Do you say hello to clients on Grindr?

[marylander1940]

Do you say hello to clients on Grindr?

[BryanKnight]

Yes. It is a good idea to acknowledge them and welcome them, because they support you.

If you feel like having a casual personal conversation, go for it.

Keep your boundaries clear (to yourself) and be congenial.

5 minutes of real, authentic human connection can lead to much better business later on.

[Juan Vancouver]

No. I would not acknowledge a client outside of the pre-established means of communication.

 

I have heard of way too many instances of jealous partners who impersonate clients and set out to find out information that can be incriminating for the client.

 

Even if I receive a text message or a call from a client's number asking "Who is this?" I immediately will say I am tech support or whatever random thing and will claim to not know who the caller is, unless the client mentions information that only he and I would know, and even then, I would proceed with caution.

 

If someone says he is a client on any other media than the pre-determined means of communication I will ask him to contact me through the correct avenue.

 

It's more discrete, but also keeps boundaries clear. My personal time and my personal enjoyment of websites, apps or physical places has to be clearly separated from my doing business and or doing publicity for my business. I personally believe that having to be on all the time is very unhealthy.

 

If I am having to have 20 minutes small talk conversation with 20 clients a day while working on the clients I am actually seeing, Iwill not be focused on the people I am with. My work demands that I am one hundred percent present, focused, relaxed and rested when I am with my clients, so I have to be conscious of my energy and I have to manage it wisely.

[Maximus69]

I don't know if its just me but I don't use grindr in order to meet clients. It's just a very public platform versus rentmen. With grindr being used for sex,dates and friendship, I feel like some users will play games with you if you know your escorting and will be looked down upon. I prefer rentmen versus other apps as its only catered to escorts/clients, so you know if a person contacts you he is at least somewhat serious about hiring you lol

[Mocha]

Yes. It is a good idea to acknowledge them and welcome them, because they support you.

If you feel like having a casual personal conversation, go for it.

Keep your boundaries clear (to yourself) and be congenial.

5 minutes of real, authentic human connection can lead to much better business later on.

 

That's a great way to approach it, in theory. However...I agree with Juan's post. You might end up being so friendly that they try to get for free.

 

Seems more and more clients are confessing using (I'm just gonna bleep the word out) G*****. But alas, still no pennies made from the site. G***** execs are too scaredy cat to approve escorting ads. Shame because I believe it would do very well. But, it's pointless to try and work around it because one usually ends up flagged or reported.

 

I've had the occasional client hit me up after a session on the grind, but like Juan says it generally goes past personal conversation and turns into an all day marathon.

 

Off topic...many clients you just can't get too close to. Friendly and cordial should only last the duration they're paying you. I've developed a close open-friendship kind of arrangement with a client, and I'm learning he's a fucking bastard imbecile who's slightly sociopathic in public and towards me sometimes. However, he's also a nice generous guy about 50% of the time.

 

Fortunently and unfortunently, many of the good clients are generally not on Grindr and usually have their own lives to contend with outside of sexual pursuits.

[cany10011]

Two weeks ago, I was in Porto, outside Lisbon, for a few days and was propositioned via my Grindr profile by many youngish students for sex for $ as they knew I was a tourist there. Only 50 euros. Very cute guys.

[marylander1940]

I don't know if its just me but I don't use grindr in order to meet clients. It's just a very public platform versus rentmen. With grindr being used for sex,dates and friendship, I feel like some users will play games with you if you know your escorting and will be looked down upon. I prefer rentmen versus other apps as its only catered to escorts/clients, so you know if a person contacts you he is at least somewhat serious about hiring you lol

 

That wasn't the question but thank you for posting!

 

One day I visited an escort in a Downtown hotel, as usual I arrived a few mins ealier and waited for him in the lobby. I opened up my Grindr to kill sometime and I saw his face picture and his profile saying he was visiting town and looking for fun late at night when he was "done with work"... My profile also has a clear face picture of me but there was no way for him to know I was the client going to visit him.

 

I went upstairs, had fun, paid and left.

 

A few mins later while waiting for uber I texted him on Grindr saying: "I hope you'll have fun tonight with one of the many millennials who live in the city". The guy blocked me...

 

I would never hire him again! I can't stand attitude!

[marylander1940]

Two weeks ago, I was in Porto, outside Lisbon, for a few days and was propositioned via my Grindr profile by many youngish students for sex for $ as they knew I was a tourist there. Only 50 euros. Very cute guys.

 

A friend had a similar situation in Michigan, all of the sudden young guys were either blocking him or asking for money.

[+ Truereview]

Yes. It is a good idea to acknowledge them and welcome them, because they support you.

If you feel like having a casual personal conversation, go for it.

Keep your boundaries clear (to yourself) and be congenial.

5 minutes of real, authentic human connection can lead to much better business later on.[/QUOTE]

Although I stopped using these apps years ago bc they are annoying to me, I like your approach a lot, and I would be very much tempted to say "hi!" to you. I'm not saying other approaches are wrong, but what I like about your approach is that it is multi-dimensional - you don't see the client as an object for biz only, but as a full being worthy of your attention regardless of how broken he or his life is. You approach seems trusting - which is a big plus for some clients. I like the fact that you are willing to draw a line but not lose sight of the care your service renders. Kudos!