The "this is my first time calling an escort" line? Do you buy it?

[marylander1940]

So many guys call escorts and say it's their first time doing it... Why do they say that? Does it make them feel good about themselves? How often is that true?

[+ nycman]

Who knows?

 

Maybe they don't want to be perceived as "sluts".

 

The Whore/Saint dichotomy runs deep in our society, and I imagine others as well.

 

The very first time I hired an escort he grilled me about other escorts I had hired.

He practically mocked me when I told him I had never hired before. I was insulted

...which honestly tells you more about my own insecurities at the time that is does

about the escort.

 

Humans are funny animals.

 

Today I'd probably laugh and tell him to worry more about taking care of my cock

right here right now instead of worrying about the competition. If that failed he'd

find himself on the receiving end of a good face fucking very quickly. It's hard to be

chatty/catty when your mouth is full.....

[down_to_business]

Probably for different reasons. I would suspect some other "little white lies" are spoken in these appointments too on both sides of the coin.

 

Examples:

 

name

age

occupation

marital status

position

health status

relationship status

virginity status (this is my first time having sex) (this is my first time having sex with a man) (this is my first time bottoming) (this is my first time being quadruple penetrated)

[Brian Kevin]

I had a guy this morning

 

"this is my first time hiring...." blah blah blah then he said "Your rate is higher than I've paid before"

-.-

............

[Brian Kevin]

Example # 2

"$200/hr"

"I would like a half an hour"

....................

"$200"

"but I want only a half an hour"

"$200"

 

this went on for about 5 more minutes. He doesn't understand that just because its 30 minutes doesn't make that right. He's still gonna expect one to .......... his ................. and maybe ........... the ............... . Its the small shit like this that makes attention to detail important, if you can't afford an hour why are you browsing upscale escorts and massage therapists??????????????

[stop]

I know this is ask an escort but as a client I know why i said it the first few times....shame..there is a stigma with hiring somebody.

[Brian Kevin]

I know this is ask an escort but as a client I know why i said it the first few times....shame..there is a stigma with hiring somebody.

 

I cannot accomplish anything thats written in my ad in 30 minutes. It makes me nervous and uncomfortable to do such a short session. If they're that flakey and that bad a of flight risk, they are welcome to take their business somewhere else. I hate to turn away money BUT I also hate rushing to compelete a session, its not fair for the Masseur/escort or client.

[stop]

I cannot accomplish anything thats written in my ad in 30 minutes. It makes me nervous and uncomfortable to do such a short session. If they're that flakey and that bad a of flight risk, they are welcome to take their business somewhere else. I hate to turn away money BUT I also hate rushing to compelete a session, its not fair for the Masseur/escort or client.

 

Brian, I wasn't suggesting you do a short session I was responding to the original posted question. Sorry for the confusion.

[Brian Kevin]

Brian, I wasn't suggesting you do a short session I was responding to the original posted question. Sorry for the confusion.

 

LOL jeepo, its the color of my hair! I'm sorry! It wasn't you, what you said is very clear! please dont be sorry, it is my error NOT yours !!! <3 :* :*

[+ WmClarke]

I had a guy this morning

 

"this is my first time hiring...." blah blah blah then he said "Your rate is higher than I've paid before"

-.-

............

Jeez. Sadly people really are that stupid and think no one remembers what they said 20 seconds ago. Or they must think "the most recent thing I said is the truth" so it's okay to lie constantly.

[beachboy]

I was tempted to say I'd never hired before when I hooked up with the escort I hire now because I'd only hired 2 & they were both disappointments & I didn't want to put pressure on the poor guy. But as clothes had been shed & lips locked by the time he asked me & it was obviously going going to be a great meeting I told him the truth. He seemed to treat it as a challenge & gave the the most amazing time so "The truth will set your libido free!"

[+ quoththeraven]

What about the time it's actually true and a preface to an admission of nerves or worry, or is meant to convey nervousness without actually saying the words? It's one thing when the client or potential client contradicts himself, but if he doesn't, is it right for the escort to dismiss it out of hand?

 

I don't remember if the escort I contacted asked first or if I volunteered it, but I would have been offended, and probably would have canceled, had he given any indication he didn't believe me. I get that enough in life generally. I don't need that in this context.

[tanman4u]

I actually want to make sure that an escort knows he's not my first hire. I want him to know that I've done this quite a bit so at least (if he believes me) he might have some semblance of assurance that I'm not just a window shopper etc., and that I'm likely to be serious.

[marylander1940]

Who knows?

 

Maybe they don't want to be perceived as "sluts".

 

 

 

....

 

I understand your point but why would an escort be judgmental, specially if everything that happens from the phone call to the encounter will remain between the client and the escort.

