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[AndyDandy]

Just wondering if you guys think it is ok for an escort to send solicitation text messages to clients weeks, months, even years after having a session?

 

I only ask because I am experiencing this and find it annoying, especially since the last text was a solicitation for a monetary donation. I have blocked the guy's number but he keeps creating new numbers to make contact.

[+ nycman]

It's rude.

 

Period.

[nynakedtop]

It's troubling.

 

I am OK with a very occasional, non-intrusive note from someone... but what your posting implies is a direct request for money. That's not a good sign.

[AquaNYC]

Just wondering if you guys think it is ok for an escort to send solicitation text messages to clients weeks, months, even years after having a session?

 

I only ask because I am experiencing this and find it annoying, especially since the last text was a solicitation for a monetary donation. I have blocked the guy's number but he keeps creating new numbers to make contact.

 

Similar experience happened to me early this year. I saw an escort a number of times within several months. After the third together time, he started sending a few desperate texts pleading for help rent, etc. I made the ultimate mistake of helping him out the first time. I didn't see him after that because it felt kind of exploitative to pay for his time when he was doing this service out of desperation. Then calls started coming in and more texts. I let the calls go to voicemail. He left messages about how I couldn't do this to him and ignore him, he is a human being, etc. Then a desperate call and text from him in another state asking me to wire him money so he could get a bus ride back home. How if I did this for him he would forever leave me alone, etc. In the pattern of the messages and experiences, he laid on the guilt thick for how I was mistreating him, etc. This all scared the hell out of me, as he had been to my apartment on our later times together.

 

Luckily, very luckily, after completing ignoring his texts, screening all my calls through voicemail and blocking any of his numbers, it finally ended. I haven't heard from him since. He still advertises on RM from time to time. For those in Portland or visiting Portland, OR, PM me and I'll share his profile so you avoid him and this potentially happening to you.

[AndyDandy]

Similar experience happened to me early this year. I saw an escort a number of times within several months. After the third together time, he started sending a few desperate texts pleading for help rent, etc. I made the ultimate mistake of helping him out the first time. I didn't see him after that because it felt kind of exploitative to pay for his time when he was doing this service out of desperation. Then calls started coming in and more texts. I let the calls go to voicemail. He left messages about how I couldn't do this to him and ignore him, he is a human being, etc. Then a desperate call and text from him in another state asking me to wire him money so he could get a bus ride back home. How if I did this for him he would forever leave me alone, etc. In the pattern of the messages and experiences, he laid on the guilt thick for how I was mistreating him, etc. This all scared the hell out of me, as he had been to my apartment on our later times together.

 

Luckily, very luckily, after completing ignoring his texts, screening all my calls through voicemail and blocking any of his numbers, it finally ended. I haven't heard from him since. He still advertises on RM from time to time. For those in Portland or visiting Portland, OR, PM me and I'll share his profile so you avoid him and this potentially happening to you.

 

Your experience is scary! I was with this guy ONCE maybe 3-4 yrs ago.

[Mydavid]

I had similar experience too. I met an escort one year ago. After 2 days we met, he sent me a message and said he needed money because he wanted to travel to another city and he would deduct what I lend to him from later payments when I go to him again. I was surprised and I don't know why he is so confident I would meet him again. I ignored his message. He didn't send it again. I guess he might send it to many of his clients. After a while, his ad disappeared and never showed up again.

When I met him, he divorced his husband for a while and did escorting due to financial reasons. He is young and handsome but not experienced in escorting. I wonder if he found a rich husband again so he stopped.

[rvwnsd]

I thought this thread was going to be about an escort saying thanks or sending a text when he was back in town. However, this is entirely different. I find solicitations for donations to be off-putting. A good sign that it is time to block his number and email address.

[gallahadesquire]

Slightly off thread:

 

I tried to meet someone while I was in Seattle on personal business. He'd been in town, but he'd already left.

 

About a year later I got a message that he'd be in my home town and was I still interested? And the rest is history.

[LaffingBear]

Wrong to infer, or project, or....

 

But if that behavior happened to me, regardless of how we met, I'd infer some kind of financial desperation or maybe drugs. Not sure what I'd do beyond what you're doing. Might take a call and threaten to tell police. I know there are discretion issues, and locale. If its been years, statute might have passed on your encounter, so hed have more to lose. Maybe just the threat will help.

 

Thats extreme, and not sure I'd do it. I only raise the possibility because it sounds creepy but there arent alot of practical options if hes changing his phone #. Maybe cops in a big, progressive city, probably too busy to get involved, will have suggestions?

 

The only other thing I can think of is that I think you can set a phone to accept texts only from known people in your contact list. That has an obvious downside, but if his text frequency is high, might be worth it.

[AndyDandy]

Slightly off thread:

 

I tried to meet someone while I was in Seattle on personal business. He'd been in town, but he'd already left.

 

About a year later I got a message that he'd be in my home town and was I still interested? And the rest is history.

 

That's perfectly acceptable. I get the same messages from a certain escort when he's visiting my city - one text message announcing his schedule. Plus, I asked him to contact me whenever he was visiting.

