Recent regular etiquette

[clive101]

I have been seeing someone regularly once or twice a month for the last 3 months. He'll politely text me to inquire how I'm doing and can tell it will lead to him asking if I want to hire. He is very nice and I have a great time with him and he'll travel to me outside the main city. Since I like certain body types, ie. Very muscular, there are very few in town so I'm used to hiring those traveling into town. I can't hire too many times therefore when someone who catches my eye is traveling into town I'd like to see them but my regular wants to get together. What do you do? What is a polite way of even letting the regular guy know you can't meet because you actually want to see someone else? This is human being so I don't want to be dismissive or make it feel like I'm constantly blowing him off.

[Maximus69]

Maybe its best you don't say anything at all. Hey us escorts are lucky if someones sees us more than one time as they aren't forced to see us again if they don't want too Just tell him that you'll see him again when you can. You don't have to specifically tell him that your seeing other escorts therefore you can't see him.

 

I do text regulars when they can see me again but thats only because I can't host all the time. They are specific times/days I can so I want to give them the heads up beforehand.

[Edward]

Don't tell him about other escorts. Just say you have time restraints or even go to far as to say that you can only afford to hire him occasionally. That you really enjoy the time you have spent with him.

[+ Keith30309]

Don't tell him about other escorts. Just say you have time restraints or even go to far as to say that you can only afford to hire him occasionally. That you really enjoy the time you have spent with him.

+1

 

I love getting texts from guys I've seen... It makes something that could be cold and distant be much more personal and, therefore, enticing for the future.

[clive101]

That's the issue because the texts feel personal with the small talk in the beginning but I know where it's leading. It also makes it worse when you don't want to meet.

[MikeyGMin]

That's the issue because the texts feel personal with the small talk in the beginning but I know where it's leading. It also makes it worse when you don't want to meet.

 

I can relate. I really really can because I do the same thing. But you are overthinking it and forgetting about the fact that it is just business for him. He knows what he is doing and you know what he is doing, so just remind yourself of that and make a polite excuse. I would never be rude or cruel to anyone -- escort or not -- but it helps to remind yourself that you are most likely just another client when it comes to scheduling.

 

( Do what I say... not what I do... because I am the WORST at remembering this fact! :) )

[MiamiLooker]

I suggest simply replying via text “sorry, I can’t do tonight” or “sorry, I can’t do this week” and then provide an alternative that you’re willing to meet such as “maybe Tuesday” or “how about next week”. I would avoid trying to go into any kind of explanation. The more you try to explain, the less sincere it will sound.

[down_to_business]

No thank you works well with any sales pitch.

 

Hope the guy at McDonald's isn't a hottie ... what if he asks you if you want to supersize it?

[+ ArVaGuy]

There's some good advice here. Be as forthcoming as you can and don't lead the guy on. I was contacted by a regular a while ago about a hire. He had chosen the very same weekend that I had a hire scheduled with another traveling guy. I told him that I was booked and would look forward to seeing him the following month. He was very gracious and professional about the situation. His reply was "Damn! Should've let you know sooner....." Later we made plans for the following month without a hitch.

[+ poolboy48220]

I'm lucky enough to have one of my favorite guys text me when he's coming to town, before he puts his ad up. The last time was not long after his last trip and he was very gracious about my telling him I can't meet up with him that often, as much as I'd like to.

[+ bashful]

I can relate. Spring has sprung, and there is suddenly a deluge of great guys in my town. Among the many visiting, one I’ve meet before and really enjoyed, one I want to meet, and then there’s a local guy I enjoy. When it rains, it pours. However, I recently have developed a funding issue, and can afford only one. Oh, what to do.

[rvwnsd]

There is a guy here in San Diego who texts me every so often and a guy up in LA who texts me when he is coming to town. If I can hire, I set up a time. If I can't due to time constraints, having spent my escort allowance, or simply not feeling up to a meeting I simply tell them I'm not up for meeting. Neither one has expressed hurt feelings. The local guy knows how busy and stressed I can be and also knows I have asthma, so if I do not respond within a day or two he will follow up and ask if I am OK. I find it to be very, very sweet.

[+ WmClarke]

I can relate. Spring has sprung, and there is suddenly a deluge of great guys in my town. Among the many visiting, one I’ve meet before and really enjoyed, one I want to meet, and then there’s a local guy I enjoy. When it rains, it pours. However, I recently have developed a funding issue, and can afford only one. Oh, what to do.

A 20 minute four-way?

[jjkrkwood]

+1

 

I love getting texts from guys I've seen... It makes something that could be cold and distant be much more personal and, therefore, enticing for the future.

 

I view it as smart salesmanship. Its like a telemarketing call. But my motto is "don't come for me unless I send for you" and it would probably annoy me after awhile.

[jjkrkwood]

I would just tell the guy that when you are available to see him, you will get in touch. It's open-ended without hurt feelings or too much said.

[Will Do]

+1

 

I love getting texts from guys I've seen... It makes something that could be cold and distant be much more personal and, therefore, enticing for the future.

 

Ah, yes. The future!

 

I, too, appreciate the exchange.

[+ Keith30309]

I view it as smart salesmanship. Its like a telemarketing call. But my motto is "don't come for me unless I send for you" and it would probably annoy me after awhile.

 

The difficulty is that I have extremely poor impulse control... roughly equivalent to that of an amoeba. I've joined the Mormon church 14 times because I just can't say no to those sexy doorbell-ringers. A text with a sexy pic sends me to the ATM like fleas to a dog.

[rvwnsd]

Smart marketing or not, one of my guys texted me to see if I wanted to play when I was sick with bronchitis. He went grocery shopping for me. On the bus. He does not live close by. Yes, I hired him when I was feeling well enough to play.

[Juan Vancouver]

"Hey sexy, can't meet you at the moment. Great to hear from you! (If it is great) Hope you are well, and hope to see you again soon. Big hug"

 

You don't have to worry about rejecting him, because you don't have to reject him. Also, he is not your boyfriend, so you don't have to explain that you are meeting other people.

 

Escorts are great because dealing with us should be easy and un complicated.

 

Don't make it complicated.

 

Have fun!

[clive101]

Great response Juan and it's perfect to copy and paste minus the big hugs since I'm not a hugger unless they're bear hugs.

[Juan Vancouver]

Great response Juan and it's perfect to copy and paste minus the big hugs since I'm not a hugger unless their bear hugs.

 

Happy to be helpful!

[clive101]

Just noticed my typo and fixed it since I should know where to use their, there and they're

[Bart]

Well I have a couple of different experiences. I have a guy who I usually try to see when he comes into town and sometimes can sometimes no and just usually keep it short. The longer the explanation the less they care.

I have another that checks in to see if I am heading Chicago way again quick and yes and no.

BUT, I have another that has been banging on me for sometime to find out when I am going to fly him out to see me.

Dilemma I have is that while I had a very good time with him and his friend, I am never going to see them again, they have raised their rates and no way can I afford that. So I just respond that all good here not much on my end. They have begun to peter out as I have not heard from him for almost a month.