The client that got away?

[CatnameFelix]

Post like this appear a lot in the Deli section, and won't to see if anything like this happened on the other side of the fence. Have any of you guys had a one time hire that you hoped would lead to multiple visit? Are a regular who stopped calling that you miss?

 

Now I'm talking about something more than business, I know financially you would hope everyone would be a regular. I'm talking about any encounters that were so great, you wanted to experience them again.

[+ OliverSaks]

I had a client that I would see every few months for a weekend and really enjoyed our time together.

 

We hit it off in most ways: physically, spiritually, on the racketball court.

 

I texted him a few times and didn't hear back from him. Finally, I sent a message saying something along the lines of "I don't want to bother you if you don't desire to see me again, but just please let me know what's going on so I can stop the texts."

 

He messaged me back saying he had fallen in love with someone and that we wouldn't be meeting again. I'm happy for him, as he has a lot of love to give, especially someone who can see him full time, but I will miss seeing him.

 

-0S

[Mocha]

Finally, I sent a message saying something along the lines of "I don't want to bother you if you don't desire to see me again, but just please let me know what's going on so I can stop the texts."

 

He messaged me back saying he had fallen in love with someone and that we wouldn't be meeting again. I'm happy for him, as he has a lot of love to give, especially someone who can see him full time, but I will miss seeing him.

 

Womp womp. As previously discussed. Happens every once in awhile.

 

Being that you had to text him a few times, he should have mentioned it sooner. I also think he may have met said person during the time you guys were meeting, and perhaps he could have mentioned it then. Even still, nothing you could do.

 

That said, eventually all clients get away. That's what makes us different from the mom and pop store where the same guy has been shopping at the same place for 50 years. It's just not gonna happen because it's just not how it works.

 

I think most clients are looking for love subliminally from an escort. The only way to keep your client forever is to get married to them. However...I still think people should treat it as a relationship. Communicate. If client wants to move on, say so. Don't just leave the escort out looking stupid wondering what happened. Out of good faith, clients should allow the escort relationship to close with dignity rather than just jump immediately into a new relationship without closure.

[dcguy20]

Ah, but then that means it's a two-way street. What about the guys who leave the business without letting their loyal clients know?

[Maximus69]

Well Im just happy they chosed to hire me in the first place. Its such a compliment and an ego booster since theirs so many escorts out there to choose from... it just doesn't have to be a bad experience for a client to not see you again. It can mean many things, whether it be their just visiting, the money, or simply they just want to try someone new. People come and go, its just a part of the escorting game. You can't force someone to see you again, if a client truly wants to see you they will reach out to you first. The key to surviving in this industry is making a good first impression and hoping the client comes for seconds and thirds and just continue on meeting new people to replace those who were one timers and build a lengthy selections of regulars.

[gentlewick]

Ah, but then that means it's a two-way street. What about the guys who leave the business without letting their loyal clients know?

I just assume they came down with incurable chlamydia and are too embarrassed to say. Poor bastards.

[gallahadesquire]

I saw a fellow intermittently from ... well, the debut of Brokeback Mountain, until 2009. At our last meeting, he was entirely non-interactive, and I knew things were over.

 

Subsequently, we're friends on Facebook. His fiance is in the same profession as I was.

[+ haring222]

On the flip side, I used to dabble in escorting when I was a college kid. A client (who was a peculiar fellow that I grew to dislike but was exceptionally generous) had me meet him and another escort fellow in New York. I spent a few days with the two of them and fell head over heels for the other guy...we literally snuck out one night and went for a beautiful walk in the snow that was probably one of the nicest nights of my life. He was a blockbuster bottom as well, which did not hurt matters :-) I don;t think that the feeling was mutual, though...or he was just a heck of a lot more serious about the industry than I was and made that his priority. For years I kept trying to meet up with him when I was in NYC and he skirted every overture. And I just now realized that I can't remember the guys name. Good grief I got old.

 

Then a few years ago I had finally gotten some money together and met up with this sweet escort chap named Jacob when I was in Toronto on holiday (indeed he was the first review I ever wrote on here) and deluded myself after one meeting that I had fallen madly in love with him and that we were destined for each other. Of course, that was when I had just turned 30 and have since figured things out a bit more...there is a difference between love and lust. And I have a suspicion that he is just a really good escort and makes all of the guys feel that way. I have literally thought about him off and on since that point.

 

Each time I write these things out I feel a bit pathetic :-)

[TopTierTop]

I think that every client who I hoped would end up in multiple visits has. For the most part, it hasn't been a question of if, but more of when. If I have been disappointed at all, it has been when the time between meetings has been much longer than I expected. If there are any who I hoped would call again and never did, I don't remember.

[+ bashful]

If I have been disappointed at all, it has been when the time between meetings has been much longer than I expected.

 

I would suspect that if clients are returning, they too didn't expect the time between meetings to be so long. But, from a client perspective, it just happens that sometimes schedules, budgets, and personal matters don't work in our favor.

[TopTierTop]

I would suspect that if clients are returning, they too didn't expect the time between meetings to be so long. But, from a client perspective, it just happens that sometimes schedules, budgets, and personal mattes don't work in our favor.

Yup! It took me awhile to figure that out when I would have clients say they wanted to meet every ______, then I don't hear from them for months, then all the suddenly we are meeting MORE often than they had originally said. I've learned to just maintain contact and let the client book me whenever is good for him.

[ManSouth]

Trumpian, totally f-ing Trumpian. They said they wanted to see me monthly, but then it became weekly! And then daily! Trump! Wow.

[TopTierTop]

Trumpian, totally f-ing Trumpian. They said they wanted to see me monthly, but then it became weekly! And then daily! Trump! Wow.

Hahaha! I can just imagine you running around your living room screaming this! Hilarious!

[scottspearsxxx]

Yes, I had a regular client that I saw almost every month and then he died suddenly. I miss him. He was kind hearted and a lot of fun!

[+ tylerthebadwolf]

Post like this appear a lot in the Deli section, and won't to see if anything like this happened on the other side of the fence. Have any of you guys had a one time hire that you hoped would lead to multiple visit? Are a regular who stopped calling that you miss?

 

Now I'm talking about something more than business, I know financially you would hope everyone would be a regular. I'm talking about any encounters that were so great, you wanted to experience them again.

 

Of course. My take on it has always been that you never really know what someone's life is like outside of your encounters. Their circumstances could change (personal, romantic, financial) and you might never know it. Might have nothing at all to do with you or your time together.

 

I always hope it's something amazing – they're engaged or newly in love or whatever – when I don't hear from someone again, and don't take it personally.

 

 

-t