Thoughts on younger clients

[musicalsoul]

Hi There,

 

I'm new to this thread, although I've been reading all of your wonderful posts for a long time! Happy to be joining the community .

 

I wanted to hear from escorts in regards to younger clients. I've only hired escorts a couple of times, and I've gotten some weird reactions from them because of my age (I'm 32). The truth is, I just worked over a year to lose a significant amount of weight (80 pounds). Prior to losing the weight, I felt insecure and that coupled with my own extreme shyness I have very little experience with men. Now that I am feeling a bit more confident in myself, I decided that I wanted to hired a couple of escorts over the next year so that I can gain more experience in a space that feels more safe. However, the few experiences I've had have left me feeling weird about hiring again - one escort didn't believe me when I said I wasn't experienced because apparently some clients say this as a fantasy, and also said he feels uncomfortable being hired by someone who is relatively young (although I don't think 32 is THAT young), and the other said I really should be saving my money because I don't need to be hiring escorts. It makes me feel nervous that I will be judged if I try it again

 

Being that it would be not very smart and unfair for me to use these two experiences as a basis for all escorts, I thought I would use this forum to ask -- is it weird for escorts to be hired by someone who is close to their age? Does this matter to you, typically? I realize that, in the future, I can be very upfront about it as it will likely be an individual preference, but as I respect some of the responses I've seen on here, I thought I would ask to see what you had to say.

[dlee02]

Im not an escort. I'm 36 (but have been told I don't look a day over 30 - bless my Asian genes), and have been hiring for several years. I have never encountered any escort not willing to book an appointment with me because of my age.

 

I always disclose my age range/ethnicity/preferences when I book to ensure a good match and no surprises. I've never had anyone reject me specifically because of my age.

 

I've had my fair share of bad hiring experiences especially when I first started but none was due to my age either.

 

If anyone did comment on my age, it was always in a positive light, in no way condescending or negative.

 

I tend to stick with my regulars now so I'm not sure if this is a newer trend? IMHO, if the escort is a true professional, they shouldn't make those kinds of comments. They definitely shouldn't make you feel judged.

 

Others may have different thoughts but this is interesting to me because I've never thought that this could be an issue. I guess I always first worry that I'd be rejected because I'm Asian...

[Juan Vancouver]

So sorry to hear you have encountered that.

 

Your age is pretty average for the kind of clients I get. Some are much younger, some are such older, but I would not even think it commenting on 32. Truth is I would not think of commenting on any age older than 19.

 

No, this is not representative of how all escorts will deal with this. You got a few bad apples but the tree is pretty big and it's heavy with fruit.

 

I would sincerely recommend not allowing other people's opinion to get you in your head and start over-thinking about this. If you are certain for the reasons for which you want to hire, just try to find an escort who will either understand this, or at least won't share with you whatever his opinion on the subject might be.

 

Do your research. Don't hire the hottest at this point, try to find an empathetic, experienced, well reviewed escort who might see himself as a healer of sorts. This kind of escort might be able to provide for a much more fulfilling experience.

 

Wishing you much success in the future!

[musicalsoul]

Thanks guys!

[Rod Hagen]

I've seen 18 year old and 88 year old clients. No need to stress. Good escorts, I Hate to use this cliche, "Don't see age".

 

I love that you think of yourself as young at 32. Because you are. But when my friends and I were in our late 20s, much less our 30s, we felt as if life had passed us by.

[mike carey]

I certainly thought I was young at 32, but I am no longer 32. Guys like Rod saying that age is not an issue are immensely reassuring.

[+ glennnn]

It's always good to hear from Rod! It doesn't happen often enough. His cool, common sense is appreciated. I think it is part of the charm that makes him a top escort.

[+ glennnn]

@musicalsoul

I'm not an escort either, and I'm at the other end of the client age spectrum from you. My experiences have been great through the guidance of our friends here on the forum. Many of us would be happy to recommend the kind of escort suggested by @Juan Vancouver above. Where are you? What cities do you visit? Give us some specifics of what you are seeking. As Juan said, "the tree is heavy with fruit." Allow us to help you pick and devour the perfect one on your branch. The review feature here is great, but a personal teste-moanial is even better.

