Ask me

[the Diz]

Hello. A newbie here. I was wondering why some escorts put "Ask Me" for the Orientation and Position? I even saw this for the porn star whom I don't think is straight. I was curious. Thank you.

[rvwnsd]

At the risk of appearing to ridicule you, it is because they want you to ask them about their orientation and position. Same reason for the "Safe/BB" conversation. Many aspects of people's sexuality and sexual orientation are very complex and can't be fitted into little checkboxes.

[+ bashful]

I once met a guy with "ask me" for orientation, but didn't ask until we met. He said straight. It wasn't my best experience, not to say his orientation contributed to that, because I've only had a few meetings. And, to be honest, I'm a typical older, out of shape client.

[the Diz]

Thanks both for your responses. My posing this question is not that I don't know the directives that the escort wants his potential client to do but rather his reasons behind this listing. With my limited contacts through email so far, I am in agreement with Bashful that most are because they are straight with "don't do"s. Many escorts understandably ask the clients not to waste their time playing games. Should we not expect the same from them? Also, an escort told me that if "escort" is in the description, then anal is included in his repertoire but this is not true either. However, I must say that upon asking, all have disclosed the information but I just feel bad that I have wasted their time emailing back and forth and in the end not able to give them business.

 

I also wonder if this is a way out of not wanting to do certain things upon meeting based on lack of chemistry or client's physicality. Anyway, I recognize we all are complex creatures and that I tend to over analyze things too much. Thanks for reading and just want to say how much I have enjoyed reading all the posts in this forum that I even do it at work during meetings .

[+ not2rowdy]

... just want to say how much I have enjoyed reading all the posts in this forum that I even do it at work during meetings....

 

Ohhh… here’s a cautionary thread about doing that if you’re going through your employers server. Kinda scary….

https://forums.macrumors.com/threads/how-to-keep-it-from-spying-on-me.2036504/

[the Diz]

Hehehe...thanks for the warning. Will turn off the WiFi on my iPhone in the future. Yep, Big Brother is quite scary.

[MileHigh]

The best is when it says "ask me" and when you do, they get all offended...

[+ bashful]

The best is when it says "ask me" and when you do, they get all offended...

 

Haven't had that happen...yet. I once met a guy who advertised as bi, but told me early in our meeting he was "mostly straight". Being with him was a great experience.

[+ pitman]

I don't care what someone's orientation is, as long as they treat me with respect and can perform.

[+ BenjaminNicholas]

If someone wants to have a more detailed conversation about what makes them comfortable, take the opportunity. Email and ask.

[Mydavid]

I always want to know what the service will be like before I go to an escort. (I guess a lot of guys are like me, that's why they check reviews here and ask questions to each other) So I will ask questions to them. But I am also a little bit lazy, if I find they are too complicated and I have to ask too many questions, I will skip and move on.