how to react to noshows?

[+ saminseattle]

I am reminded of that line from the George Michael song: “Sometimes you think you’re going to get it. And you don’t. And that’s just the way it goes.”

 

 

Sometimes a “plan B” may work if you can be a little flexible and have done your research ahead of time. Sometimes it won’t. But always remember that occasional disappointments come with the territory here. A no show is disappointing, but it’s not the end of the world.

[DonaldTramp]

For George Michael if you don't have luck in one public bathroom, there is always another one nearby.

[UpDownUnder]

A month ago one of my favorite traveling guys let me down waiting in his hotel lobby. He overslept and would not return my calls. Upset, I called one of my local reliable regulars, two hours later I was playing. Plan B works.

In July I was visiting Buenos Aires. I did my research and had a list of the guys I was interested in. Number one was a poor experience. I walked out in the middle of the session and paid him partially. I called number 2. Bingo. Plan B works.

There are circumstances when plan B is not feasible, like being let down in an apt at 11pm, there is little chance you will find a replacement in such a short time, of course. But plan B is not bull shit.

 

Similar experience. Had an appointment to meet someone after a business dinner in London at 10pm. During the dinner, I got a text from the escort telling me he was going to need to cancel. During a restroom break, I texted one of my regular guys - who didn't even know I was in London - let him know what had happened and asked if he would be able to fill in or recommend somebody who could. He replied, "What time do you want me to meet you and where?" Problem solved.

 

Now granted, things don't always work out that well - especially if the escort no-shows and it's now relatively late at night, but when I make a booking with someone, I typically have an idea of what I would do if the meeting falls through - depending on the circumstances, that might be "jack off while watching porn on my iPad," but sometimes it's to call someone I know or contact one of my other top choices - and hope for the best.

[DMICS]

P.S. Some may argue we have a duty to warn other potential clients of escorts who no-showed on us.

 

I think the answer to that has two parts:

 

I can forgive a one-time no-show. One time I booked a guy who was visiting Boston and advertising on craigslist; I went to his hotel at the appointed time; he didn't answer my repeated calls to both his cell and room phone; after 30 minutes waiting in the lobby bar, I gave up. Six months later he came back to town, put an ad on rentboy, I rebooked, we met and had a good time. It is a stressful business that can clash with normal daily life in several ways, and I for one am happy that there are people willing to try to do it at all.

 

OTOH, if a working guy is a chronic no-shower, he is likely to eventually drive himself out of business, from the expense burden of ads vs. weak income from not showing. Problem solved, QED.

 

Did the Boston guy explain why he no-showed the 1st time?

[AdamSmith]

Did the Boston guy explain why he no-showed the 1st time?

I didn't bring it up. I wanted both of us to have a good time when we did meet. It seems pretty obvious that if I had mentioned his previous no-show, it would have put a damper on the mood.

 

As I said in my first post here, life is too short to carry around toxins like that, much less inject others with them. I was happy to give him a second chance, and in return he gave me a very good time.

 

When we did meet, he seemed like a normal, nice person. As I posted above, it's not difficult to imagine how something or other in his schedule or his day got messed up the first time, made him for whatever reason miss our appointment, then he may well have felt too embarrassed to contact me and explain, possibly a newbie who just didn't know how to handle it or felt a bit overwhelmed by early times of the working-guy experience (his advertising on craigslist the first time, vs. Rentboy the second time six months or so later, especially made me think that may have been the case)...

 

Escorts are people too, and you need to judge when to cut them some slack, and forgive and forget. Certainly not always, but in this situation it seemed merited, and it paid off.

[rocky]

OK, from one who has been "stiffed" by some pretty regular guys here and some others met through craigslist I'm still not sure about Plan B. An example, out of town, having dinner soon, what to have fun and make plans, wait an hour after the meet time and told, stuck in traffic, hey you have a phone. Yesterday, local guy, will be at your place at 6pm no problem. 7 rolls around I text, oh just taking a shower will be there in half an hour, I said nope. Both times I had set aside my time, made plans thta may have included getting together with someone else but it was too late. So know, Plan B not always work and these days if your Plan A doesn't reach you prior to they messing your time up..drop them