Is this normal?

[Kregger69]

I recently saw a couple masseurs in LA-both off rentmasseur.com

 

Both were straight legit massages--no erotic touching/massage and not much else at all beyond the massage itself.

 

Im new to this--do you have to explicitly ask for more play? If you say nothing will the masseur not suggest more?

 

Thx

[LoveNDino]

I actually try to discuss the specifics of the massage I enjoy, without breaking the law, prior to the booking, and rely on intel from this forum and its denizens.

 

I recently saw a couple masseurs in LA-both off rentmasseur.com

 

Both were straight legit massages--no erotic touching/massage and not much else at all beyond the massage itself.

 

Im new to this--do you have to explicitly ask for more play? If you say nothing will the masseur not suggest more?

 

Thx

[LaffingBear]

do you have to explicitly ask for more play? If you say nothing will the masseur not suggest more?

 

There's a very ritzy spa in Napa Valley where they upsell...... for an extra $100, they offer to shave white truffle onto your back.

 

Mostly though, since promoting "more" might be solicitation, because they can't read your mind, and because a masseur really cant know how a stranger would react..... they probably feel its best not to do anything risky, or potentially perceived as pushy.

 

My experience is mostly with escorts. With a masseur, I'd compliment their looks, or say something a little suggestive. I'm in the process of trying to schedule something for this coming week.... and he knows a little about my interests - consistent with my avatar.

[natmas02]

If you're hiring off of Rentmasseur or masseurfinder (I hate massagem4m) then most of the time they imply they offer extras in their profile, if not then for most people it's fine to ask during the texts or phone call "do you offer extras?" and then it's clear cut yes and no question. It just always feel strange to ask.

[MassageDrew]

If you hired them for a purely therapeutic massage then it's likely they don't offer extras. Go for a more sensual massage or even erotic ones if you're looking for a lot more action. Once you find your type then work out the details. Not all masseurs are the same. Ask him if he's okay with mutual touching.

[+ azdr0710]

I'm definitely no expert in navigating masseur services and extras, but do rely on recommendations from the forum and some reading between the lines in ads....were you hoping for more @Kregger69 at these recent meets of yours ?......during pre-meet planning, I'll drop phrases like, "are you comfortable working naked?", "do you allow mutual touch?", and "if the massage is going well, let's see how things go".....nothing more suggestive than those, but they usually get the hint across....also, you may want to look for "sensual massage" or even "erotic massage" mentioned in ads.....some masseurs may limit "play" to meetings only after the first one.....you may also want to use your own body language to "ask" for more......and many masseurs who allow play will take your hand and move it to a spot on themselves to initiate some fun......

[Kody S]

All theses suggestions are good ones. As for me, I have learned to read the ads carefully, and especially "read" the pictures as they can tell you a lot. Once I have a good idea of who I would like to try, I ask on this forum for input. It almost always yields the insight in need to make a decision.

 

In texts sometimes I will ask discreet questions like, "Do you have preferences for draping?" Or "What types of massages do you offer?" Usually with those questions, in my experience, the masseur will tell you up front what they offer. I like to give them the option of volunteering the information as they have their profession to safeguard. It is also important to read what they don't say as much as what they do.

 

There are lots of reasons why a masseur may not give extras: their own health situation, being in a relationship, having a precious bad experience, needing to make money but not being ready for the variety of clientele they are getting, etc. It's interesting how much of this comes out of one takes the time to do research.

 

As far as the pictures go, if anything makes you feel uncomfortable in the picture, for whatever reason, then listen to that. It can help you avoid a less than happy situation.

 

I would say that 9/10 times I have a good experience when I do my research and get info on this site.

[Typical]

Use your words. Tell them what you want. If they so no, move to the next guy.

 

No big deal.

[LoveNDino]

There's a very ritzy spa in Napa Valley where they upsell...... for an extra $100, they offer to shave white truffle onto your back.

 

Mostly though, since promoting "more" might be solicitation, because they can't read your mind, and because a masseur really cant know how a stranger would react..... they probably feel its best not to do anything risky, or potentially perceived as pushy.

 

My experience is mostly with escorts. With a masseur, I'd compliment their looks, or say something a little suggestive. I'm in the process of trying to schedule something for this coming week.... and he knows a little about my interests - consistent with my avatar.

Is white truffle a code for something else?

[FrequentMassageGetter]

I just text beforehand... is the massage nude with mutual touch and release? 9 out of 10 times I'll get a yes. For the ones who don't to answer directly I'll get a response like... you'll leave happy. The one's who don't offer it will respond... Therapeutic Massage only.

[LaffingBear]

Is white truffle a code for something else?

No.... a poor attempt by me to be clever.... and emoticons that didnt appear.

 

Someone, not the post originator, misunderstood enough to ask me about the fancy Napa Spa for an upcoming trip.