How do you deal with negative comments about your looks?

[bigvalboy]

My father used to always say.."What you think about me is none of my business"

[+ quoththeraven]

The clients I meet with in real life tend to think that I'm one of the most gorgeous creatures they've ever seen in their life. My look certainly isn't attractive to everyone, though... in fact, existing at an intersection of multiple niches means that at any given time the majority of the population is generally not interested, and maybe even DISGUSTED by me. Of course people make comments online. I could link to multiple public threads full of clients commenting on how disgusting I am.

 

It's difficult to take the comments of random

Internet strangers that seriously though when my schedule is full of bookings and a thick stack of hundreds sits in my safe, earned exclusively from tricking. The negative comments are just noise in contrast to the success I've experienced.

 

Anyway if they're not talking about you then you're probably not living up to your potential. Let them criticise! It's free advertising for me every time they open their mouth to someone else about it.

 

Nowadays when someone starts a hate/disgust thread about me or comments publicly about my appearance in any way, I just smile and secretly thank them for the free exposure...

"I like hate comments better than no comments.

I don't know you, but you know my name."

BTS, Cypher Pt. 4

[Rudynate]

 

Still, I can’t help but think this kind of thing must have a psychological effect.

 

 

Life has a psychological effect. The post upthread about peaches was so apt. Everyone encounters the reality, in one way or another, that not everybody likes peaches. I certainly agree, nonetheless, that it doesn't cost anything for everyone to be a little nicer to each other. Escorts, because their looks are part of their stock in trade, are particularly exposed. I would hope that an escort who is really bothered by negative feedback about his appearance would either recognize that, every time it happens, it's an opportunity to grow a thicker hide, or realize that he is not cut out for a line of work where his looks are subject to such close scrutiny.

[+ quoththeraven]

Life has a psychological effect. The post upthread about peaches was so apt. Everyone encounters the reality, in one way or another, that not everybody likes peaches. I certainly agree, nonetheless, that it doesn't cost anything for everyone to be a little nicer to each other.

What really gets me is the apparent hunger to criticize other people's preferences.