Session ends when the client cum?

[mike carey]

Personally, I always like to wash up after everything is said and done, regardless of how much time is left. I just don't like the feeling of not being clean.

If you feel you have to wash up, make it part of the session and shower together. Remember though that it's your preference not his, and he's the one who's paying, so you might want to be a little flexible with the time. That said, if you've both agreed, whatever you do is fine.

[wearytraveller]

So I have recently hired someone for a two hour session and I finished after 75 minutes. Then in 5 minutes, he just started to clean up and prepare to leave. I don't mind he leaves in advance but I definitely prefer him to stay. Is it like a rule or something? If the client cums in the first 30 minutes of a one hour session, then it's finished?

 

I've had this happen to me on more than one occasion. The escort for whatever reason seemed to be under the impression that when I had been "satisfied" the session was over, notwithstanding how much time was left. The session should definitely not have been over but I didn't do or say anything to stop my companion from leaving. In hindsight I'm still not sure that I would say anything, the fact that he was leaving and basically put an end to the session and sort of kills the mood. I chalk it up to experience, albeit a bad experience, and do my best to warn others off when possible.

[Maximus69]

after a guy cums i love to suck the head right after . It's so sensitive, I love to make the client squirm a little

 

but on a serious note, I always stay the full amount we agreed too, unless the client says otherwise. I understand a lot of guys after they cum they want to be want to be left alone or the client may have to leave bc he's busy with other things.

[+ bashful]

If you feel you have to wash up, make it part of the session and shower together. Remember though that it's your preference not his, and he's the one who's paying, so you might want to be a little flexible with the time.

 

So glad you said that. Recently was with someone who wanted to use the shower after my finale. Although we still had some time left, he didn't invite me to join him, nor did I ask if I could join him. To be honest, it wasn't until a day or two after, when looking back on our experience, I began to feel somewhat dejected for his not asking me to join him, and then began to feel he used our time to clean up for his next client (early in our meeting he told me he had a client booked an hour after our scheduled end time). I'm now trying to figure out how best to bring this it up to him privately if or when I decide to meet with him again.

[m.yi]

To add: If an escort cuts our time short, I'll cut his pay short. No repeat customer here.

[+ Keith30309]

I do think it's important to say something to the escort who cuts short a session in order to be certain there's no misunderstanding or false assumptions. We've heard many times than a companion thinks a session went great and then the client posts a negative review/comments and he had no idea the client wasn't satisfied. A shortened time seems like a no-brainer but some clients may simply be ready to go.

It's a mood-killer to bring up a potentially confrontational subject but I think professional guys want to know if there is anything that would cause the client to not want to meet again or make him hesitant to refer him to a friend.

"I really enjoyed my time with you but am sorry it is ending early" or "This is great and I wish you wouldn't rush off" are pretty easy to say and pretty clear indications that everything is not 100%. From the escort standpoint a quick "is there anything you particularly liked or disliked about our time together" would allow for the opening of a dialogue to air any negative perceptions (unfortunately, the guys who most need to do this are not on this Forum).

[jjkrkwood]

Since escorts constantly reiterate that the client "pays for TIME" only, in all fairness, if the session is cut short, adjust the rate and Pay a lesser fee. If you didn't get $300 worth of TIME, you shouldn't have to pay for it by the "escorts definition"....

[+ Eric Hassan]

But if it's happening right then, you have a chance to say something and get what you want.

 

Just phrase it as a simple request--"Can't we cuddle for a few minutes before you leave?"

 

If he stays, great! If not, at least you tried

 

If you do mention in a review, then you can phrase it very neutrally: "I asked him to cuddle since we had time left, but he said he had to go."

 

I agree! Ask him to spend the time with you. I imagine some escorts think you want them out, and asking might correct that. And I know this is probably easier said than done, but I would also inform the escort of your displeasure; it shows you have attempted to work things out and makes it less of a surprise (and harder to defend) when you post a negative review. At any rate, a good escort will do the job you pay him to do.

[+ Eric Hassan]

Since escorts constantly reiterate that the client "pays for TIME" only, in all fairness, if the session is cut short, adjust the rate and Pay a lesser fee. If you didn't get $300 worth of TIME, you shouldn't have to pay for it by the "escorts definition"....

