Has escorting changed you in any way?

[nycguy]

Have you learned anything about yourself that surprised you?

 

Have you learned anything about others that surprised you?

 

Did it change your sexual preferences in any way?

[Chuckball]

I am sure you want a response from escorts. But my experience hiring escorts has had a significant impact on me. As a married closeted guy I had to get my kicks from porn. But now having met a couple of excellent escorts I feel totally comfortable in our relationship and having them show me things I had never dreamed of. One escort showed me that holding each other's balls was a great relaxation tool. I no longer watch porn and feel great about myself and my interactions with other men.

[Maximus69]

1- Yeah escorting in a way has made me grown up and become wiser and stronger, you learn a lot about yourself and what your limits are and what your willing to do for money. You definitely have to have a positive mind escorting because they're so many things that can tear you down and knock your confidence in this business. Im surprised I have been doing this for a little while now, and how I have grown sexually and Im not as vanilla as I thought, well I'm like the neopolitan ice-cream, Im mostly vanilla but have some strawberry and chocolate in me too

 

2. Im surprised that most clients just want to feel loved, It's not all about sex 100 percent, its about the connection and making them feel wanted even in that short period of time your together. Im surprised that I can make so many people happy even if its something so simple like sex. Im always surprised at how many people I met that when we first meet they want to have a conversation and know about myself and my life, It makes me feel not like a sex crazed robot but an actual human

 

3- Hasn't changed my preference I've always been open to new things, new people, all races, sizes, ages, its pretty fun, some days are amazing and other days aren't, but thats in any job correct , Long story short escorting is a part of me, but not all of me, Im just a student by day and then secret escort by night, I'm helping out so many people

[Bearofdistinction]

Have you learned anything about yourself that surprised you?

 

Have you learned anything about others that surprised you?

 

Did it change your sexual preferences in any way?

 

Over many years has taught me so much about myself - about interacting with other men and making them feel good - about teaching them how to make me feel good -- kissing - BDSM -

Deep-Throating Big Cocks -- Making Grown Men whimper when I rim them -- using cum as a high protein substitute for mayo in Shrimp Salad -- Kink -- Cuddle -- And So Much More! Douching - Dildos -- Leather - Feather - Food - F**king -- F**ting -- Flossing and More!!!!

[MikeBannacheck]

Escorting has made me believe in myself again. During the recession, I would apply for job after job without any call backs. From that experience I felt worthless and less then human. When I began to escort and was a success, it was so relieving. I can run a small business and turn a profit!

 

Escorting has expanded my sexual boundaries and given me an appreciation for the diversity of sexual desires. As an escort, clients are allowed to be blunt and straight forward about their needs without having to worry about being judged.

[+ GregM]

Have you learned anything about yourself that surprised you?

 

Have you learned anything about others that surprised you?

 

Did it change your sexual preferences in any way?

 

1. Over the years I found that I am much more open sexy time wise than I was before.

 

2. For many guys that hire they are concerned with the hooker having a "perfect" body and more about the overall connection.

 

3. My preferences are almost always changing. Nothing is set in stone.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[gallahadesquire]

Regarding exceptionally perfect bodies:

 

Two escort responses come to mind:

• Anyone can look like this with enough effort. Intelligence is inborn; attitude has to be learned
  
• I think I'm fat (with chiseled pecs and abs to do your wash on)
  

I did learn something, though. One's father was a gym teacher, so he was ALWAYS expected to exercise. The other was a bit of a runt and took up track and weight training as a defense.

[+ tylerthebadwolf]

Have you learned anything about yourself that surprised you?

 

Have you learned anything about others that surprised you?

 

Did it change your sexual preferences in any way?

 

Oh man. I think the longer you're in the game the more thorough your answers to questions like these become.

 

This work has taught me buckets' and pages' and years' worth of things about what sex is, and what it means, about how to treat others and what respect is worth. There's no simple way to quantify what it does for you when the work goes right. It's made me a better, cleverer, more humble man and a more enthusiastic, intuitive, and inclusive lover.

