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klifhangar Rising Star

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That's entirely too long to wait. Even if he was away with a client, he could've taken a couple of minutes to contact you with some kind of message.

 

~ Boomer ~

 

Yeah, I guess so. His ad does say that he is busy and sometimes takes awhile to respond. It's really ok. I'm just surprised that it isn't easier to set something up. I have tried scheduling ahead, communicating well etc. and have had bad luck. It has made me wonder how much more frustrating it would be if I had driven a long way or flown to another city.. In the case of the two cancellations, I did re-arrange my life a bit to make it happen.

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klifhangar Rising Star

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Good luck. I'm sorry you had to go through all this. Maybe it's time to look for someone else.

 

~ Boomer ~

 

Yeah, I've passed on the guy that cancelled twice and maybe I should assume the second guy is a no go too. Funny, because just today, I read that the second guy is super professional, always follows up etc.

 

I may start traveling for work again, which would give me more choices.

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I reached out to a popular, well reviewed escort who posts regularly on the forum about meeting when he travels to my city. His response was that he is usually booked up in advance so it probably wasn't going to happen... huh? Well, with that kind of disinterested response, it definitely isn't going to happen.

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I've seen a few threads throughout the forum regarding "first times" and that telling the escort its your first may lead to him not taking you seriously, as he might think you're not telling the truth. Especially if you're well-informed, know the lingo, etc.

And I do intend on telling him that I've never done this before, as it seems pretty important for both client and escort going in, mentality-wise.

 

The guy I'm considering is a forum member (though he hasn't logged-on in 6+ months). If I namedrop the main site as where I found his email address, should I also mention using the forum as a primer for making contact, so I'm not 100% clueless going into this. So if he wants to, he can come and verify my actual "never done this before" status?

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I've seen a few threads throughout the forum regarding "first times" and that telling the escort its your first may lead to him not taking you seriously, as he might think you're not telling the truth. Especially if you're well-informed, know the lingo, etc.

And I do intend on telling him that I've never done this before, as it seems pretty important for both client and escort going in, mentality-wise.

 

The guy I'm considering is a forum member (though he hasn't logged-on in 6+ months). If I namedrop the main site as where I found his email address, should I also mention using the forum as a primer for making contact, so I'm not 100% clueless going into this. So if he wants to, he can come and verify my actual "never done this before" status?

Mentioning the forum is a good idea. Escorts definitely have mixed feelings about this site, but the fact that you are posting here is probably a plus for most escorts. I believe that escorts will be more willing to take a chance on a new client who has posted on this forum.

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Yeah, I guess so. His ad does say that he is busy and sometimes takes awhile to respond. It's really ok. I'm just surprised that it isn't easier to set something up. I have tried scheduling ahead, communicating well etc. and have had bad luck. It has made me wonder how much more frustrating it would be if I had driven a long way or flown to another city.. In the case of the two cancellations, I did re-arrange my life a bit to make it happen.

 

A week is far too long to wait, in my opinion. There's nothing wrong if someone doesn't respond - they aren't a bad person and you haven't done anything wrong - it's just not a FUCK YES, so it's a no. IT's also not permanent or forever, so maybe a month (or 6 months) from now they'll be more responsive. The right escort for you will respond and will work with you. That might not be one of these guys right now.

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klifhangar Rising Star

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A week is far too long to wait, in my opinion. There's nothing wrong if someone doesn't respond - they aren't a bad person and you haven't done anything wrong - it's just not a FUCK YES, so it's a no. IT's also not permanent or forever, so maybe a month (or 6 months) from now they'll be more responsive. The right escort for you will respond and will work with you. That might not be one of these guys right now.

 

Yeah, it is too long to wait. He'll be in my town early next week so was hoping to snag him one of those evenings. I emailed and PM'd twice, starting as soon as he announced his travel plans so not sure why there was never a response.

 

We don't have much here in Portland so definitely a disappointment. Not sure that I agree that not responding is ok - it doesn't seem very professional to me. Then again, I am brand new to this so maybe that's standard protocol. Ah well.

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Yeah, it is too long to wait. He'll be in my town early next week so was hoping to snag him one of those evenings. I emailed and PM'd twice, starting as soon as he announced his travel plans so not sure why there was never a response.

 

We don't have much here in Portland so definitely a disappointment. Not sure that I agree that not responding is ok - it doesn't seem very professional to me. Then again, I am brand new to this so maybe that's standard protocol. Ah well.

 

Not responding isn't OK, but making something wrong isn't helpful. You can be right or you can be happy.

 

There is no standard protocol. It's good business to respond to your customers, but sometimes even good businesses drop the ball.

 

Nothing wrong, just time to move on!

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Just to note, sending an email through rentmen and other sites doesn't always get to the recipient, and even direct emails might go to their spam folder and they never see them. And PM's on this site are not always noticed right away either (I only check mine once in a while).

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BabyBoomer Grand Master

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You are an amazing detective, Boomer. Yes, he is talking about him. In June I'm going to be working for a week in Cincinnati, Ohio, a couple of hours away from Indiana. I'm planning a flash visit.

 

I'm sure that $300 is already stashed in the cookie jar. :p

 

~ Boomer ~

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klifhangar Rising Star

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Just to note, sending an email through rentmen and other sites doesn't always get to the recipient, and even direct emails might go to their spam folder and they never see them. And PM's on this site are not always noticed right away either (I only check mine once in a while).

 

Yeah, for sure. In this case, I commented in a thread that I had sent him an email and he "liked" it so knew that I was interested, then I sent two emails and two PM's here over a week ago.

 

You're right, though. It's possible that he didn't get any of it. At the same time, if traveling to a specific city and wanting business, wouldn't you watch your inbox?

 

Again, no biggie.

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BabyBoomer Grand Master

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Yes, I know.

 

I'm not expecting anything immediately, anyways.

I just figured I needed to get it written and sent so I could stop worrying about it.

 

Did you send the email to his personal email or through the Rentmen site?

 

~ Boomer ~

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CompleteNewbie Apprentice

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It's now Tuesday evening on the east coast. Any response?

 

~ Boomer ~

 

No. But, he was traveling for the past 5 days. Guy was probably busy. I was actually formulating a text when you asked.

 

I'm thinking a brief text saying when I'll be there, the amount(s) of time I'm looking for, asking if he's available for that, and mentioning that I sent an email (with its title, when I sent it and my email address) which contains more detail.

 

I was thinking of sending it tomorrow. Give the guy a break. I'm sure traveling is stressful. Any thoughts?

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