"Fear Play" - Gorgeous Hunk Offers "Loving" Strangulation Fantasy

[+ Truereview]

What I find interesting is that two threads on similar subjects have appeared in this forum in a very short period of time. Is this a trend?!?! Something new?!?! This is not the most common of scenes in my experience for other than those who are REALLY into such type of play!

Thank you, WG! Good connection point.

Here is the other thread:

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/411-on-escorts-into-breath-play.119699/

[jjkrkwood]

Is this the same JJ Kirkwood who was dealt with a "time out" on this website, and also who

trumpeted that he was "leaving this website forever"? It seems so.

 

 

You need to do better research. Yes, while I was given Time Out, I never commented on my future on this site. And I have never blown a trumpet, while some cocks I have serviced may have been as big.

[Jbdesc]

Thanks, Papito. I will.

I'm just interested in hearing folks' actual reactions to OP's question.

You know, kinda like giving the topic a forum treatment without going too heavy on how dangerous it is.

Although I do appreciate the wise warnings and the seriousness of the topic.

I'm just a stubbornly curious little shit.

 

I suppose there are many varying degrees to this - some more extreme than others. My experience with it was just a fun, albeit rough power struggle. In this case it was some back and forth power plays. Think of it like wrestling, just a little more aggressive than usual.

 

Honestly it wasn't even anything I was specifically looking for, or had ever done previously. We both had a great time and it opened some doors for me sexually. Am I looking to do it again? No not necessarily, I'm not usually looking for something specific like that. Would I stop it if the opportunity arose again? Not if I felt comfortable with the person.

 

I would never let it get to the point where I truly felt like my life was in danger. @VeryHappyCustomer has a good idea with the whole spotter thing. If that is what you're looking for, and you have even the slightest ounce of nervousness - that may be the best option, aside from not doing it.

[jjkrkwood]

Here is what I find most unsettling about Forums. While people ask others for their experiences, opinions or advice, what they are really looking for is "agreement" and validation for their own pre-disposed opinions and decisons. If you dont give them what they are looking for, they get all twisted and attack you. If you already have your answer go with your gut and dont fish for confirmation, because probably 50% of the time you wont get it. And if you cant be open-minded about the opinions of others, you dont belong on this sort of forum, where opinions are like assholes, "everybody has one. and theres a good chance their opinion is different than yours.

[Jbdesc]

"Opinions are like assholes, and they all stink - except for mine, it smells like roses. "

 

Differences in opinion is what makes us unique. Without varying experiences and opinions we would all be droning the same points - what a dull time that would be. I'm new here, but the problem I tend to notice is when a discussion turns into name calling and uninspiring attempts at slander.

 

I personally appreciate when people challenge another's perspective as long as it is in a conducive manner. When done right it can help form new opinions and contributions.

 

Keep it classy people.

 

opinions are like assholes, "everybody has one. and theres a good chance their opinion is different than yours.

[whipped guy]

Thank you, WG! Good connection point.

Here is the other thread:

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/411-on-escorts-into-breath-play.119699/

Well, for the record after the first thread appeared I had a conversation with a forum member who read that initial thread. He had tried such a scene and believe me when I say that he would have been the last person who I would have thought of as being interested in getting involved in such activities. He actually had some issues that made him feel not quite like himself post scene that made him wonder if it was related to the "breath play". He doubted it was a coincidence, but who knows... Still, it made him leery and I doubt that he would ever try it again.

 

So another reason to make me wonder if such a scene has grown in popularity.... if so I have been living under a rock!

[+ Charlie]

Haha! Yes, very related. In addition to your insightful questions (as opposed to some of the

unintended ranting here) perhaps others can chime in, as you say, regarding whether they

get aroused when they are "afraid." Not afraid so much of being physical injured, but

at uncertainty...unpredictability...precariousness...whilst being in the clutches of a beautiful,

24 year old hunk [in this case] with slender hips, broad shoulders, hairless chest, and bulging

muscles that rivals Michelangelo's Statue of David. Insights are welcomed...but please,

no puerile fulminations. Bleh! Best wishes, NG

Ahem.....well, of course I find this arousing. Likewise the fantasy of being kidnapped and used as a sex slave by a motorcycle gang of bodybuilders with huge cocks. Would I welcome it in reality? NO WAY!! Tom of Finland stories are for masturbation, not scripts for a real date, in my opinion. But that doesn't mean you aren't entitled to live out your masturbation fantasies, if you wish.

