Short trip booking headaches

[CatnameFelix]

Half question/half rant here. When you guys are making a short visit somewhere, and you advertise it, what's your hiring window? This is starting to bug me because if I inquire early, I'm ignore because "early bookers cancel." If I wait till someone arrives, "sorry no free time available." God forbid, I ask if someone has any plans to visit NY, just to get a heads up. When do I book???

[+ nycman]

There's no magic right answer.

 

Personally 1 week out is the absolute earliest I'd try to make contact.

 

Usually, I wait until 2-3 days before. Often I just forget and get caught

scrambling the same day. In a town like Vegas with a high "flake rate",

I tend to just scramble.

 

An exception would be someone I know well whom I am traveling

a great distance specifically to see. Then about a month ahead

is my normal. Mostly so I can line up travel plans.

[+ purplekow]

Travelers are tough. Booking for an overnight eases some of that, as many escorts on a trip like to have an anchor in whichever city they are visiting. With a longer hire, you can usually get a longer lead time. It helps to have a reputation as being reliable. If you are going for an overnight with an escort who is new to you, you might mention another well known escort who could vouch for you reliability.

[AshburyGuy]

I think you should let someone know you're interested and will contact closer to the time he's in town. I was really looking forward to a get together with someone only to find out he cancelled his trip to my city "because there didn't seem to be enough interest to warrant a trip."

[CatnameFelix]

Travelers are tough. Booking for an overnight eases some of that, as many escorts on a trip like to have an anchor in whichever city they are visiting. With a longer hire, you can usually get a longer lead time. It helps to have a reputation as being reliable. If you are going for an overnight with an escort who is new to you, you might mention another well known escort who could vouch for you reliability.

wish I could afford or accommodate an overnight, but that's not in the books.

[+ Eric Hassan]

When I plan to travel, I'm happy to plan for dates as soon as I announce the trip. I know when I'll be available and willing to accept appointments. That's how I roll, but not everyone is like that. Yes - I think most providers would tell you the further out a person makes an appointment, the higher the likelihood they will cancel. That said, many providers will tell you of the clients who book weeks or months in advance as a practice and manage to keep their appointments.

 

I think the best way to approach the situation - if you are not certain - is to inform the guy you have some interest and ask him when is good to book. One way that you can indicate that you are serious is by approaching with clear communication - don't just say "Hey" as your intro - give your guy something to work with - "Hi, I'm Joe - I see you're coming to Seattle next week and I'm really interested in seeing you. My schedule is very flexible on Tuesday and I would like to spend 2 hours with you. What do you have available?" Another way to show you are serious, once you have made the appointment, is to make arrangements to follow up. "Great - I'll see you at noon on Tuesday for 2 hours. I have it in my calendar, and I'll reach out the night before to confirm." This type of communication shows that you have your shit together, you're serious about making something happen, and that you're respectful of the provider's time.

 

Regardless of what he says and when you book, if you need to cancel or change your appointment, don't wait to communicate this. Travel can be tricky. I'll share an experience I had in Boston once. I had a few days of travel planned and my schedule was full about a week out, with 5 people on a "waiting list." 6 of my 7 clients canceled at the last minute (within an hour of the appointment, ALL of them after confirming with me 8-12 hours before) and none of my "waiting list" guys were able to see me - the few that responded to my message told me they had made other plans. I saw 1 person - ironically, a guy from NYC.

 

Again:

1. When in doubt, ask. Politely asking helps us help you.

2. Communicate clearly AND thoroughly. Don't make the guy work extra just to schedule an appointment.

3. Keep your appointment or communicate as far in advance as possible. Your appointment is your word.

[marylander1940]

... Yes - I think most providers would tell you the further out a person makes an appointment, the higher the likelihood they will cancel. That said, many providers will tell you of the clients who book weeks or months in advance as a practice and manage to keep their appointments...

 

 

Half question/half rant here. When you guys are making a short visit somewhere, and you advertise it, what's your hiring window? This is starting to bug me because if I inquire early, I'm ignore because "early bookers cancel." If I wait till someone arrives, "sorry no free time available." God forbid, I ask if someone has any plans to visit NY, just to get a heads up. When do I book???

 

yes, early bookers are likely to cancel but if you can always send by PayPal a booking fee to show your commitment.

[mike carey]

@Eric Hassan, sorry this sort of thing happens even to you. I just can't understand men who commit to meet and then back out at the last minute. I can understand if things change a few days out or even several hours, but not at the last minute. That is just inconsiderate.

[jawjateck]

The travel ads of desirable companions passing through town often inspire lusty impulses, but rarely, are those lusts realized. Schedule alignment is difficult. I look at those ads more for the eye candy.

