What are the percentage of the sessions that you are really interested in having sex with clients?

[Maximus69]

It's mostly about making the client feel good, but also as an escort if your not having a good time and enjoying yourself then the client will most likely sense it and not have a good time either... A really good escort will always make you feel like he's enjoying his time with you. He will make you feel like your the only man in the world

 

I've said before I always find something in a client that I love, whether it be his personality or one of his body parts I enjoy what I do, its exciting I get to meet all sorts of people, some days more than others but that happens in any job. And the only time I "hate" my job is not from the people I meet but those who flake out. And to finish up your last question, if your tired and not in the mood to meet someone, then just cancel or try to reschedule for another day, always have a positive attitude before you meet someone, as the client is paying for you and not for your baggage. So to put it in a percentage, I would say 99.9 percent of the time I enjoy the sex papi

[LivingnLA]

We all have good days and bad days. Truly professional escorts will not meet clients on bad days because they know they won't be able to deliver the experience and performance that clients love and rebook. But, we all have bills to pay and sometimes we go to work even when we aren't feeling it. On those days, professionals do whatever they can to find something that inspires them to do their best.

[LivingnLA]

I once read a review about a masseur, he kind of "raped" his client by fucking him when he said "no". I guess he was really interested in sex with that client.

 

Please don't be a rape apologist. If the client said "no" and the masseur still fucked him, that is rape, period.

[Juan Vancouver]

What I would like to know is how often they want to make themselves happy. You are happy, so I am happy, it's not the answer what I want.

 

If what you want to know is whether or not I come to meet my clients with the purpose of satisfying my own sexual or emotional needs, the answer is a categorical no.

 

Other than my need to fulfill my professional satisfaction and the excitement of being a facilitator for my client's experience, there is absolutely no other urge that will be fulfilled during the session. My own sexual pleasure, my own emotional fulfillment, my own hunger for intimacy have to be taken care of on my private time, on my private dime so that when I get to meet my client I am relaxed, fulfilled, full and ready to listen and fulfill his needs, not mine.

 

That is why you will not see me raping my client when he doesn't want to be fucked, just because I want to fuck a hole.

 

An ethical therapist doesn't fulfill his need of friendship during the conversations with his client. He is there to listen to the client and guide him through the process of self awareness. An ethical escort doesn't fulfill his own personal needs on the client's time and dime; he is there to listen to and help fulfill his client's needs and urges.

 

In order for me to be fully focused on you, I have to come full, relaxed, satisfied and ready.

 

A great escort, however, will derive intense pleasure, not only physical but emotional during sessions with his clients. A great escort will fall in love a little, will allow himself to surrender to intense physical arousal and desire, culminating in intense pleasure, because by doing so, he helps his client experience those same things.

 

I have seen incredibly selfless escorts work and guide their clients through their own sexuality. I find it inspiring and exciting.

 

I have seen selfish whores using a client to get off even when the client expressed unwillingness to participate. I think this is abuse.

 

...And I have seen clients who prefer one style or the other.

 

There really is something for everyone. The absolute secret to living a satisfying life is to surround yourself with people who are yearning for the same as you.

[MartyB]

The perfect answer from one of the sweetest and most professional guys out there.

Couldn't agree more! Lance is the "man"....

[MartyB]

It's mostly about making the client feel good, but also as an escort if your not having a good time and enjoying yourself then the client will most likely sense it and not have a good time either... A really good escort will always make you feel like he's enjoying his time with you. He will make you feel like your the only man in the world

 

I've said before I always find something in a client that I love, whether it be his personality or one of his body parts I enjoy what I do, its exciting I get to meet all sorts of people, some days more than others but that happens in any job. And the only time I "hate" my job is not from the people I meet but those who flake out. And to finish up your last question, if your tired and not in the mood to meet someone, then just cancel or try to reschedule for another day, always have a positive attitude before you meet someone, as the client is paying for you and not for your baggage. So to put it in a percentage, I would say 99.9 percent of the time I enjoy the sex papi

Well said...this is about great sex and sharing ones time in the most intimate way. For those escorts where it didn't measure up it could be for several reasons but when it's right it's amazing

[Kippy]

Years ago I met a hot bi in San Antonio, TX-- about 30 (looked early 20's) Str8 acting and appearing in every way. He worked as a bar tender at a gay club. At the end of our time together at my hotel as we were making small talk I asked abut his professional work vs. dating and he replied "This is my sex". He asked if he could stay the night and since I had to be up very early for a business meeting I had to decline. I was so charmed by his over all earnestness that I called him a few months later to see how he was --he was in the McDonald's drive thru ordering a happy meal for his 5 year old son. He wasn't afraid to share that his work was his sex and he really seemed to enjoy himself. I know I sure did.

