Letters of recommendation from clients?

[AndreFuture]

As the title suggests, I'm wondering if anyone has gotten letters of recommendation from clients for legit jobs. I'm thinking about the impact that leaving my current professional field to escort full time would have on my prospects. Any escorts or clients have experience with this?

 

To be honest, I'm not entirely sure I'd want to return to my profession. It's filled with some awful people and the politics/games/backstabbing people play are part of the reasons why I want to escort full time anyway. But I'm trying to be pragmatic and consider all my options.

[+ poolboy48220]

The first thought that came to my mind was when I was much younger I asked someone if I could put her as a reference. I knew her through the university but mostly in social settings. She said "What could I say? I can't make any claims to knowing how good a programmer you are". I'd feel the same way about letters from clients recommending you for a legit job. Apart from what I've always heard referred to as a "character reference" rather than a "professional reference", I'm not sure what such a letter might say.

[+ oldNbusted]

Do people ask for letters of reference these days? My understanding, maybe outdated, was one never asks, that would actually disqualify you from further consideration. If someone offers, you may take them up on it, maybe even providing a draft so they have an idea of what you consider important and to reduce the burden of the kindness they are doing for you. I wonder if the answer to this is going to make me feel even more of a dinosaur...

[AndreFuture]

Do people ask for letters of reference these days? My understanding, maybe outdated, was one never asks, that would actually disqualify you from further consideration. If someone offers, you may take them up on it, maybe even providing a draft so they have an idea of what you consider important and to reduce the burden of the kindness they are doing for you. I wonder if the answer to this is going to make me feel even more of a dinosaur...

Unfortunately, yes they do. My last two positions asked for letters. I hate writing about myself, but I suppose I could provide a draft of what I need to make the request easier.

[+ Keith30309]

I would include in my decision an assumption that the hiring manager would telephone the letters' authors and perhaps ask a question or two.

[+ oldNbusted]

Unfortunately, yes they do. My last two positions asked for letters. I hate writing about myself, but I suppose I could provide a draft of what I need to make the request easier.

 

I wasn't clear enough, I understand that employers want letters of recommendation for job applicants. I meant that a person should not solicit someone to write a letter about the requestor, the other person has to volunteer, unprompted, to write such a letter. Hope that makes what I wrote clearer.

[LADoug1]

Be careful. Probably not a good idea to mix your two professions.

[AndreFuture]

I wasn't clear enough, I understand that employers want letters of recommendation for job applicants. I meant that a person should not solicit someone to write a letter about the requestor, the other person has to volunteer, unprompted, to write such a letter. Hope that makes what I wrote clearer.

Your rephrasing is much clearer. An odd proposition, but clearer.

[liubit]

I, for one, when living in NYC, gave referrals to a couple of my regular escorts --young kids-- at their request. I always mentioned that they were "family friends". They were very grateful, and I never had any problem.

[+ José Soplanucas]

I wasn't clear enough, I understand that employers want letters of recommendation for job applicants. I meant that a person should not solicit someone to write a letter about the requestor, the other person has to volunteer, unprompted, to write such a letter. Hope that makes what I wrote clearer.

 

I have supervisors volunteering to write a letter, and I have also asked for one other times. At least in the education field, the tendency goes against the tradition of letters, in favor of providing your prospect employed with references. They usually ask for three references, and they contact them via phone calls to discuss the candidate.

I do not know what [uSER=12528]@FTM_Twink[/uSER] used to be, but the usual thing here seems to be asking for a letter that would document your illegal activity, if I am not misunderstanding, to present in a conventional, legal job. I am kind of confused.

[Rudynate]

I wasn't clear enough, I understand that employers want letters of recommendation for job applicants. I meant that a person should not solicit someone to write a letter about the requestor, the other person has to volunteer, unprompted, to write such a letter. Hope that makes what I wrote clearer.

 

 

It's nice when people offer, but if I wanted a letter from someone I had worked with/for, and they weren't forthcoming with an offer, I would ask for one. I wouldn't ever ask anyone for a letter if I didn't think they were going to give me anything but a great reference. I had a tenant once who had been kind of a pain in the ass, and she paid her rent late once. She was looking for new housing and asked me to be a reference. I said "sure," and I told her that I would report that she had been an excellent tenant and that she had one late payment on her record. Intelligently, she thanked me and said she didn't need the letter after all.

[MiamiLooker]

I would include in my decision an assumption that the hiring manager would telephone the letters' authors and perhaps ask a question or two.

Depending on the questions, that could certainly put the client in an awkward situation.