Matthew James - What happened?

[InterestingGuy]

I realized that as the end of the year approaches, Matthew James has not been escorting for almost six months.

 

https://rent.men/MatthewJames

 

I actually find this a little concerning - simply because I had met him several times over a year and a half - including just two weeks before his last recorded "login" on Rentmen - and based on our discussions, he was fully planning on continuing to escort full-time. He had been traveling the country (focusing on the Midwest - where he was from) and told me of his plans and showed me on his phone the cities that he had mapped out to visit in the Fall as he drove around the USA. He also told me he planned to visit Canada.

 

I'm not naive - and I know there are many, many possible explanations concerning why he "disappeared". I will say, however, that I can't believe he just upped and quit. It was not in his plan - and it also did not fit his personality. (He really enjoyed all of the travel)

 

My biggest fear is that something tragic happened - and weirder yet knowing that if something bad happened, I will never know.

 

My intent here is not to open a discussion about his pros or cons as an Escort. Some enjoyed him as an escort and others did not. This is true of all escorts. I will let everyone know, though, that in person, he was incredibly nice, polite and accommodating. A genuinely nice guy trying to please others - and again, for him to vanish into thin air unexpectedly did not fit his personality - he was not jaded, bitter or disgruntled.

 

I simply am creating this thread to see if anyone has any valid information as to what happened to him?

[natmas02]

Time to move on man. Sounds like you're a bit obsessed. When most escorts quit, most of them don't do a huge announcement that they're done unless they're well known and participate on these types of forums. They're just done with that part of their life and you should accept that.

[Bargara Leatherboy]

I would be wondering too, be great to know he's doing great and nothing weird happened.

[sincitymix]

ill send you a PM.

[natmas02]

It would have been nice if he said good bye to you, but again, it's just a weird sense of entitlement. You didn't simply give him several thousand dollars. In exchange that escort gave you his companionship, time, and whatever else for that money.

 

I had a very exclusive relationship with an escort for three years that I saw every weekend and he suddenly decided to quit. He did end up reaching out to me several months later, but no hard feelings - outside of paid time he doesn't owe me anything and vice versa. We got along great but at the end of the day, it's still money being paid for time. If an escort quit, then there's no need to track him down. He simply moved on. OP is acting like Matthew James was kidnapped or something.

[MikeBiDude]

It would have been nice if he said good bye to you, but again, it's just a weird sense of entitlement. You didn't simply give him several thousand dollars. In exchange that escort gave you his companionship, time, and whatever else for that money.

 

I had a very exclusive relationship with an escort for three years that I saw every weekend and he suddenly decided to quit. He did end up reaching out to me several months later, but no hard feelings - outside of paid time he doesn't owe me anything and vice versa. We got along great but at the end of the day, it's still money being paid for time. If an escort quit, then there's no need to track him down. He simply moved on. OP is acting like Matthew James was kidnapped or something.

It's like when a local restaurant closes with no notice. Everyone is shocked "their" local place is gone!!! But it was so popular! They knew me by name! How could this happen to me? Lol...

[natmas02]

@MikeBiDude eh, maybe I'm being a bit hard on the guy because it's easy to really care for someone in this business. But you gotta keep that boundary to stay sane. Also discretion works both ways for both client and escort and I feel like people on here love to overstep sometimes, especially when an escort decides to quit. I'd be very alarmed if I decided to stop seeing escorts and suddenly I see "Where is natmas??? SOMEONE GIVE ME INFO." post pop up.

[coriolis888]

It would have been nice if he said good bye to you, but again, it's just a weird sense of entitlement. You didn't simply give him several thousand dollars. In exchange that escort gave you his companionship, time, and whatever else for that money.

 

I had a very exclusive relationship with an escort for three years that I saw every weekend and he suddenly decided to quit. He did end up reaching out to me several months later, but no hard feelings - outside of paid time he doesn't owe me anything and vice versa. We got along great but at the end of the day, it's still money being paid for time. If an escort quit, then there's no need to track him down. He simply moved on. OP is acting like Matthew James was kidnapped or something.

 

 

I think the OP was merely wondering if the escort was okay. Something could have happened to the escort. None of us here know what happened to him, if anything.

 

The OP stated, among other things, "A genuinely nice guy trying to please others - and again, for him to vanish into thin air unexpectedly did not fit his personality - he was not jaded, bitter or disgruntled."

 

There have been several threads on this forum advising of the demise of various escorts. Hopefully, that did not happy to the one in question.

Things happen to people all the time. Hopefully, the escort did, in fact, just move on.

