Requesting to prepare for bottoming

[Maximus69]

Nah...you'll be fine. if I could take one, so can you....and you are a pro....

 

lol far from a pro, I'm sure you get more sex than I do, plus you have more years of experience than me

[Kuriousity]

lol far from a pro, I'm sure you get more sex than I do, plus you have more years of experience than me

 

There is an incorrect statement in there---for the record, no one has popped my hood since before New Years....and oddly, I am ok with it.

[Maximus69]

There is an incorrect statement in there---for the record, no one has popped my hood since before New Years....and oddly, I am ok with it.

 

hmm i didnt specifically say just anal sex... oral, rimming, and you topping, many other ways to have fun than just bottom dear

[Kuriousity]

hmm i didnt specifically say just anal sex... oral, rimming, and you topping, many other ways to have fun than just bottom dear

 

I'm better on the receiving end...I'll admit it. A man once described me as equivalent to a Lotus Elise SC---I took the compliment, because that is a great car.

[+ glennnn]

Just to be clear ......I plan to bottom several times over the Palm Springs weekend, so if I start on the previous Monday with metamussil, and lots of natural fiber foods, and douche repeatedly with warm water two hours ahead of each session, allow all the water to drain, then check myself with a dildo, I stand a good chance of a clean fuck. Right? No guarantees, I know, but a good chance. Any corrections? Suggestions? (I don't own a shower attachment, BTW)

[instudiocity]

I'm better on the receiving end...I'll admit it. A man once described me as equivalent to a Lotus Elise SC---I took the compliment, because that is a great car.

But could he shift the gears smoothly?

[tanman4u]

Ok there's a product called Pure for Men that's being promoted on some of the sites that you see when your first sign on to Daddy's. It sounded pretty good (as does most anything in an ad--that is what ads are for of course). I gave it a try and really didn't notice any difference but it might be because I didn't take it with a LOT of water as directed. Has anyone else given this stuff a try?

[+ Funguy]

Besides the douche I recommend a bit of imodium. I take the night before, douche in the morning, take another, push out the water in the shower and I'm ready to go.

[beachboy]

Besides the douche I recommend a bit of imodium. I take the night before, douche in the morning, take another, push out the water in the shower and I'm ready to go.

Question. I always evacuate in the morning. Would the immodium the night before be best or in the morning?

[mattr]

Pure is being promoted by some of the more popular bloggers (Max Emmerson, Davey Wavey, etc.) so they have a good marketing campaign. Not sure how much better it is than any "Fiber Laxative" sold in drug stores for a fraction of the price. It does contain Psyllium husk, Flax seeds and Chia so it has more natural fiber than the basic drug store stuff. Some people are allergic to Chia seeds so that is a potential issue. Psyllium tends to give me cramps and then move things along rather quickly so I avoid it unless to want to get things unstuck. All these supplements require you to drink copious amounts of water to be effective since they create bulk by absorbing water as they move through your digestive track.

[keithhardy]

fleet before you meet?

Just dump the solution and use straight water, those chemicals in that bottle are bad for you!

[stop]

Just dump the solution and use straight water, those chemicals in that bottle are bad for you!

 

nice choice of words...

[jjkrkwood]

Just to be clear ......I plan to bottom several times over the Palm Springs weekend, so if I start on the previous Monday with metamussil, and lots of natural fiber foods, and douche repeatedly with warm water two hours ahead of each session, allow all the water to drain, then check myself with a dildo, I stand a good chance of a clean fuck. Right? No guarantees, I know, but a good chance. Any corrections? Suggestions? (I don't own a shower attachment, BTW)

 

 

God the preparation sounds exhausting... I get exhausted just wiping my Ass....

[javo]

i always say i like to top in txt before hiring. if he runs late, thats a good thing!!!! also i never hire a btm last min. thats just asking for a mess.

[sincitymix]

God the preparation sounds exhausting... I get exhausted just wiping my Ass....

I guess im just lucky my ass must have some magic cleaning powers, cause I have never douched or what not, and have never had an "accident"

[AdamSmith]

I guess im just lucky my ass must have some magic cleaning powers, cause I have never douched or what not, and have never had an "accident"

Ditto!

 

These preparation rituals sound like the year-long Purification of the Vestals in the Temple of Diana at Artemis.

 

[Marlfox]

I guess im just lucky my ass must have some magic cleaning powers, cause I have never douched or what not, and have never had an "accident"

 

I agree that the obsession with douching is getting out of hand. Sex is meant to be fun and at times spontaneous! Worrying whether you might have an accident takes the joy away.

 

If you take the obvious precautions (eg don't bottom first thing in the morning), nothing serious is likely to happen.

[+ quoththeraven]

I guess im just lucky my ass must have some magic cleaning powers, cause I have never douched or what not, and have never had an "accident"

 

Ditto!

 

These preparation rituals sound like the year-long Purification of the Vestals in the Temple of Diana at Artemis.

 

 

Me three. But it may be due to a physiological advantage. For example, when I had upper and lower GI series, I was ready for my pictures after swallowing the contrast agent. It takes most people an hour or more.

 

Attention to diet and Imodium are also helpful.

[Juan Vancouver]

I agree that the obsession with douching is getting out of hand. If you take the obvious precautions (eg don't bottom first thing in the morning), nothing serious is likely to happen.

 

I disagree vehemently.

