Escort etiquette

[AquaNYC]

What is the minimum level of etiquette one should expect from an escort? Over the last several months I've had some escorts show up in dirty t-shirts, socks with holes in them, and tattered sweats. Am I expecting too much? Is the general feeling that since those articles of clothing are coming off, it doesn't matter? It turns me off and ruins the experience, as it makes me question overall cleanliness. Also makes the whole experience feel cheap. These escorts had some favorable reviews on RM (understanding that reviews may not mean much). Is there something I should be looking for in the profile - like "professional" - that will signal they take more care with appearance? Or inquire about style when I reach out? Curious what others do. The experiences with those escorts were ok, but cheapen by the first impression, and I certainly won't hire them again but I would have preferred to spend my money elsewhere and had an awesome experience.

[ericwinters]

I agree with your viewpoint. I typically ask them to dress preppy casual and wear some of their favorite cologne.

[+ Keith30309]

What is the minimum level of etiquette one should expect from an escort? Over the last several months I've had some escorts show up in dirty t-shirts, socks with holes in them, and tattered sweats. Am I expecting too much? Is the general feeling that since those articles of clothing are coming off, it doesn't matter? It turns me off and ruins the experience, as it makes me question overall cleanliness. Also makes the whole experience feel cheap. These escorts had some favorable reviews on RM (understanding that reviews may not mean much). Is there something I should be looking for in the profile - like "professional" - that will signal they take more care with appearance? Or inquire about style when I reach out? Curious what others do. The experiences with those escorts were ok, but cheapen by the first impression, and I certainly won't hire them again but I would have preferred to spend my money elsewhere and had an awesome experience.

Different strokes for different strokes - communicate your expectations.

 

One gentleman I came to know appeared in a worn t-shirt, gym shorts and smelling quite ripe. He pretty quickly explained that being a gym-jock was part of his niche and his clients preferred that over other looks (and smells). We enjoyed a shower together and the ratty clothes disappeared on the floor. Voila'

 

I think that if you explain in advance that you enjoy time with a smartly-dressed and well-groomed gentleman then most professionals can accommodate that. But they can't do what they don't know. Perhaps some of those guys thought that's what you preferred or defaulted to a casual look in the absence of details.

 

Personally, I don't care what a companion wears as long as he's comfortable. The only exception is if I plan on a dinner at a nice restaurant and I'm careful to mention that in advance.

[MikeyGMin]

Is the general feeling that since those articles of clothing are coming off, it doesn't matter? It turns me off and ruins the experience, as it makes me question overall cleanliness.

I don't know about general feelings, but speaking for myself I care very little about what they are wearing. Although I've never really had anyone show up looking ragged, I don't think tattered or super casual clothes would make me question their cleanliness if everything smelled okay. The nose knows.

 

Do you have a particular type that might be more inclined to dress down? I usually hire Latinos who are almost universally fastidious about their clothes.

[+ poolboy48220]

Well, I've met an escort in a tattered shirt, because it was part of the plan to rip it off me. :-)

[+ nycman]

I've learned to roll with the punches on this one.

 

I love a man in a suit and tie....truth is most escorts don't own a suit...much less a tie.

 

Even after making my desires to go for drinks in suit and tie at one of the swankiest bars

in NYC clear, I've had escorts show up for the date in jeans and a T-shirt. It's hard to replan

the date last minute without insulting the escort who is obviously not dressed for the occasion.

So I've stopped asking for that scene...it's just not easily achieved.

 

I've set my "dress" standards much lower. Most escorts can achieve the khakis and button

down required for "nice" casual night out.....just don't look at their shoes...lol. To ask for

anything more is to court disaster. And even that is a stretch for some.

 

One exception is if I've met a young man several times and he seems into the scene but

just doesn't have the clothes for it...I'll take him shopping and buy a few "very nice"

outfits he can wear out with me. Honestly, watching them pick out and try on clothes

is emensly enjoyable to me. Most think it's some cruel joke I'm trying to pull. Once they

realize I'm sincere, they seem to enjoy it as well. Hell, everyone is more handsome and

walks taller in a well tailored suit.

[+ oldNbusted]

Of all the profiles I've read that mention upscale, professional, traveling, or going out for cultural events or dinner, @BigRic is the only one I recall who thought to include a pic in a collared shirt and a jacket.

 

Personally, I love a guy dressed up. The recent rebirth of the "Dandy Lion" look has been something to watch.