[BasketBaller]

My first time hiring I was 32, and I was very upfront about why I was inexperienced. I'm sure I told the escort (John from Atlanta) way more than he needed to know! But he was cool and understanding. One thing is that I almost always have hired guys around my own age, just a preference. So he was also early 30s. I guess a lot of clients say they're new to gay sex but I really was. Never had kissed a guy, or even touched one erotically. When he kissed me I was surprised by the roughness of his face, I'd never even thought about what a man's face is like. When I told him (after some serious kissing) he smiled and told me that was just the first surprise I had in store. He led me through it all, and each step of the way was a revelation to me.

[killianjamesnyc]

I think its wise, awesome and impressive that a younger person can be in a position to hire and probably has realized using the apps is largely a waste of time and way more often than not will lead to disappointment.

[dlee02]

You can also refer to this thread...

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/what-age-are-you-most-hired-by-hire.116301/

 

There are some interesting responses from escorts regarding the age of their clients.

 

Quote:

Ive posted on a Similar topic before but I get hired by ALOT of Younger guys(They do exist...at least In my town) I think people In general are over the App's. Its a Laundry list of questions...with usually doesnt result in meeting someone.

 

Youngest has been 19(Met him at his dorm...Yes a dorm) Oldest was 82. The 82 Year old was one of my Favorites. Sadly he passed not too long ago. I was lucky to know him, great guy.

[musicalsoul]

You can also refer to this thread...

 

http://www.companyofmen.org/threads/what-age-are-you-most-hired-by-hire.116301/

 

There are some interesting responses from escorts regarding the age of their clients.

 

Quote:

 

Thanks! Yeah, I tried to find another thread before posting my own as not to bother, but I guess I didn't use a good enough search term.

[musicalsoul]

I've seen 18 year old and 88 year old clients. No need to stress. Good escorts, I Hate to use this cliche, "Don't see age".

 

I love that you think of yourself as young at 32. Because you are. But when my friends and I were in our late 20s, much less our 30s, we felt as if life had passed us by.

 

I don't necessarily think of 32 as young, but I am loving being in my 30's! . That statement was more based on the reaction that I have gotten.

[racovnik]

Hi Everyone. Found this forum a month ago and was just reading posts and reviews. I saw this topic yesterday and figured I participate in the forums, at least for this topic.

I'm 28 from LA. I've been thinking of hiring and was also wondering if age is an issue... I talked to my friend about my plans. She was suprised why I would choose to hire instead of hunting on grindr. She said I was too young and I should go out instead. She said a bunch more stuff that after 10 minutes of her talking it started to sound like a rant.

I've had few really good experiences on grindr. By few, I meant 2 good hookups. The rest were very uninspiring, rushed, and just wasnt good.

I just want to have good sex. Like really really good sex. Like 2-3 hours of good sex. That should last me another 2 years of bad hookups.

[BasketBaller]

I've had few really good experiences on grindr. By few, I meant 2 good hookups. The rest were very uninspiring, rushed, and just wasnt good.

I just want to have good sex. Like really really good sex. Like 2-3 hours of good sex. That should last me another 2 years of bad hookups.

 

I haven't done the app thing yet, but after I started having sex with men I did connect occasionally via craigslist. I had some okay times and met some cool guys (and some not so cool) but frankly, the sex was too often disappointing. So many guys finish too fast and are done, I understand now why women complain! By paying attention to reviews I've been able to hire guys who'll give me what I want, much more satisfying. I'm not seeking a relationship tight now, until my kids are in college at least. �So for me, for now, hiring is the way to go.

 

Your friend may mean well but I think you should do what you think works for you and not worry about what anyone else thinks.

[dlee02]

I haven't done the app thing yet, but after I started having sex with men I did connect occasionally via craigslist. I had some okay times and met some cool guys (and some not so cool) but frankly, the sex was too often disappointing. So many guys finish too fast and are done, I understand now why women complain! By paying attention to reviews I've been able to hire guys who'll give me what I want, much more satisfying. I'm not seeking a relationship tight now, until my kids are in college at least. �So for me, for now, hiring is the way to go.

 

Your friend may mean well but I think you should do what you think works for you and not worry about what anyone else thinks.

 

+10000

[inthepit3]

I'm in my 20s and hired an escort earlier this year in LA. He was very friendly and didn't give the impression that my age was an issue at all. I think the escorts you chose were unfortunate, an escort who truly understands his profession would never dissuade you or disparage your reasons for hiring. He would avoid any critique of your behavior or appearance, as he knows that many clients are coming with issues of self-esteem, body consciousness and the like.

