Haggling with Escorts?

[NathanJustice]

How appropriate do you think it is to haggle with escorts on their rate?

 

I've been talking with a client and everything has been normal. Now the day before our meeting, he's said he wants to hire another escort and then pay us both half our rates or some kind of discount like that. To my knowledge, he's not found anyone who would agree to that and he doesn't expect any change in my services.

 

I've said yes to people who asked if I could accept less because they couldn't afford my rate, but this just seems like the guy can pay, but wants to be difficult.

 

I feel it's somewhat rude because I wouldn't give a lower quality service (use my phone during our time, give lazy/half-hearted attention), so why expect some large discount?

 

Anyways, I'm interested in everyone's opinions on this sort of thing. Is this a common practice for some?

[caliguy]

 

I've been talking with a client and everything has been normal. Now the day before our meeting, he's said he wants to hire another escort and then pay us both half our rates or some kind of discount like that. To my knowledge, he's not found anyone who would agree to that and he doesn't expect any change in my services.

 

Depends on who's fantasy it is. If his you'd be crazy to drop your rates. If he's a friend then that would be the only situation. The only rule of thumb for you is that you don't charge any more when another escort is involved.

[Guest DeepSouthDad53]

Granted, I am a bit too timid to haggle in the first place and do not like conflict. But I also respect escorts as professionals. If they post or tell me a rate, I either honor it or move on. If they post "negotiable" or give me a discount as a long-term client, that is another matter. In this case, not only is the guy rude, disrespectful, and cheap, he apparently does not respect your professionalism.

[+ oldNbusted]

How appropriate do you think it is to haggle with escorts on their rate?

 

I don't think it's appropriate and I try very hard to not say anything that could even be misinterpreted as haggling.

[MartyB]

I have rate I will not go beyond no matter who the escort is. No that Rentmen doesn't list $'s I have to ask which is an option I now have to go through. That ads to the potential for some haggling but I try to stay within my boundaries. With my current regular he discounted me and insisted. I'm appreciative and never take it for granted.

[+ freecahill1965]

Bottom line! As I client, I feel you should not haggle one bit. You rate is your rate. If someone wishes to haggle with you, it is a Red flag and is just wrong on many levels. I would not even respond to the email.

[+ bashful]

Bottom line! As I client, I feel you should not haggle one bit. You rate is your rate. If someone wishes to haggle with you, it is a Red flag and is just wrong on many levels. I would not even respond to the email.

 

And, as a client, and were my financial circumstances change, I would never tell a provider whom I've met before I need a break on the rate.

[MassageDrew]

As a client, I think it's a bit rude of other clients to ask for "special" pricing other than what is advertised. You know the price going in so find someone else if you cannot afford it. Now, for those with "ask me" on the rate section you're leaving yourself up haggling scenario.

[kaboom35]

I don't ever ask for a discount. But if an escort tells me their rate that I can't afford I usually will say "I'm sorry, I can't afford that". From there the escort can decide to drop their rate for me or say "have a nice day". I've had both instances happen.

[NathanJustice]

Thanks for the input. It felt inappropriate so I'm going with my gut and calling it off with him. After I was firm, he said he can't find rates on my site now (they're the very first thing) and started replying with a different name. Sounds like a big mess haha.

[AndyDandy]

I would never haggle over the rate. Having said that, I do think the rates are getting a bit out of control at $300 (ish) per hour. But, if I can't afford it then I move on.

[NathanJustice]

I would never haggle over the rate. Having said that, I do think the rates are getting a bit out of control at $300 (ish) per hour. But, if I can't afford it then I move on.

 

I've been trying to be a little lower on average at 250. 3rd hour free.

[NJmusclelover]

How appropriate do you think it is to haggle with escorts on their rate?

 

I've been talking with a client and everything has been normal. Now the day before our meeting, he's said he wants to hire another escort and then pay us both half our rates or some kind of discount like that. To my knowledge, he's not found anyone who would agree to that and he doesn't expect any change in my services.

 

I've said yes to people who asked if I could accept less because they couldn't afford my rate, but this just seems like the guy can pay, but wants to be difficult.

 

I feel it's somewhat rude because I wouldn't give a lower quality service (use my phone during our time, give lazy/half-hearted attention), so why expect some large discount?

 

Anyways, I'm interested in everyone's opinions on this sort of thing. Is this a common practice for some?

If he's a good client and u want to do it for less because he can't afford it ur right that's nice and good of u

But not for what he's asking

[handiacefailure]

I think the client is totally out of line. If I think an escorts rates are too high I just move on. But I also feel it works both ways and escorts shouldn't bump up at their rates at the last minute, there's been a couple times I've answered escorts ads and then after we make an appointment I noticed their rates have jumped on RM and I always confirm they are honoring the price in their ad at the time I booked them.

[+ BigRic]

There are so many things wrong with both that client's request and the way he has gone about asking for what he wants in a session. "Surprise, surprise": I knew what was likely going to happen before I got to your post #10, @NathanJustice, and am glad you told him "no."