 

Peace,

 

Kipp

[+ Eric Hassan]

If what you want to know is whether or not I come to meet my clients with the purpose of satisfying my own sexual or emotional needs, the answer is a categorical no.

 

Other than my need to fulfill my professional satisfaction and the excitement of being a facilitator for my client's experience, there is absolutely no other urge that will be fulfilled during the session. My own sexual pleasure, my own emotional fulfillment, my own hunger for intimacy have to be taken care of on my private time, on my private dime so that when I get to meet my client I am relaxed, fulfilled, full and ready to listen and fulfill his needs, not mine.

 

That is why you will not see me raping my client when he doesn't want to be fucked, just because I want to fuck a hole.

 

An ethical therapist doesn't fulfill his need of friendship during the conversations with his client. He is there to listen to the client and guide him through the process of self awareness. An ethical escort doesn't fulfill his own personal needs on the client's time and dime; he is there to listen to and help fulfill his client's needs and urges.

 

In order for me to be fully focused on you, I have to come full, relaxed, satisfied and ready.

 

A great escort, however, will derive intense pleasure, not only physical but emotional during sessions with his clients. A great escort will fall in love a little, will allow himself to surrender to intense physical arousal and desire, culminating in intense pleasure, because by doing so, he helps his client experience those same things.

 

I have seen incredibly selfish escorts work and guide their clients through their own sexuality. I find it inspiring and exciting.

 

I have seen selfish whores using a client to get off even when the client expressed unwillingness to participate. I think this is abuse.

 

...And I have seen clients who prefer one style or the other.

 

There really is something for everyone. The absolute secret to living a satisfying life is to surround yourself with people who are yearning for the same as you.

 

I asked @Mydavid what exactly he was hoping to learn from asking his question. I read your answer, @Mydavid, and I've thought about how I might answer you. @Juan Vancouver has said some of the things I might have said, so I echo his answer.

 

I would also like to add something more. There are all different types of guys with all different kinds of motivation for doing this work, just like there are all different kinds of clients who utilize our services for all different kinds of reasons.

 

For some of us, there is a calling to escort. This isn't about a quick buck. This isn't about being down on our luck or stupid or addicts or sociopaths. This is about understanding the purpose of our lives. We are men who have explored (and are exploring) the depths of our own minds and souls - including our sexuality, sexual expression, and the way we interact with the world. We have seen first-hand the healing power of sex and connection and love. We are healers. We are also humans, and that means sometimes you'll have an uncomfortable human experience with us. That IS NOT a reflection of you. You can simultaneously honor and respect any escort you spend time with while also feeling like maybe it wasn't the greatest time, and you can move on without trying to figure out how you're defective.

[Mydavid]

I asked @Mydavid what exactly he was hoping to learn from asking his question. I read your answer, @Mydavid, and I've thought about how I might answer you. @Juan Vancouver has said some of the things I might have said, so I echo his answer.

 

I would also like to add something more. There are all different types of guys with all different kinds of motivation for doing this work, just like there are all different kinds of clients who utilize our services for all different kinds of reasons.

 

For some of us, there is a calling to escort. This isn't about a quick buck. This isn't about being down on our luck or stupid or addicts or sociopaths. This is about understanding the purpose of our lives. We are men who have explored (and are exploring) the depths of our own minds and souls - including our sexuality, sexual expression, and the way we interact with the world. We have seen first-hand the healing power of sex and connection and love. We are healers. We are also humans, and that means sometimes you'll have an uncomfortable human experience with us. That IS NOT a reflection of you. You can simultaneously honor and respect any escort you spend time with while also feeling like maybe it wasn't the greatest time, and you can move on without trying to figure out how you're defective.

 

Thanks a lot for your answer, I really appreciate it.