[natmas02]

@coriolis888 Escorts has real life family and friends to keep tabs on him. You don't have to be "jaded, bitter, or disgruntled" to move on. You can just move on because you choose to. Selling your time and body to other people is something very few want to do for a long period of time.

[BabyBoomer]

Matthew may have moved to Neverland.

 

~Boomer ~

[coriolis888]

@coriolis888

 

Escorts has real life family and friends to keep tabs on him. You don't have to be "jaded, bitter, or disgruntled" to move on. You can just move on because you choose to. Selling your time and body to other people is something very few want to do for a long period of time.

 

 

I think you misread my post. I am aware of and agree that escorts have a life with family and friends. This issue was already implied in prior posts by others.

 

In my post, I said that no one knows what happened to the escort and that something MIGHT have happened to him.

 

I ended my post by stating "Hopefully, the escort did, in fact, just move on."

[The Dude]

I learned this lesson several years ago. I regularly saw an escort for several years. I mentioned once or twice that I was aware he would move on to other things in life and I'd like to know when he reached that moment. He just stopped escorting with no 'good-bye' no 'best wishes' .... nothing. I think I was doing the gentlemanly thing but he didn't feel that he owed me a farewell after I had given him several thousand dollars over the years.

Whether you want to admit it or not, it was a business transaction. Do you think every local store that goes out of business reaches out to its customers? No. You paid, he provided a service. The end. He doesn't owe you anything.

[Bargara Leatherboy]

In this disposable,selfish world isnt't it refreshing to actually have someone care about a fellow human.

 

I get privacy.

 

I get discretion

 

I get this is a biz people come and go from.

 

The OP is s just saying hope he is ok .

 

Notmstalking' not being obsessive just being a caring human

[coriolis888]

 

In this disposable,selfish world isn't it refreshing to actually have someone care about a fellow human.

 

I get privacy.

 

I get discretion.

 

I get this is a biz people come and go from.

 

The OP is s just saying hope he is ok .

 

Not stalking' not being obsessive just being a caring human

 

 

Exactly! +1

[BSR]

It's like when a local restaurant closes with no notice. Everyone is shocked "their" local place is gone!!! But it was so popular! They knew me by name! How could this happen to me? Lol...

When a business owner closes up shop, they are so busy dealing with a scramble of issues: making payroll, paying vendors, salvaging as much of their investment as possible, figuring out their finances, figuring out where to go, what to do, how to cope. As much as they would like to thank their customers for their patronage, they probably have too many far more urgent issues to deal with. All that, plus the owner likely tries until the very last gasp to save the business, and by the time they realize it's impossible, the fit has really hit the shan.

 

Now, while an escort's exit from the biz isn't the same thing as a restaurant closure, the escort could still have a boatload of things to deal with: perhaps moving to another city and the zillion and one things a major move involves, figuring out finances, transitioning to a new career. I can very easily see how the situation is so overwhelming that an official farewell is the last thing on their mind. Plus, if his old escorting career isn't "compatible" with his new career, then he has to shut down and delete all advertising, websites, photos - which could be a frantic process.

 

I agree that the OP is just concerned and curious, which is human. Considering MJ's youth and love of the business (never hired him, but he struck me as the kind of guy who escorted because he genuinely enjoyed it), I would have bet that Matthew James would be one of those escorts who "semi-retires," i.e., continues to see a few old regulars after pulling all his advertising/websites. Then again, I have no idea what his new career is nor what his new life demands.

[InterestingGuy]

I am the Original Poster of this thread - and maybe my post was too long because some other forum members did not seem to understand why I posted it. I'm not "obsessed with" Matthew.

 

I was concerned because in July, he discussed with me at length what his travel plans were for the next several months - with plans to visit several cities and Canada. And then two weeks later, he simply disappeared. That was very unlike him. Escorting was his sole income and he drove from city to city each month. I was worried he got injured in a car accident or something of that nature. I figured that since many forum members on here had met him - someone might have more information. So that's why I posted and asked.

[Nvr2Thick]

I am the Original Poster of this thread - and maybe my post was too long because some other forum members did not seem to understand why I posted it. I'm not "obsessed with" Matthew.

 

I was concerned because in July, he discussed with me at length what his travel plans were for the next several months - with plans to visit several cities and Canada. And then two weeks later, he simply disappeared. That was very unlike him. Escorting was his sole income and he drove from city to city each month. I was worried he got injured in a car accident or something of that nature. I figured that since many forum members on here had met him - someone might have more information. So that's why I posted and asked.

 

Often people will deliberately read an interpretation into a post for the sake of creating a straw man argument. It's a great opportunity to belittle someone and come in with an enlightened position. It was clear to me that in your original post you were not fixated on remaining in touch or getting to see this escort again; you were interested in his well being.