[+ Eric Hassan]

@Eric Hassan, sorry this sort of thing happens even to you. I just can't understand men who commit to meet and then back out at the last minute. I can understand if things change a few days out or even several hours, but not at the last minute. That is just inconsiderate.

 

It is inconsiderate and it does happen BUT it's not about me. If affects me, but it says more about them than it does me.

[mike carey]

If affects me, but it says more about them than it does me.

Yes, it does say more about them than you, but if they don't turn up it affects you.

[+ Eric Hassan]

Yes, it does say more about them than you, but if they don't turn up it affects you.

 

True. And experience has taught me that not getting what I want is only because there's something else I need.

[marylander1940]

@Eric Hassan, sorry this sort of thing happens even to you. I just can't understand men who commit to meet and then back out at the last minute. I can understand if things change a few days out or even several hours, but not at the last minute. That is just inconsiderate.

 

Yes, but KEEPS happening when guys make plans a week in advance... If I was an escort I would rather someone asking me if I'm free in 30 mins or 1 hour instead of booking way ahead texting my ass off about "how much he looks forward to meeting me", and cancelling the same day... and things do change at the last minute because of being called back to work, etc.

 

Know your own schedule before contacting an escort.

 

There was some talk about the Dallas mafia and this kind of practices, right?

[+ tylerthebadwolf]

1. When in doubt, ask. Politely asking helps us help you.

 

Honestly, this is the solution to almost any question posted to the Ask an Escort thread/forum. I would SOOOOO much rather someone just ask (just ASK!) so that I can answer and work something out with them. I can't speak for anyone but myself, but I always want to make it work and would be glad to respond, even if it isn't maybe the answer you'd hoped for.

 

Eric knows, you guys. Eric knows.

 

 

-t

[mike carey]

You know too, Tyler.

[+ haring222]

I have the exact same thing...my personality (and the fact that the build up and anticipation to hanging out with a fellow is generally half the fun) means that I decide a month or two out that I want to go somewhere, which is followed up by frantic hotel and airbnb research to find the coolest place to stay, which is followed up by virtual shopping for a guy to canoodle with....which usually has been inquiring about two weeks out and getting either no response or a cavalier 'I don't take bookings that far out'. To which I mentally reply 'we need to get this set up!'...knowing that a week later when I inquire again it nearly never works out. Perhaps it is better to be more of a last minute shopper, but that is just not my style. It probably also does not help that I seem to go after short non smoking asian fellows and that seems to be a limited category in the realm of escorts.

[down_to_business]

Another one of those frustrating items to ad of the list of having no industry wide standard and where the answer varies depending on whichever service provider you ask like the time definition of an overnight. Maybe this would be another great question to ad to the list of rentmen questions to pre answer : preferred booking window advance , 24 hour or same day only... of course I am sure it would all wind up with my favorite frustrating "ask me" reply anyway . And from my experience, there are just as many escorts who accept those advance bookings like they were nothing, let me spend my non-refundable purchases on theater tickets and advance hotel reservations, and cancel on me last minute without batting an eye with reason, without reason, because they find something better to do... all resulting in the same thing-- me being out a companion, no chance to salvage the evening or make alternate plans, and a loss of $ and frustration with the whole damn thing.

[Spencer L]

When I plan to travel, I'm happy to plan for dates as soon as I announce the trip. I know when I'll be available and willing to accept appointments. That's how I roll, but not everyone is like that. Yes - I think most providers would tell you the further out a person makes an appointment, the higher the likelihood they will cancel. That said, many providers will tell you of the clients who book weeks or months in advance as a practice and manage to keep their appointments.

 

I think the best way to approach the situation - if you are not certain - is to inform the guy you have some interest and ask him when is good to book. One way that you can indicate that you are serious is by approaching with clear communication - don't just say "Hey" as your intro - give your guy something to work with - "Hi, I'm Joe - I see you're coming to Seattle next week and I'm really interested in seeing you. My schedule is very flexible on Tuesday and I would like to spend 2 hours with you. What do you have available?" Another way to show you are serious, once you have made the appointment, is to make arrangements to follow up. "Great - I'll see you at noon on Tuesday for 2 hours. I have it in my calendar, and I'll reach out the night before to confirm." This type of communication shows that you have your shit together, you're serious about making something happen, and that you're respectful of the provider's time.

 

Regardless of what he says and when you book, if you need to cancel or change your appointment, don't wait to communicate this. Travel can be tricky. I'll share an experience I had in Boston once. I had a few days of travel planned and my schedule was full about a week out, with 5 people on a "waiting list." 6 of my 7 clients canceled at the last minute (within an hour of the appointment, ALL of them after confirming with me 8-12 hours before) and none of my "waiting list" guys were able to see me - the few that responded to my message told me they had made other plans. I saw 1 person - ironically, a guy from NYC.

