.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

@maxgoof, what you are asking for is very rare, but it does exist. You will need to trawl through a lot of reviews to find it. And just know that if you insist on a perfect match (hot exactly as you like him and also doing everything as you like it), that escort might be on the other side of the planet.

 

Let me go through your questions one by one:

 

Usually, when booking ahead, how much conversing do you have with the escort?

 

I only talk about time, place, top/bottom, kisser or not, and price and how long. All by text messages.

Then if the escort is not good, I simply do not repeat, and potentially write a bad review.

 

He tells me he usually begins with the exchange of money

 

I am ok with that. But makes it unlikely that I will tip, I won't reach out for my wallet a second time.

 

"I don't really like massages," I say awkwardly. "Ok, so straight to the sex," he says. I wasn't sure if this was an awkward or simply a straightforward moment

I would interpret that as just straight talk and action.

 

The darkness made that difficult. I suppose I should have said something, right?

 

Some escorts are not turned on by their client and it helps them imagine some much hotter sex if they can't see you.

But that should be your choice, yes, and if that is important to you, you can ask "in a fully lit room" in your next hiring request as a condition. If the next escort says no, don't hire them.

 

No passion, no tongue, I don't think his mouth even opened once.

 

Ask for French kissing as a condition in your next hire. If they say they will d that, and then don't actually do it, report here so we all know they are flaky.

 

However when I look up, he has his eyes closed and he's looking away from me.

 

Yeah... that is probably the hardest thing to get reliably for really hot escorts. Hot guys are used to sex (for pleasure) with other hot guys, and that is not me. I usually live with it and try to enjoy myself anyway.

 

I then have to ask him to suck me off.

 

That would be better if you ask before and make it a condition for the hire. This way the sex feels natural and it isn't a constant negotiation during the act.

 

It felt like it had barely been ten minutes. "Not yet," I say, and he complies. After a few more minutes of foreplay, he again reaches for the condoms and this time I just let him. It still felt too soon and rushed

 

Well, to be fare, you did refuse a massage, which could have been a long foreplay and ass preparation seance... But you were right to push back, it is up to you when you get fucked.

 

he has his eyes closed, his face even turned away

 

Eyes closed: unfortunately quite common.

Face turned away ?? that is a bit much. Unless you had bad breath and he was trying to avoid it, I see that as a bad escort, simple. Come on, providers, at least try to act!

 

I like a guy looking into my eyes as he's thrusting into me, kissing me, holding me close.

 

Yeah, I think many, many of us like that. You should ask for advice here on who does this well in your area of the world. Note, the recommendation you get might not be your standard of beauty, unless you are really lucky. It will be someone else's standard of beauty instead.

 

There is no post-coital cuddling and kissing, like I imagined.

 

That I think should be standard. Others may disagree with me here. But anyway, I usually just grab my escort and start the cuddling, so he can't run away.

 

"Usually it's over when the client cums"

 

That is bullshit, and in my book, that sentence alone deserves a bad review. I pay for "1 hour", not "one session" unless we have agreed otherwise.

 

I ask if I can help him cum. "Oh no, I've already cum today." He smiles awkwardly. I would have wanted to see him cum. Is this something you make explicit beforehand? Is this expectation unfair?

 

Yes, some of them get hired many times per day, so they do not expect to be able to come for every client. You need to make it a requirement in your hiring contract if it is important to you (for example I don't require it, it is about my pleasure, not his), so that the escort knows not to schedule another 4 clients who want that the same day.

And again, if they fail to deliver on a promise, you could let us know they are flaky through the review process.

 

He was only with me for 45 minutes. It made me feel cheated, like I didn't get everything I paid for. Should I have asked him to stay longer?

 

You can ask, but frankly at this point I would also have given up, I don't want to cuddle a guy who can't wait to get out. That does mean a bad point on his review though.

 

I am a bit confused by his performance, because his reviews are abundant and stellar.

 

Are these reviews on RM or here? Reviews on RM are not reliable, because the escort can remove the bad ones and create an account and post a good one. I would never trust them.

