Escorts and Facebook

[Guest MikeThomas]

Sometimes I put an escort's phone number in my iOS Contacts. I did this with one particular escort and all of a sudden Facebook starting suggesting him as a FB friend. The funny thing is FB was directing me to his real life personal FB page. It turns out he is a born again Christian and married... to a woman. I have no issue with these two facts. His personal life and path to happiness is his. However, now that I know so much I'm not interested in seeing him again. I deleted his number from my Contacts.

 

Anyone else have something like this happen?

[Mount N Do]

Yup. Worst still. I was making contact with an out of town guy who I never ended up meeting. Apparently he found me on FB and sent me a request. Blocked his ass and will never consider him for his appalling lack of discretion.

[BasketBaller]

I once idly googled a porn performer I liked, looking for his other films. FB soon afterwards suggested someone with a different name, which turned out to be his real one-- with pics of wife, kids, etc. I certainly didn't act on it but people should know that privacy is a very loose term these days.

[big-n-tall]

Nope. I'm not on social media of any sort... partly because these sites link to other sites/people you may or may not want to know about.

 

Besides most of the guys I see regularly, I know a lot of personal info already... from the horse's mouth as it were.

[wolfgangdc]

You may want to inform the escort that their phone number is also on Facebook so they know they are vulnerable

 

And a word of warning to anyone reading this if you let the LinkedIn app use your contact list it will infiltrate your recommended friends, and recommend you to people you may not want to know your real identity

[+ pitman]

I have been considering giving up my long-standing resistance and signing up for Facebook, but this type of thing gives me pause.

[I-zik]

A club in the city always tags their dancers Facebook pages and after seeing these guys who I drool over with their wife and kids, I purposely avoid those dancers. The illusion is gone and so is the attraction.

[feldersteve]

I have been considering giving up my long-standing resistance and signing up for Facebook, but this type of thing gives me pause.

I recently contacted a "masseur" on a well-known site via the email link. The masseur was advertising himself as "Tom" let's say, and when his email link appeared, it displayed the email where my message was headed. Turns out "Tom" should have set up a new email address for his business, as the one shown was his personal, true account. Googling the real email brought up all kinds of links. Glad I did not follow through. Tom's girlfriend probably doesn't know about his part-time career.

[MikeyGMin]

I have been considering giving up my long-standing resistance and signing up for Facebook, but this type of thing gives me pause.

Facebook is incredibly invasive. You have to go to an enormous amount of trouble to protect your privacy. I thought I had it all locked down but it still goes through my browser history and suggests products that I have looked at on Amazon or other online shopping sites. It's online evil and I would double down on your resistance. I wish I had never gone anywhere near it.

[Good Grief]

You may want to inform the escort that their phone number is also on Facebook so they know they are vulnerable

 

And a word of warning to anyone reading this if you let the LinkedIn app use your contact list it will infiltrate your recommended friends, and recommend you to people you may not want to know your real identity

 

I have been considering giving up my long-standing resistance and signing up for Facebook, but this type of thing gives me pause.

 

Agreed - I use LinkedIn - only on my desktop, no app. It's all business. And I allow no links to my contacts.

 

Not a Facebooker - have steered clear and I've survived just fine. I may be in a dark cave. It's okay.

 

I am an Instagrammer. My go-to fellow and I are followers of each others' posts. My kids follow him (they've met him,) he follows them. He has around 8,000 Insta-folks follow him. He posts nothing untoward.

 

So far, I've had no issues with Instagram (other than the "suggested" sponsored links.)

 

EDIT: Meant to say - I don't allow Instagram to connect with my phone contacts.

[+ honcho]

I mentioned that a particular person of porn (who I have never hired) has a profile on recon.com in which he identifies his porn persona, and real life primary occupation.

 

The fellow posted a comment on a mutual friends post, and although his facebook main pic only shows his shirtless back, it was enough to make me look it up, and it did have front facing facial pics, and also mentioned his primary occupation (and hobby).

 

Turns out we have *4* friends in common, one of whom is female. (The other 3 are leather activists).

[+ WmClarke]

Yes

Sometimes I put an escort's phone number in my iOS Contacts. I did this with one particular escort and all of a sudden Facebook starting suggesting him as a FB friend.

 

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Anyone else have something like this happen?

Yes.

[Cliff]

Yes. Three masseurs offering sensual massage, and two escorts I've been with started appearing on my Facebook page with their real names. I figured out it was from their phone number being in my cell. I told one of them - the first one that appeared - that his true identity was being revealed and he just shrugged and said he didn't care much. This was 2 years ago. By now I'm sure the other 4 guys know they've been outed and either dont care or have taken steps to not be identified anymore.