[LoveNDino]

I find it pretty easy to ignore unwelcome and unsolicited communications. But to each his own...

[maninsoma]

I've had a few guys send me messages multiple times after I hired them only once. In one case, it's a traveling escort whom I might hire again if I'm in the mood to do so during the time he visits my area. In the other cases, it was local guys who obviously wanted me to hire them again. I actually like a "thank you, feel free to contact me again" text/email that is sent right after a session, but random texts that are sent for months or years after a single appointment are annoying. I simply ignore them, though, since I think confronting the person about this behavior would likely not be productive and could, with the wrong guy, result in even more negative attention.

[big-n-tall]

I don't mind being contacted when a regular is coming through my area and he wants to see me. sometimes, I'll contact them first.

 

The only time I was bothered by an escort contacting was when one particular guy contacted multiple times weekly (because we lived in the same area). Because of my job schedule I told him I couldn't meet very often. Yet he still contacted asking about getting together. I just stopped responding after awhile. I think he got the hint.

[+ Keith30309]

Just wondering if you guys think it is ok for an escort to send solicitation text messages to clients weeks, months, even years after having a session?

 

I only ask because I am experiencing this and find it annoying, especially since the last text was a solicitation for a monetary donation. I have blocked the guy's number but he keeps creating new numbers to make contact.

I like to receive an email "Hi, how are you... I'm going to be in town on date X...". A couple of months ago a favorite was in my area and there was something wrong with his RM travel profile and I didn't know he was going to be around until he sent me a "hello" text. I'd have been disappointed to have missed him.

I also like to receive an occasional "Hi, how have you been?" text It makes me feel less like an ATM, even though I know the implicit message.

I've been hit up for 1) appointments I don't want to make, and, 2) loans (is this what you mean by "donation"?) and these are pretty easy to deal with: "I'm not available" and "No, I'm afraid I can't".

 

If someone is creating new numbers to contact me I would question if I have said something or am responding in an ambiguous way that made him feel like I could somehow accommodate his request. My experience is that a consistent, terse "No" makes requesters spend their energy looking for greener pastures.

[+ Just Sayin]

just got a text last night from an escort/porn star I wasn't able to see in Montreal a few weeks ago; it was just a smiley face symbol; I am tempted to engage him because I am so attracted to him; however, I don't have any plans to go back to Montreal any time soon and I don't want awkward questions at home about texts I might receive from him in the future; any wisdom from the community?

[+ HornyRetiree]

just got a text last night from an escort/porn star I wasn't able to see in Montreal a few weeks ago; it was just a smiley face symbol; I am tempted to engage him because I am so attracted to him; however, I don't have any plans to go back to Montreal any time soon and I don't want awkward questions at home about texts I might receive from him in the future; any wisdom from the community?

 

respond to him, explain what you said here! You are interested, don't know when you will be back (will contact him) and that receiving texts can be awkward with family and friends around!

 

Just basic communication -- I am sure he will understand, appreciate the heads up and give you one hell of a roll in the hay when the opportunity presents itself!!

[+ Just Sayin]

@HornyRetiree thanks! that's a great way to proceed!

[Guest Italiancub]

Just wondering if you guys think it is ok for an escort to send solicitation text messages to clients weeks, months, even years after having a session?

 

I only ask because I am experiencing this and find it annoying, especially since the last text was a solicitation for a monetary donation. I have blocked the guy's number but he keeps creating new numbers to make contact.

If he's following up to hang out again no I don't think it's rude. They promote business cause that's what this in reality is. If he is constantly doing it after you say you'll let him know than I get it. Also I think it's better to comunication is key to all this. If you're not interested in meeting with him again I'd think you should address that as well.

[jawjateck]

It's nice to receive a heads up from quality traveling providers. Locals drumming up biz get ignored/blocked.

[+ sf westcoaster]

If the escort is someone I have spent time with the past, I like and actually enjoy hearing from them. If I have not spent time with the person then I simply ignore the solicitation.

[AndyDandy]

It's nice to receive a heads up from quality traveling providers. Locals drumming up biz get ignored/blocked.

 

Yes it is nice to get those kind of notices. However, it gets a little annoying when the escort is based in the same city as you are and he is constantly contacting you for repeat business even though you tell him you are not available and then he starts asking for a "donation".

 

Maybe I needed to be more direct? IDK....

[TopTierTop]

Just wondering if you guys think it is ok for an escort to send solicitation text messages to clients weeks, months, even years after having a session?

 

I only ask because I am experiencing this and find it annoying, especially since the last text was a solicitation for a monetary donation. I have blocked the guy's number but he keeps creating new numbers to make contact.

Seems a little weird to me. I very often send a message the next day if we already had a text rapport going. But even in that case, it is more often the client who texts me hours after or the next day. The only time I would send a text to a previous client weeks or months later is if he is in a city I travel to and has asked me to let him know whenever I am in town.

[misterlobo]

Creating new numbers to make contact with you repeatedly sounds like a big sign of concern, definitely don't think that is okay when you've already clearly declined!