[pubic_assistance]

Ahem.....well, of course I find this arousing. Likewise the fantasy of being kidnapped and used as a sex slave by a motorcycle gang of bodybuilders with huge cocks. Would I welcome it in reality? NO WAY!! Tom of Finland stories are for masturbation, not scripts for a real date, in my opinion. But that doesn't mean you aren't entitled to live out your masturbation fantasies, if you wish.

I have participated in multiple fantasy scenes including rape play, kidnapping, and long term sex slave prisoners. This IS available for those who wish to indulge but one must first sort of "enter the club" so to speak to find people who can be trusted to provide the fantasy but assure your safety.

[+ Truereview]

I have participated in multiple fantasy scenes including rape play, kidnapping, and long term sex slave prisoners. This IS available for those who wish to indulge but one must first sort of "enter the club" so to speak to find people who can be trusted to provide the fantasy but assure your safety.

Question: does erotic strangulation typically require that you are being fucked at the same time? Or is that just a variation?

[Quinnlikesdudes]

A gorgeous, buff hunk whose acquaintance came my way says he is mainly

into "Fear Play."

 

He is absolutely stunning, physically. He sent ample proof.

 

Here's the catch: he offers to grasp my throat with his muscular young

hands, pressing his muscled body against me, and s..l..o..w..l..y press

against the arteries, but not to cause harm. "It is to get you in my power,"

he writes with detailed passion and vigor. "Eventually you will be mine."

He's really "into" this stuff.

 

I haven't actually met him yet.

 

Would he scare most of you off?

 

NG

Where is he located? That sounds really hot.

[escortrod]

Question: does erotic strangulation typically require that you are being fucked at the same time? Or is that just a variation?

Very much a variation.

[Maximus69]

I had this done recently. One of my regulars was pounding me hard from behind and then he wrapped his arm around my throat, I felt so vulnerable, I felt like his little bitch...

 

Just don't go too long because that hot dominance and aggression can make you pass out, and I want to feel when a cock is in me, I don't want to be lifeless

[pubic_assistance]

For my part, I prefer being strangulated while being jerked off. Provides an intense orgasm...but yeah boys who are more inclined toward the "bottom bunk" do love being in a choke-hold while being fucked hard and heavy. It's something that you enjoy as a special "moment", as you might do actual physical damage to the trachea if you over-do the treatment.

[+ newguy]

Ahem.....well, of course I find this arousing. Likewise the fantasy of being kidnapped and used as a sex slave by a motorcycle gang of bodybuilders with huge cocks. Would I welcome it in reality? NO WAY!! Tom of Finland stories are for masturbation, not scripts for a real date, in my opinion. But that doesn't mean you aren't entitled to live out your masturbation fantasies, if you wish.

Well, this is outrageous. You--yes, you!--are promoting dangerous behavior to an extent which I, who know

so very much about this subject--can shout without a shadow of a doubt leads to nothing but ruin, devastation,

annihilation...

No, I joke of course (or imitating someone here..?_. Tom of Finland is mucho hot.

Charlie, your confession earns you a quickie, below..

NG

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yeXKHbcXGfQ

[+ Truereview]

Maybe I should start nice and slow? Baby steps....

http://www.gifbin.com/bin/052012/reverse-1337880370_cat_hug.gif

[LivingnLA]

Breath play is very hot for some people for many reasons. It's a power dynamic. It invokes fear. It has physiological effects. I've enjoyed erotically choking someone when I'm fucking them. I've fantasized about being choked while being fucked. The two experiences in my life where someone came so hard they felt it throughout their whole body for a long time, involved breath play. They both passed out from their orgasms, not the choking. But, as has been said, this is not for strangers. You must trust each other and there is skill involved.