[Zapped]

What a great thread! I deeply appreciate the answers from Juan and Eric. While I understand the OP's curiosity, there can be a lot more to an escort/client session than the client paying for sexual activity with someone who wouldn't have initiated it otherwise. It's very clear that some escorts have a true calling, as Eric says, and that in a different cultural context they would be recognized as the healers they are. I worked with an energy healer once who was clear about the need for an exchange of energy; from the client, that usually came in the form of money, but not always, especially when there was an ongoing friendship separate from the energy work.

 

Juan has described so well the value of anyone doing therapy or healing work having their own needs met, other than those for professional satisfaction and fulfilling one's calling, outside of the work being done for the client.

[+ nycman]

To answer the question...."What are the percentage of the sessions that you are really interested in having sex with clients?"

 

The frank and honest answer is zero.

 

If you can't handle that inconvenient truth....you probably shouldn't be hiring.

[+ OliverSaks]

To answer the question...."What are the percentage of the sessions that you are really interested in having sex with clients?"

 

The frank and honest answer is zero.

 

If you can't handle that inconvenient truth....you probably shouldn't be hiring.

Absolutely off the mark.

[MartyB]

I asked @Mydavid what exactly he was hoping to learn from asking his question. I read your answer, @Mydavid, and I've thought about how I might answer you. @Juan Vancouver has said some of the things I might have said, so I echo his answer.

 

I would also like to add something more. There are all different types of guys with all different kinds of motivation for doing this work, just like there are all different kinds of clients who utilize our services for all different kinds of reasons.

 

For some of us, there is a calling to escort. This isn't about a quick buck. This isn't about being down on our luck or stupid or addicts or sociopaths. This is about understanding the purpose of our lives. We are men who have explored (and are exploring) the depths of our own minds and souls - including our sexuality, sexual expression, and the way we interact with the world. We have seen first-hand the healing power of sex and connection and love. We are healers. We are also humans, and that means sometimes you'll have an uncomfortable human experience with us. That IS NOT a reflection of you. You can simultaneously honor and respect any escort you spend time with while also feeling like maybe it wasn't the greatest time, and you can move on without trying to figure out how you're defective.

Well said and more importantly makes clients reflect and really appreciate the value that an escort provides. It's great sex but it is also a healing and rejuvenation of mind & body. Thanks

[pubic_assistance]

So what are the percentage of the sessions that you are really interested in having sex with clients?

I am quite sure any statistic shared, is not going to provide you with any accurate assessment of the norm. As escorts; these gentlemen, are selling the impression, that they ARE interested in you...so by declaring they are NOT, they are undermining the foundation of their business model. Secondly: every pro is going to have different experiences, and every year, they will have different ratios, of who they see and how "connected" they truly are. For my part, as with any other man in your bed, I would ask the simple questions: "Is he hard" ? + "Did he cum" ? Boys, you see, can only "FAKE IT" by so much.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

For my part, as with any other man in your bed, I would ask the simple questions: "Is he hard" ? + "Did he cum" ? Boys, you see, can only "FAKE IT" by so much.

 

I don't see it this way at all. I am constantly reinforcing with my clients that cumming should not be the intent of sex and intimacy. Connection is what it's all about. Also, we all know that their are plenty of things we can take that can get us hard.

 

For those of us that love our work, we don't have to fake it, and for those clients who are present and intuitive, they can feel whether we are truly connecting with them.

 

As Maya Angelou said "they will forget what you said and they will forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel".

[pubic_assistance]

I don't see it this way at all

Lance....I am not suggesting that an escort is expected to " come to completion" for an encounter to be pleasurable. The question was how often do pros REALLY enjoy the encounter...and I am answering that if any MAN is really truly enjoying himself during sex, you will certainly know it, one way or the other. Boys can't fake it.

[Mydavid]

any MAN is really truly enjoying himself during sex, you will certainly know it

 

I met an escort, and he told me he had to take Viagra to keep hard. Does it mean he doesn't enjoy himself during sex? He is young, so I don't think he needs it if he has sex with his bf.

[escortrod]

I met an escort, and he told me he had to take Viagra to keep hard. Does it mean he doesn't enjoy himself during sex? He is young, so I don't think he needs it if he have sex with his bf.

He may just be having sex more often than he is able to naturally.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

I met an escort, and he told me he had to take Viagra to keep hard. Does it mean he doesn't enjoy himself during sex? He is young, so I don't think he needs it if he has sex with his bf.

