My fave escort raised his price, how do I approach this with him?

[Sandlapp]

I have a question for escorts. My favorite guy, who comes to my city every few months, raised his price above my own self-imposed limit. He's worth it and I'll probably pay up anyway, but I wonder if he would grandfather me in for the old rate. How would I approach that? How do escorts feel about that? I am usually loathe to quibble about rates. If it's above my limit, I just don't contact the guy. I never even talk about money with an escort unless he brings it up first. But, I haven't had the situation of a regular who raised his rates. I'd appreciate your thoughts.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

Just email him and ask. There's no magic way to handle this other than being straight forward.

[+ HornyRetiree]

Just email him and ask. There's no magic way to handle this other than being straight forward.

 

so many questions posed here can be answered with COMMUNICATE -- Communication solves most situations -- one way or the other - not necessarily as you might wish! BUT SOLVES.

[LaffingBear]

Just pay it.

 

Do you expect to be grandfathered by anyone else? Lawyer? Hair stylist? Tax preparer? Plumber?

 

I've seen service providers who offer a grace period..."Oh, I've raised my rates...I'll honor the old rate this time, but starting__________________, my new rate is XXXXXX.

[rvwnsd]

I'm not an escort, but a client who has a self-imposed cost ceiling. I've had this situation come up three times and each time it was handled differently, as follows:

• Guy raised rates a couple of months after I last hired him. When I contacted him he said that he had raised rates, but would grandfather me in because he didn't raise rates for existing clients.
  
• Guy raised rates about six months after I last hired him. I asked him about the rate (i.e. "I see your rate has increased - will you be charging me the rate I paid last time or the current rate) and he said he would charge the lower rate if I booked him for two hours.
  
• Guy raised rates and I had not hired him for almost a year. I just assumed the rate would be the new rate, which was not above my "ceiling." When it came time to hand him his fee he said something like "I can't remember what I was charging when you first hired me, so let's go with 'x'." "x" was considerably lower than the current rate.
  

I'd ask him what he intends to charge you. Yes, it is an awkward conversation to have, but you can probably figure out how NOT to sound like you are negotiating.

[Sandlapp]

Just pay it.

 

Do you expect to be grandfathered by anyone else? Lawyer? Hair stylist? Tax preparer? Plumber?

 

I've seen service providers who offer a grace period..."Oh, I've raised my rates...I'll honor the old rate this time, but starting__________________, my new rate is XXXXXX.

Yeah, I've had service providers offer but I've never asked.

[LaffingBear]

Yeah, I've had service providers offer but I've never asked.

How do you know hes coming to town?

 

If he calls you to let you know hes coming... or you communicate, touch base occassionally, "hey, when are you coming?"

 

Then technically, you have no way of knowing the higher fee. You could try passively waiting, asking at sessions end "how much is it again?" Being prepared to pay higher. But that feels manipulative. And youve written you dont like talking money.

 

If you are aware of his schedule by monitoring his ads, where fees are quoted, then thats how youve been made aware "x will be in the city on these dates, and here's what it costs to see him."

 

He might surprise you and volunteer that he's honoring the old rates for existing repeat customers.

[TruthBTold]

Just pay it.

Do you expect to be grandfathered by anyone else? Lawyer? Hair stylist? Tax preparer? Plumber?

I've seen service providers who offer a grace period..."Oh, I've raised my rates...I'll honor the old rate this time, but starting__________________, my new rate is XXXXXX.

 

No but then I just don't see them again, as was suggested. For example, my dentist recently raised my rates and concurrently mandated that charges be paid on the date of service (rather than waiting for my insurance to be filled first). His rates were already very high. I will not be returning to him even though I liked his care.

[MartyB]

Just pay it.

 

Do you expect to be grandfathered by anyone else? Lawyer? Hair stylist? Tax preparer? Plumber?

 

I've seen service providers who offer a grace period..."Oh, I've raised my rates...I'll honor the old rate this time, but starting__________________, my new rate is XXXXXX.

I don't agree that he should just pay it. As a continuing client I would definitely ask if the customary rate is still acceptable?

[MiamiLooker]

The escort has decided his service is worth more than what you previously paid. If you’re ok with negotiating the rate, then ask him. If not, then don’t hire him.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Part of many providers business model is to build incentives to keep regular clients. Your status as a regular client has a market value as the provider knows you are not a time waister, you are not a security risk, and other advantages that come with already knowing each other. I see no problem on asking about grandfathering. In my experience, most providers will offer you that privilege without you asking for it. You re not just another client.

