Questions Regarding Travel Compensation

[Reluctant Daddy]

Given the lack of local and visiting escorts, I'm looking into possibly hiring for travel to me. A few of the guys I've contacted would use various modes (planes, trains & automobiles) to get here, and most won't travel unless it's for an overnight.

 

In addition to covering the plane/train fare, is there also compensation for the time spent traveling? Same with car travel, would it be mileage plus time?

 

Since I haven't met with most of the guys before, I'm a little hesitant committing to an overnight that may not work because of incompatibility.

 

I want to ask the guys I've contacted, but also have questions regarding services as well. I don't want the inquiry to sound like I'm sitting at a car dealership asking, "so, does that come with it?" for everything.

 

Any thoughts, comments, advice would be greatly appreciated.

[seaboy4hire]

When I've traveled I didnt charge for the time to get there and back being I was living close to the airport. I would caution against flying in someone you've yet to meet especially letting them into your house. Too much bad can happen. Think with the big head not the lil one.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[seaboy4hire]

Pick the guy who best suits your fancy and fly to him.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[Guest countryboywny]

[quote="NYClocker, post: 1077514, member: 12070"In addition to covering the plane/train fare, is there also compensation for the time spent traveling? Same with car travel, would it be mileage plus time?

 

I want to ask the guys I've contacted, but also have questions regarding services as well. I don't want the inquiry to sound like I'm sitting at a car dealership asking, "so, does that come with it?" for everything.

 

 

I'm in your boat, Buffalo isn't exactly the crossroads of the world.. especially for escorts. I suggest that you call/email the escort that you're interested in seeing and give him the details of what you're looking for.. Something like: "I would like to see you for an overnight appointment. I live in XXXXtown and I would like you to travel to my location on (insert the date you want and tell him if you can or can't be flexible with the date). I will cover your travel expenses. Would you let me know if you are available and what the rate for your time would be?" This way the escort can give you his rate inclusive of his travel time and you can decide if you would like to pursue if further. This gives the escort the opportunity to quote a rate that he is comfortable with and you don't have to feel like sitting in a car dealership. I would also let him know how you would like to spend the time together, a little about your likes and dislikes, and anything special that he needs to know.

 

I 'm sure that you will get other, maybe better suggestions, but this is a start for you. Good Luck!

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Any thoughts, comments, advice would be greatly appreciated.

 

Have you considered traveling to them? It may cost you less money and you could get a short vacation out of it. If you are in New York, then Vancouver, DC, Boston and NYC are all fairly close and you could get a decent hotel rate in 3 of those cities. You could also sample more than one pro for a couple hours vs. paying for a whole weekend to one person to see who you really like. I would be cautious about bringing somebody to my place that I have never met for fear we had no chemistry together. What if you guys don't click? Now you are stuck with them for a whole day or two.

 

Just a thought.

[+ Rickee]

Pick the guy who best suits your fancy and fly to him.

 

Hugs,

Greg

On many levels, this advice makes a lot of sense.

[Juan Vancouver]

There is no industry standard.

 

What we think is entirely irrelevant. Different escorts operate under entirely different business plans. Some will travel to you for free, some will have very specific rules concerning time and distance.

 

Ask directly to the people that interest you. Nobody will think you are sitting at a car dealership for asking their rate. They might think you are if you start asking how much it is if you don't want the AC and the all weather tires, though.

 

Ask. Not us, them

 

Good luck on your hires!

[+ Truereview]

Clocker, Im with Jeepo. If you can travel to the city where your target escort lives, that may work more to your advantage (more choices, opportunity to sample more, perhaps less cost, etc). and it can also mitigate risk if chemistry becomes an issue.

 

Personally, I would fly in the guy or have him take the train. My take is that I would want the trip to take as little time and effort on the escort as possible so that when he arrives, he is rested. Driving for 3-5 hours is not ideal, you want him to be perky and ready to spend sexy time with you. I would not offer to pay for time while in flight or train- if he wants that plus the cost of the plane ticket, I'd advise you to shop around. I do know a couple guys wish/think it to be standard, but it ain't.

 

Do compare-shop, do ask more questions of your fellow clients, do ask questions of the providers directly. Do not fear sounding like a curious buyer. Be courteous, polite, but do not be apologetic for being direct about costs. Ultimately, it is far better to annoy someone with simple questions than to be surprised or disappointed by hidden or unspoken fees.

 

If you do opt to bring him to you for an overnight, and if you can swing it, ask for a Skype session. You could even offer to pay a minimal fee if he is hesitant. Most of the guys I've flown in, have actually offered it upfront with no cost. Why? Bc they want to make sure I'm the real deal. Also, the smart ones have used it as an intake sessions to get a better feel for our interactions.

 

Good luck!

[+ Eric Hassan]

Clocker, Im with Jeepo. If you can travel to the city where your target escort lives, that may work more to your advantage (more choices, opportunity to sample more, perhaps less cost, etc). and it can also mitigate risk if chemistry becomes an issue.

 

Personally, I would fly in the guy or have him take the train. My take is that I would want the trip to take as little time and effort on the escort as possible so that when he arrives, he is rested. Driving for 3-5 hours is not ideal, you want him to be perky and ready to spend sexy time with you. I would not offer to pay for time while in flight or train- if he wants that plus the cost of the plane ticket, I'd advise you to shop around. I do know a couple guys wish/think it to be standard, but it ain't.