 

If you have conviction in the reasons you are hiring an escort then you can avoid any negative thoughts and feelings that arise from the experience. I did it primarily because I was looking for an amazing, luxurious experience rather than an average/disappointing app hook-up, and I got what I wanted. So I would recommend to racovnik to seek an escort if that's the experience he's looking for.

[+ Eric Hassan]

Hi Everyone. Found this forum a month ago and was just reading posts and reviews. I saw this topic yesterday and figured I participate in the forums, at least for this topic.

I'm 28 from LA. I've been thinking of hiring and was also wondering if age is an issue... I talked to my friend about my plans. She was suprised why I would choose to hire instead of hunting on grindr. She said I was too young and I should go out instead. She said a bunch more stuff that after 10 minutes of her talking it started to sound like a rant.

I've had few really good experiences on grindr. By few, I meant 2 good hookups. The rest were very uninspiring, rushed, and just wasnt good.

I just want to have good sex. Like really really good sex. Like 2-3 hours of good sex. That should last me another 2 years of bad hookups.

 

Sounds like she needs to get laid worse than you do.

 

In all seriousness, it sounds like you have a positive mindset for hiring - namely, that you're interested in having exactly the experience you want, when you want it, and you see the value and benefit of hiring. You may have heard many disparaging comments about escorts and, unfortunately, now you've heard some of the bullshit that gets tossed around about those who choose to hire. I hope you choose to make your own decisions and not allow someone else's fearful stories cloud your thinking.

[beachboy]

Hi Everyone. Found this forum a month ago and was just reading posts and reviews. I saw this topic yesterday and figured I participate in the forums, at least for this topic.

I'm 28 from LA. I've been thinking of hiring and was also wondering if age is an issue... I talked to my friend about my plans. She was suprised why I would choose to hire instead of hunting on grindr. She said I was too young and I should go out instead. She said a bunch more stuff that after 10 minutes of her talking it started to sound like a rant.

I've had few really good experiences on grindr. By few, I meant 2 good hookups. The rest were very uninspiring, rushed, and just wasnt good.

I just want to have good sex. Like really really good sex. Like 2-3 hours of good sex. That should last me another 2 years of bad hookups.

Find yourself an escort who floats your boat, check out reviews & comments on this forum then book him for 2 hours & let him rock your world with the best downright horny sex you've ever had. That's what the good guys will want to do for you & you'll love it! Its your life, your body & your choice & don't let anybody influence you in missing out on the most mindblowingly hot raunchy time. Just keep us informed how it goes cos we're all rooting for you!

[mike carey]

@racovnik, the comments you received from your friend sound as if they were based on sex-negative ideas that payment for sex implies some sort of exploitation of sex workers, something that has a degree of plausibility, even if that is misplaced plausibility when it's about female sex workers, but which makes no sense if they are male. As @Eric Hassan said, hiring takes out the uncertainty that there is with a random hook-up. It doesn't mean it will go well but if you are careful in selecting your partner, the odds are that it will.

 

This site, and the associated reviews give you a great opportunity to audition some men and receive feedback from their previous customers. It also gives you the opportunity to chat with, flirt with and otherwise engage with some of the amazing men who offer there services. Some of them are more than happy to chat without the immediate prospect of your hiring them. Maybe you can just go out and hook up, but I would suggest that you go ahead and engage with some men here who take your fancy and disregard your friend's reservations.

[+ Truereview]

I think age has little to do with hiring. Hiring, to me, is about motive. At 38, I'm no spring chicken. However, my first hire was at 19, and I blew my whole monthly college dorm food stipend on a high-end luxury escort just so that I could learn some of his skills. I escorted thru my undergrad and grad school years. Most of the guys who hired me (young and old) had vast array of motives: lack of good sex at home, self-image issues, sex addiction, discovering their homosexual tendencies, experimentation, seeking a confidence boost, etc.

 

Once I got into my career in my mid 20s, my BF (who became my husband) & I hired for fun. We were happy together, but enjoyed sharing our sexual chemistry with professionals who would add another element of spice. After my partnered died, I went celibate for about a year. My dick would just not get hard until my friends hired me a sweetheart of an escort who charmed me into coming back to the world of the sexual living. I then (around 27) began hiring to rediscover my appetite for intimacy. I discovered that my motive for hiring wasn't that I was a horny late twenty-something, but that I needed to learn again what emotional intimacy was about. In my 30s, my career took off dramatically, and my motive turned into convenience. I could not afford to play online hookup games.

