Mildly Disabled client — what do you need to know and when?

[Broken Body]

Gentlemen:

 

I’m a fairly average looking 61-year old guy, height and weight appropriate, but under-hung and consequently under experienced -- I was always too self conscious to be very successful in the search for a moment of shared lust. I was recently diagnosed with a rare, progressive neuro-muscular disorder that has robbed me of my balance. I can still get around by myself, but I need a cane to do so. One of the small silver linings in this is that my inhibitions are being stripped away along with my balance (although this is not always a good thing) and I am increasingly anxious to have some sexual experience before ongoing paralysis makes it impossible. That’s where you guys come in to play. I hope.

 

I suspect that as professionals in your area you have encountered all sorts of different individuals and situations, but I also feel like it would be un-respectful of me to just show up at the door without giving you some advance notice of the fact that I’m not exactly the run-of-the-mill client. I also expect that my situation would provoke some outright nos from the get go and it would be helpful to know that before I showed up. So, my question is, when do I spell my limitations out (First contact? Follow up?) and how much do you need or want to know about what to expect when I show up? The limitations are minor, but the cane can look scarier than it really is.

 

Thanks for any guidance you might offer.

[+ nycman]

I'd say be upfront from the initial comtact.

 

Guys who are cool with your disability...won't give a rats ass...and will make that clear.

 

Guys who are are not...will either let you know...or will quietly not respond.

 

Either way, you win.

 

Most importantly, don't take any of it personally.

 

If a man rejects you....it's his weakness....not yours.

[+ Funguy]

There are a few gentlemen who are very tuned into clients who have "disabilities".

Off the top of my head, and I apologise to all of the others who I don't mention, but David SF (Palm Springs) and Lance Navarro (San Francisco) are known to be compassionate and sensitive with these issues.

It would help to know where you are in order to make further recommendations.

 

Good luck!

[Broken Body]

I'd say be upfront from the initial comtact.

 

Guys who are cool with your disability...won't give a rats ass...and will make that clear.

 

Guys who are are not...will either let you know...or will quietly not respond.

 

Either way, you win.

 

Most importantly, don't take any of it personally.

 

If a man rejects you....it's his weakness....not yours.

Thank you NYCman. those are helpful thoughts, and most encouraging.

[LADoug1]

A good question for @Lance_Navarro.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

Thanks so much @Funguy and @LADoug1 for the mentions. I think you've gotten some good advice, you should definitely mention it right up front, weed out the ones who aren't comfortable with your impairment. Also, for example, if you were reaching out to me, I would let you know that I have 3 flights of stairs to climb, in case an outcall would be easier for you. I'm not sure where you are located, but if you're in the bay area, or plan to be, it would be a pleasure spending some time with you. As mentioned already, @David-SF is also amazing, as well as @Eric Hassan. Feel free to private message me if you have any specific questions.

[amigomonty]

Maus states his open policy in his ads and has high praise. Also a forum member.

https://rentmen.eu/IronMaus

[AquaNYC]

Thanks so much @Funguy and @LADoug1 for the mentions. I think you've gotten some good advice, you should definitely mention it right up front, weed out the ones who aren't comfortable with your impairment. Also, for example, if you were reaching out to me, I would let you know that I have 3 flights of stairs to climb, in case an outcall would be easier for you. I'm not sure where you are located, but if you're in the bay area, or plan to be, it would be a pleasure spending some time with you. As mentioned already, @David-SF is also amazing, as well as @Eric Hassan. Feel free to private message me if you have any specific questions.

This OP and postings affirm my admiration and respect for the services excellent companions provide. I had a traumatized upbringing and had many issues with feeling comfortable and confident in myself and in having a sexual experience when I was a younger adult. Hiring professionals helped me gain confidence and self- assurance. I'll never forget those experiences, and regret that those professionals will never know (at least I don't think they do) what meaningful impact they had on me I hope you find and enjoy a wonderful experience Broken Body.

[amigomonty]

I have a different disability than the OP but certainly enjoyed my time with @Lance_Navarro. I like when the "difference" falls to the background and passions become the commonality in the forefront. That said, I always ask upfront by stating my disability and straight out asking if it's an issue, stating it's not for me but allowing it might be for him...

