Overnight incall?

[dlee02]

Hi all,

 

I've lurked here and daddys for quite a while and really benefited from everyone's input and experience. I honestly wouldn't have taken the plunge into this "hobby" if it wasn't for this forum. Very grateful.

 

I have a question but figure the answer probably depends on the individual escort...I'll ask it anyways to see what other's opinions are.

 

To escorts: How do you feel if a client requested an overnight in call at your home? What if it's an extended (2 nights) overnight? To other clients: have you requested this before? How did you go about asking? What was the response? How did the experience go?

 

I've seen this particular individual 3 times. The last time, I flew him out to Asia (where I live and work now) for an extended overnight and (in my opinion) we had a great time. We still communicate now via our personal whatsapp once in a while.

 

I'll be returning to the US for a month or so in the summer and wanted to go to his city just to see him, possibly for a 3 day visit.

 

Is it reasonable to ask him for an in call at his place? How do I go about asking this? I don't mind spending on a hotel but in my mind I'd rather spend more on him (or a nice tip) than on a nice hotel.

 

Would appreciate any feedback, thanks gents.

[Kevin Slater]

Welcome to the forum! Hope you stick around.

 

As to this inquiry: you already have a good relationship with this fellow. Why are you asking strangers on the internet rather than him? He'd know a lot more about his preferences and logistics than we do.

 

Kevin Slater

[dlee02]

Welcome to the forum! Hope you stick around.

 

As to this inquiry: you already have a good relationship with this fellow. Why are you asking strangers on the internet rather than him? He'd know a lot more about his preferences and logistics than we do.

 

Kevin Slater

 

I guess I just feel a bit insecure:oops:... And I don't want to seem creepy for stalker-ish by my request... Maybe I'm just thinking too much...

[marylander1940]

That would be a great way to save money, specially in an expensive city like NYC.

[dlee02]

That would be a great way to save money, specially in an expensive city like NYC.

 

He is in NYC:D

[seaboy4hire]

Like Mr. Kevin stated, ask the dude not us. We don't know his living situation.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[dlee02]

Like Mr. Kevin stated, ask the dude not us. We don't know his living situation.

 

Hugs,

Greg

 

Yea, I'll just have to suck it up and ask. Just curious tho of other's opinions and/or experiences...

[Maximus69]

seems like you know a lot about him and have spent an ample amount of time with him so you should know whether or not he can host or not. If he lives alone you can just stay at his place instead of getting him a hotel, it saves you money and if he cannot host then you don't have to get the most upscale hotel, anywhere decent works as your just going to have fun and lay your head down, enjoy nyc my fellow new yawker

[+ Travis69]

The way you asked in your opening question was very respectful of the escort's needs and wants. I would state it to him in the same way.

[marylander1940]

I guess I just feel a bit insecure:oops:... And I don't want to seem creepy for stalker-ish by my request... Maybe I'm just thinking too much...

 

you've met him before...

 

 

He is in NYC:D

 

Bingo, do it!

[+ Truereview]

Yea, I'll just have to suck it up and ask. Just curious tho of other's opinions and/or experiences...

I agree with others that the best thing to do is to ask him. With that said, I'll bite and give you my opinion. Escorts already give a lot of themselves (energy and body)when meeting a client. If they can, I think they are fine hosting someone for an hour or even overnight, but hosting a client as a guest in their home for longer seems like an imposition. Where will this guy go to decompress? Keep in mind that despite whatever we think ahbout what is happening, a good escort will believe and act as if he is working. You are asking him to be "on" for 48 hours maybe more at his home. That's a tall order, buddy. Now, add the layer that most guys in NYC either have a roommate or a small place unless they are affluent enough to afford something on their own that's large enough for two adult men. Personally, I would get a hotel room. Let me emphasize that you should still ask, but be aware that your request is not a simple one and there may be consequences and you two need to contract upfront around boundaries. Hope things work out well! Welcome to the forum!

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

I have had three escorts tell me that would be glad to host rather than have me pay for the hotel in situations like this. In one case, I didn't feel comfortable and stated that I would prefer the hotel; however on the others I have accepted the invitation and it went well.

 

One way to tackle it is to ask for hotel recommendations. In each case it has been offered it was after asking for the recommendation.

[+ Phactor]

Agree with others, since you have an established relationship, just ask. As many have said, communication is key.

 

On a side note, do you offer loans from your escort fund? My allowance just barely covers a hire every other month, much less an overnight

[+ Lance_Navarro]

I would have no problem with hosting a client for a weekend. My place isn't big, but it's perfect for 2 and it's convenient having all of my gear and toys right there. As was mentioned, especially in an expensive city like SF, this can save them alot of money. I had a client that was here during an event weekend and was spending $1000 a night for a standard room at the Fairmont.

[dlee02]

I agree with others that the best thing to do is to ask him. With that said, I'll bite and give you my opinion. Escorts already give a lot of themselves (energy and body)when meeting a client. If they can, I think they are fine hosting someone for an hour or even overnight, but hosting a client as a guest in their home for longer seems like an imposition. Where will this guy go to decompress? Keep in mind that despite whatever we think ahbout what is happening, a good escort will believe and act as if he is working. You are asking him to be "on" for 48 hours maybe more at his home. That's a tall order, buddy. Now, add the layer that most guys in NYC either have a roommate or a small place unless they are affluent enough to afford something on their own that's large enough for two adult men. Personally, I would get a hotel room. Let me emphasize that you should still ask, but be aware that your request is not a simple one and there may be consequences and you two need to contract upfront around boundaries. Hope things work out well! Welcome to the forum!

 

Thanks for your perspective. I am a bit afraid I'm imposing myself...

[dlee02]

I have had three escorts tell me that would be glad to host rather than have me pay for the hotel in situations like this. In one case, I didn't feel comfortable and stated that I would prefer the hotel; however on the others I have accepted the invitation and it went well.

 

One way to tackle it is to ask for hotel recommendations. In each case it has been offered it was after asking for the recommendation.

 

That's a great suggestion. Thx!

[dlee02]

I think what I'll probably do is to be upfront and ask respectfully with clear expectations. Thanks again everyone, very helpful!