Can it be real ?

[barrybt]

I have a question, I'm not a good looking by any mean, I hired someone, had with him 2 meetings, looks and sounds like he's really enjoying himself, on each appointments he came twice ! He mown and he either an oscar player or really into it.

 

Part of my enjoyment is to see please others, so I'm really trying my best but Q, can it be real or escorts are really faking it to a degree we humans cannot notice it's fake.

 

Thx.

[+ HornyRetiree]

I have a question, I'm not a good looking by any mean, I hired someone, had with him 2 meetings, looks and sounds like he's really enjoying himself, on each appointments he came twice ! He mown and he either an oscar player or really into it.

 

Part of my enjoyment is to see please others, so I'm really trying my best but Q, can it be real or escorts are really faking it to a degree we humans cannot notice it's fake.

 

Thx.

 

First! Escorts are humans! as are we clients!

 

Second! Why are you over thinking the session and wasting energy on questioning what you describe as a good interactive time together!

 

Third! Relax and enjoy your time with the escort(s) you have choosen

[barrybt]

First! Escorts are humans! as are we clients!

 

Second! Why are you over thinking the session and wasting energy on questioning what you describe as a good interactive time together!

 

Third! Relax and enjoy your time with the escort(s) you have choosen

Strong points, maybe deep down I want to validate myself.

[+ HornyRetiree]

Strong points, maybe deep down I want to validate myself.

 

Maybe a therapist for that -- have fun and enjoy time with your escorts.

[MassageDrew]

If you enjoy it and if you see that he's enjoying it then what is the question? He's enjoying ypu getting him off and he knows you enjoy pleasing him so it's a win-win for both of you

[barrybt]

If you enjoy it and if you see that he's enjoying it then what is the question? He's enjoying ypu getting him off and he knows you enjoy pleasing him so it's a win-win for both of you

I'm probably afraid it's an act and his real thoughts are "can't wait to go home".

[AlexThomas]

From an escorts point of view, at least mine personally. I dont always get hard when Im with people, i have meds that make it an issue on occasion. So alot of people think I'm just not into it, this is far from the case. I enjoy making people happy thats what gets me off, its never an act its really me being happy that you are happy. Even when im getting sucked the pleasure is amazing even when I'm soft, I love it when my taint gets licked and it drives me crazy.

 

Point is don't over think it, most guys are in this line because they like making people happy in whatever way they can. Whether that means just sitting and talking with you over a bottle of wine or getting down and dirty in the sheets. A lot of guys get their thrill from you being happy and fufilled.

[MassageDrew]

But you're allowing your insecurities to get the best of you. Let it go and just enjoy it. I was like you once and it prevented me from enjoying the moment. I kept thinking is he enjoying it or am I doing this right? Am I pleasing him? Let it go. Don't over think it and just enjoy it.

[barrybt]

But you're allowing your insecurities to get the best of you. Let it go and just enjoy it. I was like you once and it prevented me from enjoying the moment. I kept thinking is he enjoying it or am I doing this right? Am I pleasing him? Let it go. Don't over think it and just enjoy it.

I enjoy it to the fullest, the thoughts only come when I'm alone, analyzing each minute of the experience.

[Bayman4Fun]

I'm probably afraid it's an act and his real thoughts are "can't wait to go home".

Listen to the advice you're getting.

 

Consider this as weird evidence.

 

Decades ago, at one of my first visits to San Francisco's NobHill Theater, the performer arrived at my seat in the audience.

 

I don't know how other places operate today... back then, the NobHill promoted they were one of the few with totally nude guys who JO on stage. The performer would work the stage, strip partially, move through the audience for tips, lap dances, and to whisper private session solicitation into patrons ears. They'd return to the stage, strip all way, make another round of the audience for more tips......

 

Anyway, a performer arrived at my seat. He was beaming. He was ecstatic. "Damn," he told me. "A guy down front just came without touching himself, just from looking at me. That turns me on so much, that I can do that to people! I love this job!"

