BF Experience

[AquaNYC]

I'm considering of hiring for a BF experience and am seeking any tips on things to consider - good and bad - to help make it a great experience for both the escort and me. How inquisitive can I be in getting to know the escort during the "date" before crossing the line? Also, if dinner is involved, what is the proper etiquette later on before engaging in physical activities? Thanks in advance.

[MileHigh]

Just get down to business... Why would you go for the BF experience if you know that the escort is faking it and only there because of the money... You will only be disappointed because you will develop feelings, and out of the hiring hours, you it will not be reciprocated by the escort... So don't set yourself up for a heartbreak... At least that's my reasoning.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Just get down to business... Why would you go for the BF experience if you know that the escort is faking it and only there because of the money... You will only be disappointed because you will develop feelings, and out of the hiring hours, you it will not be reciprocated by the escort... So don't set yourself up for a heartbreak... At least that's my reasoning.

 

Not true. It is not my cup of tea but many clients enjoy the social company and the emotional connection.

@AquaNYC , there is no etiquette other than regular social conventions. You should plan the event as your perfect date and describe to the escort your plan. The BFE is just another role play scene.

[MikeyGMin]

First of all I wouldn't take a boyfriend experience as literally -- or cynically -- as MileHigh seems to be taking it. It's just a term that's been developed to describe a more intimate encounter that includes kissing and an openness to some kind of connection. As opposed to a kink session, or servicing a guy, or a myriad other things, Nobody is kidding anyone that it's a real boyfriend situation.

 

You don't have to do an extended multi-hour appointment to have a satisfying BFE. You don't have to wine and dine him -- he's a sure thing. You can get a perfectly good BFE in a one hour session, but if you really are interested in connecting a little, you probably want to consider at least two hours so you don't have to rush.

 

I know that lots of guys enjoy it, but personally I'm not a big fan of dinner dates with someone I just met. And who wants to go back and have sex right after eating a meal? If I was going to do it, I would take them out after play time when we had already gotten to know each other a little.

 

As far as conversation goes just keep it light and let it flow naturally. First meetings should be mostly get acquainted type small talk. Asking a guy what he likes to do for fun -- normal. Asking a guy how he got into escorting -- too nosey. Asking a guy the kinkiest thing he's ever done -- creepy. (At least for a first meeting. )

[AquaNYC]

First of all I wouldn't take a boyfriend experience as literally -- or cynically -- as MileHigh seems to be taking it. It's just a term that's been developed to describe a more intimate encounter that includes kissing and an openness to some kind of connection. As opposed to a kink session, or servicing a guy, or a myriad other things, Nobody is kidding anyone that it's a real boyfriend situation.

 

You don't have to do an extended multi-hour appointment to have a satisfying BFE. You don't have to wine and dine him -- he's a sure thing. You can get a perfectly good BFE in a one hour session, but if you really are interested in connecting a little, you probably want to consider at least two hours so you don't have to rush.

 

I know that lots of guys enjoy it, but personally I'm not a big fan of dinner dates with someone I just met. And who wants to go back and have sex right after eating a meal? If I was going to do it, I would take them out after play time when we had already gotten to know each other a little.

 

As far as conversation goes just keep it light and let it flow naturally. First meetings should be mostly get acquainted type small talk. Asking a guy what he likes to do for fun -- normal. Asking a guy how he got into escorting -- too nosey. Asking a guy the kinkiest thing he's ever done -- creepy. (At least for a first meeting. )

Thanks for your reply. I agree that I am not taking it literally, just planning to spend some extra time with him and perhaps enjoy a movie or show together. As I will be traveling from out of town on business, I was thinking that I would enjoy some company aside from the hotel room

[MassageDrew]

Remember your first date and how you planned/prepared for it? This is somewhat a similar situation but don't get too attached. It's a paid relationship after all.

[+ José Soplanucas]

Remember your first date and how you planned/prepared for it? This is somewhat a similar situation but don't get too attached. It's a paid relationship after all.

 

Do we need this remark? Again? Is that not understood?

BFE is just the name of a role play situation, or a style of vanilla sex. If I am looking for puppy play no one is going to remind me he is not my dog. Or better, my bitch.

I think we can have this conversation without the continuous reminder about the nature of our relationships here.

Please?

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[MassageDrew]

Do we need this remark? Again? Is that not understood?

BFE is just the name of a role play situation, or a style of vanilla sex. If I am looking for puppy play no one is going to remind me he is not my dog. Or better, my bitch.

I think we can have this conversation without the continuous reminder about the nature of our relationships here.

Please?

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Hahahaha fine

[TruthBTold]

I always have a BFE experience and usually at least two hours. The beginning (can't say the number of minutes exactly) is usually a nice big glass of wine that loosens us up. Then the kissing just flows, followed by whatever. I don't like to eat before but a short meal after can be really nice but is obviously not required.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I always have a BFE experience and usually at least two hours. The beginning (can't say the number of minutes exactly) is usually a nice big glass of wine that loosens us up. Then the kissing just flows, followed by whatever. I don't like to eat before but a short meal after can be really nice but is obviously not required.

