Two Dumb Questions on etiquette

[Edward]

How do you greet a new hire that you have never met. Hand shake? Hug? Or a Kiss? How do you initiate play? Or do you let him. I know play it by ear but I would like to know what is appropriate?

[LivingnLA]

Well, since I as a client only now ever meet for the first time in a public place--usually a coffee shop, bar or restaurant--it's typically how I'd meet any other person for the first time: eye contact, smile, and a firm handshake. If we agree to go somewhere private, then "play initiation" depends on what we've discussed. For example, if I'm looking for an aggressive guy to take what he wants, well then I'd expect that to happen behind that closed door.

[Juan Vancouver]

There is absolutely no industry standard. My guess is because this is not an industry, but a transaction between two human beings. There are no rules written because we are all different, we all have different degrees of comfort and different warming up speeds.

 

Clients here go from rapy ("As soon as the door opens, make sure you grab the back of his head, push it against yours and thrust your tongue as deep into his head as it is possible... if he doesn't like that, send him packing" {this was an actual piece of advise written on this site. [shudders]}), to demurely ineffective ("I just sat there listening to him speak about his girlfriend for the two hours the session lasted... he then packed up and left. I had paid on arrival")

 

Avoid extremes. This is a human being, not a well trained, well oiled machine. You are not a machine either. You might discover that with some guys you might need a bit more time to warm up, whereas with others you can go from zero to Nero in 8 seconds. My recommendation is to learn to listen carefully; to yourself AND to your partner. Once you feel ready for something, suggest with an action, it could be further closeness, a caress, bodies touching. What I often find helps a lot to break the distance between two strangers is a slow hug, full bodied, relaxed, with hands gently caressing. Not sexual, just helping each other become familiar with closeness.

 

Entering someone else's personal space is a gift. If someone is welcoming you into his or her space, honour this with respect and gentleness. A lot of people think they are entitled to invade their escort's personal space, but no amount of money will heal the distaste of someone being aggressive on you. I promise you, if you show up respectfully and kindly and gently introduce each other into further proximity, you will be rewarded with passionate trust and a closeness that is impossible to fake.

 

Respect, listen, negotiate and be treated like a beautiful equal with whom your partner is sharing passionately.

 

or

 

Invade, thrust, force, feel entitled and be tolerated by an uncomfortable partner who wants this to end.

 

 

With the way you encounter intimacy you have the power to steer the session on either direction. If that is not power, I don't know what power is!

[liubit]

When I lived in New York, I always hosted. I then greeted my first-time hires with a handshake and a very friendly hug as I opened my door. My repeated hires, with a kiss. Never had a problem with that.

[+ harey]

Nothing dumb about asking. I love that we can discuss topics like escort etiquette so openly. This new century is fabulous.

[alexslaveboy]

My rule is simple

First meeting for me and a new escort is public place so it's a handshake with eye contact

 

Repeat escorts who come to my home are greeted with a hug hello and goodbye

 

I am a muscle worship with mild domination & wrestling hirer so no BFE for me!

 

therfore no kissing as I tend to fall for someone too fast when good kissing is involved!

[LADoug1]

I met with an escort who the first thing he did was to grab me and kiss me VERY deeply. Not my preference. Always wondered if he was making sure I wasn't law enforcement. I prefer to treat escorts as normal new acquaintances. A handshake, maybe a hug, and a simple "how are you?"

[mattr]

Looking into my eyes and a kiss that starts slowly and becomes a little more insistent sets the right mood for me.

[Becket]

Just don't grab his dick first thing. That's tacky.

[Rudynate]

When a guy and I first meet, I like to give him a nice, close hug. Whatever happens, after that, happens.

[Bearofdistinction]

How do you greet a new hire that you have never met. Hand shake? Hug? Or a Kiss? How do you initiate play? Or do you let him. I know play it by ear but I would like to know what is appropriate?

 

I take his leash and pull him in slowly yet forcefully while looking directly and deeply into his eye - as I pull his leash and collar

down towards my cock --

[sincitymix]

i tell the guy beforehand that i want him to make the first move..

[LADoug1]

There is also proper etiquette regarding seeing clients out. I had one escort who just said goodbye and expected me to just let myself out. He didn't follow me to the door. Not cool and it said something about his negative feelings about clients and escorting.

[killianjamesnyc]

I say "Hey, great to see you, let me grab you a bottle of water, take a seat make yourself at home, ill be right back." Comes back. "So hows your day so far?" Assuming the answer is "good." "Awesome, lets go in the other room, get naked and make it even better." So we get naked and make it even better based on the convo we had prior. No need to stress and overcomplicate, when that can simply be overcome with social graces and hospitality.

[mike carey]

There is also proper etiquette regarding seeing clients out. I had one escort who just said goodbye and expected me to just let myself out. He didn't follow me to the door. Not cool and it said something about his negative feelings about clients and escorting.