 

+1

[mike carey]

I agree! Ask him to spend the time with you.

I agree, Eric, I should follow you on Twitter. Oh, wait, I already do!

[mattr]

Had a two hour session with a well reviewed escort and the deed was done in about 1 1/2 hours.. next 20 minutes we spent in bed chatting and cuddling like old friends. We finished off with an intimate 10 minute shower together. The last 30 minutes were almost as good as the first 90 and the funny thing is that I remember the last 30 minutes in more detail than the sex. All escorts should take note.

[Juan Vancouver]

Some clients book three hours knowing they will only use an hour and a half and they are more than comfortable ending the session once they feel it is done. Some clients will book an hour and will make sure they will use their 60 minutes (90 preferably) and even if the session is over they will try to continue it.

 

Our job as escorts is a bit like a mixture of tiger tamer and mind reader. Most of what happens in the session is requested by the client in non verbal ways and it is our duty to decode this as best as we can. Many men have no shame saying that one doesn't pay the escort to come, one pays him to leave. Escorts are always trying to read when they overstayed their welcome and will excuse themselves as discreetly as possible.

 

If your escort misread your signal and makes it clear he is leaving earlier, please don't say "We still have eight minutes, make me cum" or "Time is not up, you can't go!". If he is leaving early simply tell him that you are aware of the time and would love it if he stayed a bit longer just to unwind and close the session. Any escort worth his salt will gladly do that.

 

To order him back to bed after he had shown his desire to leave would be kind of humiliating, I think, and unproductive.

 

Yeah. Don't order your escort to do anything. Ordering him to stay is not what is humiliating, is ordering to do anything that is.

 

Now... on a different subject... I almost passed out when I read this:

 

If you feel you have to wash up, make it part of the session and shower together. Remember though that it's your preference not his, and he's the one who's paying, so you might want to be a little flexible with the time.

 

So glad you said that. Recently was with someone who wanted to use the shower after my finale. Although we still had some time left, he didn't invite me to join him, nor did I ask if I could join him. To be honest, it wasn't until a day or two after, when looking back on our experience, I began to feel somewhat dejected for his not asking me to join him, and then began to feel he used our time to clean up for his next client (early in our meeting he told me he had a client booked an hour after our scheduled end time).

 

FULL DISCLOSURE: If I am spending any time with you at all and we get the chance to be intimate, chances are that we will rub on each other a little. Maintaining the basic hygiene while being with you IS part of the session. If I have to shower six times because of what is happening in the session, this IS the session. I don't have absolutely any obligation to be flexible with my time just because I have to shower.

 

Not all showers can be sexy time. There are showers where one can soap the other and have a good time, there are some other showers that are "let me carefully wash because otherwise it could be a health hazard".

 

If what you wrote means that I have two choices, either stay covered in fluids and endure it or go wash up as long as I give "extra time" to make up for it, then I ask anyone who sees it this way not to contact me. If you are going to be looking back at the session thinking how I did wrong for the minutes I didn't spend with you, then we might not be a good match.

 

I am a human being sharing my time with you. I am focusing entirely on you and I love making you feel seen, cared for, special. If instead of acknowledging this you will be counting the minutes, then you might be better off hiring someone else.

 

You treat me like a human being, I treat you like a king.

 

And for God's sakes, don't punish an escort in a review because of your own inability to communicate.

 

Communicate openly. As an adult. Don't confront or complaint, just communicate. There's a difference.

[mike carey]

FULL DISCLOSURE: If I am spending any time with you at all and we get the chance to be intimate, chances are that we will rub on each other a little. Maintaining the basic hygiene while being with you IS part of the session. If I have to shower six times because of what is happening in the session, this IS the session. I don't have absolutely any obligation to be flexible with my time just because I have to shower.

 

Not all showers can be sexy time. There are showers where one can soap the other and have a good time, there are some other showers that are "let me carefully wash because otherwise it could be a health hazard".