[LaffingBear]

No but then I just don't see them again, as was suggested. For example, my dentist recently raised my rates and concurrently mandated that charges be paid on the date of service (rather than waiting for my insurance to be filled first). His rates were already very high. I will not be returning to him even though I liked his care.

 

Im a sole proprietor. I raise my rates a bit every few years. (All hypothetical rates for discussion purposes)

 

Longtime clients may be on lower base rates... eg, the guy whose been a client 10 years may be paying $100/hour, whereas new clients start at $120.

 

When I raise my rates, I tell them. The guy at $100 will go to $105, the guy at $125 will go to $135.

 

When someone has squawked at the increase, I respond politely. My costs go up. Im self employed, my insurance increases, the travel costs to see you increase. My subcontractors' rates increase. Ink to print your reports, etc etc.

 

If they still squawk, I politely reply theres nothing further I can do. If they choose to quit me, I politely wish them well.

 

Only one client has quit me for rates - at least as the admitted reason. And one client - a real pain in the ass anyway - whined about my rates every contact. I made up a bogus excuse and released him.

 

For reference, while I used hypothetical numbers, my rates are within market norms. And I increase them 3-4% about every two or three years. So, its a very low rate of increase.

 

I also have potential clients who, upon hearing my rates, choose not to contract.

 

If someone doesnt want to consume a specific service, or chooses to discontinue, due to costs/rates - including my services - I respect that. We all have value assessments occurring in our brains throughout the day. If something ceases to match my values, I wont consume it.

[MiamiLooker]

You can call it whatever makes you feel justified, but if you're asking for lower rates than the current advertised rate, then you're negotiating.

[+ oldNbusted]

I think it would be possible to get the answer to the question without any mention of previous or posted rates, just propose a meeting and ask the price.There is no appearance of haggling and he should just provide a specific number and you can accept or decline. This is easy for me to say, because I have a two hour minimum, so it's not necessarily the hourly x 2.

 

Having said that, my experience is limited to a few guys, but I would be surprised if someone wrote me back saying 'look at my ad and figure it out' or something to that effect, but it would be fine if someone did reply like that as that would be a person I wouldn't want to share my time (or money) with anyway.

[gallahadesquire]

I met someone new, and was in seventh heaven. We spent a couple of hours busy, and then a couple of hours chatting.

"What do I owe?" I asked.

"Whatever you think's right," he told me. I seriously over tipped.

[jawjateck]

It's always and only a value calculation. Nothing personal. If you want to continue with the guy, communicate/inquire. While I love the free market and providers' freedom to establish their price-points, too many companions increase their fees beyond their skill/reputational levels.

[dcguy20]

I saw someone earlier this year whose posted rate increased a few days after I made my appointment. He honored the lower rate when I asked him about it. Yes, communication is key.

[Becket]

The price of anything is always whatever someone will pay for it. Also please note that the sky is blue.

[LADoug1]

Where is Kevin Slater when we need him?

 

I for one would hope to be grandfathered in but would discuss it. Communication is king.

[Kevin Slater]

The price of anything is always whatever someone will pay for it.

 

Well, that's half the equation.

 

Kevin Slater

[MiamiLooker]

I have a question for escorts. My favorite guy, who comes to my city every few months, raised his price above my own self-imposed limit. He's worth it and I'll probably pay up anyway, but I wonder if he would grandfather me in for the old rate. How would I approach that? How do escorts feel about that? I am usually loathe to quibble about rates. If it's above my limit, I just don't contact the guy. I never even talk about money with an escort unless he brings it up first. But, I haven't had the situation of a regular who raised his rates. I'd appreciate your thoughts.

You may consider him a regular, but does he consider you to be a regular? Does he notify you directly when he's going to be in your city?

[Sandlapp]

You may consider him a regular, but does he consider you to be a regular? Does he notify you directly when he's going to be in your city?

Actually, he does.

[MiamiLooker]

Actually, he does.

That gives you a good opportunity to negotiate his fee.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Actually, he does.

 

"Hey! Happy to see you are coming back, I'd love to see you again. Just a question. I noticed you raised your fee, does the new rate apply to your regular clients? Thank you!"

[+ GregM]

It's always and only a value calculation. Nothing personal. If you want to continue with the guy, communicate/inquire. While I love the free market and providers' freedom to establish their price-points, too many companions increase their fees beyond their skill/reputational levels.

 

If the provider out prices himself he will eventually realize it when he does his books and sees that biz and numbers are dropping. Hopefully upon seeing he is out pricing himself he will correct his rates to reflect what the market will pay. At least that's what should be done.

 

Hugs,

Greg