[+ Lance_Navarro]

I have a different disability than the OP but certainly enjoyed my time with @Lance_Navarro. I like when the "difference" falls to the background and passions become the commonality in the forefront. That said, I always ask upfront by stating my disability and straight out asking if it's an issue, stating it's not for me but allowing it might be for him...

Ahhhh, thanks for that hun! Sending much love and hope I'll see you in October.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

[Deadlift1]

I love it when this place works magic for someone.

[+ Funguy]

Broken Body - don't think of yourself that way.

[Broken Body]

Thanks so much @Funguy and @LADoug1 for the mentions. I think you've gotten some good advice, you should definitely mention it right up front, weed out the ones who aren't comfortable with your impairment. Also, for example, if you were reaching out to me, I would let you know that I have 3 flights of stairs to climb, in case an outcall would be easier for you. I'm not sure where you are located, but if you're in the bay area, or plan to be, it would be a pleasure spending some time with you. As mentioned already, @David-SF is also amazing, as well as @Eric Hassan. Feel free to private message me if you have any specific questions.

Yes, three flights of stairs would be a real challenge. I am, alas, on the other side of the country and travel is difficult.

[Broken Body]

What an amazing quote. I don't recall seeing it before.

[Broken Body]

This OP and postings affirm my admiration and respect for the services excellent companions provide. I had a traumatized upbringing and had many issues with feeling comfortable and confident in myself and in having a sexual experience when I was a younger adult. Hiring professionals helped me gain confidence and self- assurance. I'll never forget those experiences, and regret that those professionals will never know (at least I don't think they do) what meaningful impact they had on me I hope you find and enjoy a wonderful experience Broken Body.

Thanks for your kind words, sir. They are much appreciated on my part.

[LADoug1]

Maus states his open policy in his ads and has high praise. Also a forum member.

https://rentmen.eu/IronMaus

Off topic but pic 6 for Iron is amazing!

[+ quoththeraven]

What an amazing quote. I don't recall seeing it before.

That's because it doesn't exist. It's a mishmash of quotes from Hemingway and Leonard Cohen.

 

https://quoteinvestigator.com/2016/11/16/light/

[Cyd_StVincent]

Definitely would follow up with what @Lance_Navarro said - any information about access needs. Other than that, I think what you share is more about making sure you have a good experience than owing anything to a provider. What do you think someone should know about your body to make sure you have a good time that might not be easily intuited? Like anyone else its good to say how your body works and what makes you hot - the more information you share the easier it us for us to create a hot session with you

[Michael Paul]

I had a client who was in beginning stages of Parkinson. When he first contacted me , he let me know not long after our conversations had started. He was scared and nervous. Never had been touched by a man, but wanted to know how it felt to be with a man. I had a few lengthy conversation on the phone and by texting. He had a fantasy that he believed would enable him to stay still and not jerk around. His tremors were at the mild stage.. He told me that they can increase if he looses concentration. He wanted to be tied up and had a fetish for socks. I have to say I had never done anything like this before and was a little worried myself. I informed him of this and he was cool with it. So after some research on how to tie someone up with out hurting them. He set up his time, he was very nervous when he arrived. He is business guy, and had an Irish accent. I calmed him down, with a light massage. It was his first contact with a man. He just laid there quietly taking it all in. I made him flip over onto his back. I slowly wrapped socks around his wrist and ankles as not to hurt or leave any marks on his fragile skin. As I began to tie him to my massage table, he then started to moan... I placed socks over his eyes, he loved it. Made the comment.'You have done this before".... I laughed and told him no.... I did research on how to make his experience with me amazing. Well by the time I had finished with him , he came 4 time, just from my hand touching and stroking him. We had 2 more sessions after that, the drive was to much for him. He could not have me to his home , roommates.

It was a learning experience for the both of us.

End of my story is for me personally as an escort, if approached by someone who has a certain fantasy or something special. I will do my best to make it happen. Regardless of their circumstance. Naturally I'm sure their will be some instances that I will not be comfortable with and will let them know.

There are many guys that use us are scared, it's my job to make them relax and leave happy.

 

If there are any grammar error, I apologize now....;)

[NavyChief]

This OP and postings affirm my admiration and respect for the services excellent companions provide. I had a traumatized upbringing and had many issues with feeling comfortable and confident in myself and in having a sexual experience when I was a younger adult. Hiring professionals helped me gain confidence and self- assurance. I'll never forget those experiences, and regret that those professionals will never know (at least I don't think they do) what meaningful impact they had on me I hope you find and enjoy a wonderful experience Broken Body.