[+ Truereview]

Breath play is very hot for some people for many reasons. It's a power dynamic. It invokes fear. It has physiological effects. I've enjoyed erotically choking someone when I'm fucking them. I've fantasized about being choked while being fucked. The two experiences in my life where someone came so hard they felt it throughout their whole body for a long time, involved breath play. They both passed out from their orgasms, not the choking. But, as has been said, this is not for strangers. You must trust each other and there is skill involved.

Can you talk a little more about the physiological aspect? I'm wondering if it is not just the power dynamic, but if there is something anatomical or biological with the neck and the act of strangulation. Just wondering. I have no clue. Oxygen deprivation, brain...

[whipped guy]

Ahem.....well, of course I find this arousing. Likewise the fantasy of being kidnapped and used as a sex slave by a motorcycle gang of bodybuilders with huge cocks. Would I welcome it in reality? NO WAY!! Tom of Finland stories are for masturbation, not scripts for a real date, in my opinion. But that doesn't mean you aren't entitled to live out your masturbation fantasies, if you wish.

Well, this is outrageous. You--yes, you!--are promoting dangerous behavior to an extent which I, who know

so very much about this subject--can shout without a shadow of a doubt leads to nothing but ruin, devastation,

annihilation...

No, I joke of course (or imitating someone here..?_. Tom of Finland is mucho hot.

Charlie, your confession earns you a quickie, below..

NG

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yeXKHbcXGfQ

 

To echo NG... "You--yes, you!" I'm shocked @Charlie !

 

Well Charlie's post totally startled me. I always think of Charlie as being the dean of posters, the senior member here, knowledgeable opera buff, the epitome of erudition... the person about whom I once referenced as being urbane.

 

Well all that is out the window! He is a total slut just like the rest of us! Good to hear that you are a well rounded individual Sir Charlie!!!

[whipped guy]

Can you talk a little more about the physiological aspect? I'm wondering if it is not just the power dynamic, but if there is something anatomical or biological with the neck and the act of strangulation. Just wondering. I have no clue. Oxygen deprivation, brain...

Well oxygen deprivation would definitely affect your heart beat and and cause palpitations. That biological aspect would definitely add to the phychlogical sense of danger already inherent in the scene. It also is a signal that your body is responding to a type of stress that it is endeavoring to combat.

[LivingnLA]

Can you talk a little more about the physiological aspect? I'm wondering if it is not just the power dynamic, but if there is something anatomical or biological with the neck and the act of strangulation. Just wondering. I have no clue. Oxygen deprivation, brain...

 

Sure. We're talking about knowledgeable application of strangulation, so it's all about inhibiting/slowing oxygen-rich blood in the carotid arteries from the heart to the brain. Wikipedia has a great section about it. For those who won't click the link, here's the section in total:

Author John Curra wrote, "The

carotid arteries

(on either side of the neck) carry

oxygen

-rich blood from the heart to the brain. When these are compressed, as in strangulation or hanging, the sudden loss of oxygen to the brain and the accumulation of

carbon dioxide

can increase feelings of giddiness, lightheadness, and pleasure, all of which will heighten masturbatory sensations."

[2]

 

Author George Shuman describes the effect as such, "When the brain is deprived of oxygen, it induces a lucid, semi-hallucinogenic state called

hypoxia

. Combined with

orgasm

, the rush is said to be no less powerful than cocaine, and highly addictive."

[3]

 

Concerning hallucinogenic states brought about by chronic hypoxia, Dr. E L Lloyd notes that they may be similar to the hallucinations experienced by climbers at altitude. He further notes that no such state occurs in hypoxia brought about by sudden aircraft decompression at altitude. These findings suggest to him that they do not arrive purely from a lack of oxygen. Upon examining the studies on hypoxia he found that "abnormalities in the cerebral neurochemistry involving one or more of the interconnected

neurotransmitters

,

dopamine

,

5-hydroxytryptamine

, and

β-endorphin

had been reported in all the conditions associated with hallucinations."

