Why all the "ask me" on RM profiles

[Jose305]

Question for the escorts. I've seen more commonly the rates as "ask me" but then there are orientation "ask me" then position "ask me" is there a reason for this? I -as a client- tend to skip over those ads unless the profile is extremely enticing. I would think if things were out in the open you'll get more business:confused:

[Mount N Do]

Question for the escorts. I've seen more commonly the rates as "ask me" but then there are orientation "ask me" then position "ask me" is there a reason for this? I -as a client- tend to skip over those ads unless the profile is extremely enticing. I would think if things were out in the open you'll get more business:confused:

I think all the buyers should collude and collectively reply to those ads with:

 

Subject: "Blow me" or "Fuck me" or "Fuck you"

 

Message: How much? Just trying to maintain the ambiguity...

[Jose305]

I think all the buyers should collude and collectively reply to those ads with:

 

Subject: "Blow me" or "Fuck me" or "Fuck you"

 

Message: How much? Just trying to maintain the ambiguity...

Exactly! What gets me is "orientation: ask me" wtf?

[Mount N Do]

Exactly! What gets me is "orientation: ask me" wtf?

I never do. Doesn't matter to me.

[LoveNDino]

Question for the escorts. I've seen more commonly the rates as "ask me" but then there are orientation "ask me" then position "ask me" is there a reason for this? I -as a client- tend to skip over those ads unless the profile is extremely enticing. I would think if things were out in the open you'll get more business:confused:

I think in one of the threads in this forum, someone said it's because the escort wants to adjust his price based on the prevailing market rates when they travel. But yeah, I tend to not even bother unless it's a really compelling find.

[+ oldNbusted]

Exactly! What gets me is "orientation: ask me" wtf?

 

 

I actually asked a guy who puts this after I met him and his orientation was apparent, and he said he thinks it heightens curiosity.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I like the "ask me" profiles. It means those items are open to discussion. Not a big deal from my point of view.

[AquaNYC]

I skip any ads that have "Ask Me". I get anxious enough already reaching out to someone new, and a bit shy in expressing what I want to share together. Having to ask directly - what do you charge, feels uncomfortable. It's been a bummer at times, as I have really liked the pics and profiles of some ads and then scroll down and see "ask me" in all the sections!

[+ oldNbusted]

I skip any ads that have "Ask Me". I get anxious enough already reaching out to someone new, and a bit shy in expressing what I want to share together. Having to ask directly - what do you charge, feels uncomfortable. It's been a bummer at times, as I have really liked the pics and profiles of some ads and then scroll down and see "ask me" in all the sections!

 

I get where you are coming from and I believe that will pass in time, so take it at your own speed.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Everything is ok, just skip the ads if you do not like them. That is the beauty of this industry, there is plenty of everything for everyone. Enjoy the ones you like.

[MikeyGMin]

That is the beauty of this industry, there is plenty of everything for everyone.

That's easy for you to say in DC. And Aqua has plenty to choose from in NYC, but for those of us in a smaller market, eliminating the "ask me" ads seems foolish. I would have missed out on one of the sweetest, hottest Latino guys I've met in years if I hadn't simply asked. Would have been a huge mistake on my part!

[MikeBiDude]

Everything is ok, just skip the ads if you do not like them. That is the beauty of this industry, there is plenty of everything for everyone. Enjoy the ones you like.

Skip the ad as suggested. Or ask?

[+ José Soplanucas]

Skip the ad as suggested. Or ask?

 

If the ad says "ask me" and you do not like that, skip it. I give that advice only because @AquaNYC says he gets stressed.

Of course the best thing to do is to ask. There is no reason to be uncomfortable about having a conversation. Perhaps is just beginner's anxiety.

[MikeBiDude]

If the ad says "ask me" and you do not like that, skip it. I give that advice only because @AquaNYC says he gets stressed.

Of course the best thing to do is to ask. There is no reason to be uncomfortable about having a conversation. Perhaps is just beginner's anxiety.

I'm in agreement...

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

From an escort's POV:

 

Ask me opens the line for communication on anything. It's not necessarily a 'I'm flexible on safer sex' or 'let's haggle to death,' but a suggestion to simply send a message. I'm all for making things as stress-free and easy as possible, but often times that takes asking some direct questions beforehand.

[Nvr2Thick]

I get where you are coming from and I believe that will pass in time, so take it at your own speed.

 

If the ad says "ask me" and you do not like that, skip it. I give that advice only because @AquaNYC says he gets stressed.

Of course the best thing to do is to ask. There is no reason to be uncomfortable about having a conversation. Perhaps is just beginner's anxiety.

 

There are a number of ways to read into it. To me, "ask me" in the Safe Sex category means that BB or not is open to negotiation. "Ask me" on Position or Orientation could be an attempt to be intentionally ambiguous. If Position was merely open to discussion then the escort could say "versatile." "Ask me" becomes "What do you want me to be?" Some clients looking for total tops, fore example, could reject a versatile escort. Some clients might rule out bi or straight guys. With the "ask me" responses the escort can get a feel for what the client wants, and adapt his profile on the fly.

