What are the percentage of the sessions that you are really interested in having sex with clients?

[YoungAD]

Hi @MydavidI learned long ago that I will never enjoy being with an escort if I'm busy wondering if I'm their type, physically or sexually.

 

I agree. I find that many of these innocent questions are just a rephrasing of the statement: "Do you not like yourself as much as I don't like myself?"

[MikeyGMin]

also know that I contribute to his enjoyment by letting go and showing him how much he turns me on (not by how much I turn him on)

And by being squeaky clean; fun to be around; treating him with respect and good manners; being a little flexible and not tied to a script with unreasonable expectations. These are the kinds of things we can all do to help him enjoy the session as much as possible. Focus on him enjoying the time spent with you and don't obsess about whether you are his type or not -- because you almost certainly are not.

[Mydavid]

I agree. I find that many of these innocent questions are just a rephrasing of the statement: "Do you not like yourself as much as I don't like myself?"

 

And by being squeaky clean; fun to be around; treating him with respect and good manners; being a little flexible and not tied to a script with unreasonable expectations. These are the kinds of things we can all do to help him enjoy the session as much as possible. Focus on him enjoying the time spent with you and don't obsess about whether you are his type or not -- because you almost certainly are not.

 

Thanks for your answers. So right you are. Sometimes, I do hope they have sex with me not only because I pay them but also I am a little bit attractive to them. I know, I am buying my happiness, but sometimes I just cannot help feeling guilty.

[Rudynate]

What are you hoping to learn by asking this question?

 

 

Very good question.

[LivingnLA]

Thanks for your answers. So right you are. Sometimes, I do hope they have sex with me not only because I pay them but also I am a little bit attractive to them. I know, I am buying my happiness, but sometimes I just cannot help feeling guilty.

 

@Mydavid, the truly professional escorts find something about every client that appeals to them. That's part of how they create the experiences they provide.

 

As @Eric Hassan and @YoungAD say in their different ways: "what are you trying to learn about yourself?" If you wish to truly put yourself out there, hire someone like @Eric Hassan, @Juan Vancouver, or @TopTierTop and at the end of the session ask for honest and authentic feedback. You might not like all that you hear, but I bet all of them will have at least one thing they really like about you.

 

For myself, I am a big believer in 360 degree feedback and continuous improvement. I get feedback from employees, bosses, colleagues, and even friends and neighbors sometimes. Yes, it's weird, but human beings are amazing at self-deception. We lie to ourselves about all kinds of things very easily and constantly. My wife, kids, and people in my life help me stay true to myself by keeping me aware of myself in a way that wouldn't be possible without such external feedback.

[TopTierTop]

@Mydavid, the truly professional escorts find something about every client that appeals to them. That's part of how they create the experiences they provide.

 

As @Eric Hassan and @YoungAD say in their different ways: "what are you trying to learn about yourself?" If you wish to truly put yourself out there, hire someone like @Eric Hassan, @Juan Vancouver, or @TopTierTop and at the end of the session ask for honest and authentic feedback. You might not like all that you hear, but I bet all of them will have at least one thing they really like about you.

 

For myself, I am a big believer in 360 degree feedback and continuous improvement. I get feedback from employees, bosses, colleagues, and even friends and neighbors sometimes. Yes, it's weird, but human beings are amazing at self-deception. We lie to ourselves about all kinds of things very easily and constantly. My wife, kids, and people in my life help me stay true to myself by keeping me aware of myself in a way that wouldn't be possible without such external feedback.

I have not read any of the other responses yet, except for this one where I was referenced. But what I have to say so far is that I totally agree with this comment.

[TopTierTop]

When you work, you inevitably meet some clients you wouldn't like to have sex with.

Even with a client you like, sometimes you might not want to because you are tired, you are in no mood, or whatever.

 

So what are the percentage of the sessions that you are really interested in having sex with clients?

 

Finding the escort is into having sex with me is really a turn-on for me, but I'm not sure if they just pretend to be.

 

I once read a review about a masseur, he kind of "raped" his client by fucking him when he said "no". I guess he was really interested in sex with that client.

 

Even some escorts state they love their job. I still think the percentage is not high.