 

Do compare-shop, do ask more questions of your fellow clients, do ask questions of the providers directly. Do not fear sounding like a curious buyer. Be courteous, polite, but do not be apologetic for being direct about costs. Ultimately, it is far better to annoy someone with simple questions than to be surprised or disappointed by hidden or unspoken fees.

 

If you do opt to bring him to you for an overnight, and if you can swing it, ask for a Skype session. You could even offer to pay a minimal fee if he is hesitant. Most of the guys I've flown in, have actually offered it upfront with no cost. Why? Bc they want to make sure I'm the real deal. Also, the smart ones have used it as an intake sessions to get a better feel for our interactions.

 

Good luck!

 

I really like what you have to say and I especially think a Skype session for this type of setup is a brilliant idea!

 

I do, however, want to talk about travel time. You say you would not offer to pay for time while en route. Do you mean at all? Or full rate? I charge for travel, but it's a flat rate based on where I'm going. I'm in NYC - getting to DC or Boston is 4 hours of actual travel - along with getting to the train station and travel once I'm there - that can make the trip 5-6 hours. If I'm flying to Seattle, for example, the flight is 5 1/2 hours or so. Plus the travel time to the airport here - which can easily be an hour - plus the time at the airport before the flight and then the travel once I'm there - it can easily be a 9-10 hour trip. I think it's fair to charge something for that time - it's time I need to be traveling for work and time that I can't do other work. How do you see this topic?

[+ Truereview]

I really like what you have to say and I especially think a Skype session for this type of setup is a brilliant idea!

 

I do, however, want to talk about travel time. You say you would not offer to pay for time while en route. Do you mean at all? Or full rate? I charge for travel, but it's a flat rate based on where I'm going. I'm in NYC - getting to DC or Boston is 4 hours of actual travel - along with getting to the train station and travel once I'm there - that can make the trip 5-6 hours. If I'm flying to Seattle, for example, the flight is 5 1/2 hours or so. Plus the travel time to the airport here - which can easily be an hour - plus the time at the airport before the flight and then the travel once I'm there - it can easily be a 9-10 hour trip. I think it's fair to charge something for that time - it's time I need to be traveling for work and time that I can't do other work. How do you see this topic?

I completely agree with your rationale that charging something for that time is fair. It is downtime for you and, rightfully so, there should be some compensation. what I was trying to convey to Clocker was 2-fold: 1. every escort will calculate that downtime differently or possibly not even charge for it, so Clocker shouldn't assume he will pay for it. Instead, he ahould ask the escort about the fees and have the escort break it down. 2. Once the fees are fully disclosed, and if affordability is an issue, shop around until a match is found.

 

Bottom line, flying in a guy is probably one of the most vulnerable hiring positions to be in as a client. Top-notch professionals like you, Eric, won't take advantage, but some guys out there can nickel and dime the infrequent client. Moving wisely and carefully is to Clocker's advantage. Personally, I hope clocker likes your profile, cuz you strike me a yummy choice...but I digress.

 

PS: pushback if I'm making no sense. I'm always happy to learn new angles on things

[mike carey]

Personally, I hope clocker likes your profile, cuz you strike me a yummy choice...but I digress.

Yup!

[Reluctant Daddy]

Thanks all for your advice and suggestions. Once of the problems with traveling to and from Albany is the lack of easy and reliable plane/train schedules. NYC is about the easiest to get to without multiple out of the way redirects and insane connections.

 

I know I probably overthink much of this stuff, but I want to make sure that I don't make any missteps and turn into that client. It's still very new to me and I want to make sure my ducks are in a row when I hire to avoid any unpleasantness, embarrassment or hard feelings.

[Guest countryboywny]

 

I know I probably overthink must of this stuff, but I want to make sure that I don't make any missteps and turn into that client.

 

It's perfectly understandable to me that you "overthink", I am guilty of it as well.

If you're always respectful of the escort in your dealings with him, communicate that you're a beginner and follow through with what you propose, I don't think you'll ever be "that" client. Your concern that you want to do everything the right way speaks to that as well.

[+ Eric Hassan]

I completely agree with your rationale that charging something for that time is fair. It is downtime for you and, rightfully so, there should be some compensation. what I was trying to convey to Clocker was 2-fold: 1. every escort will calculate that downtime differently or possibly not even charge for it, so Clocker shouldn't assume he will pay for it. Instead, he ahould ask the escort about the fees and have the escort break it down. 2. Once the fees are fully disclosed, and if affordability is an issue, shop around until a match is found.

 

Bottom line, flying in a guy is probably one of the most vulnerable hiring positions to be in as a client. Top-notch professionals like you, Eric, won't take advantage, but some guys out there can nickel and dime the infrequent client. Moving wisely and carefully is to Clocker's advantage. Personally, I hope clocker likes your profile, cuz you strike me a yummy choice...but I digress.

 

PS: pushback if I'm making no sense. I'm always happy to learn new angles on things

 

Totally makes sense! I definitely agree with what you said - it's a vulnerable position to be in and it's a good idea to be careful about how you spend your money! And I hope he likes me too

 

xo

[Reluctant Daddy]

And I hope he likes me too

 

Oh, I do! Just be gentle with me

[+ Eric Hassan]

Oh, I do! Just be gentle with me

 

I *guess* I can leave the ropes and paddles and whips at home.

[Reluctant Daddy]

I *guess* I can leave the ropes and paddles and whips at home.

 

The ropes can come