 

I personally don't care for "ask me" responses in the Position and Orientation sections. I can't think of a good reason to turn these items into discussion points.

[MileHigh]

From an escort's POV:

 

Ask me opens the line for communication on anything. It's not necessarily a 'I'm flexible on safer sex' or 'let's haggle to death,' but a suggestion to simply send a message. I'm all for making things as stress-free and easy as possible, but often times that takes asking some direct questions beforehand.

Love your response... I never mind asking ... Even if the rate is listed, I still ask, hey... Just like with the lotto... You never know

[+ GregM]

I like the "ask me" profiles. It means those items are open to discussion. Not a big deal from my point of view.

 

BINGO!

 

Hugs,

Greg

[+ José Soplanucas]

There are a number of ways to read into it. To me, "ask me" in the Safe Sex category means that BB or not is open to negotiation. "Ask me" on Position or Orientation could be an attempt to be intentionally ambiguous. If Position was merely open to discussion then the escort could say "versatile." "Ask me" becomes "What do you want me to be?" Some clients looking for total tops, fore example, could reject a versatile escort. Some clients might rule out bi or straight guys. With the "ask me" responses the escort can get a feel for what the client wants, and adapt his profile on the fly.

 

I personally don't care for "ask me" responses in the Position and Orientation sections. I can't think of a good reason to turn these items into discussion points.

 

If you do not ask, you are just projecting your own fears, phobias, and fantasies.

[Nvr2Thick]

If you do not ask, you are just projecting your own fears, phobias, and fantasies.

 

I'm not interested in bullshit straw man arguments. Your view on "ask me" may be different than mine, so please don't try to project a point of view onto me. I don't trust a service provider who chooses to evade a simple question. It has nothing to do with fears, phobias, or fantasies.

[MikeBiDude]

"Ask me" is code for "I'm not really interested in seeing anybody, but just having fun testing the waters on my own dime." This also applies to market rate lobster in fancy restaurants. "I'm not really planning on being eaten, since I really enjoy being stared at in this cozy tank with my claws taped shut!"

That's ridiculous and you clearly don't understand "market price" at a restaurant. I assume you're somehow diminished by asking the size of the lobster, or simply asking the prefs of an escort.

 

If you do not ask, you are just projecting your own fears, phobias, and fantasies

[+ José Soplanucas]

I'm not interested in bullshit straw man arguments. Your view on "ask me" may be different than mine, so please don't try to project a point of view onto me. I don't trust a service provider who chooses to evade a simple question. It has nothing to do with fears, phobias, or fantasies.

 

With all respect, it is easy to avoid a discussion but arguing "it is my opinion". The fact remains: if a provider says "ask me", you do not know the answer until you do ask him. However, you shared what you think the answers would be. There is no way you know if you did not ask. Therefore, whether or not you like it and wether or not you are willing to accept it, you are projecting your fears, your phobias, and your fantasies. Needless to say, you are in your right to do that.

[+ RandyBoy]

When I see escorts' ads with the rates "ask me" I generally move on. I prefer to know the rate up front. I don't want to haggle nor do I want to be surprised with an exorbitant rate for his time if I am interested enough to contact the escort. The "ask me" potentially limits new clientele, especially ones who may be living a more 'traditional' lifestyle, e.g. str8, married, etc. In a city like NYC, where there hundreds and hundreds of escorts available, it may be something to think about from a marketing perspective.

[+ OliverSaks]

When I see escorts' ads with the rates "ask me" I generally move on. I prefer to know the rate up front. I don't want to haggle nor do I want to be surprised if I am interested enough to contact the escort. One escort told me that this is done for negotiating higher risk services e.g. bareback, fisting, etc. If that is the case, it would make more sense for the escort to just state a sliding scale exists for certain activities, procedures, or behaviors. The "ask me" potentially limits new clientele, especially ones who may be living a more 'traditional' lifestyle, e.g. str8, married, etc. In a city like NYC, where there hundreds and hundreds of escorts available, it may be something to think about from a marketing perspective.

The "sliding scale for different activities" wording is potentially problematic, legally speaking.

 

A companion is selling time, and suggestions otherwise (like I see in plenty of ads, to my surprise) could be held against the companion.

[coriolis888]

I actually asked a guy who puts this after I met him and his orientation was apparent, and he said he thinks it heightens curiosity.

 

While it may heighten curiosity in some clients, I suspect the number of clients whose curiosity is hightened, is negatively offset and diminished taking into account clients who post to this forum stating that they skip over and do not respond to "ask me" ads.

 

I realize there are posters on this forum who wrote it is a simple matter of asking an escort prices for his services. I can understand that philosophy (asking) even though I do not agree with it.

 

Although it is only a similar analogy, I must say, if I went to eat at a restaurant and looked for a menu with prices and food offered, and there was no menu or price list, and, if the waiter said to me, "ask me" I would leave and not return.

 

One thing that puzzles me is why escorts do not realize they lose a lot of business when their ad is an "ask me" ad. Many posts to this forum confirm that clients skip over "ask me" ads.

 

To quote a famous monk and poet, John Lydgate, "“You can satisfy some of the people all the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you cannot satisfy all of the people all the time”

 

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