 

When you're on a positive track it can teach you so much about how sex and sexuality change and shift over the course of a lifetime, and I'm so grateful for so many of the men that I've met who have reassured me (just by being who they are) that sex doesn't stop a prescribed age, and desire (while it can change) doesn't have to diminish. That's so exciting to know as I head towards 30 in August. It's all still ahead.

 

As far as changing one's sexual preferences – how could it not? And all for the better. It's showed me how to be more open and more receptive and just more caring and close with people I might have (at 20) quietly stepped away from. What I thought my "type" was at the outset has become a whole spectrum of "types" and I find myself unable to answer when people ask who I'm "into." It would take all night.

 

 

-t

[AndreFuture]

I was pretty sexually open prior to starting, but the most salient change for me has been my attitude towards married guys cheating (that is, without their partner's knowledge or permission).

 

Before escorting, I'd hooked up with a guy who I later found out was married with kids & his family didn't know about his sexual exploits with men. I promptly stopped seeing him because I didn't want to be a homewrecker. I strongly encouraged him to be honest with his wife. He eventually did, they separated, and now he's hooking up without the deception.

 

Fast forward to today: I dont have that same judgment. I wouldn't stop seeing a client if I found out he was in a monogamous relationship—I'd lose most of my business! I still value honesty, though and ideally would like to help him move to a place where he's confident/ready to be honest with his partner, though that's not for me to decide. I'd even love to help mediate such a conversation as kind of a relationship therapist because I know the pressure of heterosexuality and monogamy push a lot of guys into relationships in which they can't be perfectly honest.

[scottspearsxxx]

No. I have always been responsible and I love love love sex and everything erotic...

[+ nycman]

It's made me somewhat poorer financially....but also magnitudes richer than I ever thought I'd be.

[Bearofdistinction]

Over many years has taught me so much about myself - about interacting with other men and making them feel good - about teaching them how to make me feel good -- kissing - BDSM -

Deep-Throating Big Cocks -- Making Grown Men whimper when I rim them -- using cum as a high protein substitute for mayo in Shrimp Salad -- Kink -- Cuddle -- And So Much More! Douching - Dildos -- Leather - Feather - Food - F**king -- F**ting -- Flossing and More!!!!

 

I should clarify --- I am not a professional gentleman - but because of my association with them all of the above is possible.

 

In addition, because of the confidence I have gained I rarely hesitate to talk with any man no matter how old/how young/how buff/how hung and give it a try --- I have met and had wild and wonderful times with some amazingly beautiful men (inside and out) who on the surface popular gay culture would deem are so far out of my league (so to speak) that we do not even orbit the same sun!!

 

But low and behold -- Ask and you shall receive. . . . Sometimes -- Sometimes not -- But the worst that happened is they said no -- And I survived -- and usually had fun!

[Maarrkk]

Well....I could spend forever here discribing what US and escort life did to me.

 

1 - I'm more sexual than I thought

I thought I didn't have sex drive or enough libid and I found out it's just question of getting used to it. Maybe I was Always in relationship and not very sexual in those. Always more about company and affection that matters to me in the past.

 

2- Help and Please people

I Always considered myself as a little angel...cause God blessed me, loving and having pleasure to help people...this is part of who I am. Who knows me, know what Im talking about. So, since I started escorting, for personal and financial reasons, I just crossed a world that I never imagined could be like that. It's different from my country (Brazil), where is more prostitution than escorting (if exist escort in there). And even if some escorts use this job to hide a prostitution, I saw how different is the clients from here compared to my country. So, I enjoy do that, I enjoy share my experiences and getting to know a bit more from people.

 

3- Judgement

Because of my country, this kind of things related to prostitution, companionship, etc has bad image and I know even there after you "enter" you see that there's more evolved in both sides besides only "selling your body". So, after hear some escort story of life, even mine...plus why some clients like to hire...I felt more in love in doing this.

 

I guess pretty much is that the main changes besides myself...I understood more about who I am and my limits