 

I also do the wine or a drink or a joint or all of the above before starting the action. Sometimes I like playing music and dancing like in the old movies and start the kissing during the dance. Now that I share, I realize I have not done the dancing in a long time. I will have Frank Sinatra ready for my next hire.

[+ BigRic]

A lotta arguments and no sex. That's a "boyfriend experience." Always surprised at the number of guys who ask to pay me for that.

 

I will have Frank Sinatra ready for my next hire.

 

Just watched Diner for the first time. "When you're making out . . . Mathis or Sinatra?" Hahah.

[Chuckball]

I am not sure there is an identifiable subcategory of "bf experience." When I hire an escort for the second time or more, I have established in my own mind that I have felt a certain chemistry with the guy. Sex flows naturally as does the conversation. Although I feel genuine affection I know enough not to abuse the relationship and never forget there is a contract to fulfill.

[Bayman4Fun]

...... just planning to spend some extra time with him and perhaps enjoy a movie or show together. As I will be traveling from out of town on business, I was thinking that I would enjoy some company aside from the hotel room

 

You did NOT post this, but I will infer a possibility and share a mistake from early in my "scort-speriences"

 

Even the boyfriend time is on the clock. I had a very young guy, my type, express a keen interest in me, and in visiting san francisco his first time. I'd never arranged travel before. I arranged his airfare, and our deal was that he'd stay with me, I'd pay all meals, tourism, etc, and there would be a set number of one-hour sessions over the 3-day weekend. Mostly it was excellent, and the dining, walking around, etc. was very relaxed.

 

We hit a snag when, in a renowned leather shop, he got fitted for a pair of leather jeans, and then walked over to me, said he had no money, and asked if I could buy the jeans as compensation for one of the hours on-the-clock. I replied ok. But after I paid for the jeans with my credit card, he became quiet, eventually sullen. When I asked why, he said it made him feel like I'd publicly embarrassed him as "my boy," that his request was for the cash. I apologized, explained that I not only didn t realize that, I didn't have that much cash in my wallet at the moment anyway.

 

We had a few other bumpy moments over the weekend. A major bodybuilder type, he stocked up on protein powders for his stay.... but I realized he'd bought way more than necessary when unopened cans went into his luggage for the trip home.

 

I guess he was doing math in his head, when at one restaurant, he shared that we still had x paid sessions to go, and that he was counting on the money.

 

Overall, it was really a great time... the related hiccups were minor. I saw him again, many times over the years.

 

But I learned my lessons.... I'll never try a hybrid of paid and unpaid time with a guy again. And, if I have social expectations, then he needs to be on the clock for the entire time. And, even then, I don't have 100% beck-and-call expectations.... he needs some private time.

 

So.... apologies for a long tale.... hope any BFE expectations are on-the-clock.

[AquaNYC]

You did NOT post this, but I will infer a possibility and share a mistake from early in my "scort-speriences"

 

Even the boyfriend time is on the clock. I had a very young guy, my type, express a keen interest in me, and in visiting san francisco his first time. I'd never arranged travel before. I arranged his airfare, and our deal was that he'd stay with me, I'd pay all meals, tourism, etc, and there would be a set number of one-hour sessions over the 3-day weekend. Mostly it was excellent, and the dining, walking around, etc. was very relaxed.

 

We hit a snag when, in a renowned leather shop, he got fitted for a pair of leather jeans, and then walked over to me, said he had no money, and asked if I could buy the jeans as compensation for one of the hours on-the-clock. I replied ok. But after I paid for the jeans with my credit card, he became quiet, eventually sullen. When I asked why, he said it made him feel like I'd publicly embarrassed him as "my boy," that his request was for the cash. I apologized, explained that I not only didn t realize that, I didn't have that much cash in my wallet at the moment anyway.

 

We had a few other bumpy moments over the weekend. A major bodybuilder type, he stocked up on protein powders for his stay.... but I realized he'd bought way more than necessary when unopened cans went into his luggage for the trip home.

 

I guess he was doing math in his head, when at one restaurant, he shared that we still had x paid sessions to go, and that he was counting on the money.

 

Overall, it was really a great time... the related hiccups were minor. I saw him again, many times over the years.

 

But I learned my lessons.... I'll never try a hybrid of paid and unpaid time with a guy again. And, if I have social expectations, then he needs to be on the clock for the entire time. And, even then, I don't have 100% beck-and-call expectations.... he needs some private time.

 

So.... apologies for a long tale.... hope any BFE expectations are on-the-clock.

Thanks for the insight. That was my expectation as well.

[+ VictorPowers]

I'm considering of hiring for a BF experience and am seeking any tips on things to consider - good and bad - to help make it a great experience for both the escort and me. How inquisitive can I be in getting to know the escort during the "date" before crossing the line? Also, if dinner is involved, what is the proper etiquette later on before engaging in physical activities? Thanks in advance.

BFE is a great way to "get to know each other" prior to getting down to business afterward. I personally enjoy them as it takes the pressure off of us both in being rushed. I enjoy a client that has a specific timeframe and itinerary set in place. I'd say you should be clear on what's in and off the clock as well so there isn't any confusion.