The "this is my first time calling an escort" line? Do you buy it?

[+ José Soplanucas]

I don't remember when I started to be honest, but in my first hires, probably during my first year, I would use the line "this is my first time". I did it out of lack of confidence, I was very nervous and insecure and being inexperience was the perfect excuse. Also my lack of confidence would prompt the need to ask many questions, again the infamous line would justify my questioning verbosity to the escort.

[liubit]

I honestly don't remember what I said to the first escort I ever hired (dinosaurs still roamed the Earth back then...), but I do remember that I was nervous as hell, and he certainly must have noticed it. However, he put me at ease, and guided my first steps into the wonderful world of male sex. It has become a long and most pleasure-filled journey. I obviously found it very enjoyable, given that I haven't stopped since

[mike carey]

I'm not linking this comment to the post that raised it and deliberately so. I am absolutely delighted that one escort took the time to dismantle his client's apologies for being inexperienced or not so good at sex or whatever and tell him not to do that. Inexperienced guys lack confidence and have performance anxiety and all sorts of issues. They need to be told just to enjoy it, all the more so when they are paying the guy they are with. An anxious participant is not going to enjoy things as much as he should. If I am anxious or nervous as a client, I need to say so, the escort will be able to make things work, he has done it before!

[marylander1940]

I don't remember when I started to be honest, but in my first hires, probably during my first year, I would use the line "this is my first time". I did it out of lack of confidence, I was very nervous and insecure and being inexperience was the perfect excuse. Also my lack of confidence would prompt the need to ask many questions, again the infamous line would justify my questioning verbosity to the escort.

 

Thank you for your honesty, I guess you had several first times but it's understandable in the first year of hiring.

 

I'm not linking this comment to the post that raised it and deliberately so. I am absolutely delighted that one escort took the time to dismantle his client's apologies for being inexperienced or not so good at sex or whatever and tell him not to do that. Inexperienced guys lack confidence and have performance anxiety and all sorts of issues. They need to be told just to enjoy it, all the more so when they are paying the guy they are with. An anxious participant is not going to enjoy things as much as he should. If I am anxious or nervous as a client, I need to say so, the escort will be able to make things work, he has done it before!

 

Exactly, that's why some escorts make a career out of escorting and some just can't handle it and quit or keep doing it out of desperation.

As much as I like twinks and guys younger than 25, experience and being able to make a living out of escorting usually separate the good ones from the ones who can't even pretend they're enjoying escorting.

[+ glennnn]

I vote for the "lack of confidence" theory, but maybe, for some, it's part of a fantasy, or role play scenario? "I'm being taken and used by this hot guy for the first time."

[+ José Soplanucas]

I was just sharing my experience, I do not pretend to project it to everyone else. I'm sure there are many reasons why people lie. Now, in general, I think it is not due to lack of honesty or to hide dark sick intentions, it is just a defense mechanism. I'm sure professional, experienced escorts know that and interpret the infamous line as a call for patience and care.

[beachboy]

Why not just say you're hired before then tell the guy why you chose him above all the others. Instant rapport. Tell him he's gorgeous, has an intriguing profile or whatever drew you to him then put the past where it belongs & have a great time with the hot guy who turns you on. I may sound confident but really I'm not. I've learned to be honest & tell the guy any issues to clear them out of my mind & give him every chance to make it a memorable experience.

[+ WmClarke]

I may sound confident but really I'm not. I've learned to be honest & tell the guy any issues to clear them out of my mind & give him every chance to make it a memorable experience.

Excellent advice.

 

I can also fake confidence, but it's so much easier to be yourself. And I have found that, over time, good escorts have raised my confidence in myself just through their quality work and their honesty. That started my very first time and continues to this day.

[rocksinurhead]

Well, "my first time hiring" is true for everybody once...

[abc645351]

I feel like part of the reason is just so the escort knows they are inexperienced and can take more control. If it's your first time you might not know exactly what to say or ask for, etc. so telling the escort could allow them to ask you questions that would better guide them in providing the experience you want.

[TruHart1]

I'm not linking this comment to the post that raised it and deliberately so. I am absolutely delighted that one escort took the time to dismantle his client's apologies for being inexperienced or not so good at sex or whatever and tell him not to do that. Inexperienced guys lack confidence and have performance anxiety and all sorts of issues. They need to be told just to enjoy it, all the more so when they are paying the guy they are with. An anxious participant is not going to enjoy things as much as he should. If I am anxious or nervous as a client, I need to say so, the escort will be able to make things work, he has done it before!

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I feel like part of the reason is just so the escort knows they are inexperienced and can take more control. If it's your first time you might not know exactly what to say or ask for, etc. so telling the escort could allow them to ask you questions that would better guide them in providing the experience you want.

 

I was so green on my first hire, I really had no concept of what the escort might do or be willing to do. So many guesses had a scenario where the escort and I would simply talk, get to know each other a bit, and the escort would tell me, "Well, our hour is up. You may pay me now!. Thank you." Thank goodness the first escort I hired realized my lack of experience and, after talking (I was so nervous!) about 20 minutes, he closed his curtains and started taking off his clothes, down to his bikini briefs, (I still remember his hardon was almost bursting from the confines of his underwear) and began to kiss me deeply. I was amazed and hooked for life! :)

 

TruHart1

[LADoug1]

On the flip side sometimes it's great when an escort makes you FEEL like it's the first time even when it isn't.

[littlenut]

For my first hire, I said "this is my first time being with a guy". It was. I was so nervous and clumsy, I would guess he (Dane Scott) believed me.

 

For my following few hires, I said "I don't have a lot of experience with guys". That was (is) also true.

 

As I get a little more experienced, I'll probably stop with that reference. In thinking about it, stating my experience level doesn't much add or detract from the session, as far as I can tell. But if asked, I'd be honest.

[LADoug1]

For my first hire, I said "this is my first time being with a guy". It was. I was so nervous and clumsy, I would guess he (Dane Scott) believed me.

 

How F**king fantastic that your first time being with a guy and your first hire was Dane Scott. I can only imagine how special it was for both of you. He's the absolute best and a TOTAL sweetheart.