 

No, for this client (new to you; seeking a special booking [a duo] with a second yet-to-be-identified escort) what he's doing is/was not appropriate. This is only underscored by the fact that fetish usually commands higher rates and there are fetish areas you specialize in per your profile.

 

There also appears to be an aggravating circumstance regarding this prospective client even knowing what your rate is (as opposed to discounting it). There's been a lot of discussion on the boards lately given some changes to the RM sites about how, where and whether an escort's posted rates are or are not populating depending on where someone is geographically located (in other words, the U.S. versus Europe, etc.). I'm not seeing your rates on the Rent.Men, Rentmen or Rentmen.EU sites but I am seeing them on the RM app.

 

So let's take it on its face that this prospective client is being truthful when he says he can't see your rates. That means that he's asking for a discount--for a freakin' DUO--before he even knows what your rate actually is.

 

Bozo.

[sincitymix]

as i client, i say its out of line. If you do take haggling, whats next, bartering? Ill give you 2 chickens and a goat?

[+ BigRic]

P.S. - Coming off the high horse some feel I'm on, can I also say that there is the Principle of the matter (my prior post) and there is the Practical:

 

Practically speaking, you are a handsome dude. Furthermore, you are of a booking type (age, body style, height, skin color) that in my experiences is very popular across a wide swath of the gay male client community. It would be different if you were less "desirable," as that term might problematically be defined by the dominant culture. But you're not. The only caveat is that you are new (posted ad this past May) and may want to look at bartering with a savvy client (NOT this one) regarding getting him to post a positive review.

 

But my point herein is to underscore that you, young man, do NOT need to be lowering your very reasonable rates. "Carry on, my wayward son."

[MikeyGMin]

I've been trying to be a little lower on average at 250. 3rd hour free.

Your rates are reasonable and I think you did the right thing by disengaging, but I will offer one possible insight into the mind of a client that you may find useful in the future. I believe that some rookie clients have the misguided belief that you will actually get personal enjoyment from a three way with another "hot" guy, so that would justify a reduced rate.

 

I don't agree with this line of thinking at all. Guys who work consistently as a Duo sometimes have a very favorable "two for" rate, but that's because they want to work as a Duo and are incenting their clients to hire both. That doesn't apply to this situation at all. You would be working just as hard, if not harder, to make it a successful session with a third that you do not know.

 

The only reason I mention it is for the future. If you maybe wanted to salvage a booking with someone making a similar request. You could ask if that is what they are thinking and then clear up their misconception.

[marylander1940]

As a client, I think it's a bit rude of other clients to ask for "special" pricing other than what is advertised. You know the price going in so find someone else if you cannot afford it. Now, for those with "ask me" on the rate section you're leaving yourself up haggling scenario.

 

I agree with you when it comes to hourly and overnight rates, but if I was an escort I would be flexible with my rates when it comes to a trip depending on who is taking me, the location, how busy/slow are things at home, etc.

[johnjohn]

If this is your first meeting with him, and he asking for special rate with another guy, tell him NO. He is most likely just Jacking off to your and the other guys pics, and never intended to meet. I would never ask escort to discount his rate .If i think its to high i just move on. When i do hire, if we like each other then if he discounts then its ok.

[mmk123]

I do not think that I would wish to hang out with an escort, even if I had unlimited funds. They have their life and I have mine. Now I have done a favor or two for an escort (I work in inventory management for a retail store and picked up stuff for the where I work) and I have had an escort of a favor or two for me (one planned out an entire work out routine for me when I started back at the gym a while ago) and I have had escorts hang around for maybe 30 minutes to relax and have a drink at my place, but that is about it.

[mmk123]

oops, I am sorry, I misread it. I thought it said "Hanging" not "Haggling"

No, I would never haggle an escort to lower the price. If I cannot afford it then I cannot.

I have had an escort give me a free session or lower his rate for me since I have been seeing him for a while.

[Sandlapp]

I don't feel comfortable haggling due to the nature of the service being offered. A man is not a product like a car. This is one reason why I'm sorry to see the rates disappear from RM. previously, if someone's posted rate was too high, i wouldn't even contact him. I never had to discuss money at all. Now, If you want to hire, you have to ask.

[DTCG82]

For me, if it's a threesome, I actually pay a little more since it's a different type of service. I want to make sure the escorts feel comfortable and safe. Unless it's someone the escort recommended that he has worked with or regularly works with.

 

But I would never ask clients to do a 2 for 1 deal!

[AndyDandy]

I don't feel comfortable haggling due to the nature of the service being offered. A man is not a product like a car. This is one reason why I'm sorry to see the rates disappear from RM. previously, if someone's posted rate was too high, i wouldn't even contact him. I never had to discuss money at all. Now, If you want to hire, you have to ask.

 

Exactly!!! Before the change you knew the rate and only had to confirm it. Now you have to ask and if it's too high I feel as though I have wasted their time and they might think I am trying to "negotiate" it lower.