I would say that is common courtesy, not just part of a client-escort relationship. I have friends whom I would ask to see themselves out, others I would not, others still I would want to ensure left the premises without touching anything!

[mike carey]

I say "Hey, great to see you, let me grab you a bottle of water, take a seat make yourself at home, ill be right back." Comes back. "So hows your day so far?" Assuming the answer is "good." "Awesome, lets go in the other room, get naked and make it even better." So we get naked and make it even better based on the convo we had prior.

Lol, that would work, Killian!!

[LADoug1]

I would say that is common courtesy, not just part of a client-escort relationship. I have friends whom I would ask to see themselves out, others I would not, others still I would want to ensure left the premises without touching anything!

Your courtesy is for your friends. Escorting is a business. One wouldn't ask a client (not a friend) to see themselves out.

[killianjamesnyc]

Your courtesy is for your friends. Escorting is a business. One wouldn't ask a client (not a friend) to see themselves out.

 

I totaly agree. Its called ESCORTING. Its a verb. You escort them in and then escort them out. Its good manners, a way to make sure no one walked off with ANOTHER cock ring and true to the title. Being any other way is just a hooker

[+ Keith30309]

I say "Hey, great to see you, let me grab you a bottle of water, take a seat make yourself at home, ill be right back." Comes back. "So hows your day so far?" Assuming the answer is "good." "Awesome, lets go in the other room, get naked and make it even better." So we get naked and make it even better based on the convo we had prior. No need to stress and overcomplicate, when that can simply be overcome with social graces and hospitality.

 

I like it... Those first 60 seconds set the tone for the rest of the time together and what kind of chemistry will develop. There have been occasions where a companion, particularly a younger, less experienced guy, is nervous or shy or simply uncertain of what to do after the door opens. A warm welcome with a broad smile puts everyone at ease. For an outcall I try to make my guest feel at ease and relieve any concerns he may have, be welcoming, make him know I'm glad to see him.... I really take note of and appreciate the same on an incall.

 

It's like hosting a cocktail party... as a host you want your guests to feel warm hospitality from the onset.

[mike carey]

Your courtesy is for your friends. Escorting is a business.

I totaly agree. Its called ESCORTING. Its a verb. You escort them in and then escort them out.

Exactly what I was saying, graciously showing clients out is common courtesy, there is more scope for letting friends just leave. I know you would be a perfect gentleman, Killian!!

[killianjamesnyc]

I like it... Those first 60 seconds set the tone for the rest of the time together and what kind of chemistry will develop. There have been occasions where a companion, particularly a younger, less experienced guy, is nervous or shy or simply uncertain of what to do after the door opens. A warm welcome with a broad smile puts everyone at ease. For an outcall I try to make my guest feel at ease and relieve any concerns he may have, be welcoming, make him know I'm glad to see him.... I really take note of and appreciate the same on an incall.

 

It's like hosting a cocktail party... as a host you want your guests to feel warm hospitality from the onset.

 

Hospitality VS HOEspitality. A rose by any other name still has thorns. First impressions will stick you forever.

[mattr]

I totaly agree. Its called ESCORTING. Its a verb. You escort them in and then escort them out. Its good manners, a way to make sure no one walked off with ANOTHER cock ring and true to the title. Being any other way is just a hooker

I would never walk off with a cock ring... however if one of your jockstraps is lying around....

[pubic_assistance]

As a client, I am always charmed when my first time paid companion reaches out to take my hand and then pulls me in for a solid hug. Big turn on.

[Racketjock]

Regardless of my intense desire upon my companion walking in the door and things getting quite stirred up, guess how my momma raised me still guides my initial interaction. As was mentioned before, offer a welcome, encourage them to make themselves comfortable, offer them something to drink, and ask them how they are doing. It is always an ice breaker to offer a nice compliment (smile, clothes, eyes, overall look, etc.) that is genuine. And I don't have it in me to not offer a "please" and "thank you" for fun times spent, aside from a tip. Common courtesy is becoming too infrequent even here in the south.

 

Now after we have met, the above might be shortened, and with some of my repeats, the initial welcome has included a warm hug and friendly kiss, which is always appreciated.

[MasterMaxRR]

I really liked Juan's response to this question.

 

For me, greeting a new client, I prefer to wrap them up in the biggest bear hug I can give and say, "so glad you could make it, welcome!" To initiate sex, I prefer to let the client take the lead on that unless they're shy or reticent. Then I just go for my best smooth moves and hope that I'm not freaking them out by being too forward.

 

Greeting a new escort is much the same for me, but the fact that I'm the customer allows me to sorta go full bore on getting my mojo and inner sex diva on. Normally while cruising in bars, I'm quite the shy person so having the advantage of being the customer allows me to express my inner need to be confident and smooth without the worry of rejection!

 

Love and Light,

Master Max