 

http://www.moadsf.org/exhibition/dandy-lion-rearticulating-black-masculine-identity/

 

http://thedandylionproject-blog.tumblr.com

[+ oldNbusted]

One exception is if I've met a young man several times and he seems into the scene but

just doesn't have the clothes for it...I'll take him shopping and buy a few "very nice"

outfits he can wear out with me. Honestly, watching them pick out and try on clothes

is emensly enjoyable to me. Most think it's some cruel joke I'm trying to pull. Once they

realize I'm sincere, they seem to enjoy it as well. Hell, everyone is more handsome and

walks taller in a well tailored suit.

 

I really like this, just need to find a guy.

[Deadlift1]

Usually handsome and well built men are allowed to bend the etiquette rules.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

There's a time and a place for everything. Looking like crap, unless you've requested it, is unacceptable.

 

Well-built men can get away with wearing things like tank tops, shorter inseam shorts and form-fitting clothing, but there's even a limit to that. I see far too many gay men with worked-out bodies stuff themselves into shirts, suits and jackets that make them appear to be overstuffed sausage. It becomes cheap looking, no matter how expensive the label.

 

As with most things between escort and client, when in doubt, communicate your needs and wants.

[+ nycman]

Usually handsome and well built men are allowed to bend the etiquette rules.

 

The operative word is bend....not break.

[+ BigRic]

What is the minimum level of etiquette one should expect from an escort? Over the last several months I've had some escorts show up in dirty t-shirts, socks with holes in them, and tattered sweats. Am I expecting too much?

 

Etiquette of course can refer to a lot of usually manners-related things. Looks like you're referring mostly to personal appearance and clothes.

 

No, you're not expecting too much. But per Keith30309, I think it's important to tell the guy what you want in advance. Then there's no excuse for non-performance once the session time comes if he didn't tell you in advance he couldn't do something you asked for.

 

I usually hire Latinos who are almost universally fastidious about their clothes.

 

Mikey, even though I'm sure this statement is well-intentioned, just because it's supposed to be complimentary doesn't mean it's not problematic. I'm not sure if you're referring to the 'universe' of Latin peoples or the universe of Latino men you've hired. Any way you slice it, I think it's better and probably more accurate if we pretty please try to avoid these "race"-based generalizations?

 

Even after making my desires to go for drinks in suit and tie at one of the swankiest bars in NYC clear, I've had escorts show up for the date in jeans and a T-shirt. It's hard to replan the date last minute without insulting the escort who is obviously not dressed for the occasion. So I've stopped asking for that scene...it's just not easily achieved.

 

I have a different take on this. At the risk of sounding like the hard glutes guy I am, as far as I'm concerned these escorts have insulted you by not showing up dressed appropriately after you've told them what you have in mind. I'd send him home. "No scotch for you!"

 

I wish there were more clients asking for this kind of swanky experience in LA. Beach culture, sandals and board shorts is fine but, as with many things in life, balance is important.

 

Hell, everyone is more handsome and walks taller in a well tailored suit.

 

Amen.

 

"Clean shirt, new shoes / And I don't know where I am goin' to / Silk suit, black tie / I don't need a reason why / They come runnin' just as fast as they can / 'Cause every [boy] crazy 'bout a sharp dressed man" --ZZ Top

 

One more thing: If I'm doing a muscle worship incall and the client hasn't stated any sartorial preferences, I love the looks I get when I open my hotel or apartment door in my underwear.

[+ BigRic]

I really like this, just need to find a guy.

 

You already have.

[Rudynate]

Never occurs to me ask an escort to dress a certain way. They show up however they show up. I like them to be fully dressed, because I enjoy undressing them. One guy showed up not long ago in really nice casual clothes, almost business casual. I really enjoyed that.

[LaffingBear]

if I've met a young man several times and he seems into the scene but just doesn't have the clothes for it...I'll take him shopping and buy a few "very nice"

outfits he can wear out with me. Honestly, watching them pick out and try on clothes

is emensly enjoyable to me....

 

Nice to know I'm not the only one who enjoys that. Although there have been moments a guy confessed afterwards he was appreciative, but the transaction left him feeling conspicuously kept.