Sorry, Juan, that wasn't what I was trying to say. I absolutely agree that sometimes cleanup is essential and I wasn't implying that hygiene should be sacrificed for anything. I was replying to a comment that I read as saying that as soon as there was any ejaculate it was time for a shower, and although the line between preference and necessity may be blurred, I thought that fell on the 'preference' side. I would have thought this is an occasion where shower time could be sexy time. Personally, I wouldn't quibble either about my companion's wish to have a shower or about the time it took, but I'd prefer he didn't use it to imply that the session was over. If there are fluids on both of us and he needs to clean up but doesn't ask me to, that is just the signal I would take. All that said, as with anything else it's my obligation to speak up at the time and not sulk and take it out on the escort in a review. Communicate, communicate, communicate!

[+ bashful]

FULL DISCLOSURE: If I am spending any time with you at all and we get the chance to be intimate, chances are that we will rub on each other a little. Maintaining the basic hygiene while being with you IS part of the session. If I have to shower six times because of what is happening in the session, this IS the session. I don't have absolutely any obligation to be flexible with my time just because I have to shower.

 

Not all showers can be sexy time. There are showers where one can soap the other and have a good time, there are some other showers that are "let me carefully wash because otherwise it could be a health hazard".

 

If what you wrote means that I have two choices, either stay covered in fluids and endure it or go wash up as long as I give "extra time" to make up for it, then I ask anyone who sees it this way not to contact me. If you are going to be looking back at the session thinking how I did wrong for the minutes I didn't spend with you, then we might not be a good match.

 

I am a human being sharing my time with you. I am focusing entirely on you and I love making you feel seen, cared for, special. If instead of acknowledging this you will be counting the minutes, then you might be better off hiring someone else.

 

You treat me like a human being, I treat you like a king.

 

And for God's sakes, don't punish an escort in a review because of your own inability to communicate.

 

Communicate openly. As an adult. Don't confront or complaint, just communicate. There's a difference.

 

I see your point of view. However, I do have to say it was disheartening to hear your predisposition to thinking clients lack integrity, common courtesy, and respect for the companion, and assume they would go off and write a bad review without addressing their concerns with the companion privately. It was equally disheartening to hear your predisposition that a client would only think of themselves, and not of the companion’s safety, hygiene, or wellbeing. I would hope that would not be the case with any of us, client or companion. As we are all here to express our opinions, I’m glad to hear yours, and will take it to heart.

[+ glennnn]

I see your point of view. However, I do have to say it was disheartening to hear your predisposition to thinking clients lack integrity, common courtesy, and respect for the companion, and assume they would go off and write a bad review without addressing their concerns with the companion privately. It was equally disheartening to hear your predisposition that a client would only think of themselves, and not of the companion’s safety, hygiene, or wellbeing. I would hope that would not be the case with any of us, client or companion. As we are all here to express our opinions, I’m glad to hear yours, and will take it to heart.

 

+1

 

clients are also human beings, many of us inexperienced in the etiquette of hiring. Yes, we understand that communication is essential, but we are not the professionals. The escorts i have hired are wonderful experts, who, happily, would never think of cutting our agreed time short. The original thread here was about an escort leaving 45 minutes early, not 10, not 15....45 minutes out if an agreed and purchased 120 minutes. Is it really on the client to ask again for what was already asked for and agreed upon?

[LADoug1]

1) Don't we escorts make a point out of the fact that we get paid for our time only?

2) Does an employer allow an employee to leave at 4 PM because the employee finished the tasks of that day?

 

Anton.

1. Sometimes

2. Sometimes

 

Still, even if the client cums the escort should stay the entire time booked. There may be time for either the escort or the client to cum again. And there is time to talk and cuddle and shower (!) together. It all adds to the experience which is not always just about the sex act.

[LADoug1]

after a guy cums i love to suck the head right after . It's so sensitive, I love to make the client squirm a little

 

but on a serious note, I always stay the full amount we agreed too, unless the client says otherwise. I understand a lot of guys after they cum they want to be want to be left alone or the client may have to leave bc he's busy with other things.

You're just SO sweet and considerate!!

[LADoug1]

Some clients book three hours knowing they will only use an hour and a half and they are more than comfortable ending the session once they feel it is done. Some clients will book an hour and will make sure they will use their 60 minutes (90 preferably) and even if the session is over they will try to continue it.

 

Our job as escorts is a bit like a mixture of tiger tamer and mind reader. Most of what happens in the session is requested by the client in non verbal ways and it is our duty to decode this as best as we can. Many men have no shame saying that one doesn't pay the escort to come, one pays him to leave. Escorts are always trying to read when they overstayed their welcome and will excuse themselves as discreetly as possible.

