Fun with no anal

[HeyandHello]

Hey guys, this is my first big post here. I am very inexperienced so I apologize for any ridiculous thoughts. So, I was wondering if it is possible and common for people to have a mind-blowing overnight with someone without without engaging in anal intercourse. I usually find bottomming very painful, and, on the other end of the game, I am not particularly well endowed (small-average range). Any advice?

[Rudynate]

Simple. You hire somebody you like for an overnight and you stipulate "no anal."

[liubit]

Welcome to the forum @HeyandHello. There are no "ridiculous thoughts", different opinions only enrich the discussion.

 

I rarely engage in anal with the escorts I see. Many reasons to that, first and foremost because hot oral activity is what turns me on, and anal can be tricky. Like I posted in another thread, fucking is not essential, kissing is. And believe me, many escorts are happy when you say "no anal".

[HeyandHello]

Hey @liubit , thanks for the welcome I totally agree with you. Kissing is a must!

[+ glennnn]

Welcome, @HeyandHello! I hope you gain as much from the forum as I have. I've been a member here for just under a year. In that time, I've learned that anal penetration is just not for me. I long to have the mind-blowing bottom sex that others have, but it probably isn't going to happen. I too find it mostly painful. I still love all oral sex- cock sucking, tea bagging and rimming, and when I add kissing, hugging, hand jobs and frottage........ Well, I'm a very satisfied guy. You are in charge of your sex life. Be open and honest with your escort and ask for what feels good. He will provide.

[gallahadesquire]

Agreed. i don't particularly like anal [from "either end"] but kissing, other oral ... YUMMMM!

 

So if you don't like it, don't do it. You're in the drivers seat.

 

You might want to get yourself a toy (dildo / butt plug) and see what that does for you.

[Becket]

Ditto. Enjoy what you enjoy. Then find a guy who you learn to trust and 'stretch' your boundaries a bit. That's the cool thing about this hobby: You get to try things you may be unsure about, with someone who won't judge or criticize you....usually.

[+ Keith30309]

Hey guys, this is my first big post here. I am very inexperienced so I apologize for any ridiculous thoughts. So, I was wondering if it is possible and common for people to have a mind-blowing overnight with someone without without engaging in anal intercourse. I usually find bottomming very painful (maybe due to an autoimmune disease), and, on the other end of the game, I am not particularly well endowed (small-average range). Any advice?

Welcome to the forum H&H!

[whipped guy]

H&H... First a hearty welcome. You found the right place to get advice! Absolutely no need to apologize!

 

I have made it no secret that anal is not my thing. I have jokingly posted that I am on the "I do it once in every five years" plan and since I did it twice in 2015 I'm good to the year 2025!

 

Seriously, there is such a wide range of activities that can bring one sexual pleasure from fat free vanilla to the wildest forms of kink. Somewhere in that range you will find your niche, or better yet you might decide to try it all and have the time of your life experimenting. Of course, I did it backwards and started with the kink and gradually realized that at times a bit of simple vanilla cuddling can really knock one's socks off! Many a good escort is well versed in all sorts of non-anal skills. In fact many say that the number of their non-anal clients would surprise many. Just communicate your desires to the escort and if you are not totally sure many of the best guys out there often can figure out what you need before you even know it yourself!

 

So best of luck and remember that there is no wrong way... the way that you like to do it is what's right!

[+ Truereview]

Welcome @HeyandHello. Agree with much of what has been said. There is so much more you can do without penetration, but keep in mind that being small-endowed doesn't mean you cant please your partner. Some of my best fucks have been with smaller guys who worked me from every angle. With that said, I will assume you want absolutely no topping or bottoming, so the following is a starter list and these should be reciprocal, mutual; and keep in mind that reading your partner's responses is critical. Full service escorts would likely meet all of these. If you can't figure out if he or you are enjoying it, communicate and redirect if needed.

1. Flirting : Arousing the mind can be extremely erotic and begins to set the mood for further exploration
   
2. Touching: I'm not talking heavy petting, but putting your hands or fingertips on each other or sitting closely
   
3. Kissing: lightly, gently building to exploratory and hungry deep exchanges
   
4. Massage : giving each other a chance to read and know each other's curves and turns
   
5. Nips: kiss, lick, and savor them, and with permission begin to gently torture them
   
6. Feet: if you haven't massaged feet or had them massaged and then worshipped, you haven't lived. Try it
   
7. Balls: breathe soothingly over them, then tease them with your tongue, light pulling with your mouth
   
8. The ass: you don't have to fuck it to enjoy it. Eating a man's ass can be pleasing to both partners if done with passion, desire, open-mindedness. Remember, an ass is not just the anus
   
9. Blowjobs: there are a bizillion positions to explore and they all give different sensations & pleasures
   
10. Mutual mastubartion: again, can be done in so many ways and if you connect with your partner well, you can have orgasms as intense or better than penetration
    

[beachboy]

Welcome @HeyandHello. Agree with much of what has been said. There is so much more you can do without penetration, but keep in mind that being small-endowed doesn't mean you cant please your partner. Some of my best fucks have been with smaller guys who worked me from every angle. With that said, I will assume you want absolutely no topping or bottoming, so the following is a starter list and these should be reciprocal, mutual; and keep in mind that reading your partner's responses is critical. Full service escorts would likely meet all of these. If you can't figure out if he or you are enjoying it, communicate and redirect if needed.