 

To this day, my time is the most precious commodity. I'm a master at multi-tasking and work very smart. I'm known to be the producer in my company, but, when it comes to sex...I have to be fully focused for it to be good. I don't do mediocre sex well. Today, my motive for hiring is quality, emotionally-charged, high chemistry sex. Im beginning to find that providers who can render that product are far and few between. This phenomenon is helping me realize that I'm ready (finally) for another long term relationship - hopefully one without a tragic end. My motive for hiring will once again change, but not bc of my age, but bc, like everything else: my life is not about my age but my circumstances and personal drivers.

[mike carey]

Well said, @Truereview!

[beachboy]

I think age has little to do with hiring. Hiring, to me, is about motive. At 38, I'm no spring chicken. However, my first hire was at 19, and I blew my whole monthly college dorm food stipend on a high-end luxury escort just so that I could learn some of his skills. I escorted thru my undergrad and grad school years. Most of the guys who hired me (young and old) had vast array of motives: lack of good sex at home, self-image issues, sex addiction, discovering their homosexual tendencies, experimentation, seeking a confidence boost, etc.

 

Once I got into my career in my mid 20s, my BF (who became my husband) hired for fun. We eere happy together, but enjoyed sharing our sexual chemistry with professionals who would add another element of spice. After my partnered died, I went celibate for about a year. My dick would just not get hard until my friends hired me a sweetheart of an escort who charmed me into coming back to the world of the sexual living. I then (around 27) began hiring to rediscover my appetite for intimacy. I discovered that my motive for hiring wasn't that I was a horny late twenty-something, but that I needed to learn again what emotional intimacy was about. In my 30s, my career took off dramatically, and my motive turned into convenience. I could not afford to play online hookup games.

 

To this day, my time is the most precious commodity. I'm a master at multi-tasking and work very smart. I'm known to be the producer in my company, but, when it comes to sex...I have to be fully focused for it to be good. I don't do mediocre sex well. Today, my motive for hiring is quality, emotionally-charged, high chemistry sex. Im beginning to find that providers who can render that product are far and few between. This phenomenon is helping me realize that I'm ready (finally) for another long term relationship - hopefully one without a tragic end. My motive for hiring will once again change, but not bc of my age, but bc, like everything else: my life is not about my age but my circumstances and personal drivers.

Wise words my friend. It's an honour to know you. Hugs

[marylander1940]

I think its wise, awesome and impressive that a younger person can be in a position to hire and probably has realized using the apps is largely a waste of time and way more often than not will lead to disappointment.

 

I think there's a little bit of Grindr fatigue going on...

 

In good old manhunt you had to sit and spend time for a reason, now you can just walk around, work do anything else while you're on Grindr... More and more young guys keep saying it's a waste of time sending messages and waiting for a reply. Maybe young guys might go back to meet in a bar.

[racovnik]

I think age has little to do with hiring.

I think... And I've been thinking since yesterday. Lol. It's less about the age but more of my overall self-image issues and my tendency to hyper focus on what people thinks (which also include what the escort will think about me). Of course at the end of the day, what others think or say doesnt matter but its such a challenge to overcome that habit when its something I struggled growing up and still at times have to deal with.

 

My friend means well and she can be very naive at times. Her view of sex is somewhat overly romanticized. To her a good fuck comes hand in hand with a romantic relationship which i dont want right now. I just want the boyfriend experience (just recently learned what it means) without the actual boyfriend.

 

This is so new to me. I only found out about this recently when I read an article about the RNC convention and rentmen. I've always thought that hiring escorts are somewhat of a cloack-and-dagger business. I didnt expect it to be this accessible. Which shouldnt really surprise me considering how technology and culture have advanced.

 

Yes I will be hiring. I'm just having a hard time choosing... Also, I feel awkward about asking what the escort can and can't do. In grindr Im used to asking what we both want to do but here I have to ask them what they can do for me. I don't think I'm making sense... Sigh. Will it be really silly if I ask an escort to slow dance with me? I gave a guy head behind 7/11 but never slow danced with one. Lol.

 

Shit this end up being too long. Btw, this forum is awesome! I even like drama here and there.