15 minute rule?

[leftbench23]

I was scheduled to meet an out of town escort for a two hour session at his hotel this afternoon, and we agreed I would text him when I arrived in the lobby with a description of what I was wearing. However, after waiting 15 minutes in the lobby for him with an additional text and a phone call, I gave up on him and headed home. Then 20 minutes later, he texted me saying he had slept through his alarm and asked me if I could come back. I did not go back because he was a no show for our agreed upon time.

 

Did I act reasonably?

[Jomo]

I agree with your 15 minute rule; however, I probably would have turned around...

[MikeyGMin]

It's really not about being reasonable. You had already left and only you know how much difficulty it would have been to go back.

 

No snark intended, but ask yourself, are you happier being right or would you rather have gotten laid?

[BaronArtz]

Sometimes. you just got to be a mensch

[cmennow]

I would have definitely left and went home. It begins to feel like a scam after you are waiting on someone and get no response. My moto.......get out with your dignity while you can.

[LaffingBear]

.......get out with your dignity while you can.

Agreed!

 

I would have left, as the OP did, and I wouldnt have returned. I might have waited a little longer than 15 minutes though.

 

Own your decision. You can second guess and "what if" ad nauseum.

 

Have regrets that you didnt go back? Missed the most amazing experience of your life? How dumb would you have felt if you returned and he fell asleep again? Or if it was a disappointing session?

 

In situations like yours, I try to behave in a manner that makes me feel I didnt give up control of my own actions. If you went back...you'd have been dancing to his tune.

[ChristianCronin]

I guess he didn't blow you off on purpose...maybe just reschedule?

[+ José Soplanucas]

I was scheduled to meet an out of town escort for a two hour session at his hotel this afternoon, and we agreed I would text him when I arrived in the lobby with a description of what I was wearing. However, after waiting 15 minutes in the lobby for him with an additional text and a phone call, I gave up on him and headed home. Then 20 minutes later, he texted me saying he had slept through his alarm and asked me if I could come back. I did not go back because he was a no show for our agreed upon time.

 

Did I act reasonably?

 

You did.

But if you really like the escort, give him a second chance.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

I was scheduled to meet an out of town escort for a two hour session at his hotel this afternoon, and we agreed I would text him when I arrived in the lobby with a description of what I was wearing. However, after waiting 15 minutes in the lobby for him with an additional text and a phone call, I gave up on him and headed home. Then 20 minutes later, he texted me saying he had slept through his alarm and asked me if I could come back. I did not go back because he was a no show for our agreed upon time.

 

Did I act reasonably?

1. Towards him: I don't think he is in his right to complain, you did wait long enough.

 

2. Towards you: Depends if you could still have spent a full 2 hours with him (= depends on your own availability). If you had all the time and you were not seriously pissed off by his lack of professionalism, then you could have gotten laid and enjoyed it for your own sake, so you did yourself a disfavour.

[+ Topseed]

I place the "sleeping through the alarm" excuse on par with "the dog ate my homework". Skip it.

[tennisjock]

Seems to me the escort wasn't 15 min late but 35 min late . I don't like waiting in lobby's or hallways or lurking by the elevator waiting for the guy.

Depends on what else I had going on ..on how long I would wait..or go grab a coffee and iPad to make another booking with someone else

[+ VictorPowers]

I was scheduled to meet an out of town escort for a two hour session at his hotel this afternoon, and we agreed I would text him when I arrived in the lobby with a description of what I was wearing. However, after waiting 15 minutes in the lobby for him with an additional text and a phone call, I gave up on him and headed home. Then 20 minutes later, he texted me saying he had slept through his alarm and asked me if I could come back. I did not go back because he was a no show for our agreed upon time.

 

Did I act reasonably?

I would agree with your decision. I suppose the choice to turn back or not would depend on your attitude towards the situation and how much of an inconvenience it would be to turn back around. If your interactions have been pleasant, maybe you'll give the working boy another chance.

[instudiocity]

Interestingly, it sounds like he didn't offer a compensatory reduction for his 35 minute tardiness, 10 smacks with an open palm on his buttocks may have been satisfactory.

[liubit]

I can be flexible, provided the escort texts me frequently to report on his progression and his ETA. Without this, no longer than 15 minutes.

[MiamiLooker]

Interestingly, it sounds like he didn't offer a compensatory reduction for his 35 minute tardiness...

After wasting the OP's time, the escort should have offered some incentive for the OP to return.

[jawjateck]

Once a meeting (or proposed meeting) goes wrong, it would take an amazing performance by the provider to overcome the negative feelings, and many guys are not that good. You may have missed a good time, but the risk-reward turned against you. So, don't bum yourself out.

[leftbench23]

I just assumed he had bumped me for one of his regulars. It happens all the time, so nothing to get upset about.

[Pepper Young]

Did you act reasonably? Yes.

[Chuckball]

A while back I was in Johannesburg, South Africa and checked out RM escorts. It was a Friday afternoon and I found one appealing to me. Text after text and one excuse after another I realized it would be a no show and I called it off being very pissed off.

The next day he texted me saying he was in the lobby and asked if I wanted to meet. Of course I got over my anger and invited him up. We had a great time. So to the OP I say: You have a right to be angry and acted appropriately but don't let your anger spoil good times ahead.

[Guy Fawkes]

Show me the rule book that says: "15 Minutes." He was late, he texted, you did not go back. I think Daddy would reject the review as a "No Show."

 

I was scheduled to meet an out of town escort for a two hour session at his hotel this afternoon, and we agreed I would text him when I arrived in the lobby with a description of what I was wearing. However, after waiting 15 minutes in the lobby for him with an additional text and a phone call, I gave up on him and headed home. Then 20 minutes later, he texted me saying he had slept through his alarm and asked me if I could come back. I did not go back because he was a no show for our agreed upon time.

 

Did I act reasonably?

[bigvalboy]

Geez...Who among us has never been late for anything? Yes...I would say you acted too hastily. Considering he was from out of town, and traveling, I probably would have waited., probably to the 30 min mark. Especially if you are in a safe and comfortable environment like a hotel lobby. Every situation is different. I won't wait outside a masseurs house for more than 15 mins, but I see this situation a little different. Had you waited only 15 more mins, he would have called before you got to the car.

[Epigonos]

A similar situation happened to me a number of years ago. I, however, went back and it wasn't worth the effort -- lesson learned. Now if a guy is late because of traffic and keeps me informed of his progress I am much more likely to cut him some slack.

[+ poolboy48220]

Late with some updates about why you're late is one thing. Going silent right when you're supposed to meet is different.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Yesterday, Daddy published the review about my April meetings with Ron (Perfect Packet). I share there a similar situation that happened earlier on. During his previous visit I went to his hotel, I waited 15 minutes, he did not respond my calls and texts, I left in rage. He called me later several times but I was just too upset to schedule another meeting.

Once my reaction calmed down I am glad I gave him a second chance, otherwise he would not have become my best professional lover ever, and one of the top five lovers of my life. If I would have decided not to see him again I would have not punished him but would have missed all the amazing times we have shared since then.

[leftbench23]

Show me the rule book that says: "15 Minutes." He was late, he texted, you did not go back. I think Daddy would reject the review as a "No Show."

 

I know Daddy's rules. "No show" reviews are not allowed, but I, personally, will not book with this guy again.