 

Anyway I am glad you are not giving up, but 2 things:

1. Don't expect everything to be resolved, even your best hire isn't perfect and one of these things will still not be right, or something else like the price or the location will make the encounter difficult or even impossible.

2. Read reviews by regular members here, or ask for advice. Clients posting here all want the same: information on who is good, and the escort's word is not sufficiently reliable.

Past good performance does not guarantee future good performance, but it is certainly more reliable that a promise of "I am very good in bed".

[caliguy]

Just my thoughts. Escorting is a business and these escorts are there to play out our fantasies. It's really just a matter of finding the best 'actor' among them. I like pretty much everything that @maxgoof likes. But I have so far learned that these things only happen in more meaningful encounters. And Rentmen is not the site to look for them in. All of them will play you. You just have to be the better player. You have the money, so you have the power in this scenario.

I agree and disagree. Just depends on what it is that you like. If young pretty prima donna twinks are your type then yes it's a guarantee acting will certainly be involved. However, if you find someone that's more mature mentally and physically it's allot easier to connect with them and the sex is always better. Easier to get that BF experience.

[+ freecahill1965]

Hi guys,

 

I just had my first escort experience and have some thoughts and questions that I wanted to share.

 

I had been trawling Rentmen for a few weeks, and last night finally decided I wanted to give it a go and book an hour with a guy. I'm in my mid 30s and my boyfriend was away. We play with others and he approved of me trying this out. I messaged the escort quite late; he got back to me immediately and said he could be at mine in half an hour. I realize this is quite abrupt and I should have planned ahead. I wasn't able to exchange more messages or speak with him about what I was looking for. Usually, when booking ahead, how much conversing do you have with the escort? How much detail do you go into about what you're looking for? In hindsight, I wish I had more time to express myself.

 

He arrives promptly and he is gorgeous. Toned, sexy, a killer smile. I lead him to the bedroom and tell him it's my first time with an escort. He tells me he usually begins with the exchange of money; I have it ready in an envelope and hand it to him. He quickly checks it, and puts it away. He then reveals a bottle of baby oil and says he likes to start with a message, "To help us get to know each other." I start panicking in my head: I actively don't like massages, and there was no mention of this on his ad. "I don't really like massages," I say awkwardly. "Ok, so straight to the sex," he says. I wasn't sure if this was an awkward or simply a straightforward moment; I was very nervous.

 

He asks for "intimate lighting," so turns off all lights except the bathroom light, leaving the bathroom door ajar. I don't like this, as it was quite dark and I like having sex in relative brightness. I thought, "I'm paying you so I can enjoy how hot you are." The darkness made that difficult. I suppose I should have said something, right?

 

We start kissing and immediately I'm disappointed. I am big on kissing and he was clearly holding back. It was all just pecks on my lips, one after another. No passion, no tongue, I don't think his mouth even opened once. I later noticed that Kissing wasn't listed as one of the activities on the What I'm Into section of his ad. This is one instance where I realize how important it should have been to communicate with him beforehand. If kissing is in fact not something he advertises, I wouldn't have hired him in the first place.

 

I suck him off and get off on his moaning. However when I look up, he has his eyes closed and he's looking away from me. I assume he's thinking of someone else, and here I truly realize this is a transaction, that this is not real sex like I have with my boyfriend. It's disappointing, but definitely very interesting to actually experience.

 

I then have to ask him to suck me off. I didn't like that I had to ask him, but it didn't seem like he was going to had I not asked. The blowjob he gave me was, like the kissing, dispassionate, at least when compared to my boyfriend's, or guys we hook up with on other occasions.

