Seeing Escorts on Gay Dating Apps

[AquaNYC]

I use one gay dating (probably more truthfully it seems - "hooking up") app, and I just started noticing the profiles of several of the local escorts I have hired. To be transparent, at first it gave me a feeling of discomfort, not so much because I can learn more about them but now they can learn more information on me, and the practice of "discretion" with this activity is somewhat vulnerable. I must admit I did check out several of their profiles (...you know it's hard to contain curiosity...) and I felt a bit odd as I feel I'm invading their privacy. I recognize that their profiles are public, but given our intimate encounters and what was shared between us conversation wise, it felt like I was prying beyond what they offered, or wanted to offer. Also, learning their real names versus professional names is now a bit awkward. I will respect their business persona. I also appreciate that escorts have a life outside of their work and want to meet other guys, etc (assuming that is their intention given their use of their real name and profile descriptions of seeking friends, relationships, etc).

I'm interested in hearing what escorts think when they see one of their clients on these apps. Would it be awkward to reach out to you and try to engage in friendly discussion, or should we respectfully observe a "don't mix business with pleasure" and politely ignore each other's activity on these apps. It's a particularly interesting scenario when we live in close proximity and our profiles are shown near by given distance.

[+ TylerandAce]

It's not awkward at all for us. We are on some of the hookup apps for different reasons at different times. There are occasions when we are looking to get information about an area we are visiting. Sometimes we are there to send folks to our rentmen site. Other times we are there to find an interesting hookup for ourselves that isn't business. But, if we are on the site, it's fair game to contact us. We might not respond immediately and we are often distracted when we are on them, but we do like to keep up with folks...even former clients.

[LookingAround]

Lol they put their semi nude pics on a public app along with a description of their likes and you think you're invading their privacy? Funny.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

It's all part of a digital life these days. You're going to bump into someone you know, whether you like it or not. The world is absolutely tiny in some ways.

 

That being said, it's interesting to see the sexual things an off-the-clock guy gets into versus what they advertise doing as an escort. I've had people tell me that they feel they'd dodged a bullet seeing certain escorts on Grindr or Scruff first.

[Mocha]

That being said, it's interesting to see the sexual things an off-the-clock guy gets into versus what they advertise doing as an escort. I've had people tell me that they feel they'd dodged a bullet seeing certain escorts on Grindr or Scruff first.

 

Lol, that's funny...but that's just how it is. I've met a few guys who'd appear all saddity and uppity and snooty in public around their friends. Especially in the South, they'd say things like, "I'm a Christian woman". But just the other week they were in every which position from Sunday. like yeah...you were a Christian woman, on birth control and not worried about making a baby.

[nycguy]

should we respectfully observe a "don't mix business with pleasure" and politely ignore each other's activity on these apps

 

That's pretty much the answer.

 

I've had people tell me that they feel they'd dodged a bullet seeing certain escorts on Grindr or Scruff first.

 

Not seeing an escort on Grindr or Scruff or other hookup sites is far from a guarantee that the "bullet" has been dodged.

[LaffingBear]

It's all part of a digital life these days. You're going to bump into someone you know, whether you like it or not. The world is absolutely tiny in some ways.

No truer words. And it can be funny, or shocking, or disappointing what you see out there.

 

Not only related to rentguys.

[Mocha]

Not seeing an escort on Grindr or Scruff or other hookup sites is far from a guarantee that the "bullet" has been dodged.

 

True. Plus I'm sure some guy's wives, partners and other closest of kin would be shocked and feeling whatever kind of way by what they come to us to do too. Not to mention the gay teachers out there...some of the kinkiest of them all. Probably not acceptable to school children, but just fine for the grown and sexy crowd.

 

I don't think someone should be passed up based on their personal hookup preference. Remember too...even though people are becoming more accepting of gays, there's still people who view gay sex in general as dirty and immoral.

 

So let's not perpetuate the idea that it's nasty or wrong. What works for some may not work for you and that's fine. But doesn't mean you have to engage in the same things with the same person, as what they do with everyone else.

 

So, if so and so wants to get gang banged cum dumped by 10 other Black guys, that's fine. But, I'm going to use a condom and make my own decisions if and when we decide to hookup one on one. And it's true, some people may not tel you they engage in that, which is why you have to do what you have to maintain yourself.

[Deadlift1]

OP u worry too much

[AquaNYC]

OP u worry too much

You are likely right - I worry too much. Just seeking some tips to avoid awkward situations, and yes, should recognize most people don't take things so seriously, so just go with the flow.