I take my share of crap for what some perceive as me being inappropriately picky, because I try to get a sense of what my potential client is really like, including physically, before I agree to an encounter. But, the end result is that my clients are always satisfied because I know in advance I will be into it. Clients who want to feel like the escort is turned on, I suppose, is my market. I don't meet with anyone if I don't think it will turn me on. This is also why I can say that I do like being in this business. If I don't like it, I don't do it.

 

Put it this way... how many times have I said to myself before meeting a client "I wish I didn't have to do this."? Zero.

[+ tylerthebadwolf]

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Woof. I'd love to feel your big, angry, throbby erection

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Haha! Come get it!

 

-t

[TopTierTop]

Hi @Mydavid. I know your question was intended for escorts, but I'm going to add my perspective as a client.

 

I learned long ago that I will never enjoy being with an escort if I'm busy wondering if I'm their type, physically or sexually. As of recent years, I'm probably 30+ years older than most of the guys I've hired so I'm not likely to be the guy they choose for a hookup in their personal life. That said, I do want the escort to enjoy sex with me. But I expect that his enjoyment comes the sexual energy that he can create with me. I also know that I contribute to his enjoyment by letting go and showing him how much he turns me on (not by how much I turn him on).

Well said

[+ PapaTony]

Haha! Come get it!

 

-t

 

Next time in in NY.....or you come to LA!!!

[unsub2O17]

I've really liked this discussion. I particularly agree with SundayZip. But I also understand where MyDavid is coming from. To Eric and the other wonderful escorts who attempted to answer this question seriously and completely, I'd like to add these lyrics from "Moulin Rouge", but I'd like to rename this: The (Romantic) Client's Lament:

 

Whenever we kiss

I worry and wonder

Your lips may be near

But where is your heart?

 

It's always like this

I worry and wonder

You're close to me here

But where is your heart?

 

It's a sad thing to realize

That you've a heart that never melts

When we kiss, do you close your eyes

Pretending that I'm someone else?

 

You must break the spell

This cloud that I'm under

So, please won't you tell

Darling, where is your heart?

[+ Funguy]

Hey unsub - how are you doing?

[unsub2O17]

Still in remission and as frisky as ever! Thanks for asking.

[Juan Vancouver]

It's a sad thing to realize

That you've a heart that never melts

When we kiss, do you close your eyes

Pretending that I'm someone else?

 

It is a strange thing, and a little sad at times, to come to this message center. And lonely.

 

How often it feels one is howling against the storm, passionately sharing something deeply intimate and private in response of someone else's vulnerabilities, and you give it your best try, and you explain it in different ways just to see that in the end, those who believe you're just a cold, detached, calculating money grabbing whore will still believe that you are just that; dead inside, lying, pretending, preying on poor clients' vulnerabilities and hiding behind your own erection.

 

It's lonely because sometimes no matter how hard and honestly I try to explain, by the end of the thread there I lie, unseen, unheard. No matter how vehemently one says "It's exciting to spend time with you when you are open and curious", in the end many will remain stalwart in their belief that "he's just saying that to get more clients", "Working guys have to put a facade in here if they want to attract more business", that "in the end a great escort will be a great actor".

 

A lying, conniving manipulator with a single-focused and sad, pecuniary intention.

 

And it is sad, but it is not sad for me. I am a whore. I made that choice consciously and I have a very thick -albeit constantly moisturized- skin; I can take prejudice and criticism and all that and let it slide down my thickly lathered skin. It is not sad for me; it is sad for he who has a chance to meet one of the many loving, talented, tender, caring men fulfilling their vocation in this very difficult profession, and instead of accepting the rare gift of an open, loving, caring, curious heart, they assume they are despised, used, manipulated and extorted by a hating, self-serving, self-hating pile of muscle.

 

What could have been a rare moment of delicious human intimacy, a brief second of stolen beauty, becomes only the detestable confirmation of a man's sad, lonely fear and inadequacy.

 

What could be an invaluable safe moment where he is allowed to abandon himself into a loving, caring set of hands, becomes a resentful, cynical exchange of money and hurt.

 

I turn the tables on you.

 

It is indeed a sad thing to realize that you've a heart that never melts,

It's indeed sad to realize that when we kiss, you close your eyes pretending I am someone else...

 

You MUST break this spell.