[mattr]

My first time, I said it was my first time...

My second time, I said it was my second time...

My third time, I said it was my third time....

My next time, I will say I have only done this a few times.

 

I make these statements so the escort understands my level of experience and is hopefully comfortable with it. It has nothing to do with being perceived as a slut, because everyone knows real men ARE sluts!

[+ purplekow]

So many guys call escorts and say it's their first time doing it... Why do they say that? Does it make them feel good about themselves? How often is that true?

Once

[marylander1940]

My first time, I said it was my first time...

My second time, I said it was my second time...

My third time, I said it was my third time....

My next time, I will say I have only done this a few times.

 

I make these statements so the escort understands my level of experience and is hopefully comfortable with it. It has nothing to do with being perceived as a slut, because everyone knows real men ARE sluts!

 

Once

 

Yinz and your honest are in the minority, I know escorts who every week get a call from first timers, over and over again. A local DC escort told me he took the "alleged virginity" of a client not once but twice.

 

Why so many clients or would-be-clients call saying it's their first time? Best escorts aren't judgmental.

[wisconsinguy]

What about the time it's actually true and a preface to an admission of nerves or worry, or is meant to convey nervousness without actually saying the words? It's one thing when the client or potential client contradicts himself, but if he doesn't, is it right for the escort to dismiss it out of hand?

 

I don't remember if the escort I contacted asked first or if I volunteered it, but I would have been offended, and probably would have canceled, had he given any indication he didn't believe me. I get that enough in life generally. I don't need that in this context.

There are a few contributors who helped me out greatly preparing me for my first time. I spent more than a few months on the forum voicing my anxiety. More than once I stated I didn't have to worry about ever being "clean" since every time I thought about it, my gut cleansed itself! Many advised that I phone contact my choice just to put a voice to my requests. Which at the time, I had thought about, but really didn't have ANY experience with. I was totally honest with the escort of my choice. I never asked him if he believed me, nor did he indicate he did not. In retrospect, I chuckle over a comment he made: "Are you sure you haven't done this before?" I laughed and said I was watching too much porn. So, this guy told the truth. I have been seeing this escort/friend for three years this month. Sooo, truth-be-told...WG2

[keithhardy]

Hey....I have gotten many "this is my first time being with a guy" not just the first time hiring. I would imagine they do it because it comforts them somehow.

[big-n-tall]

The first escort I ever had fun time with, I told him it was my first time with a working. That was because I was nervous. I never repeated the line about being the first time with an escort ever again. Although I have had other types of firsts.

 

For example, my first overnight (with a guy name Coltt). Mr Irons being my 2nd overnight ever, which I told him. The big muscular top I mentioned in another post, I provided a few firsts. which I'm extremely proud of. Even more so being that I don't think I was anyone's first in anything, except for him now.

[TruHart1]

I did not tell my first hire that it was my first time. I did, however, keep apologizing for my shortcomings at various acts once we were in bed. I'm sure that first escort of mine knew pretty quickly that I had never hired before. He basically took charge, asked me what I wanted to do and fulfilled fantasies for me I never expected to ever actually experience! After we "finished" he had me sit down side by side with him, both of us still naked, and lectured me (in a caring, fatherly way, though I was 25 years his senior!) about never apologizing for my lack of sexual technique, my bodily flaws or anything else negative, telling me about certain physical aspects he found attractive about me and assuring me many other men would also find attractive.

 

He set me on a path of mending my negative self-image and gave me the first true Boy Friend Experience of my life. I was hooked on this hobby completely from then on! I must confess, I actually told my second escort that he was my very first escort. I do feel he doubted that statement but because I was practically shaking when I let him in the door, I thought it might explain why I was so nervous, even though it wasn't true. I never claimed that it was my first time ever again, though! I have talked with a number of escorts about the first client who ever hired them though, and some of their stories are absolutely fascinating!

 

Truhart1

[Maximus69]

It always FEELS like my very first time when Im with a client

 

I get to experience something new with every single person I meet. No two clients are alike

[mike carey]

I don't recall what I said with my first hire, although from the preceding conversations is was probably obvious. On my latest hire I actually discussed some previous hires, not names just the nature of the experience with them.

[beachboy]

My first time, I said it was my first time...

My second time, I said it was my second time...

My third time, I said it was my third time....

My next time, I will say I have only done this a few times.

 

I make these statements so the escort understands my level of experience and is hopefully comfortable with it. It has nothing to do with being perceived as a slut, because everyone knows real men ARE sluts!

If being a slut means hiring smoking hot guys to have hot sweaty passionate sex with, sign me up!

[+ Truereview]

Thread title reminded me of this...

 

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