 

Again:

1. When in doubt, ask. Politely asking helps us help you.

2. Communicate clearly AND thoroughly. Don't make the guy work extra just to schedule an appointment.

3. Keep your appointment or communicate as far in advance as possible. Your appointment is your word.

 

This is well-written and very detailed!

[Spencer L]

I have the exact same thing...my personality (and the fact that the build up and anticipation to hanging out with a fellow is generally half the fun) means that I decide a month or two out that I want to go somewhere, which is followed up by frantic hotel and airbnb research to find the coolest place to stay, which is followed up by virtual shopping for a guy to canoodle with....which usually has been inquiring about two weeks out and getting either no response or a cavalier 'I don't take bookings that far out'. To which I mentally reply 'we need to get this set up!'...knowing that a week later when I inquire again it nearly never works out. Perhaps it is better to be more of a last minute shopper, but that is just not my style. It probably also does not help that I seem to go after short non smoking asian fellows and that seems to be a limited category in the realm of escorts.

Why they have to be short...?

[escortrod]

Why they have to be short...?

Why do they have to be asian, non-smoking, or men?

[+ OliverSaks]

Why do they have to be asian, non-smoking, or men?

When people ask me why I like older men, I usually respond with something like "why don't I like women?"

 

Thumbs up E-Rod.

[CatnameFelix]

After today, I'm giving up on hiring visitors. I may stop hiring in general.

[down_to_business]

After today, I'm giving up on hiring visitors. I may stop hiring in general.

As I have shared, I greatly slowed down and pretty much stopped myself. The strangest thing that I never expected was how little I seem to miss it. No question there are some great guys out there.. unfortunately, it's just too much work, too much cost(mentally, physically, emotionally and/or financially) or too far a distance to find them.

[jawjateck]

As I have shared, I greatly slowed down and pretty much stopped myself. The strangest thing that I never expected was how little I seem to miss it. No question there are some great guys out there.. unfortunately, it's just too much work, too much cost(mentally, physically, emotionally and/or financially) or too far a distance to find them.

 

I feel like I'm also approaching that place. Not abstaining, but rather limiting my activities to more convenient set-ups. When my travels/schedule have me crossing paths with choice prospects, then go for the indulgence, but flying me/him/them around to set up encounters doesn't yield as much return on investment as it did in a previous era. I have a newbie flying to me next week. He may be one of my last forays in the travel genre.

[Mount N Do]

When I plan to travel, I'm happy to plan for dates as soon as I announce the trip. I know when I'll be available and willing to accept appointments. That's how I roll, but not everyone is like that. Yes - I think most providers would tell you the further out a person makes an appointment, the higher the likelihood they will cancel. That said, many providers will tell you of the clients who book weeks or months in advance as a practice and manage to keep their appointments.

 

I think the best way to approach the situation - if you are not certain - is to inform the guy you have some interest and ask him when is good to book. One way that you can indicate that you are serious is by approaching with clear communication - don't just say "Hey" as your intro - give your guy something to work with - "Hi, I'm Joe - I see you're coming to Seattle next week and I'm really interested in seeing you. My schedule is very flexible on Tuesday and I would like to spend 2 hours with you. What do you have available?" Another way to show you are serious, once you have made the appointment, is to make arrangements to follow up. "Great - I'll see you at noon on Tuesday for 2 hours. I have it in my calendar, and I'll reach out the night before to confirm." This type of communication shows that you have your shit together, you're serious about making something happen, and that you're respectful of the provider's time.

 

Regardless of what he says and when you book, if you need to cancel or change your appointment, don't wait to communicate this. Travel can be tricky. I'll share an experience I had in Boston once. I had a few days of travel planned and my schedule was full about a week out, with 5 people on a "waiting list." 6 of my 7 clients canceled at the last minute (within an hour of the appointment, ALL of them after confirming with me 8-12 hours before) and none of my "waiting list" guys were able to see me - the few that responded to my message told me they had made other plans. I saw 1 person - ironically, a guy from NYC.

 

Again:

1. When in doubt, ask. Politely asking helps us help you.

2. Communicate clearly AND thoroughly. Don't make the guy work extra just to schedule an appointment.

3. Keep your appointment or communicate as far in advance as possible. Your appointment is your word.

I typically can't schedule that far in advance, but if I committed and confirmed a date and time and had to cancel? I'd go out of my way to pay for the cancellation, or a portion at minimum. Having said that Mr. Hassan, I wasn't able to schedule with you on your last trip to Fla, but so looking forward to your next trip. I would never cancel meeting you sir.