Feel Like a Free BFE Scam?

[LaffingBear]

I've gone to the movies with an escort. And I've taken an escort with me to an NFL game. But both of those were while the escort was with me for a weekend.

 

There have been times I've been in an hourly session, with plans to see a movie or play, or go to a baseball game, afterwards. I've gone from a football game to an escort session. I've had escorts say "I want to see that movie." or "I love football" when chatting at sessions-end.

 

It's occurred to me, particularly if the escort was friendly, to ask him along. I've never asked. Because it's a relatively lengthy time commitment. I am very attuned to "paying for his time, no matter what's happening." I wouldn't pay a guy for 2-3-4 hours to sit next to me. And, I don't want to convey that I'm trying to finagle a BFE for free.

 

I've finished a session, and given an escort a ride. Even gone for a quick lunch. But nothing longer, because I want respect time and privacy.

 

So, with that long intro.... Escorts, if an hourly client asked you to join him for an event, something that genuinely interested you, and you weren't booked.... would you go? Off-the-clock? Or would it feel like a manipulative way to get free BFE?

[Kevin Slater]

He may, he may not. No harm in asking. "Hey, I have a spare ticket if you're interested in hanging off the clock."

 

That being said, you might want to be clarify if you'd be upset were he to field text messages during the game. (If he did so during a movie, of course, kill him on the spot.)

 

Kevin Slater

[LaffingBear]

That being said, you might want to be clarify if you'd be upset were he to field text messages during the game. (If he did so during a movie, of course, kill him on the spot.)

Good point. Not because of the content.

 

A few texts or calls.... OK

 

I abhor people sitting at a game, or even a restaurant, who cant take their eyes off their phone.

 

I've invited young relatives, but cautioned them... "look, if you're going to play on the phone through the whole game, I'll take someone else"

[KennF]

If you're worried about him feeling scammed for a free BFE, then just be honest up front about it.

 

"Hey, I know you're interested in <fill in the blank event>. I'm going to be going, if you're interested. Not asking for a BFE or anything, just wanted to know if you wanted to hang out as friends, off the clock.

 

And just to be clear, I will set another appointment with you for more of what we just had (It was mind blowing.)"

[Irtwo]

As a side note, I think there's some misunderstanding about what "BFE" means. It doesn't mean going to a movie or a game.

[Good Grief]

As a side note, I think there's some misunderstanding about what "BFE" means. It doesn't mean going to a movie or a game.

 

Correct. It doesn't only mean going to a movie or a game.

[Cyd_StVincent]

I think its very kind and generous to consider an escorts interests and inviting them along - that being said a lot of escorts might not take you up on that offer since being with a client, regardless of the circumstances, will feel like an obligation to being sexually and emotionally attentive. Would you really want an escort you enjoyed to treat you just like any other friend - show up late, root for the other team, and perhaps be moody or inattentive? I totally understand not wanting to pay someone 200 an hour to watch Spiderman together, but maybe you can negotiate another rate so that everyone has a clear idea of expectations.

[+ DickyF]

It can be confusing especially when you're sometimes friends with benefit$. I'm in that situation. Fortunately he is very low key.

For example "do you want to get dinner" and he says yes is he providing BFE-company for $ (and otherwise would not go) or is he really interested in dinner? I've known him for 3 years now so it's sorted out ok.

[+ VictorPowers]

I've gone to the movies with an escort. And I've taken an escort with me to an NFL game. But both of those were while the escort was with me for a weekend.

 

There have been times I've been in an hourly session, with plans to see a movie or play, or go to a baseball game, afterwards. I've gone from a football game to an escort session. I've had escorts say "I want to see that movie." or "I love football" when chatting at sessions-end.

 

It's occurred to me, particularly if the escort was friendly, to ask him along. I've never asked. Because it's a relatively lengthy time commitment. I am very attuned to "paying for his time, no matter what's happening." I wouldn't pay a guy for 2-3-4 hours to sit next to me. And, I don't want to convey that I'm trying to finagle a BFE for free.

 

I've finished a session, and given an escort a ride. Even gone for a quick lunch. But nothing longer, because I want respect time and privacy.

 

So, with that long intro.... Escorts, if an hourly client asked you to join him for an event, something that genuinely interested you, and you weren't booked.... would you go? Off-the-clock? Or would it feel like a manipulative way to get free BFE?

I have done this before. In the example I recall, it was first discussed if I had time. Second, it was mentioned beforehand that it was off the clock. It was with a regular that has seen me many times. We genuinely enjoy each other's company so I didn't hesitate to say yes.

[+ glennnn]

Interesting question. I have one fairly regular escort that I really like. I would love to take him to lunch or dinner, but my budget says it would have to be off the clock. I'm not sure how to ask, because I'm afraid to bring an uncomfortable element into what has been a very satisfactory relationship so far. "Hey, if you are free for the next hour, I would love to buy your dinner, off the clock". Does this sound okay?