[escortrod]

I always do some due diligence with new clients, which includes (amongst other things) simple Google and Facebook searches for their phone numbers. I'm amazed by the number of clients who have the number they use to contact me linked to their Facebook accounts. I always tell them, but few care.

[Courage]

Even if you, yourself, stay off the 'net (or Facebook/LinkedIn/et al.) there is a great deal of publicly available data and privately warehoused data that is bought/sold/hacked. I think sometimes about the "book" Google must have on me and shake my head--between Android, Chrome, Gmail, Adsense, my search history, my photos, public records it scrapes, etc., etc.

[+ azdr0710]

real-life friends of mine sometimes pressure me to join FB because I miss out on parties, vacations, pictures, announcements, general contact, the whole bit..... I'm one of three or four without FB who one person has to send special emails to so we're all covered.....

 

after reading the horror stories above, glad I resisted FB in the first place.....

 

just received a LinkedIn "invitation" a couple weeks ago "from" an escort I haven't seen in a couple years.....it was with my alternate email I use for this hobby and I know it was all automated by LinkedIn from his contact list, so not really upset about that event.....it used his real name (I knew it already) and I momentarily thought it really came from him.......a direct email to him to say "hi" went unanswered - he retired a long while ago......no surprise.....

[whipped guy]

real-life friends of mine sometimes pressure me to join FB because I miss out on parties, vacations, pictures, announcements, general contact, the whole bit..... I'm one of three or four without FB who one person has to send special emails to so we're all covered.....

 

after reading the horror stories above, glad I resisted FB in the first place.....

 

just received a LinkedIn "invitation" a couple weeks ago "from" an escort I haven't seen in a couple years.....it was with my alternate email I use for this hobby and I know it was all automated by LinkedIn from his contact list, so not really upset about that event.....it used his real name (I knew it already) and I momentarily thought it really came from him.......a direct email to him to say "hi" went unanswered - he retired a long while ago......no surprise.....

I have a Facebook account for one reason. That is to preserve my Slotomania winnings in case there is some mishap where I might loose my millions! I have one friend who also plays Slotomania and that's it. It's funny how people find you and want to be your "friend". I barely have time for this place! I can't imagine getting involved in all the nonsense. Plus, I have heard more horror stories related to FB than any good.

[+ goosh69]

You can make it so no one but you sees your phone numbers on FB, even friends.

[escortrod]

You can make it so no one but you sees your phone numbers on FB, even friends.

Or you can just delete your phone number, then FB doesn't have it.

[Mount N Do]

Or you can just delete your phone number, then FB doesn't have it.

That's what I did

[handiacefailure]

I've had face suggest a couple escorts (using their real name) I have hired and it has me concerned I am also getting suggested as friends to them. I always thought it used your email but maybe it does use phone numbers (I know some escorts have a different phone they use for escorting). Kind of concerns me since I have a lot of work/professional/family info in my facebook profile.

 

Facebook has been great for allowing me to find old friends though. My BFF in high school and college enrolled in the navy after college and his family moved to the other side of the country and I thought I'd never find him again but thanks to Facebook we found each other and talk almost every day

[Arbimuscle]

Big brother is watching.

[+ saminseattle]

An interesting article on all this from Gizmodo the other day:

 

https://gizmodo.com/how-facebook-outs-sex-workers-1818861596

 

Apparently, even when you try diligently to keep personal and professional identities completely separate—by using different phone numbers, different names, different email addresses, etc.—FB’s proprietary algorithms are somehow able to connect the hidden dots. Troubling.

[+ Tarte Gogo]

An interesting article on all this from Gizmodo the other day:

 

https://gizmodo.com/how-facebook-outs-sex-workers-1818861596

 

Apparently, even when you try diligently to keep personal and professional identities completely separate—by using different phone numbers, different names, different email addresses, etc.—FB’s proprietary algorithms are somehow able to connect the hidden dots. Troubling.

Yes, it is pretty clear it can do that (same with instagram or tumblr). It uses all the phone numbers in your contacts, including your own various phone numbers, if you give it permission to do do so.

It may also be able to see the numbers of the people that you text to, again if you give it permission. It isn’t that puzzling.

 

I have a tartegogo Instagram account (no pics of course) that always tells me I may know my nephew.

Lol, yes I do, but I am not going to follow him from that account. He probably is wondering why he is getting a weird suggestion of an empty account with no personal information attached to it.

[+ Keith30309]

An interesting article on all this from Gizmodo the other day:

 

https://gizmodo.com/how-facebook-outs-sex-workers-1818861596

 

Apparently, even when you try diligently to keep personal and professional identities completely separate—by using different phone numbers, different names, different email addresses, etc.—FB’s proprietary algorithms are somehow able to connect the hidden dots. Troubling.

 

Insidious and relentless.