 

The banquet is served, it's waiting for you on the other side of the room, yet you sit in your corner and complain about how food doesn't really want to be there.

 

Eat, for fuck's sakes!

[+ oldNbusted]

Thank you @Juan Vancouver for that heartfelt post. I agree with what you are saying, and I can say this. As y'all know, this is a new experience for me, and I was surprised after my first session, how strong my emotional reaction was. I had already decided beforehand that I would wait at least a few weeks before another session, to allow time to process whatever I felt and to reflect on the experience. But truly, it was a little overwhelming for a few days. I was not expecting that and it wasn't actually pleasant. Fortunately, as time passed, I calmed down and was able to think about how I had felt. So after that experience, I can see how some would not want to go through that again, but not wanting to refrain from engaging companions, could take on the kind of disdain you describe as defense mechanism, to guard against fear, and yeah, that's what I think this is at the core, just fear.

[+ Funguy]

Am I eternally blessed? Or I should say, I am eternally blessed.

Blessed to have just the opposite of attitudes being expressed here. I cannot imagine enjoying these trysts as I do, and Juan, you know that I do, thinking, "you're just a cold, detached, calculating money grabbing whore will still believe that you are just that; dead inside, lying, pretending, preying on poor clients' vulnerabilities and hiding behind your own erection."

 

I think the polar opposite of that, which is why I'm such a slut - I just love to be with all of you guys; I LOVE the way you treat me, I LOVE that I can spend time with you; I revel in that "rare moment of delicious human intimacy" and know that it really does NOT end when we cum.

 

I cannot remember ever having even a mere hint of a vibe that any of the guys I choose feel this cold way or have done anything to make me feel this way. I get genuine smiles, laughs, groans and ahhhhhhs and, no, I am not deluding myself. I am thoroughly ENJOYING myself!

 

And yes, that banquet is served. For me, though, it's not on the other side of the room but right in my lap!

 

It is also hard for me to read that above post knowing it is from Juan, one of the warmest, most genuine, loving, and sexual guys out there.

MUAH, my warm and gorgeous friend!:)

[big-n-tall]

I don't know the percentage, but I wholeheartedly agree with the sentiments expressed by @Juan Vancouver and [uSER=9945]@funguy[/uSER].

 

If you and the other guy appear to be or are enjoying yourselves live in the moment... or multiple moments repeatedly.

 

I do know for certain there are working guys who enjoy time with me for many reasons, not always purely sexual.

 

Anyway, enjoy the hire... don't overthink it.

[LADoug1]

Yeah, I don't think any of the chemical boner pills are out of the question for anyone who has a lot of sex. I personally just have an ADD erection which is fine for some situations and not great for others. It's not in any way related to the person I'm with, just how my body responds. It's up, it's down, it's up, it's down.

 

Sometimes you just wanna have a big, angry, throbby erection with somebody cause that's more fun. It's not so you can fool them into thinking you're extra into it.

 

-t

 

What's an ADD erection? Hope this isn't a completely "duh" question! Lol

[MikeyGMin]

What's an ADD erection? Hope this isn't a completely "duh" question! Lol

I would assume he means it has a short attention span and is easily distracted.

[Juan Vancouver]

Am I eternally blessed? Or I should say, I am eternally blessed.

 

I just love to be with all of you guys; I LOVE the way you treat me, I LOVE that I can spend time with you; I revel in that "rare moment of delicious human intimacy" and know that it really does NOT end when we cum.

 

I cannot remember ever having even a mere hint of a vibe that any of the guys I choose feel this cold way or have done anything to make me feel this way. I get genuine smiles, laughs, groans and ahhhhhhs and, no, I am not deluding myself. I am thoroughly ENJOYING myself!

 

And yes, that banquet is served. For me, though, it's not on the other side of the room but right in my lap!

 

And that is precisely why to me, meeting you, is such an exciting, fun, fulfilling opportunity to celebrate being alive.

 

Thank you so much!

[+ Funguy]

And that is precisely why to me, meeting you, is such an exciting, fun, fulfilling opportunity to celebrate being alive.

 

Thank you so much!

 

MUAH

[RandyC]

It is a strange thing, and a little sad at times, to come to this message center. And lonely.