[coriolis888]

When you know Matthew James's real name (as I do) this situation can seem worrisome. Like most young people today he was very active on social media using his real name. Not only has Matthew James the escort disappeared but the real person has stopped posting online.

 

 

You stated that you know the escort's real name. The other poster acknowledged the possibility that something dreadful might have happened to him.

 

Although it might appear morbid, if he suffered an accident or worse and is no longer alive, it is possible to consult the Social Security Death Index to see if he is listed there. You don't need his Social Security number to do a search. It is helpful if you know his birthday but knowing the year is sufficient.

 

Several years ago it was a free service to search the SSDI. It is still free but you have to go through a lot of work to access the free sight. Now the service can be found on various sites including here:

 

http://www.ancestry.com/cs/us/ssdi-records-overlay?state=&kw=Social+Security+Death+Index+Records&s_kwcid=social+security+death+index&gclid=Cj0KEQiA1b7CBRDjmIPL4u-Zy6gBEiQAsJhTMJV1LzwcT6pozcT0wV2KOmROSd5TO3_Mllh1CmAuauEaAuPK8P8HAQ&o_xid=21837&o_lid=21837&o_sch=Paid+Search+Non+Brand

 

You can use the above site to subscribe for a free trial membership.

[rvwnsd]

I am the Original Poster of this thread - and maybe my post was too long because some other forum members did not seem to understand why I posted it. I'm not "obsessed with" Matthew.

 

I was concerned because in July, he discussed with me at length what his travel plans were for the next several months - with plans to visit several cities and Canada. And then two weeks later, he simply disappeared. That was very unlike him. Escorting was his sole income and he drove from city to city each month. I was worried he got injured in a car accident or something of that nature. I figured that since many forum members on here had met him - someone might have more information. So that's why I posted and asked.

 

You are to be commended for your concern about his well-being.

 

Time for a little story...

 

Several years ago I planned to hook up with a couple who lived in the outer reaches of Chicago's northwest suburbs. I lived near the lakefront in Evanston. They were easily 40 or 50 miles from me. As we were talking and setting up the playdate they asked me to call when I was leaving my home, when I was halfway there, and again at a particular intersection that was about 10 minutes from their home. They wanted me to do this because a playmate of theirs had set up a playdate and he didn't show up on time. An hour passed and then two and then they received a call from the local police. Their playmate was in a car accident in which his car skidded off the road into a ditch and was seriously injured. Their phone number and address were written on a piece of paper in the car and the police called it hoping someone would answer.

[Maximus69]

The op did state he saw this escort regularly over a year and a half. Thats quite a while, and if I spent that much time with a client, it would bound to be more than just sex at that point. Well its primarily about sex still lol... but you know what I mean. You would know a lot than just a persons name in a year and a half. The op probably cares about the escort whether or not it was just business. If it was me and I had move on from escorting, I would at least send a quick text stating I'm not escorting anymore if someone was reaching out to me, especially if it was someone who saw me for that long. Maybe he just changed his number... maybe someone really bad happened while he was escorting that he gave up escorting cold turkey, who knows, hope he's not harmed and is in a good place

[cooldemo03]

I always thought MJ was hot, especially his great body. I always thought he looked older than early 20s though. I wonder what happened to him. He seemed very active on social media and rentmen. He either was in an accident or possibly got arrested.

[+ not2rowdy]

Maybe him...

Not going to post a direct link since I'm very suspicious of the website but there is an ad on renthotangels dot com under LV.

[jonnychgo]

I got together with him during his last stop in Chicago last summer. He was a VERY nice guy, though his body was not quite as toned as his pics and he seemed to be having some weird physical issues like pain in his face when kissing in certain positions. Ended up being a less than satisfying time for me. Shortly thereafter, it seemed like his ad was gone.

 

Perhaps he just got tired of the business or let's hope he met someone and settled down. I would love to try him out again. He had a lot to offer below the belt.

[+ WhamIAm]

Has anyone spent time with Matthew James lately? Headed to Vegas next week and would be very interested. But, he's had no reviews since his return (last ones are mid-2016), his pic on his DR page looks very different from the RM pics, most of which are outdated, his website and one link in his RM ad are dead and his YT and FB pages haven't been updated in about a year. Would be interested in any reports of meetings or even sightings of him. Just want to be sure the ad is legit and that he's looking as good now as he does in the older pics.

 

Thanks -- Wham

[builder boy]

When I met him in Vegas a couple years ago, he wasn't in the best shape. Things could have changed but I probably wouldn't repeat.