I fully concur. Just recently been able to have some emotional wounds healed because of service.... time and attention received.

[+ Tygerscent]

Be upfront... maybe the Client will first give a general sense that there is a disability or health concern... Whether one give specifics immediately or in more detail after, (establishing the Escorts stance on Clients with disabilities/health concerns), it is completely at their discretion and comfort level~

Most of the time they can feel it out and go with their gut sense about the Escort's POV based on response or other Client's reviews and experience knowledge~

If there are things that need to be taken into consideration that will make the experience safer and/or more pleasurable, have dialog about that~

Sometimes it's dietary, sometimes it's exertion levels, sometimes mobility, extensive scars or burns, non-infectious skin conditions...

Other times it's autism, asbergers, emotional or psychological environments... and additionally can be deafness, blindness, speech difficulties or various forms of dystrophy or paralysis... any number of things~

Most things can be worked around and a good time can be shared by all involved~

Some Escorts may not feel qualified to handle some situations and that's honest and valid~

Others will be comfortable and qualified... their reputation may precede them and that can be a time saver~

If you would like to discuss further, contact me directly~

I'd be happy to chat about this privately if you like~

 

Tyger~

Tygerkink@yahoo.com

971.400.2633 (phone calls must be scheduled in advance thru texting or email. thx)

https://rent.men/AAATygerscentXXX

http://www.daddysreviews.com/venue/usa/oregon/tyger_portland

[Rod Hagen]

Through out the years, SO many Parkinson's clients in my working life. One died recently, and of course I found out in the typical awful way, "hey, I'm in the valley, I should call Paul's care workers and see if I can pick anything up for him/them and drop it off and say hi." Phone one, dead. Phone, two "No, I 'm not Paul. People keep calling looking for Paul." Get home, google him, yep, dead. Nice guy. Sad.

 

Obviously, that's a sad story. Fortunately, all other stories were happy! Here's one: Regarding disclosure, I remember years ago, I've told this story here before, I opened the client's hotel door...and nobody was there. I did spot some legs and feet beneath the curtain in back. Was he behind the curtain like Polonius? Then I heard hello, looked down, and my client is in fact down by my crotch. He had no lower limbs, the legs I saw behind him were his prosthetics. He was awesome and we had a great time and I get why he didn't tell me, fear of rejection, even if notHavingLegs is a rather BIG reveal to keep to oneself.

[Michael Paul]

Through out the years, SO many Parkinson's clients in my working life. One died recently, and of course I found out in the typical awful way, "hey, I'm in the valley, I should call Paul's care workers and see if I can pick anything up for him/them and drop it off and say hi." Phone one, dead. Phone, two "No, I 'm not Paul. People keep calling looking for Paul." Get home, google him, yep, dead. Nice guy. Sad.

 

Obviously, that's a sad story. Fortunately, all other stories were happy! Here's one: Regarding disclosure, I remember years ago, I've told this story here before, I opened the client's hotel door...and nobody was there. I did spot some legs and feet beneath the curtain in back. Was he behind the curtain like Polonius? Then I heard hello, looked down, and my client is in fact down by my crotch. He had no lower limbs, the legs I saw behind him were his prosthetics. He was awesome and we had a great time and I get why he didn't tell me, fear of rejection, even if notHavingLegs is a rather BIG reveal to keep to oneself.

A great undisclosed time for you It would be difficult telling anyone in his situation , for that massive fear of rejection. It's nice to hear you guys had fun. To me that is what it is all about. Yes, guys with bodies are fun, but it's those surprises that are amazing. .... So my Parkinson's friend I mentioned..has contacted me again.... We will be setting up something soon.

[Broken Body]

If you think you might need it, it might be helpful to carry around a sheet or card with necessary medical information. I have a few clients with disabilities and some with medical conditions like epilepsy. For my part (and it sounds like a few other escorts on here would do the same) I would really appreciate having that info on hand. In the event that something happens to you and you can't communicate your needs in the moment, I'm sure the right escort would be willing to step up and make sure you get proper care.

Fortunately at the point, that would be unnecessary. But it is a good suggestion. Thanks for making it. I hope ohter