 

After a bit more lip-pecking, he reaches for the condoms and lube. It felt like it had barely been ten minutes. "Not yet," I say, and he complies. After a few more minutes of foreplay, he again reaches for the condoms and this time I just let him. It still felt too soon and rushed, but I was over resisting. I have my legs in the air and he fucks me, and I think, "It feels so good to have a man this hot inside me." While fucking me though, he never makes eye contact; he has his eyes closed, his face even turned away. It felt like he found me so repulsive that he couldn't keep his eyes open. I realize having to stay hard for anyone is an incredible skill, and I think what these guys do is amazing and of such value, but I couldn't help find it dispiriting. I like a guy looking into my eyes as he's thrusting into me, kissing me, holding me close. This was rote and dispassionate.

 

After a couple changes of position, I make myself cum while he's fucking me. I don't know what time it is but I realize how quick it's been. There is no post-coital cuddling and kissing, like I imagined. He gives me a few more lip pecks, gets up and says, "I should be going."

 

"Has it been an hour already?" I say.

 

"Usually it's over when the client cums, I don't really look at the clock."

 

He heads to the bathroom to get rid of the condom. I check the time on my phone: it had only been 30 minutes since he arrived! I feel so stupid for cumming so quickly, but realize it's also indicative of how not into it I was. Like I just wanted to get it over with.

 

I ask if I can help him cum. "Oh no, I've already cum today." He smiles awkwardly. I would have wanted to see him cum. Is this something you make explicit beforehand? Is this expectation unfair?

 

He gets dressed and calls an Uber. As he waits, we chat. He is so friendly, it makes me sad the sex was so disappointing. He tells me he too has a boyfriend, and I imagine how different the sex with him must be. "He's lucky," I say. He laughs.

 

When he leaves, he gives me the deepest lip-peck he had given me and strokes my shoulder. He was only with me for 45 minutes. It made me feel cheated, like I didn't get everything I paid for. Should I have asked him to stay longer?

 

I'm sorry for going on and on, but I wanted to get my full experience written down, for myself and anyone interested in reading. While I ultimately found the experience rushed and disappointing, I feel like I learned a lot. I definitely won't stop me from hiring again, and soon. What should I have done differently? Or more of? I am a bit confused by his performance, because his reviews are abundant and stellar. I suppose it also had to do with chemistry. But for what I paid, I thought I was going to get passion. Was he just not one of the best? Or am I being unrealistic?

 

If you've made it this far, thank you for reading, and any thoughts would be very welcome. I'm new to this, I'd like to learn and not have to overthink it so much.

 

Do not feel bad. I had had similar experiences for similar reasons. I make sure that kissing is in the I am into and when I communicate with an eschort I specifically state I want passionate tongue kissing Reading through this forum has been so helpful as well. I try to stay away from those without reviews but I do break the rules once in a while. I am sure others will offer advice as well. Good luck

[+ Tarte Gogo]

I try to stay away from those without reviews but I do break the rules once in a while

 

Well, yes, sometimes, someone has to try an unreviewed young escort, or we would never have a chance at introducing new blood.

I have "taken the plunge" thrice in the last 2 months and do not regret it so far.

[+ freecahill1965]

Well, yes, sometimes, someone has to try an unreviewed young escort, or we would never have a chance at introducing new blood.

I have "taken the plunge" thrice in the last 2 months and do not regret it so far.

 

I took one for the team 3x's in the last month. I wish my results were has good as yours. I am going to try and get some offical daddy reviews done this weekend. Maybe we should start a fund raiser called Taking One for the Team. We review new eschorts twice a month in major cities. This would help increase our pool selection.

[+ freecahill1965]

Been there. I hate it when they hold-back on the kissing. I always say up front that kissing is very important to me. I also do some research in the form of reviews and comments on this forum. However, I have still had the experience of arranging a meeting with some scorching hot guy only to have him kiss me like I'm his sister. So, I put up a RM profile in which I make it clear that if you're not willing to kiss me full-on with tongue, then we're not a match. I refer guys to that and ask if they think we're a match before arranging a meeting. I've also gotten better about asking clearly for what I want like "I need you to wash your pits" or "flex for me."

Awesome advice, I will have to figure how to do that on my RM profile.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

I am going to try and get some offical daddy reviews done this weekend

Yes, please!

 

I already submitted a review for every new encounter to daddy.