1. Flirting : Arousing the mind can be extremely erotic and begins to set the mood for further exploration
   
2. Touching: I'm not talking heavy petting, but putting your hands or fingertips on each other or sitting closely
   
3. Kissing: lightly, gently building to exploratory and hungry deep exchanges
   
4. Massage : giving each other a chance to read and know each other's curves and turns
   
5. Nips: kiss, lick, and savor them, and with permission begin to gently torture them
   
6. Feet: if you haven't massaged feet or had them massaged and then worshipped, you haven't lived. Try it
   
7. Balls: breathe soothingly over them, then tease them with your tongue, light pulling with your mouth
   
8. The ass: you don't have to fuck it to enjoy it. Eating a man's ass can be pleasing to both partners if done with passion, desire, open-mindedness. Remember, an ass is not just the anus
   
9. Blowjobs: there are a bizillion positions to explore and they all give different sensations & pleasures
   
10. Mutual mastubartion: again, can be done in so many ways and if you connect with your partner well, you can have orgasms as intense or better than penetration
    

So sensitively put True & so right.

[+ glennnn]

Go True! The one thing I still want to try, before I give up on bottoming completely, is a top with a smaller cock. This seems counter intuitive based on the common wisdom that "bigger is better", but the prostate is only a few inches inside the anus, so prostate stimulation doesn't necessitate a cock bigger than 4 or 5 inches. What I want is to be taken, passionately, but comfortably, face to face, by a loving man. Unfortunately, a big cock is pretty standard in the escort world. I'm in So Cal, so if anyone has suggestions for an escort more modestly endowed let me know. It might be most discretely communicated in a PM. Don't want to blow anyone's cover!

[+ glennnn]

P. S. What' s the term for the sexual practice of sliding a cock between the thighs of the bottom rather than penetrating?

[+ quoththeraven]

P. S. What' s the term for the sexual practice of sliding a cock between the thighs of the bottom rather than penetrating?

 

Intercrural intercourse is one term, although there are others.

[AdamSmith]

Here is an interesting resource:

 

http://man2manalliance.org/

 

I dislike their basic message and rhetoric. But a potentially useful catalog of male-to-male alternatives to penetrative sex.

[MikeyGMin]

Only one word of caution. Unless you are really into servicing guys you may want to be extra communicative with someone who advertises as a Straight Top. I rarely go "there" myself and I have come across a couple guys, who once I took their specialty off the table, became a little unsure of what they were supposed to do. I have no problem taking charge for an hour or two, but I'm not sure it would be great overnight chemistry.

[+ nycman]

I'm sorry but anal is mandatory.

 

Next time please read the Daddy's Club "Book of Rules" before posting?

 

Grin

[AdamSmith]

After seeing the thread title several times over, 'fun with no anal' starts to sound like an anagram for something that would be really nasty & hot.

[Rudynate]

Here is an interesting resource:

 

http://man2manalliance.org/

 

I dislike their basic message and rhetoric. But a potentially useful catalog of male-to-male alternatives to penetrative sex.

 

 

You should see some of them. I frequent a board where a number of those guys hang out - remarkable studs.

 

If it was all I ever did, frottage and mutual jacking off would quickly get boring, but as an occasional thing, they're great.

[whipped guy]

After seeing the thread title several times over, 'fun with no anal' starts to sound like an anagram for something that would be really nasty & hot.

 

LOL! Leave it to Mr. Smith to be the first to discover that little secret that many have kept to themselves for so many years!

[Becket]

Here is an interesting resource:

 

http://man2manalliance.org/

 

I dislike their basic message and rhetoric. But a potentially useful catalog of male-to-male alternatives to penetrative sex.

 

Lordy what a grandiose exercise in pompous phallic prose. And the 'all caps' font in bright red. Gave me a headache. I'll try to wade through this after a few drinks.

[Rudynate]

Lordy what a grandiose exercise in pompous phallic prose. And the 'all caps' font in bright read. Gave me a headache. I'll try to wade through this after a few drinks.

 

 

It's sort of a fire-in-the-belly male bonding that includes tame man-on-man eroticism. They tend to be really into anything conventionally manly or masculine - hunting, building furniture, big trucks, paintball etc, etc. They loudly proclaim that they are not "gay" and despise anything that they don't see as manly or masculine.

[dlee02]

One of my favorite porn clips from my teenage porn perusing days... Watch til the end, it's worth every minute, and no anal at all...:D:D

 

http://m.xhamster.com/movies/2308841/hot_cocks_frotting.html

 

Excuse me while I go jerk off now... :p:p

[+ Truereview]

P. S. What' s the term for the sexual practice of sliding a cock between the thighs of the bottom rather than penetrating?

 

Intercrural intercourse is one term, although there are others.

Thank the Greeks for non-penetrative sex (intercrural). By the way, careful with the inner thighs...they chafe rather easily (ahem).

http://www.laits.utexas.edu/ancienthomosexuality/images/0102280012.jpg

[dlee02]

Found another one:

 

http://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=1267757955

 

More "current" and "realistic" than the other link I posted... but every bit as hot, if not hotter... It's beautifully shot (pun intended )