 

If your escort misread your signal and makes it clear he is leaving earlier, please don't say "We still have eight minutes, make me cum" or "Time is not up, you can't go!". If he is leaving early simply tell him that you are aware of the time and would love it if he stayed a bit longer just to unwind and close the session. Any escort worth his salt will gladly do that.

 

 

 

Yeah. Don't order your escort to do anything. Ordering him to stay is not what is humiliating, is ordering to do anything that is.

 

Now... on a different subject... I almost passed out when I read this:

 

 

 

 

 

FULL DISCLOSURE: If I am spending any time with you at all and we get the chance to be intimate, chances are that we will rub on each other a little. Maintaining the basic hygiene while being with you IS part of the session. If I have to shower six times because of what is happening in the session, this IS the session. I don't have absolutely any obligation to be flexible with my time just because I have to shower.

 

Not all showers can be sexy time. There are showers where one can soap the other and have a good time, there are some other showers that are "let me carefully wash because otherwise it could be a health hazard".

 

If what you wrote means that I have two choices, either stay covered in fluids and endure it or go wash up as long as I give "extra time" to make up for it, then I ask anyone who sees it this way not to contact me. If you are going to be looking back at the session thinking how I did wrong for the minutes I didn't spend with you, then we might not be a good match.

 

I am a human being sharing my time with you. I am focusing entirely on you and I love making you feel seen, cared for, special. If instead of acknowledging this you will be counting the minutes, then you might be better off hiring someone else.

 

You treat me like a human being, I treat you like a king.

 

And for God's sakes, don't punish an escort in a review because of your own inability to communicate.

 

Communicate openly. As an adult. Don't confront or complaint, just communicate. There's a difference.

This is so well thought out and worded. Can't believe only two people (myself included) didn't "like" this post.

[+ Lance_Navarro]

I do think it's important to say something to the escort who cuts short a session in order to be certain there's no misunderstanding or false assumptions. We've heard many times than a companion thinks a session went great and then the client posts a negative review/comments and he had no idea the client wasn't satisfied. A shortened time seems like a no-brainer but some clients may simply be ready to go.

It's a mood-killer to bring up a potentially confrontational subject but I think professional guys want to know if there is anything that would cause the client to not want to meet again or make him hesitant to refer him to a friend.

"I really enjoyed my time with you but am sorry it is ending early" or "This is great and I wish you wouldn't rush off" are pretty easy to say and pretty clear indications that everything is not 100%. From the escort standpoint a quick "is there anything you particularly liked or disliked about our time together" would allow for the opening of a dialogue to air any negative perceptions (unfortunately, the guys who most need to do this are not on this Forum).

 

Well said darlin! I would NEVER cut a session early and don't consider an orgasm to mark the end of a session. HELL, I don't even think that cumming is an essential part of sex. It's too often seen as the goal of sex. Of course, if the client chooses to cut the session short, that's their choice, but the only times that has happend with me has been with "straight" guys, who are immediately struck with anxiety about what they just did and aren't interested in intimacy or affection (makes me sad, but what can I do?). This is another reason why one shouldn't be a clock-watcher, but should have a clock within view, to make sure they never cut a session short. I personally love doing craniosacral massage on my client after they have had an orgasm and their entire body is relaxed, that's the TRUE "happy-ending".

[Juan Vancouver]

I see your point of view. However, I do have to say it was disheartening to hear your predisposition to thinking clients lack integrity, common courtesy, and respect for the companion, and assume they would go off and write a bad review without addressing their concerns with the companion privately. It was equally disheartening to hear your predisposition that a client would only think of themselves, and not of the companion’s safety, hygiene, or wellbeing. I would hope that would not be the case with any of us, client or companion. As we are all here to express our opinions, I’m glad to hear yours, and will take it to heart.

 

If you read my post carefully I didn't write that all clients are assholes and inconsiderate. If that were the case I would have stopped escorting an awfully long time ago. I am just reacting to what a couple people wrote here. That's what the quoting function is for. If what you wrote was not coming from feeling hurt that he showered instead of spending time with you, which you didn't acknowledge on the spot, for which you should be assuming the responsibility as an adult, then your post was not clear. If your post wasn't meant to communicate that, then please explain to us what it was supposed to mean.

