When an escort isn't a good fit

[thonglovertx]

I felt that the energy wasn't right ?

 

I'm curious what were the signs and emotions that made you feel the energy wasn't right after just stepping into the place? There has to be some particular aspects that made you not feel it with him.

[KennF]

I think we all agree there is more to the story than provided. The OP could have shared what felt wrong about the energy.

 

I've met people I instantly dislike, or, find creepy, or, start to feel unsafe, or, remind me of the guy that dealt cocaine out of my home, or, raped me, or just intimidated me by their presence. It may have been the lighting, the aromas, the noises (or lack of), or, anyone of a thousand different things.

 

However, based on the information provided, some or all of that made the client feel "off". I trust those instincts, and strongly encourage others to trust their instincts. So, the OP was completely justified in stopping the appointment.

 

That did not alleviate the obligation to fulfill his promise to the provider.

You buy a ticket to a show, you arrive at the theatre and decide not to see the show. They are under no obligation to refund the price.

You book a physical therapy appointment, you arrive and decide not to stay. They are entitled to payment for the session.

You make an appointment with your doctor, show up and then leave before seeing him/her. You are still charged for the office visit.

You hire a serviceman to come fix your a/c. They arrive and you refuse to let them in. You are still obligated to pay for the service call.

It isn't the theatre's fault you didn't see the show.

It isn't the Physical Therapist's fault that you left.

It isn't the Doctor's walked out.

It isn't the serviceman's fault he didn't provide the service.

 

So what's the difference?

[wklucas]

<<<I've met people I instantly dislike, or, find creepy, or, start to feel unsafe, or, remind me of the guy that dealt cocaine out of my home, or, raped me, or just intimidated me by their presence. It may have been the lighting, the aromas, the noises (or lack of), or, anyone of a thousand different things.>>>

 

I was with an escort once at his place....early in the session, things were going well & I was very happy to be there.....he mentioned that he had a pet snake that he allowed to be roaming, errrrr slithering, freely around the apartment - freaked me out - I pretty quickly leapt out of bed, got dressed & got out of there telling him that this was not going to work.....I paid him his fee but just the thought of a loose snake somewhere nearby was not in my comfort zone.....(also knowing that he had a pet snake answered the question in my head about a strange (unpleasant) odor that his apt had).....I think he was trying to convince me to stay with saying stuff like actually seeing the snake while I was there was highly unlikely but I wasn't comfortable with it.

[MikeyGMin]

well @Roberto ....I can see you were looking at this thread just a few minutes ago.....and you haven't replied at all since your first post......

 

we really dragged you over the coals with this one.....you did ask for our "thoughts".....

 

let us know YOUR "thoughts" now after all this......

Two possibilities:

1. The OP is relatively new to the forum and was overwhelmed by the number of negative responses. Some of them quite aggressive. We may never hear from him again on any topic.
   
2. The OP just threw out a piece of raw meat and we all pounced on it like a pack of hungry wolves. We may never hear from him again unless he has more raw meat.
   

[+ poolboy48220]

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA to #2.

[caliguy]

I have hired people anyway that I don't care for, because of their incredible looks.

 

I'm not proud, lol.

 

 

The one that I remember I really disliked right away had zero affect. He was cute, but he

showed almost no emotion or reactions and was just whatever to anything I said. Turned

out he was younger (19), very shy around people he didn't know, and just needed a few

drinks.

 

It's wierd but there are a lot of people out there who have zero personality until they have

about 4-6 cocktails in them. Then there are smiles, talking, warmth but if they are sober

they show no emotion and have a wierd stunted cardboard personality.

 

If it is really important for you to establish a rapport with someone before you screw them,

add in going out for a few drinks, food or coffee before you go back to your hotel.

 

Lookin4hotties

So you don't mind that you don't like them or they don't like you as long as they're hot and your advice is to get them fucked up first so they might show you some personality. Ok then. Lol

[KennF]

 

He's still learning about this "stuff".

[Jock123]

It's so refreshing to see most of You guy's Suggesting/Doing the right thing and saying he should have Paid the whole Fee. There is hope!

[instudiocity]

A waiter (or maybe a sommelier) once talked about the practice of letting people swirl, sniff, and taste the wine before he pours a full glass. He said that it's there to see if the wine has gone bad in some way, and if it has, *then* you're justified in sending it back. It's not a taste test so see if you like it before you pay for it.

 

No idea where I read that, it was a long time ago.

See, Swirl, Sniff, Sip, Savor - the 5 elements of wine enjoyment. And yes, if the wine is bad/off/not to peak you should send it back. After all, the restaurant's markup is 300% or better for most wines... They can afford to use bottle in their cooking .

 

I'm still trying to figure out how to swirl an escort... might be fun trying.