 

Considering the normal population's habits, diet and health, being a receptive anal partner will more likely than not end up in a mess if you are not prepared. This is specially true if the active partner is well endowed. Not to mention feces might damage the condom or the anal lining, making it more likely for infections to take.

 

A few people are constipated enough so that it is pretty safe to have anal sex without accidents, but for the vast majority of people, douching will not only make it more pleasurable, but also much healthier and safer, not to mention the most basic consideration for your partner.

 

I agree that sex is supposed to be fun. Obsessing about it defeats the whole process. However, if you become well enough acquainted with your body and practice preparing, it will become easy, fun and actually quite enjoyable.

 

For me douching is quite enjoyable and fun. I know my body perfectly well and I am able to do it very efficiently and correctly.

 

The certainty that I am ready, the extra pleasure that it adds when I am perfectly empty and whistle clean and the confidence that it will be pleasurable for my partner more than makes up for the little work that it takes.

[ChrisWydeman]

Shit happens and its not a big deal but what seems to escape people is that it is a boner killer. It is your responsibility as a bottom to clean your butt out and its perfectly acceptable to say something like, "my gi track just isn't cooperating can we meet another day?" rather than shit all over the sheets and ruin them. If its minor I will keep going but more often than not its not minor. When you go do a touch up in the bathroom make sure to check your butt cheeks and the back of your legs because there may be stuff on them and that doesn't turn your escort on (well I know a few escorts but thats a whole different thread). When you present your butt make sure its squeaky clean because if you expect your escort to enjoy themselves and stay hard you will do your part as a bottom. If you don't know how to clean out ask your escort before you meet them and they will be happy to explain how things work.

 

Also if your going to clean out at your escorts place DO NOT RUSH!!! I have many clients who want to get as much time with me as they can so they rush their time in the bathroom and by doing so they trap water high up in their gi track and it comes out as your playing 9 times out of 10 and its not clear water.

 

I would say 4 out of 5 clients have issues being tidy so please if your going to play do your due diligence as a bottom before you show up.

[Just Chuck]

If you can run a set of silicon beads in and out and they look clean afterward, then I'll bet you're good-to-go.

 

https://www.stockroom.com/kinklab-innuendo-anal-beads.html

[mattr]

If an escort advertises as vers, can you assume he will be ready to go wherever the evening takes a couple of horny men?

[greatnorthernp]

I disagree vehemently.

 

Considering the normal population's habits, diet and health, being a receptive anal partner will more likely than not end up in a mess if you are not prepared. This is specially true if the active partner is well endowed. Not to mention feces might damage the condom or the anal lining, making it more likely for infections to take.

 

A few people are constipated enough so that it is pretty safe to have anal sex without accidents, but for the vast majority of people, douching will not only make it more pleasurable, but also much healthier and safer, not to mention the most basic consideration for your partner.

 

I agree that sex is supposed to be fun. Obsessing about it defeats the whole process. However, if you become well enough acquainted with your body and practice preparing, it will become easy, fun and actually quite enjoyable.

 

For me douching is quite enjoyable and fun. I know my body perfectly well and I am able to do it very efficiently and correctly.

 

The certainty that I am ready, the extra pleasure that it adds when I am perfectly empty and whistle clean and the confidence that it will be pleasurable for my partner more than makes up for the little work that it takes.

 

Amen.

 

I can bottom for my husband and boyfriends without douching because we've reached that humorously blasé point of conversing while on the can, door open, without any embarrassment at all as the most dreadful sounds emerge from our asses. "Oh my god, sweetie! The Thai you made? Pacific ring of fire!!!" (Love, it's grand, I tell you, and silly beyond belief.) We just know that certain times of the day (e.g., first thing in the morning) are not good, and are free enough to say, "Ah, I don't think you want to continue up that road, not unless you want a surprise..." There's very rarely any problem at all, and if there is, "Oops. No more of that!" Even so, if we're going to indulge in some, ummm...exotic fun, then we douche.

 

However, an escort is not my husband, nor a boyfriend. With an escort, I'd never dare be so casual because the relationship is decidedly formal--hopefully friendly!--and is more like a night at the opera than snuggling on the couch. I'm a bit obsessive about internal hygiene when it involves an escort, otherwise I simply wouldn't be able to relax anywhere near enough to enjoy the experience of being being pummeled into a pile of blissful jelly by a gigantic fantasy in the flesh. Escorts provide a uniquely "theatrical" kind of experience, which requires special preparation which, I wholehearted agree, is part of the fun.

[Juan Vancouver]

If an escort advertises as vers, can you assume he will be ready to go wherever the evening takes a couple of horny men?

 

Assume absolutely nothing unless you want to take the risk of being disappointed.

 

I am versatile and while setting up an appointment I ask what my partner likes to do. I will not prepare for anal unless he clearly says he enjoys it.

 

I ask. A couple times.

 

If you want to be sure it is going to be clean, ask directly.

[TruthBTold]

Assume absolutely nothing unless you want to take the risk of being disappointed.

 

I am versatile and while setting up an appointment I ask what my partner likes to do. I will not prepare for anal unless he clearly says he enjoys it.

 

I ask. A couple times.

 

If you want to be sure it is going to be clean, ask directly.

 

Do you ever ask the client about something rather standard as some people may be too embarrassed to say something about it? Or is that what you mean? That you say outright, "Are you going to want me to bottom?" or that sort of thing.