Refunding a deposit

[dixietony]

I talked with an escort, well reviewed, and agreed on the time of our meeting, the place, etc.

 

He requested a deposit which I was more than willing to pay. Here is the meat of the contract:

 

"I've requested a REFUNDABLE DEPOSIT*of 10% (200$ at 5-7 businessdays processing time)

 

*Deposit may be refunded or transferred if both parties agree to a rescheduled date."

 

But now, due to a personal issue, I can't make it or see a transfer date in the future.

 

Under what circumstances would my deposit be refunded? I'm just looking for opinions.

[MikeyGMin]

He seems really clear about it. Super clear as a matter of fact. You aren't able to rescedule, so it doesn't meet the terms agreed upon for a refund. Are you looking for a loophole?

 

My opinion is that it's his money now. Now if it's his schedule that is keeping you from rescheduling, then maybe he should cut you some slack.

[rossthebosssf]

You should forfeit the deposit for the trouble. The escort most likely turned down other business and won't be able to get that back. My 2 cents.

[dixietony]

Thanks for the thoughts.

[Jomo]

Thanks for the thoughts.

Try to find a replacement date

[instudiocity]

I talked with an escort, well reviewed, and agreed on the time of our meeting, the place, etc.

 

He requested a deposit which I was more than willing to pay. Here is the meat of the contract:

 

"I've requested a REFUNDABLE DEPOSIT*of 10% (200$ at 5-7 businessdays processing time)

 

*Deposit may be refunded or transferred if both parties agree to a rescheduled date."

 

But now, due to a personal issue, I can't make it or see a transfer date in the future.

 

Under what circumstances would my deposit be refunded? I'm just looking for opinions.

I'm wondering if we're talking about $20 or $200, or more. Were you hiring for 5-7 business days?

 

I mean, I've had shorter orgasms.....

[dixietony]

Try to find a replacement date

 

It's not that I can't find a replacement date, but that my personal circumstances have changed. It's a family issue.

[dixietony]

I'm wondering if we're talking about $20 or $200, or more. Were you hiring for 5-7 business days?

 

I mean, I've had shorter orgasms.....

 

I was hiring for 3 days.

[Bearofdistinction]

I was hiring for 3 days.

 

Explain that scheduling/availability has changed due to family matters - you would still like to see him but cannot commit to a date now. Ask if we could revisit scheduling in ______ months and would he still honor the deposit toward the 3 day meeting or would he prefer to return the funds and just start fresh when it is possible to schedule.

 

Were it me and I was serious about a future meet I would explain circumstances to the Gentleman and say why don't you hold onto that as a placeholder for our future meet and for your understanding.

 

If not -- Lets be honest -- If you can afford to spend 3 days with a Gentleman Caller for $3-5K then you can likely afford to gamble the $200 on the well reviewed Gentleman's honor without you losing your house or car.

[rvwnsd]

You need to forfeit the deposit when you inform him you are canceling. That's how a "deposit" works - the client puts up a small amount of money to hold an item or, in this case, a block of time. If the client chooses not to purchase the item, in this case, a block of time, the seller retains the deposit. Period. End of sentence.

 

If you schedule another date in the future you should pay another deposit without expecting him to apply the previous deposit to your session. He kept the first deposit because you canceled. If he chooses to apply both deposits to your fee then he's being very accommodating and doing something that is truly out of the ordinary.

[dixietony]

You need to forfeit the deposit when you inform him you are canceling. That's how a "deposit" works - the client puts up a small amount of money to hold an item or, in this case, a block of time. If the client chooses not to purchase the item, in this case, a block of time, the seller retains the deposit. Period. End of sentence.

 

If you schedule another date in the future you should pay another deposit without expecting him to apply the previous deposit to your session. He kept the first deposit because you canceled. If he chooses to apply both deposits to your fee then he's being very accommodating and doing something that is truly out of the ordinary.

 

I guess I'm just confused by the use of "refundable" and "refund" in the contract. Why include them at all of it's, as you imply, nonrefundable.

 

And I'd like to point out, I'm not upset about losing the money. And the cancellation isn't a willy nilly decision where I just chose to lose the money. It's also not about the money. Circumstances changed in a way I couldn't foresee.

 

Live and learn.

[escortrod]

I guess I'm just confused by the use of "refundable" and "refund" in the contract. Why include them at all of it's, as you imply, nonrefundable.

 

And I'd like to point out, I'm not upset about losing the money. And the cancellation isn't a willy nilly decision where I just chose to lose the money. It's also not about the money. Circumstances changed in a way I couldn't foresee.

 

Live and learn.

The condition is phrased awkwardly, but I interpreted to mean that it could be refunded should another date be agreed upon (and presumably the deposit be paid for that). Otherwise the deposit is the escort's. But I can see how it might be confusing.

[rvwnsd]

The condition is phrased awkwardly, but I interpreted to mean that it could be refunded should another date be agreed upon (and presumably the deposit be paid for that). Otherwise the deposit is the escort's. But I can see how it might be confusing.

This is the way I interpreted the deposit situation.

[instudiocity]

You need to forfeit the deposit when you inform him you are canceling. That's how a "deposit" works - the client puts up a small amount of money to hold an item or, in this case, a block of time. If the client chooses not to purchase the item, in this case, a block of time, the seller retains the deposit. Period. End of sentence.

 

If you schedule another date in the future you should pay another deposit without expecting him to apply the previous deposit to your session. He kept the first deposit because you canceled. If he chooses to apply both deposits to your fee then he's being very accommodating and doing something that is truly out of the ordinary.

You make is sound like lay-away... laid-away???

[bigvalboy]

This is why I don't do deposits...Ever.

[+ MasssageGuy]

This is why I don't do deposits...Ever.

+1

[BabyBoomer]

This is why I don't do deposits...Ever.

 

+1

 

+2

 

~Boomer ~

[instudiocity]

In the case of the OP, I would ask for a deposit also since it involves a three day session.

BUT! Would you refund the deposit under the OP's circumstances?

[+ sniper]

I think the correct term is transferable. Maybe it's refundable if the escort is the one who cancels?