 

I've also had the fascinating experience -once - of loaning my escort my clothes. Im 6', wear an XL. Going out for dinner, casual, in SF, the young bodybuilder escort said he really had nothing to wear but tee-shirts. Certain it would swim on him, i suggested he wear my plain black polo-type shirt. It was a fascinating comparison... whereas i needed the XL around the midsection, he was rocking it at the chest and shoulders, biceps popping the sleeves, etc... I remember sitting in the restaurant, and when he went to restroom, I noticed that he turned many women-diners' heads as he strolled through the dining room.

 

Clothes are an important ingredient in the recipe for me.

[Rudynate]

I've learned to roll with the punches on this one.

 

 

One exception is if I've met a young man several times and he seems into the scene but

just doesn't have the clothes for it...I'll take him shopping and buy a few "very nice"

outfits he can wear out with me. Honestly, watching them pick out and try on clothes

is emensly enjoyable to me. Most think it's some cruel joke I'm trying to pull. Once they

realize I'm sincere, they seem to enjoy it as well. Hell, everyone is more handsome and

walks taller in a well tailored suit.

 

 

I think it's pretty common for men to enjoy buying nice things for younger men. Seems like a win-win to me.

[rvwnsd]

...Over the last several months I've had some escorts show up in dirty t-shirts, socks with holes in them, and tattered sweats. ....

HOT!!! Send me his contact info.

 

Different strokes for different strokes - communicate your expectations.

Ding, ding, ding, ding, ding!

 

...One gentleman I came to know appeared in a worn t-shirt, gym shorts and smelling quite ripe. He pretty quickly explained that being a gym-jock was part of his niche and his clients preferred that over other looks (and smells)...

I'll take his contact info, too.

 

...I think that if you explain in advance that you enjoy time with a smartly-dressed and well-groomed gentleman then most professionals can accommodate that. But they can't do what they don't know. Perhaps some of those guys thought that's what you preferred or defaulted to a casual look in the absence of details.

 

Personally, I don't care what a companion wears as long as he's comfortable. The only exception is if I plan on a dinner at a nice restaurant and I'm careful to mention that in advance.

One of the most erotic experiences was when an escort I hired a few times decided to give me a treat. Knowing I liked a very strong natural scent, he skipped showering for a couple of days, worked out before heading over, and dressed in a button-down Oxford shirt (unbuttoned just a wee bit too far), pressed khaki pants, and loafers. The juxtaposition of crisp on the outside and raunchy on the inside was a-fucking-mazing. We were supposed to meet up for three hours but went for four.

[+ pitman]

I have the opposite problem. I always communicate to my hires how much I love strong musky man scents. Often they will talk about how ripe and sweaty they will be, and when we meet....nothing.

[TruHart1]

I will always remember meeting Raul G. Manzo in Chicago for the first time back in 2012. He was dressed to the nines in full suit and tie! It was like Christmas morning for me, unwrapping my hot, gorgeous present the first time ever and discovering his exciting gift(s) to me contained within. Now, whenever I see RGM, and I still see him quite often, he may not always dress up so much but I'll always remember that first exciting meeting with fondness and dirty thoughts, though RGM is nothing if not always classy as hell!!!

 

TruHart1

[+ OliverSaks]

I think it would be useful to let a companion know if you have clothing expectations, so you don't set yourself up to be disappointed.

 

Someone I know cares very little about dressing fabulously in his personal life, but he would be more than happy to dress up for a client if he were asked.

[bigvalboy]

RGM is nothing if not always classy as hell!!!

 

+1

The man is a class act.

[rvwnsd]

I have the opposite problem. I always communicate to my hires how much I love strong musky man scents. Often they will talk about how ripe and sweaty they will be, and when we meet....nothing.

Same here. I usually joke that "musky enough" is when my eyes water.

[Bearofdistinction]

I agree with your viewpoint. I typically ask them to dress preppy casual and wear some of their favorite cologne.

 

Down and Dirty -- Sweaty - Jockstraps - Dirty-Tee - Torn Jeans!! Allllll Goooooddddd!!!

[rvwnsd]

Down and Dirty -- Sweaty - Jockstraps - Dirty-Tee - Torn Jeans!! Allllll Goooooddddd!!!

I can't agree with you more.

[wklucas]

Well, I've met an escort in a tattered shirt, because it was part of the plan to rip it off me.

 

Marcus Cooper (escort in Chicago, moved to Palm Springs mostly as a "masseur") - big fetish of his - having both himself & the client in tattered clothes that could all be ripped to shreds in the heat of passion.....(he also had a "thing" for having cum rags handy for sniffing)....hot stud / former military.