What are the percentage of the sessions that you are really interested in having sex with clients?

[MGTOW_Tx]

Taking Vitamin D, 10mg of Boron, DIMM and Calcium D-Glucarate help lower estrogen and increase free testosterone also might be worth looking at B-12, P5P and folate as this lowers homocysteine...last is B3 all this can help with errations without going the direction of prescription at first.

[LookingAround]

Taking Vitamin D, 10mg of Boron, DIMM and Calcium D-Glucarate help lower estrogen and increase free testosterone also might be worth looking at B-12, P5P and folate as this lowers homocysteine...last is B3 all this can help with errations without going the direction of prescription at first.

Lol.

[Stormy]

Bravo!

It is a strange thing, and a little sad at times, to come to this message center. And lonely.

 

How often it feels one is howling against the storm, passionately sharing something deeply intimate and private in response of someone else's vulnerabilities, and you give it your best try, and you explain it in different ways just to see that in the end, those who believe you're just a cold, detached, calculating money grabbing whore will still believe that you are just that; dead inside, lying, pretending, preying on poor clients' vulnerabilities and hiding behind your own erection.

 

It's lonely because sometimes no matter how hard and honestly I try to explain, by the end of the thread there I lie, unseen, unheard. No matter how vehemently one says "It's exciting to spend time with you when you are open and curious", in the end many will remain stalwart in their belief that "he's just saying that to get more clients", "Working guys have to put a facade in here if they want to attract more business", that "in the end a great escort will be a great actor".

 

A lying, conniving manipulator with a single-focused and sad, pecuniary intention.

 

And it is sad, but it is not sad for me. I am a whore. I made that choice consciously and I have a very thick -albeit constantly moisturized- skin; I can take prejudice and criticism and all that and let it slide down my thickly lathered skin. It is not sad for me; it is sad for he who has a chance to meet one of the many loving, talented, tender, caring men fulfilling their vocation in this very difficult profession, and instead of accepting the rare gift of an open, loving, caring, curious heart, they assume they are despised, used, manipulated and extorted by a hating, self-serving, self-hating pile of muscle.

 

What could have been a rare moment of delicious human intimacy, a brief second of stolen beauty, becomes only the detestable confirmation of a man's sad, lonely fear and inadequacy.

 

What could be an invaluable safe moment where he is allowed to abandon himself into a loving, caring set of hands, becomes a resentful, cynical exchange of money and hurt.

 

I turn the tables on you.

 

It is indeed a sad thing to realize that you've a heart that never melts,

It's indeed sad to realize that when we kiss, you close your eyes pretending I am someone else...

 

You MUST break this spell.

 

The banquet is served, it's waiting for you on the other side of the room, yet you sit in your corner and complain about how food doesn't really want to be there.

 

Eat, for fuck's sakes!

[+ PapaTony]

I'm right there with you, Lance.

I don't take work that I will not enjoy; as long as my clients are honest and straightforward, I believe we can find a mutual attraction. Only a handful of times have I not enjoyed my time. It's why I do what I do. Although I appreciate the compliment "you really seem like you are into me", I'd rather be appreciated for my attraction being genuine...

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Yea!!! Ironmaus has joined us!!!! :p:p

[+ PapaTony]

It just means that I've given up being stressed out that my boner comes and goes over a long session. It used to bother me that I wasn't hard from the minute I walked in the door until the minute I left. But now I try to stay realistic about it; it's up, it's down, it's up, it's down. Boner pills just force it. Sometimes that's worth it, most times it's not.

 

-t

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Honestly, it's far more natural that one's erection would vary. Frankly, if my man had an iron hard stiffy, non-stop, I'd assume the use of a little blue pill and that takes the "personality" out of the encounter. Besides, I love nothing more than using my mouth to help coax the little one back to life

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[LADoug1]

This is interesting because escorts have the same questions and insecurities, wondering if we are fulfilling client's needs, doing a good job, etc. They're the kinds of questions that Americans don't like to answer because of the risk they pose to egos, self-image, and feelings. I became a *much* better partner, and not just as an escort, when I learned to stop worrying about things outside of my control, and to thus be present, be kind, and be myself. When I do that, I'm almost always into it. If not, I won't be into it, whether the guy is attractive or not or whether he's a client or not.