 

I know that's weird, TMI, and even a creepy tale. I relate it to reinforce what other posters are telling you.... there are men who choose a line of work because they genuinely love bringing pleasure to others.

 

You're not being tolerated..... and you need to ignore the demons in your head trying to convince you otherwise.

[barrybt]

Listen to the advice you're getting.

 

Consider this as weird evidence.

 

Decades ago, at one of my first visits to San Francisco's NobHill Theater, the performer arrived at my seat in the audience.

 

I don't know how other places operate today... back then, the NobHill promoted they were one of the few with totally nude guys who JO on stage. The performer would work the stage, strip partially, move through the audience for tips, lap dances, and to whisper private session solicitation into patrons ears. They'd return to the stage, strip all way, make another round of the audience for more tips......

 

Anyway, a performer arrived at my seat. He was beaming. He was ecstatic. "Damn," he told me. "A guy down front just came without touching himself, just from looking at me. That turns me on so much, that I can do that to people! I love this job!"

 

I know that's weird, TMI, and even a creepy tale. I relate it to reinforce what other posters are telling you.... there are men who choose a line of work because they genuinely love bringing pleasure to others.

 

You're not being tolerated..... and you need to ignore the demons in your head trying to convince you otherwise.

Wonderful story, I really appreciate all the positive feedback I got here.

[+ quoththeraven]

I'm probably afraid it's an act and his real thoughts are "can't wait to go home".

While having sex that you are enjoying? It's nearly impossible for one person to enjoy a consensual sexual encounter their partner secrtly hates. Men are not such good actors.

 

Your worries say more about your perceptions of escorting than the encounter itself.

[+ poolboy48220]

There are lots of guys out there who are attracted to types that are NOT the typical standard of beauty. A couple of my favorites fall into this category. Run with it and enjoy yourself.

[+ Eric Hassan]

I have a question, I'm not a good looking by any mean, I hired someone, had with him 2 meetings, looks and sounds like he's really enjoying himself, on each appointments he came twice ! He mown and he either an oscar player or really into it.

 

Part of my enjoyment is to see please others, so I'm really trying my best but Q, can it be real or escorts are really faking it to a degree we humans cannot notice it's fake.

 

Thx.

 

What do you hope to learn by asking this question?

[barrybt]

What do you hope to learn by asking this question?

I think that I hope to learn if what I'm doing is ok, meaning if I would know the escort really hates spending time with me, I would rather avoid, if I would be able to believe he enjoys to enjoy, im would feel more relaxed.

Make sense or I'm too complex.

[barrybt]

While having sex that you are enjoying? It's nearly impossible for one person to enjoy a consensual sexual encounter their partner secrtly hates. Men are not such good actors.

 

Your worries say more about your perceptions of escorting than the encounter itself.

I didn't follow the last sentence.

[+ quoththeraven]

I didn't follow the last sentence.

That you have feelings of shame that might be clouding your perceptions.

[barrybt]

That you have feelings of shame that might be clouding your perceptions.

It's not shame at all, hard to explain, I love to love and I love to please, I hate being a burden and I hate to make someone else uncomfortable, I'll always put someone else needs before mine, when you hire an escrort in a way, you put your needs before his, he has his schedule, home, boyfriend, tv series, you name it, with your money you entice him to come to you and pleasure you, it's a very uncomfortable spot for me, it's not like buying a first class ticket, pay a premium and get good seat, this is humans and real lifes.

Your money buys someone's piece of life.

Too dramatic?

Drama queen ?

[Bayman4Fun]

I think that I hope to learn if what I'm doing is ok, meaning if I would know the escort really hates spending time with me, I would rather avoid, if I would be able to believe he enjoys to enjoy, im would feel more relaxed.

Make sense or I'm too complex.

You seem very invested in you uncertainty.

 

Here's a few options.

1. Don't take it so seriously. You're not making career decisions, or doing things with lifelong consequences. If you leave a session feeling pretty good about it... don't get in your own head afterwards wondering how he felt. If he's snickering about it somewhere, he's an ass. What's the worst? He'd say no thanks if you called again?
   