[4]

[LivingnLA]

Well oxygen deprivation would definitely affect your heart beat and and cause palpitations. That biological aspect would definitely add to the phychlogical sense of danger already inherent in the scene. It also is a signal that your body is responding to a type of stress that it is endeavoring to combat.

 

Yes, also consider the psychological issues around someone choking you. Even before the physiological effects appear, just the physical situation creates a host of psychological effects because of the deeply ingrained instinctive issues surrounding our neck as a sensitive and vulnerable site on our bodies.

[+ Charlie]

To echo NG... "You--yes, you!" I'm shocked @Charlie !

 

Well Charlie's post totally startled me. I always think of Charlie as being the dean of posters, the senior member here, knowledgeable opera buff, the epitome of erudition... the person about whom I once referenced as being urbane.

 

Well all that is out the window! He is a total slut just like the rest of us! Good to hear that you are a well rounded individual Sir Charlie!!!

I once asked a rather quiet, colorless friend how he and his partner had managed to maintain their completely monogamous relationship for so many years, and he replied, "Well, we both have a rich imagination."

 

Of course, I can imagine myself playing Blanche to Marlon Brando's Stanley, but the only time I was in a real situation where I was threatened with physical control--and probable rape--by a big, stunningly gorgeous hunk, my cock shriveled, and I did whatever was necessary to extricate myself from the situation, because my instinct told me that the thrill was not worth the possible consequences.

[escortrod]

Of course, I can imagine myself playing Blanche to Marlon Brando's Stanley, but the only time I was in a real situation where I was threatened with physical control--and probable rape--by a big, stunningly gorgeous hunk, my cock shriveled, and I did whatever was necessary to extricate myself from the situation, because my instinct told me that the thrill was not worth the possible consequences.

 

This is why I'm reticent to fulfil the rape, beating and similar fantasies that a few of my clients have had. Many have specifically asked me not to stop no matter their protestations, and not to use a safe word. Quite aside from the potential legal liability I couldn't stand to deliberately inflict that sort of psychological pain on someone, even though I'm happy to dish out plenty of physical pain (with appropriate consent).

[whipped guy]

This is why I'm reticent to fulfil the rape, beating and similar fantasies that a few of my clients have had. Many have specifically asked me not to stop no matter their protestations, and not to use a safe word. Quite aside from the potential legal liability I couldn't stand to deliberately inflict that sort of psychological pain on someone, even though I'm happy to dish out plenty of physical pain (with appropriate consent).

Early on I realized that the psychological part... the humiliation... the fear... the degradation... the protestations... the begging for mercy was not for me. Yet I can see how I can be an important component for others and I'm referring to both sides of the BDSM equation.

 

In addition, like many in the BDSM community I went through a phase where I foolishly needed to prove something to myself. I did one session years ago where I needed to show that I could take anything that was thrown at me. I refused to protest or use the safe word and it kept coming and coming. I thought that I was Mr. Tough Guy and would win some sort of prize at the conclusion. When I asked the escort how I did he said, "Well, fair...". So it got me no accolades and I was out of commission for two weeks...

 

Conversely I also learned early on that while being in control as the Dom can give one a tremendous sense of power, I really got no kicks from humiliating the sub or trying to break him. Yes, one on occasion can tactfully ipush a few limits in an unthreatening manner. The pleasure comes from knowing that I am giving my boi what he wants and needs and like escortrod says I am happy to dish it out with consent... However, in a safe and sane manner. Not going for broke and being able to play another day is the best approach in my book.

[Bearofdistinction]

A gorgeous, buff hunk whose acquaintance came my way says he is mainly

into "Fear Play."

 

He is absolutely stunning, physically. He sent ample proof.

 

Here's the catch: he offers to grasp my throat with his muscular young

hands, pressing his muscled body against me, and s..l..o..w..l..y press

against the arteries, but not to cause harm. "It is to get you in my power,"

he writes with detailed passion and vigor. "Eventually you will be mine."

He's really "into" this stuff.

 

I haven't actually met him yet.

 

Would he scare most of you off?

 

NG

 

I find breathing to be one of the True Pleasures of life -- I do it almost constantly and it just keeps getting better.