 

I'm guessing that keeps the other person into it, but that's out of my control so I don't think about it (might be why I'm more top). Clients and partners who won't let me just be present and be myself are the ones that cause me to check out and clock-watch. But that's very rare. Another major turn-off for me is schizotypal personalities, which a good percentage of our clients has. I solve that issue by not taking such clients -- I can usually feel out schizotypal traits in the initial texts or phone calls. In general, personality clash is a much larger factor in me checking out on a client or not. Confidence is always atttractive. I make clients feel confident -- that's the only way I can work.

 

One of the biggest intimacy-killers is insecurity, whether the encounter is transactional like escorting or not. In intimacy, "Do you really like me?" is the emotional equivalent of "Are you close?" during the physical act. My answers are "I did until you asked me that" and "I was, until now." These questions suggest my partner is not really present in the moment with me but is wrapped up in their own neediness elsewhere. And that's a bigger turnoff than anyone's physical appearance.

 

For sexual fulfillment, my suggestion is accept the intimacy, enjoy the time, and leave your baggage elsehwhere. And that applies to all intimate encounters, not just those between clients and escorts.

 

I like what you said. But I will comment that often "Leaving one's baggage elsewhere" is easier said than done. Just saying.

[+ Keith30309]

Oh for sure. The word "easy" does not appear in my post for a reason lol

 

Incidentally, some escorts will help client with dropping the baggage. Others won't have the patience, or time, or won't be inclined. Not a value judgment, but people are different. For example, most times I'm really good at helping clients move past insecurities. Other escorts are not, but they can easily navigate socially awkward/schizotypal personalities, which I'm not at my best with -- except, strangely, when a weirdo client is so bizarre to me my curiousity forces me to try to decode them.

 

Unfortunately, there's no 100% foolproof way to know *every time* whether two partners will click. I can usually tell beforehand whether it's a match or not, but I've been wrong. There were meetings I predicted would be terrible that were great, and vice versa. This uncertainty means that some clients are going to take a loss here and there, donating for a escort's time even for sessions that didn't really work. But that's part of game, no way around it.

 

Escorts have to eat losses too, more often than clients think probably: for every time I've felt bad about taking a dude's money for my time, there's been three times where I feel I wasn't given nearly enough for the work required to make a non-ideal situation enjoyable for all involved. Being a good escort should appear effortless to the client, but it's really not. "Some clients are tough, to be perfectly honest" is probably the truest answer I could give to the original question.

Very insightful!

Regarding baggage, I'd say that any client who tries to leave their baggage outside the door is 1) unlikely to be successful, and, 2) self-defeating in that he's asking the escort to have insight into the wants and desires of someone else.

 

How can you tell who will not be a good match for you? Some certain personality type or demeanor? The interests or kinks they express? Some fundamental difference in the way they approach the meeting?

 

When a session "doesn't really work' how badly does it fail? That it just wasn't fireworks and explosions from the client or for you? Or that it was a disaster and someone left early?

It's interesting and encouraging to hear an escort not only understands the 'nature' of an unseen client but, further, that he's able to foresee how successful that encounter will be.

"Being a good escort should appear effortless to the client" is a great summary for why there will always be a place for skilled, professional guys who understand they have to maintain a high bar and in return, receive the benefits associated with being a professional (like a steady, predictable income and more control over who they see)

[N13]

The encounters where there seems to be a real connection is both wonderful and confusing. I would guess that it really doesn't matter if the escort is really into it or just gives the illusion of being into it. Everyone wants to be 'the exception' and feel that they are truly desired. But when the appearance of such happens there are, of course, doubts as to the validity. In only one instance during my years of hiring have I had proof that the connection was real. He refused money and made strong efforts for us to get together repeatedly over a period of months. This one rests easily in my 'yes it's true' column. I must confess the rest are in the 'how wonderful he has created an illusion' category. The monetary exchange is a great deterrent to believing it is not an act on the escort's part. But it sure is fun and special when it appears to happen!

