Last Minute Cancellation? Do I have right to upset?

[+ José Soplanucas]

@madjim , your insistence on making clear that hiring an escort is just business for you sounds a little bit suspicious to me. Not because I would think you are dishonest, but because human psicology is tricky.

I do not think escorting is just a professional contract you can experience objectively and without affection. You are not hiring a lawyer, or a plumber, you are hiring a guy you are sharing intimacy with, a guy you are going to kiss, and lick, and suck, and fuck, and who knows what else. There is always an emotional component in a relationship between escort/client, specially if the chemistry is good. That is why in these forums the veterans always warn the newbies about it. The escort/client experience is more enjoyable and rewarding if we are able to experience that affection without denying it and without misreading it.

You are correct, we do not know you, but we have been enjoying this hobby long enough to recognize some tendencies and commonalities in our very diverse little world. So you may be correct, but there is a change you are in denial. Just double check yourself.

[jjkrkwood]

The reality is I don't feel like a winner. And like another poster said - it was a lose/lose situation.

I don't think a person should respect someone because of money - I think they should respect me when I show respect to them. Which I felt I did sincerely.

 

In ANY business, unless its "not for profit", the motivating factor is always money. Your guy probably just had a good week, didnt need your funding, and made other plans. Fairly simple.

And another thing to remember, which I painfully learned myself is that people do not always think the way you do, or behave in a way you think they should, and do not live by the "do unto others" credo.

[down_to_business]

I don't know about all the psych analysis crap... but when I get stood up by the cable guy I am one pissed off mother fucker!

[jjkrkwood]

I don't know about all the psych analysis crap... but when I get stood up by the cable guy I am one pissed off mother fucker!

 

 

YUP, and not a single person has said the OP shouldnt be pissed. It happened, it will happen again....that's life Period ! I think the members were just offering the perspective the OP asked for.... that's what we do here.

[+ Truereview]

@madjim, please walk away from this thread with your head held high.

But, do please walk away before it further disintegrates into a circus

of folks clobbering you with what you are really (supposedly) feeling.

Sometimes others have no clue what we are feeling.

Sometimes we are not ready to hear what we are feeling.

Only you will know what you are truly feeling.

Sometimes that takes us a while to perceive.

Defending your stance here will only elicit more pushback and

will get you further away from your initial objective: perspective.

I think you've gathered enough perspective on this topic to last you a while!

[+ Eric Hassan]

Hi, I am a regular client with an escort. Who I have recently seen four times in just three weeks. We also had two more dates planned and a weekend trip (2 days) in early December.

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He suggested that we meet up after Thanksgiving because he is house setting and there was a nice soft bed. I hadn't plan on it but decided to because it sounded fun. After moving my plans around to meet up since we planned about a week ahead - he text me fours out saying he was wiped from yesterday and to let's meet the following date that was pre-planned.

 

I got pissed because I went out of my way to meet to have him cancel on me last minute especially when we had all these dates planned. And the reason was he was "wiped out"?!

 

Seriously do I have a right to be pissed and should I cancelled the weekend trip all together?

 

I already cancelled the next date. When I did, he immediately ask if we were still on for the weekend.

 

You have the right to feel however you want.

 

Bear in mind, though - you can be right or you can be happy.

 

You're clearly pissed. There's not a lot of worth in examining whether or not that reaction is "right." You have the right to feel however you want.

 

What can you do to feel happy? Perhaps it means you forgive and forget and keep the weekend appointment. Perhaps you forgive and cancel and choose another escort. Perhaps you tell this guy you were upset by his cancellation and inform him that a second cancellation will be the end of your relationship. Only you know what will make you happy.

[Jock123]

He felt comfortable being honest with you. He said he was really tired. Try to be a little understanding. He isn't a robot or blow up doll.

 

 

Excellent point. He was Honest with You. Which means he feels Comfortable with You. At least It wasnt some BS escuse which we all know is as Vapid and Oversaturated like a Kardashian.

[down_to_business]

Excellent point. He was Honest with You. Which means he feels Comfortable with You. At least It wasnt some BS escuse which we all know is as Vapid and Oversaturated like a Kardashian.