2. If you're inexperienced and concerned about technique... hire someone with an excellent reputation and tell him that. Some escorts will respond well to a little sex-therapist role play, and the good escorts are good people. I didn't know what I didn't know at the time, but I'm a better man for the directions and tips Jon Vincent gave me long ago. (Brings a smile to my lips even now, 20 years later)
   
3. Stop projecting negative reactions on the escort.... if he hates you, he can leave without his fee. Much of your posting suggests you're determined to feel tolerated.
   
4. In all likelihood, you're over thinking the whole situation. Relax, enjoy the memories. And, if you can't find pleasure in it, maybe hiring isn't for you.
   

[barrybt]

You seem very invested in you uncertainty.

 

Here's a few options.

1. Don't take it so seriously. You're not making career decisions, or doing things with lifelong consequences. If you leave a session feeling pretty good about it... don't get in your own head afterwards wondering how he felt. If he's snickering about it somewhere, he's an ass. What's the worst? He'd say no thanks if you called again?
   
2. If you're inexperienced and concerned about technique... hire someone with an excellent reputation and tell him that. Some escorts will respond well to a little sex-therapist role play, and the good escorts are good people. I didn't know what I didn't know at the time, but I'm a better man for the directions and tips Jon Vincent gave me long ago. (Brings a smile to my lips even now, 20 years later)
   
3. Stop projecting negative reactions on the escort.... if he hates you, he can leave without his fee. Much of your posting suggests you're determined to feel tolerated.
   
4. In all likelihood, you're over thinking the whole situation. Relax, enjoy the memories. And, if you can't find pleasure in it, maybe hiring isn't for you.
   

To your comments:

1. Called him for a second time and he gladly accepted and I'm planing on the 3rd, 4rd .....

2. This wasn't my concern, it was my looks.

3. I accept.

4. It's definitely for me, just need time and money.

[+ Eric Hassan]

You seem very invested in you uncertainty.

 

Here's a few options.

1. Don't take it so seriously. You're not making career decisions, or doing things with lifelong consequences. If you leave a session feeling pretty good about it... don't get in your own head afterwards wondering how he felt. If he's snickering about it somewhere, he's an ass. What's the worst? He'd say no thanks if you called again?
   
2. If you're inexperienced and concerned about technique... hire someone with an excellent reputation and tell him that. Some escorts will respond well to a little sex-therapist role play, and the good escorts are good people. I didn't know what I didn't know at the time, but I'm a better man for the directions and tips Jon Vincent gave me long ago. (Brings a smile to my lips even now, 20 years later)
   
3. Stop projecting negative reactions on the escort.... if he hates you, he can leave without his fee. Much of your posting suggests you're determined to feel tolerated.
   
4. In all likelihood, you're over thinking the whole situation. Relax, enjoy the memories. And, if you can't find pleasure in it, maybe hiring isn't for you.
   

 

+1

[+ nycman]

Words of advice....

 

A) You are thinking with the wrong head....in this instance let the little dude take over and have some fun.

 

and

 

B) Never look behind the curtain.

[Deadlift1]

It's not shame at all, hard to explain, I love to love and I love to please, I hate being a burden and I hate to make someone else uncomfortable, I'll always put someone else needs before mine, when you hire an escrort in a way, you put your needs before his, he has his schedule, home, boyfriend, tv series, you name it, with your money you entice him to come to you and pleasure you, it's a very uncomfortable spot for me, it's not like buying a first class ticket, pay a premium and get good seat, this is humans and real lifes.

Your money buys someone's piece of life.

Too dramatic?

Drama queen ?

Alex, I'll take self esteem for $500

[+ oldNbusted]

I think this requires some degree of suspension of disbelief, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Suspension_of_disbelief

 

You probably do this when you watch a movie or a play, even if things like gruesome murders are depicted, you don't react as you would in real life. Having said that, I know a person who can't do this, so he doesn't watch certain movies. We each have to make our own choices.

[Deadlift1]

So nice to see great responses.