stats and age?

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

I find it interesting that escorts who come onto this board with very clear lines about height/weight/age demands in their clientele don't tend to last too long.

 

Rule of thumb: You can be as selective as you want about people, but be savvy enough to do it privately. There is always a professional, gentle way of turning people down without coming across as a bigot, a narcissist or just a foolish child.

[+ Axiom2001]

When guys start asking for photos and stats-- I take my urges elsewhere. Thus far I have had more positive experiences than not, and during my 20+ years of hiring.

Damn, has it been that friggin' long, I've had about seven downers. I don't comply to those type of requests!

[BabyBoomer]

WEHT @TopTierTop ?

 

~Boomer~

[+ José Soplanucas]

Given the fact that a meeting with an escort ultimately depend on how chemistry works between those two particular individuals in that particular moment, it is necessary to consider the possibility of a mismatch, beyond the control and goodwill of both participants. Sharing our stats would only minimize the chances of going through an uncomfortable moment.

It does not bother me the double standard between the expectation we have about a client and an escort privacy, it is part of the equation. However, the gap in between the double standards is just nonsensical.

We want to know everything about the escort, detailed pictures of every inch of his body, we can count the hair in his ass even before meeting him, we demand to know his HIV status and whether or not plays safe and how safe; but we doom the professional to a blind date with a phone number. I do not think it is fair.

I can see the line of professionals coming up to tell us how open minded they are, and how skillful to find attraction in anyone, but we cannot expect anything else from someone protecting his brand and his craft.

Be empathic for a minute, forget for a second about the power your money gives you, and get in the shoes of the provider. Would you not prefer to know the face of the guy you are about to kiss?

[+ José Soplanucas]

WEHT @TopTierTop ?

 

~Boomer~

 

I thought he was doing very well. I have the feeling his controversial participation in the forum and his attendance to Palm Springs helped to move his career to a higher level.

[+ freecahill1965]

If some asked me for my picture, I would just move on. Who would take a chance that the picture could be published in some manner. Being very discrete is a priority for me.

[LaffingBear]

I dont have any problem giving stats.... well, no problem with height, weight, age.

[+ freecahill1965]

I usually state in my intro email. Though if I forgot and they asked, it would give me an uneasy feeling.

[+ José Soplanucas]

If some asked me for my picture, I would just move on. Who would take a chance that the picture could be published in some manner. Being very discrete is a priority for me.

 

You can be very discrete and still help the provider to have a better idea of what the person he is about to get into the sack with looks like. Use a picture where your face cannot be seen, but that still gives an idea of your physical appearance.

The more information you share with the provider about your looks (besides your preferences I am sure you are sharing), the less chances you will have of being rejected or having a poor experience.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

I can see the line of professionals coming up to tell us how open minded they are, and how skillful to find attraction in anyone, but we cannot expect anything else from someone protecting his brand and his craft.

 

... And what makes a pro a true pro is that he CAN do this: Ensuring you have an excellent time and everyone walks away happy.

 

How is that a bad thing?

[+ José Soplanucas]

... And what makes a pro a true pro is that he CAN do this: Ensuring you have an excellent time and everyone walks away happy.

 

How is that a bad thing?

 

Of course it is not a bad thing, it is a very good thing. However, I do not think it is the only thing that makes you a PRO. You can be an outstanding PRO as long as you are serving a determined niche of the market. Anyway, there are many things involved in being a PRO, and you know that.

We can discuss where the line of privacy discretion runs for a client and for an escort, and of course we all are diverse enough to feel comfortable in different places. My point is not to argue about how much a client should share, but more precisely to point out to the immense gap in this double standard.

[+ freecahill1965]

You can be very discrete and still help the provider to have a better idea of what the person he is about to get into the sack with looks like. Use a picture where your face cannot be seen, but that still gives an idea of your physical appearance.

The more information you share with the provider about your looks (besides your preferences I am sure you are sharing), the less chances you will have of being rejected or having a poor experience.

Funny, you said that because I did have one experience after a lot of texting and I felt very comfortable that I did send picture for the reason you mentioned. I wanted the time to be awesome and I felt by having a distinguable face shot that would help make sure ALL cards were on the table. Mind you I did this because the escort accidently sent me a text from his real cell. I am not sure he knew but I was able to figure who he was and he was all over internet for his job. This knowledge increased my comfort level. Though there still is risk that my picture coukd get out in some manner some how. I guess I will just keep my figures crossed.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Of course it is not a bad thing, it is a very good thing. However, I do not think it is the only thing that makes you a PRO. You can be an outstanding PRO as long as you are serving a determined niche of the market. Anyway, there are many things involved in being a PRO, and you know that.

We can discuss where the line of privacy discretion runs for a client and for an escort, and of course we all are diverse enough to feel comfortable in different places. My point is not to argue about how much a client should share, but more precisely to point out to the immense gap in this double standard.

 

And, to be clear, I never said it was only that one trait that makes a great escort a great escort. It's really a wide variety of things, as you correctly alluded to.

