First time - how does it work?

[frame123]

I've had a lot of legit massages but would like to try something "happier". I've just made an appointment with one of the guys recommended in several reviews. Can someone tell me more about how it all works and what I can expect? Do I have to ask for extras or will he offer? What should I say or do, or not say or do?

[+ Truereview]

I've had a lot of legit massages but would like to try something "happier". I've just made an appointment with one of the guys recommended in several reviews. Can someone tell me more about how it all works and what I can expect? Do I have to ask for extras or will he offer? What should I say or do, or not say or do?

Welcome to the forum, Frame. If by "happier" you mean that you plan to hire an escort, my best suggestion is to direct all your questions to said escort. Same applies if you are hiring a masseur. The good news is that you are hiring someone who is recommended, so hopefully they will be patient and kind as you ask all your questions. The other thing you could do is private message some of the forum members who have recommended said escort/mahsseur, you can probably get additional insights there (please keep in mind chemistry differs from client to client). Hopefully others will chime in with more thoughts....that's the cool thing about this forum. Enjoy, let us know how it goes, and consider writing a review, please!

[frame123]

Thanks a lot for your reply! I'm hiring a masseur. I guess I'm wondering if I should ask about the "happy ending" and what's the best way to do so. Or should I just see how things go after the massage starts? All of this probably differs from masseur to masseur, but I'd be interested in hearing more about usual approaches.

 

Are there standard things one should ask about? Are there big no-no's?

 

Another question I have is whether a tip is expected. I would assume not, since I am paying the masseur directly but any advice would be welcome!

 

I will definitely contribute to the forum, including with reviews!

[JayJonathan]

If you hire someone who is recommended on this site, you can ask questions here of those who have met the guy, thus avoiding the awkward conversation. That was my approach and it worked well for me.

 

As for tipping, there is no consensus. Search tipping on this forum and you'll see what I mean.

[+ Travis69]

What exactly are you hoping for? Be specific here and say what city. Happy ending, doing oral on him, him doing oral or you, anal? Perhaps then someone can recommend someone. Chemistry does play a large part with many but maybe someone can lead you to someone who probably will be into what you are looking for. No guarantees but a better chance.

[frame123]

Thanks Travis. I'm looking for a nice sensual massage with a happy ending. I would not mind some mutual touch/play. No oral, no anal. I'm in NYC. Thanks for any advice!

[+ Travis69]

Thanks Travis. I'm looking for a nice sensual massage with a happy ending. I would not mind some mutual touch/play. No oral, no anal. I'm in NYC. Thanks for any advice!

That should be easy to find. I am not familiar with NYC but many are so hopefully they will chime in. there have been other threads about masseurs in NYC if you can locate them. In your fantasy what would the masseur look like? Young college muscle stud, twink, older beefy guy??

[+ Just Sayin]

I agree with Travis; chemistry plays a big part in moving the massage from therapeutic to erotic; I recommend that you be polite and respectful, but let him know how good his touch feels (an ah or a sigh here and there); if he's working on your butt, make it easier for him to have access by either spreading your legs or (if you're really lucky, raising your butt up a bit); obviously, if his penis is touching you, that's an indication that he's agreeable to your touch; practice will make this perfect!

[frame123]

Thanks for the replies. Do you usually agree on the happy ending and mutual touch beforehand or just play it by ear when you're there?

[+ Travis69]

A "happy ending" is actually sex so many will not be comfortable discussing it over the phone. A lot of what will and will not happen depends on what you look like for many. I did a little research and many recommend Pasha on Masseurfinder.com. You might want to check him out. Be patient and hopefully more will contribute to this thread or send you PMs with recommendations.

[docjim]

I recommend Pasha, Koss or Eli

[frame123]

Thanks a lot for the advices and recommendations!

[+ sam.fitzpatrick]

My first message was from this guy when I was visiting the city. As the ad states, he divides the massage in two sections. I think the second section mentioned in his ad would meet your desires. (The ad used to be more specific before "relax" was introduced to replace "sensual" and "erotic.")

 

http://www.masseurfinder.com/members/petershotrubs.shtml

[Mike Monkevicz]

Best of Luck

[Madmen622]

I recommend Pasha, Koss or Eli

I have been to Eli - but agree and highly recommend Koss and Pasha

[MmM]

I've been with Eli and Koss. Great choices. How is pasha? How much more interaction on top of the massage? Thanks! You can PM me.

[jitalianjay]

I see that Eli charges little higher than others. Looking for insight on how the massage goes. Can someone pm me?

[cautious]

I can't speak to NYC specifically but was recently in the same boat. Hiring a well-reviewed masseur who was in the "relax" section of MasseurFinder.com but unsure of how to approach the situation. I went into it telling myself I would be content with a good massage and to see where it went.

 

He was great, knew I was a first timer and nervous and assured me that I'd be more comfortable without underwear (first clue). He undressed before beginning (clue two) and when I didn't make any moves he eventually placed my hand gently on his hip (clue three) and kept moving it lower until i had no doubt it was not a mistake.

 

Once he progressed to the HE stage he took my hand and placed it on his merchandise when he realized I wasn't going to do it on my own. It was the ideal situation for me, and in hindsight, I could have read the clues earlier/better and probably gotten more out of the experience, but it was a perfect first time. I never worried about overstepping and still had a great time. And if I ever return, I know what to expect and how to make the most of it.

 

If you're not into asking up front, then you may just make sure they know you're new and would appreciate them taking the lead. And let it go from there (as long as you're okay if nothing happens).

[LOLO]

I'd echo that. I just joined this community because I'd been thinking about getting a massage for a while. Went on masseurfinder and went to a very well-reviewed fella here in LA.

 

I was quite nervous as well, and he was kind enough to take the lead. I wasn't sure about whether there would be any kind of non-therapeutic aspects to it until, similar to above, he got naked and his junk (hard) was pretty much in my face as he bent over me and massaged my back. I don't always get social cues, but this one was fairly unmistakable.

[+ Just Sayin]

Or should I just see how things go after the massage starts?

 

Guys, you are going to have such fun! @frame123 I think you should just see how things go as you suggested; the anticipation of the unexpected is the most erotic!!

[+ bashful]

the anticipation of the unexpected is the most erotic!

 

+1

 

So true.

 

Whatever happens, happens. Enjoy the spontaneity of your experience. Whatever happens. It will guide you to whom you will see again. It's a journey.