 

And please sir, the honest anonymous escort point of view on your client who calls you 4 hours before your appointment to tell you it's off because he is really tired. No problem, appreciate his honesty? Still feel good about the appointment you have booked with him a few days later? On solid ground for the following weekend?

[Jock123]

And please sir, the honest anonymous escort point of view on your client who calls you 4 hours before your appointment to tell you it's off because he is really tired. No problem, appreciate his honesty? Still feel good about the appointment you have booked with him a few days later? On solid ground for the following weekend?

 

 

Absolutely! It happens. Of course we're talking about a Case by Case basis per client/experience etc.

[madjim]

@madjim, please walk away from this thread with your head held high.

But, do please walk away before it further disintegrates into a circus

of folks clobbering you with what you are really (supposedly) feeling.

Sometimes others have no clue what we are feeling.

Sometimes we are not ready to hear what we are feeling.

Only you will know what you are truly feeling.

Sometimes that takes us a while to perceive.

Defending your stance here will only elicit more pushback and

will get you further away from your initial objective: perspective.

I think you've gathered enough perspective on this topic to last you a while!

Yes I think I have - again - thank for your continue honesty and very clear headed advice.

[instudiocity]

Seriously do I have a right to be pissed and should I cancelled the weekend trip all together?

Wow! What drama.

 

Getting pissed about this situation just depends on why you're paying him.

 

I'm not going to engage in nekkid conduct with anyone in SOMEONE ELSE'S HOUSE, no matter HOW SOFT THEIR BED IS. Operative words here: SOMEONE ELSE'S HOUSE, THEIR BED. I mean, ewww, YUCK!

 

Second, you really DO NOT know the circumstances of this man's cancellation, just the reason he proffered. The homeowners may have come home unexpectedly. His' wiped condition could have more to do with the galloping trots, than physically tired.

 

Third, why are you paying this man? Prescence? I'm not too sure he would have been present if he had kept the date. Activities? see galloping trots. Experience? Why would you want to proceed if he's not up to giving you a great experience.

 

Finally, everyone has a off day. Everyone should be able to adjust their schedule as demands are presented. If he's a good guy you enjoy, just who will you be depriving if you cancel on him in some tit for tat? Oh, wait, you already did.

 

When life gives you lemons, add some water and sweetener and make some lemonade. Do NOT slice them and suck on them, it just turns you into a sour puss.

[rossthebosssf]

@madjim you are a an infant in the world of hiring. As I told you in a a private message, you should be thankful that the escort canceled on you than went through with the appointment and let you down. Judging from your posts, you'd most likely be here complaining about that as well and probably wishing he just canceled. Down the road you're going to have a lot of escorts cancel on you including regulars. Escorts are not slaves nor are they robots. Like us, they have good days and bad days. They get sick, sometimes they can't perform. You need to learn to let go and realize that sex isn't the same thing as pushing pencils at a desk. Though this is a job for them, they won't always be able to fulfill their duties as there's a lot of factors to do their job and you should appreciate an escort who is honest that they can't do the job on a particular day then string you along and take your money. If you like the guy, let it go and enjoy the time you have together.

[jjkrkwood]

@madjim you are a an infant in the world of hiring. As I told you in a a private message, you should be thankful that the escort canceled on you than went through with the appointment and let you down. Judging from your posts, you'd most likely be here complaining about that as well and probably wishing he just canceled. Down the road you're going to have a lot of escorts cancel on you including regulars. Escorts are not slaves nor are they robots. Like us, they have good days and bad days. They get sick, sometimes they can't perform. You need to learn to let go and realize that sex isn't the same thing as pushing pencils at a desk. Though this is a job for them, they won't always be able to fulfill their duties as there's a lot of factors to do their job and you should appreciate an escort who is honest that they can't do the job on a particular day then string you along and take your money. If you like the guy, let it go and enjoy the time you have together.

 

 

Now THAT'S how you school someone... straight and to the point.... no big fancy words to try to impress, no metaphors ....I like it ! The best advice doesn't need to be in a post 5 paragraphs long....