[instudiocity]

1. The transit authority recognizes "peak" vs "off-peak" times. He isn't the transit authority. He held open a spot for you expecting to be paid. You decided not to spend the entire time with him through no fault of his, so you owe him the fee for the allotted time.

1. 
   

I've never seen the correlation between the transit authority and escorts, but I guess in both instances I have been transported well beyond my expectations. Thanks, @rvwnsd

[instudiocity]

It's so refreshing to see most of You guy's Suggesting/Doing the right thing and saying he should have Paid the whole Fee. There is hope!

Maybe for you, but not clients who yearn to date you...

[jeezifonly]

Curious: with the sitch reversed, the client has sent nice pic (accurate) and is hosting. Escort arrives on time, finds client sober, as described, but senses something he does not like, and says to client, "I'm sorry for your trouble, but I cannot stay." The client gets defensive, almost insistent, and the escort should... ---- ??

[bigvalboy]

Curious: with the sitch reversed, the client has sent nice pic (accurate) and is hosting. Escort arrives on time, finds client sober, as described, but senses something he does not like, and says to client, "I'm sorry for your trouble, but I cannot stay." The client gets defensive, almost insistent, and the escort should... ---- ??

 

Leave...

[jeezifonly]

Yes and... has to be a man when the bad review is published, and not belittle the client in a response... lol, just apologize and chalk it up to chemistry.

 

The only thing for sale in all the transactions described in this forum is Time, for which there is both broad definition and a pretty wide range of monetary values. Not a buyers' market.

 

(My bad, it's the Time that is offered by the Seller, but it's the effective use of marketing and closing that results in the Buyer purchasing Expectations (up-selling?) It's the Expectations that'll getcha, boys. Avoid 'em.)

[+ WilliamM]

Did I say he didn't? Drink some coffee and take an adderall cause you ain't ready to be posting in this thread today.

 

I really do not have a response because it would mean going back and trying to find your specific questions. However, I was born in Austin so I owe the effort of trying again later today.

[KennF]

Escort arrives on time, finds client sober, as described, but senses something he does not like, and says to client, "I'm sorry for your trouble, but I cannot stay." The client gets defensive, almost insistent, and the escort should... ---- ??

 

...leave and expect a major negative review and a hit to his brand.

 

...have been professional and never have said "I cannot stay".

 

I expect escorts to act professionally. They have to be prepared to meet people to which they aren't personally attracted. Unless they feel it is no longer a safe environment, the escort doesn't get the luxury of walking out because the "energy isn't good". It is their job to make it work.

 

http://popkey.co/m/dWvVD-project+runway-tim+gunn-make+it+work

[+ José Soplanucas]

It's so refreshing to see most of You guy's Suggesting/Doing the right thing and saying he should have Paid the whole Fee. There is hope!

 

No hope for you until you put up your contact info and put down your pants.

[Good Grief]

[Maximus69]

Just to add on, sometimes there is always some awkward moments in the beginning with a first time client. You should have shoved your cock in his mouth or held him or kissed him to break the ice. He could have very well warmed up more soon after a couple minutes. Plus you said he was hosting at his place, he may have been cautious as he's having an unfamiliar person at his place. Who knows, just trying to figure it out as you go deeper into what was lacking in chemistry.

 

You wasted not only an hour and a half but you still had to pay some money for no sex, you shoulda just went for it lol.

[+ azdr0710]

well, Roberto was last on the forum 41 minutes ago and he still hasn't replied in this thread since his original post......would be important to hear more specifics on why the "energy and connection" were very quickly a concern (might affect our 95 posts of opinions)......interior decorating?.....dog smell?......bong on the coffee table?......ugly shirt?......

 

otherwise, short of some more snappy gifs, it might be time to shut this thread down......

[rvwnsd]

I've never seen the correlation between the transit authority and escorts, but I guess in both instances I have been transported well beyond my expectations. Thanks, @rvwnsd

You are most welcome.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

... Or, perhaps this thread was trolled from the very beginning

[bigvalboy]

......bong on the coffee table?......

 

 

 

...I'm outta here.

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[+ José Soplanucas]

well, Roberto was last on the forum 41 minutes ago and he still hasn't replied in this thread since his original post......would be important to hear more specifics on why the "energy and connection" were very quickly a concern (might affect our 95 posts of opinions)......interior decorating?.....dog smell?......bong on the coffee table?......ugly shirt?......

 

otherwise, short of some more snappy gifs, it might be time to shut this thread down......

 

This was his interior garden:

http://25.media.tumblr.com/3896aa03d7a482337efd109c659ec91a/tumblr_mes6x8bCr51r90no9o1_1280.gif

 

If the escort welcomes me like this:

http://24.media.tumblr.com/9a66929cee9b63c1db339243e02ab7f6/tumblr_n5qkvfke001slbwc8o1_400.gif

 

I pay him the tip in advance.

[Roberto]

Thanks all for the interesting and varied feedback--food for thought...