Session ends when the client cum?

[+ bashful]

The gentleman to whom I was referring is not a contributor to the forums.

[+ Travis69]

As a side note concerning being invited to shower together some people don't feel comfortable from a safety stand point. I refuse to shower with someone in a bathtub shower. Too dangerous in my mind. A shower stall is a possibility but I am still on guard about falling so may not be as sexy as I would like.

[Rod Hagen]

I am still on guard about falling so may not be as sexy as I would like.

 

I'll...I mean HE'LL just have to hold you very very tight.

[Jim Corrigan]

My last hire ended when the porn star I hired for an overnighter fell asleep ontop of me 1 hour into the session.WTF!!

[Juan Vancouver]

My last hire ended when the porn star I hired for an overnighter fell asleep ontop of me 1 hour into the session.WTF!!

 

Damned if you don't cuddle to sleep... damned if you do. :D

[Zapped]

I seem to remember that Aaron Lawrence's memoir has an amusing anecdote in which he talks about a multiple-hour session with a client who came fairly quickly, and then talked and talked and talked and talked for the remaining hours, while Aaron did his best to feign interest, which became increasingly difficult and exhausting.

 

I did a quick search looking for some documentation about the biochemistry of this, but didn't find much. There are plenty of anecdotal reports, though, about guys who have a mood shift after they cum. I'm sure most of us have experienced this in ourselves or in a partner--either a hit of guilt (if we aren't comfortable with our sexuality), or an urge to get away, or something else. So if the escort has cum, I can imagine this being part of it. I've been with guys who came first and then lost all interest in being with me while I came, and vice versa.

 

I've said this before. Our culture doesn't recognize that "prostitution" and "sex work" are often part of deep and holistic healing experience. If an escort doesn't understand that he is among other things a healer and temporary companion, he may think he's being paid for the sex part of the job. Even if he's a conduit for powerful healing energy he may not have made that distinction for himself. It seems quite obvious to me that some escorts may not get that a client really wants to be with them, to bask in their energy and physical beauty, not just to get off.

 

Well, next time I hire I'll be clear up front that I want the guy to stay for the full time after we cum, assuming that's the case with that escort and that session.

[+ quoththeraven]

It's accepted wisdom among straight folks that when a guy comes, he's usually done for the night and promptly turns over and sleeps like the dead. That's also generally been my experience, even with escorts, which is why it happens at end of the night or early the next morning when he's going to be awake anyway.

 

Not to excuse escorts who aren't awake and present for the entire appointment, but they are fighting male physiology. Please, let's not read lack of acceptance or personal dislike into something that's common among men because they're men.

[MasterMaxRR]

But if it's happening right then, you have a chance to say something and get what you want.

 

Just phrase it as a simple request--"Can't we cuddle for a few minutes before you leave?"

 

If he stays, great! If not, at least you tried

 

If you do mention in a review, then you can phrase it very neutrally: "I asked him to cuddle since we had time left, but he said he had to go."

 

Ding ding ding ding! Spot on!

[LADoug1]

I see a guy (not an escort) who after cumming is finished playing. But he always wants me to cum first and makes EVERY effort to make that happen. Still after he's done playing we cuddle or I hold him while he naps. Nothing wrong with this scenario at least for me.

[+ Keith30309]

It has occurred to me a couple of times that after the escort cums he quickly loses interest and not terribly interested in hanging around. One gentleman left me, very unsatisfied, laying there and began to get dressed - go figure. More have responded similarly after I've climaxed... get up, shower, dress. "He's sticky so I must have done my job. How could he possibly be dissatisfied." I like to think that with most guys some up-front communication about what you look to get out of the session - the emotional elements - can help everyone have a good time.

 

The good news is that there are lots of guys who, if they understand what you would enjoy, happily cuddle, kiss, shower, do your taxes, whatever. These are the treasured pro's who 'get it' and who I seek out repeatedly.

[anto]

1. Sometimes

2. Sometimes

 

Still, even if the client cums the escort should stay the entire time booked. There may be time for either the escort or the client to cum again. And there is time to talk and cuddle and shower (!) together. It all adds to the experience which is not always just about the sex act.

It happened that I finished after 45 minutes and my escort and I just cuddled and chatted for the remainder of the time - in fact considerably longer. It was the best part of our meeting, in retrospect.

[nlu4sex]

I had a couple of bad experiences about 15 years ago when it was painfully obvious that the escort quickly moved on to wanking me as furiously as he could in, clearly with the agenda of finishing me off as early as possible - once within the first ten minutes. They were both unable to hide the fact that this was a calculated move! I guess playing on the fact that I might feel embarrassed/self conscious and wrap it up. I didn't let either of them get away with it, but it's then all a bit awkward because you know they really don't want to be there. Which is why, after a polite "fancy staying for a cuddle?" being rejected, I'd not recommend forcing their hand, as knowing they were only there because you'd told them to or would demand some discount, it's not going to be the most comfortable and enjoyable of cuddles!!

 

I have to say that my experience in recent years has generally been of much more thoughtful guys who are much more likely to give you a little extra time than try and rush away early. Recent not so good experiences to add to the list of things to watch out for:

 

1) one guy I booked in the early hours asked for money to cover cab as a bit of a guarantee (this was pre-Uber) and he claims, after receipt of the money, he couldn't get a cab and refused to refund the money or hold it over for another session (which I thought was quite a generous suggestion on my part!)

2) another guy asked for cash on arrival and after a bit of chat, told me it was his first time and he couldn't go through with it. When it became clear he was heading off with my cash for two hours, I mentioned that we ought to discuss that (he had a right to claim for ten minutes, I guessed). He got quit shirty, but did cough up in the end. I suspect he was hoping that I wouldn't remember or have the confidence to say anything.

3) a guy really laying on the schmooze ("This is so much fun, I'm cancelling the rest of my clients today and staying here for no extra money") then prompted to spike my drink, I was really ill, fell asleep and when I awoke he was long gone with about 250 euros cash he had found (on top of his up front fee!)

 

This isn't a major whinge. Both parties take certain risks on all sorts of levels. I just wanted those who are new to the world to have a few cautionary tales, to not put them off, but just make them a little more aware of some things to look out for. I have to say I have had some amazing experiences and great fun! And you can't beat it for general simplicity and usually excellent connections and fun. Beats hours on Grindr any day!