 

How often it feels one is howling against the storm, passionately sharing something deeply intimate and private in response of someone else's vulnerabilities, and you give it your best try, and you explain it in different ways just to see that in the end, those who believe you're just a cold, detached, calculating money grabbing whore will still believe that you are just that; dead inside, lying, pretending, preying on poor clients' vulnerabilities and hiding behind your own erection.

 

It's lonely because sometimes no matter how hard and honestly I try to explain, by the end of the thread there I lie, unseen, unheard. No matter how vehemently one says "It's exciting to spend time with you when you are open and curious", in the end many will remain stalwart in their belief that "he's just saying that to get more clients", "Working guys have to put a facade in here if they want to attract more business", that "in the end a great escort will be a great actor".

 

A lying, conniving manipulator with a single-focused and sad, pecuniary intention.

 

And it is sad, but it is not sad for me. I am a whore. I made that choice consciously and I have a very thick -albeit constantly moisturized- skin; I can take prejudice and criticism and all that and let it slide down my thickly lathered skin. It is not sad for me; it is sad for he who has a chance to meet one of the many loving, talented, tender, caring men fulfilling their vocation in this very difficult profession, and instead of accepting the rare gift of an open, loving, caring, curious heart, they assume they are despised, used, manipulated and extorted by a hating, self-serving, self-hating pile of muscle.

 

What could have been a rare moment of delicious human intimacy, a brief second of stolen beauty, becomes only the detestable confirmation of a man's sad, lonely fear and inadequacy.

 

What could be an invaluable safe moment where he is allowed to abandon himself into a loving, caring set of hands, becomes a resentful, cynical exchange of money and hurt.

 

I turn the tables on you.

 

It is indeed a sad thing to realize that you've a heart that never melts,

It's indeed sad to realize that when we kiss, you close your eyes pretending I am someone else...

 

You MUST break this spell.

 

The banquet is served, it's waiting for you on the other side of the room, yet you sit in your corner and complain about how food doesn't really want to be there.

 

Eat, for fuck's sakes!

 

 

How I wish I could spend some time with you Juan...

[+ IronMaus]

I love making people happy and seeing that look in their eyes when when we are connected in the most intimate way possible, being inside one another. For this reason I almost always want to have sex with my clients. The only rare exception is when I'm concerned that they may not be properly prepared (for bottoming), but I still give it a go and hope for the best.

 

If one doesn't have the energy, they shouldn't be taking the appointment, and if one allows a clients physical characteristics to dictate what they are open to in a session, they should possibly rethink doing sex work.

 

I'm right there with you, Lance.

I don't take work that I will not enjoy; as long as my clients are honest and straightforward, I believe we can find a mutual attraction. Only a handful of times have I not enjoyed my time. It's why I do what I do. Although I appreciate the compliment "you really seem like you are into me", I'd rather be appreciated for my attraction being genuine...

[MGTOW_Tx]

When you work, you inevitably meet some clients you wouldn't like to have sex with.

Even with a client you like, sometimes you might not want to because you are tired, you are in no mood, or whatever.

 

So what are the percentage of the sessions that you are really interested in having sex with clients?

 

Finding the escort is into having sex with me is really a turn-on for me, but I'm not sure if they just pretend to be.

 

I once read a review about a masseur, he kind of "raped" his client by fucking him when he said "no". I guess he was really interested in sex with that client.

 

Even some escorts state they love their job. I still think the percentage is not high.

 

 

When i escorted I had abut maybe 3 to 5 clients were it was non sexual and for me I found that was a huge let down because i didn't have sex in my private life at the time and though i would like to say it was because i was sexually deprived outside of that it was always more...it always made for a bonding moment and things seemed to go smoother most of the time.

 

Sex is great with clients and sometimes its not just like sex in marriage or sex when hooking up but at the end of the day i look back and dont think negatively on the sex at all.

[+ tylerthebadwolf]

What's an ADD erection? Hope this isn't a completely "duh" question! Lol

 

It just means that I've given up being stressed out that my boner comes and goes over a long session. It used to bother me that I wasn't hard from the minute I walked in the door until the minute I left. But now I try to stay realistic about it; it's up, it's down, it's up, it's down. Boner pills just force it. Sometimes that's worth it, most times it's not.

 

-t