 

Just as extra information I have to say that I am not predisposed to think clients lack integrity or common courtesy and I definitely am not predisposed to think that clients only think about themselves. As a matter of fact my experience is exactly the opposite; men are often dying to have an intimate, personal, human interaction and in order to achieve that they come full of respect, humanity, consideration and a caring, open, loving attitude.

 

I have been incredibly lucky to mostly meet men who are wanting to engage in a two way respectful relationship, a relationship in which one doesn't short the client deliberately, a relationship in which one doesn't sulk and suffer while the other is showering.

 

Instead of going inwards, overwhelmed by your emotions and playing scenarios in you head of what should be happening and is not, I suggest you practice to communicate openly and kindly. Try to get over your emotions and sense of entitlement and simply speak to your escort as an adult about what is happening. An adult begets an adult.

 

I sincerely wish every one of your future interactions will be filled with clarity and respect.

[seaboy4hire]

Session ends when the agreed upon time is reached. I don't know about other guys but I do not include the wash up time after the fun.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[Juan Vancouver]

Session ends when the agreed upon time is reached. I don't know about other guys but I do not include the wash up time after the fun.

 

I respect you might think that and as we know there is no industry standard, however I personally disagree.

 

In my case the session ends when the client is ready for me to go, or when the session has come to an organic end. Sometimes this happens way before the agreed up time, but never without the express consent of the client. Sometimes this happens beyond the agreed up time. Even though time is the frame under which I am being hired, I find one ends up being organic about it.

 

Personally I do not sit there thinking "this is wash up time, this is talking time, this is touching time, this is getting dressed time" for me the whole experience is an organic being together. Whatever happens organically happens organically. Up till today nobody has begrudged me my time allocation practices.

 

Again, my rates are for my time, not for the "fun", so I never keep a tally of one versus the other.

[seaboy4hire]

I respect you might think that and as we know there is no industry standard, however I personally disagree.

 

In my case the session ends when the client is ready for me to go, or when the session has come to an organic end. Sometimes this happens way before the agreed up time, but never without the express consent of the client. Sometimes this happens beyond the agreed up time. Even though time is the frame under which I am being hired, I find one ends up being organic about it.

 

Personally I do not sit there thinking "this is wash up time, this is talking time, this is touching time, this is getting dressed time" for me the whole experience is an organic being together. Whatever happens organically happens organically. Up till today nobody has begrudged me my time allocation practices.

 

Again, my rates are for my time, not for the "fun", so I never keep a tally of one versus the other.

 

Thats super you disagree. I was refering to what I do. I am aware that this is an unregulated industry and we each do what works best for us and hopefully the guys we see.

 

Hugs,

Greg

[+ glennnn]

You know some of us are shy and awkward, and if an escort indicates he is ready to leave early, it signifies rejection at the very least. If one is fat, or old, or otherwise unattractive, it is hard to "get over a sense of entitlement" and not to "sulk" ( an insulting term). If I've booked two hours, paid for two hours and openly discussed what I wanted in those two hours, perhaps I am "entitled" to those two hours. But perhaps, I am too embarrassed to ask (beg?) for it.

 

Juan, you seem like a very handsome, young man that can always feel secure in his sexual attractiveness. Not all of us are so fortunate. Time with us probably means very little to our escort; we are one moment among many in a year. Time with him means everything to us; he is one of maybe two moments in the year. It is hard to "get over" our emotions and speak up. It would be even worse if one asked him to stay and he said, "No". Talk about rejection. I feel you judge us harshly.

 

I agree we should speak up and give the escort a chance and should be careful about giving a bad review, but we are not professionals. Give us a break.

[+ jc808]

I have mostly experienced this phenomenon with younger guys and have some sympathy, recalling my own youth when the end of sex, i.e., orgasm, meant that it was time to see what was in the fridge. Time teaches different habits and I've never had this issue with more experienced escorts. I grant that a professional is a professional, but there is no graduate program for this business so I do think -- at least for younger guys -- the client should make his wishes clear. Otherwise, the escort may simply assume that you too just want to head for the fridge.