 

Not at all. I often take a quarter of a viagra before sex. I have no issues getting hard, but staying hard for an extended period, especially if my heart rate gets up there, can be challenging. Also, if I'm using a condom, that can seriously kill the sensitivity and make me soften. It's just a tool to increase my stamina. I will often take one in the morning before having sex with my partner because the caffeine from coffee elevates my heart rate and my dick doesn't get as hard.

[+ tylerthebadwolf]

I met an escort, and he told me he had to take Viagra to keep hard. Does it mean he doesn't enjoy himself during sex? He is young, so I don't think he needs it if he has sex with his bf.

 

Yeah, I don't think any of the chemical boner pills are out of the question for anyone who has a lot of sex. I personally just have an ADD erection which is fine for some situations and not great for others. It's not in any way related to the person I'm with, just how my body responds. It's up, it's down, it's up, it's down.

 

Sometimes you just wanna have a big, angry, throbby erection with somebody cause that's more fun. It's not so you can fool them into thinking you're extra into it.

 

-t

[Kyle Clinton]

Couldn't agree more! Lance is the "man"....

First hand experience with Juan. Yep. Yep. Yep! It's a beautiful, sexy and healing experience.

[+ PapaTony]

If what you want to know is whether or not I come to meet my clients with the purpose of satisfying my own sexual or emotional needs, the answer is a categorical no.

 

Other than my need to fulfill my professional satisfaction and the excitement of being a facilitator for my client's experience, there is absolutely no other urge that will be fulfilled during the session. My own sexual pleasure, my own emotional fulfillment, my own hunger for intimacy have to be taken care of on my private time, on my private dime so that when I get to meet my client I am relaxed, fulfilled, full and ready to listen and fulfill his needs, not mine.

 

That is why you will not see me raping my client when he doesn't want to be fucked, just because I want to fuck a hole.

 

An ethical therapist doesn't fulfill his need of friendship during the conversations with his client. He is there to listen to the client and guide him through the process of self awareness. An ethical escort doesn't fulfill his own personal needs on the client's time and dime; he is there to listen to and help fulfill his client's needs and urges.

 

In order for me to be fully focused on you, I have to come full, relaxed, satisfied and ready.

 

A great escort, however, will derive intense pleasure, not only physical but emotional during sessions with his clients. A great escort will fall in love a little, will allow himself to surrender to intense physical arousal and desire, culminating in intense pleasure, because by doing so, he helps his client experience those same things.

 

I have seen incredibly selfish escorts work and guide their clients through their own sexuality. I find it inspiring and exciting.

 

I have seen selfish whores using a client to get off even when the client expressed unwillingness to participate. I think this is abuse.

 

...And I have seen clients who prefer one style or the other.

 

There really is something for everyone. The absolute secret to living a satisfying life is to surround yourself with people who are yearning for the same as you.

 

Some great answers from our resident escorts but this one is outstanding

[beachboy]

A

He may just be having sex more often than he is able to naturally.

Absolutely. I imagine a lot of escorts have a lot more sex than many other guys. If he takes a pill to ensure his client has a great time then good on him. Think of it as a mark of a professional who wants to ensure he lives up to his profile & leaves his client with a euphoric afterglow & probably adds to the experience for himself. After all if he's having a good time & not worried about anything its gonna be a far better experience all round

[+ SundayZip]

Hi @Mydavid. I know your question was intended for escorts, but I'm going to add my perspective as a client.

 

I learned long ago that I will never enjoy being with an escort if I'm busy wondering if I'm their type, physically or sexually. As of recent years, I'm probably 30+ years older than most of the guys I've hired so I'm not likely to be the guy they choose for a hookup in their personal life. That said, I do want the escort to enjoy sex with me. But I expect that his enjoyment comes the sexual energy that he can create with me. I also know that I contribute to his enjoyment by letting go and showing him how much he turns me on (not by how much I turn him on).

[+ PapaTony]

Yeah, I don't think any of the chemical boner pills are out of the question for anyone who has a lot of sex. I personally just have an ADD erection which is fine for some situations and not great for others. It's not in any way related to the person I'm with, just how my body responds. It's up, it's down, it's up, it's down.

 

Sometimes you just wanna have a big, angry, throbby erection with somebody cause that's more fun. It's not so you can fool them into thinking you're extra into it.

 

-t

.

Woof. I'd love to feel your big, angry, throbby erection

.