[LookingAround]

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Honestly, it's far more natural that one's erection would vary. Frankly, if my man had an iron hard stiffy, non-stop, I'd assume the use of a little blue pill and that takes the "personality" out of the encounter. Besides, I love nothing more than using my mouth to help coax the little one back to life

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Your assumption would be wrong.

[N13]

Your assumption would be wrong.

 

Would be? or Could be?

[+ oldNbusted]

How can you tell who will not be a good match for you? Some certain personality type or demeanor? The interests or kinks they express? Some fundamental difference in the way they approach the meeting?

 

Have you seen his RM ad and the reviews here? The emphasis is on a specific fantasy experience, which I think is a great tool for people to get more in touch with themselves, so more power to him and his clients. My interracial jock fantasy is to turn out the jock's inner insatiable bottom, so I imagine that might not be a good match.

[Rudynate]

The encounters where there seems to be a real connection is both wonderful and confusing. I would guess that it really doesn't matter if the escort is really into it or just gives the illusion of being into it. Everyone wants to be 'the exception' and feel that they are truly desired. But when the appearance of such happens there are, of course, doubts as to the validity. In only one instance during my years of hiring have I had proof that the connection was real. He refused money and made strong efforts for us to get together repeatedly over a period of months. This one rests easily in my 'yes it's true' column. I must confess the rest are in the 'how wonderful he has created an illusion' category. The monetary exchange is a great deterrent to believing it is not an act on the escort's part. But it sure is fun and special when it appears to happen!

[Rudynate]

 

I think a good escort more or less thinks he's supposed to make you feel like you're the only man on the planet. By and large, my hires succeed at that. I got together with a guy a few months ago who wasn't that good in that department, but he was such a sexual athlete that I want to see him again anyway. He said I wore him out. With feedback like that, you bet I'm going to go back.

[MikeyGMin]

Everyone wants to be 'the exception' and feel that they are truly desired

I'm not so sure. I don't. I want to be liked -- as a person -- by anyone I see regularly, but I don't have any need to be desired. (Not being repulsed would be good ) I am content if they consider me a good client and are happy when I call. I guarantee that if they are happy it's because I'm dependable, easygoing, considerate and a decent conversationalist -- not because they desire my very average 50+ year old body. And I'm completely fine with that.

[LADoug1]

Oh for sure. The word "easy" does not appear in my post for a reason lol

 

Incidentally, some escorts will help client with dropping the baggage. Others won't have the patience, or time, or won't be inclined. Not a value judgment, but people are different. For example, most times I'm really good at helping clients move past insecurities. Other escorts are not, but they can easily navigate socially awkward/schizotypal personalities, which I'm not at my best with -- except, strangely, when a weirdo client is so bizarre to me my curiousity forces me to try to decode them.

 

Unfortunately, there's no 100% foolproof way to know *every time* whether two partners will click. I can usually tell beforehand whether it's a match or not, but I've been wrong. There were meetings I predicted would be terrible that were great, and vice versa. This uncertainty means that some clients are going to take a loss here and there, donating for a escort's time even for sessions that didn't really work. But that's part of game, no way around it.

 

Escorts have to eat losses too, more often than clients think probably: for every time I've felt bad about taking a dude's money for my time, there's been three times where I feel I wasn't given nearly enough for the work required to make a non-ideal situation enjoyable for all involved. Being a good escort should appear effortless to the client, but it's really not. "Some clients are tough, to be perfectly honest" is probably the truest answer I could give to the original question.

 

Three losses for one success? How discouraging!

[LADoug1]

And FWIW there is nothing worse for a client than when it is abundantly clear the escort isn't into it.

[+ PapaTony]

Your assumption would be wrong.

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Your response seems defensive

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[LookingAround]

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Your response seems defensive

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Apologies. Just saying the person's assumptions were incorrect.

[Rudynate]

Three losses for one success? How discouraging!

 

 

Perhaps the majority of his encounters could be deemed successes from either party's standpoint.

[Rudynate]

What Rudynate said. The ratio is more like 21 successes, to 3 "succeeded but he'll never know how much work that was, no more clients today"

 

I would never imagine otherwise.

[LADoug1]

Perhaps the majority of his encounters could be deemed successes from either party's standpoint.

 

I guess I misunderstood the math. My bad.