 

Bottom line: An escort has the right to run his business any which way he feels right... But that doesn't mean it will work to his advantage. The key is always being flexible enough to learn from your mistakes and from others.

 

There have been several moments in my escorting career that have served me a large slice of humble pie. They have acted as the most important and transformative points for me.

[+ freecahill1965]

And, to be clear, I never said it was only that one trait that makes a great escort a great escort. It's really a wide variety of things, as you correctly alluded to.

 

Bottom line: An escort has the right to run his business any which way he feels right... But that doesn't mean it will work to his advantage. The key is always being flexible enough to learn from your mistakes and from others.

That is good advice for which all can benefit.

[adventurous old guy]

I have no problem giving out my age / weight / height stats and do that early on in my conversations with a new escort.

 

Once I had an escort ask me for age / weight / occupation, in his first reply to my inquiry. I thought that was unusual. I found out later that he was looking for a sugar daddy type of relationship - the occupation therefore made sense.

 

Have you ever tried booking a female escort through an agency in New York? It is much, much worse. They ask for verifiable name, verifiable address, phone number and credit card information! Thankfully, I am gay.

This post made me LOL. I'm the proverbial bumpkin from the midwest who, through a twist of fate, ended up a lobbyist in the DC in the 80s. I was young, attractive enough and most importantly OUT when most in government -- Barney Frank and Gerry Studds included -- were still in the closet. I only slightly exaggerate in saying that a good 25% of congressional staff and nearly EVERY waiter or hotel bellboy I met seemed to be interviewing to get in my bed. I wasn't sugar daddy material then, rather the game was "next step up" the power gradient ladder. I used to joke with my friends back in Chicago that the DC version of "Hi, how are you?" is "Hi, what do you do?" and that DC size queens were less interested in the size of my dick than in the size of my PAC!

 

To camp on Baron, thankfully I'm gay AND from the midwest.

[adventurous old guy]

I have no problem giving out my age / weight / height stats and do that early on in my conversations with a new escort.

 

Once I had an escort ask me for age / weight / occupation, in his first reply to my inquiry. I thought that was unusual. I found out later that he was looking for a sugar daddy type of relationship - the occupation therefore made sense.

 

Have you ever tried booking a female escort through an agency in New York? It is much, much worse. They ask for verifiable name, verifiable address, phone number and credit card information! Thankfully, I am gay.

Oh, and also like Baron I have no prob giving out my age and a description, even though I cringe a bit in admitting to being in my 60s. How DID that happen anyway? Bottom line, I'd rather have my date know what he's getting into, and weed me out if he wants to before he's at the door. I send a pic too, once we get past the age/description/preferences threshold, for the same reason. Just like to level the playing field in advance.

 

As for privacy, let's all just get used to it -- there isn't any anymore.

[TopTierTop]

Given the fact that a meeting with an escort ultimately depend in how chemistry works between those to particular individuals in that particular moment, it is necessary to consider the possibility of a mismatch, beyond the control and goodwill of both participants. Sharing our stats would only minimize the chances of going through an uncomfortable moment.

It does not bother me the double standard between the expectation we have about a client and an escort privacy, it is part of the equation. However, the gap in between the double standards is just nonsensical.

We want to know everything about the escort, detailed pictures of every inch of his body, we can count the hair in his ass even before meeting him, we demand to know his HIV status and whether or not plays safe and how safe; but we doom the professional to a blind date with a phone number. I do not think it is fair.

I can see the line of professionals coming up to tell us how open minded they are, and how skillful to find attraction in anyone, but we cannot expect anything else from someone protecting his brand and his craft.

Be empathic for a minute, forget for a second about the power your money gives you, and get in the shoes of the provider. Would you not prefer to know the face of the guy you are about to kiss?

WELL SAID!!! Spot on! Kudos!

[TopTierTop]

WEHT @TopTierTop ?

 

~Boomer~

Just been busy and kind of forgot about this forum for awhile.

[TopTierTop]

I thought he was doing very well. I have the feeling his controversial participation in the forum and his attendance to Palm Springs helped to move his career to a higher level.

Shhhh!

[mike carey]

Shhhh!

Why should we be quiet? Welcome back TTT, I for one had missed your presence here.

[TopTierTop]

Why should we be quiet? Welcome back TTT, I for one had missed your presence here.

Cuz he is giving away my secret. Haha!

[+ Tygerscent]

Hi there,

 

I've seen a fair bit of dialogue around escorts asking for pictures. Today I was asked for stats and age. Is that a red flag?

 

Thanks for your thoughts.

I personally find it discriminatory, rude and disrespectful asking a Client for his age or stats~

Why, because it categorizes people, leading to a sense that some are more or less valued as either a Client or a person~

It creates a predjudice~

If they mention a health concern, I may inquire more to ensure that our experience together is as fulfilling and compete as possibly while keeping mindful of health concerns and personal needs/care.

We. An go deep and still be completely safe about it all~

My vote: definite red flag~

 

Tyger~

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