Dating

[+ Funguy]

I don't have to imagine that. I have lived that many, many times.

 

Of course you are honest with your partner. Why would you hide anything from him? That is the whole point about being in a relationship.

 

Also, I very seldom take the "Are you available this very minute" kind of calls. Normally I have my schedule planned in advance, but every now and then I will have to decide to leave a private function to go to work. It's not all that easy. You have to learn to prioritize, and sometimes work will take the priority, sometimes on special occasions phone goes off and you focus on your relationship. It's all about finding balance and communicating openly with your partner. It might be awkward at first, but very soon it becomes a non issue.

 

I am not saying it's not bothersome, but most professionals have to deal with their work invading their private life. An ex of mine once lived with a doctor who was called to work all the time at the weirdest of moments. He could not say no, life an death, you know. My ex always used to say that being with me was way less stressful and easier to deal with.

 

All professions have their challenges, all relationships have their friction areas. One should not avoid situations just because one knows one will encounter challenges. One grabs the bull by the horns, faces the challenges, communicates, learns, negotiates and grows.

 

I am not saying you should enter a relationship or that you should change your mind about it, I am just sharing with you that doing this in a very healthy way is actually not only possible, but very achievable.

 

You CAN have your cake and snuggle with it at night.

 

Thor is a very lucky guy!

(not only because Juan is always hard and warm)

[JamahlBrandon]

You CAN have your cake and snuggle with it at night.

 

"They say you can't have cake, and eat it too

But ain't that what you s'posed to do?

Ain't you s'posed to eat it too?

If cakes on the menu. Cake cakes on the menu..."

 

-Trey songz

[JamahlBrandon]

Can you just imagine being an escort and in a relationship with a person who's not in this business and lets say you two are having a date night or hanging out or whatever and you get a phone call/text from a client or regular who wants to meet now. Like what the hell do you do or say? Do you just be honest and tell him you have to leave now bc you have to go do business, i mean any boyfriend overtime no whatever how strong they are it would bother them, i don't know its just my 2 cents from a young boy here

 

That's when it comes down to communication and also figuring out what's important to you. That's going to involve testing the motives of the other person as well. You don't want to be turning down $300 for a guy who's only play dating for sex, only to turn you loose after he gets what he wants.

 

When push comes to shove, $200 isn't always greater in value than a possible long term connection with someone. That's also why I have 2 separate phones, and separate numbers. Even though I usually bring both phones, I can completely detach myself away from the temptation of answering calls if I've committed my time to family, friends or a date.

 

However, blood is thicker than water...Most of the guys I've "dated" have been just that. Dating. Meaning, they can be here tonight, and completely out the picture next month. And truth be told, people you do business with can be your most loyal and trusted friends. There's been times I've told guys (once they already knew), that hey...I'm broke this week. If a client calls, I have to take it. And I don't know why...but its usually always when I plan to go out with someone, that's the one time a client decides to contact me, and it's usually for an appointment I can't turn down. Like a 5 star hotel where you know you're going to get paid, or a request for an overnight.

 

I moved to Chicago last September and have been on a few dates most of which were just awful. I wouldn't say dating as an escort is hard, I would say that dating in general is.

 

Moral of the story is...I think I am getting a cat and giving up on dating.

 

LOL...how about I just drive to Chicago and donate to you my orphaned kitten/cat that's driving me up the WALL??

 

But you know, the same things that are going on in the dating world...is going on in our business as well.

 

Sorry for the interruption in the ongoing discussion but....

JamahlBrandon...dude your avatar pic is HOT!!! WOOF you have a great website and rentmen ad with great pics but that avatar is right up there for me with avatars for Juan Vancouver and Kurtis Wolfe . Nothing against the other men on her as there are many great looking guys with great avatars but Juan and Kurtis have picked great avatar pics and yours is right up there with theirs in my book.

 

Thankyou, thankyou very much. That avatar happens to be a souvenir from my first trip to L.A. couple years ago. The good news: I still have those very pair of underwear ;-)

 

So true. Gay guys in general don't understand the concept of dating. For many even the word "dating" is off-putting. They don't know what it means and it scares them. On the other hand "dating" can mean different things to different people. One must be clear on what "dating" means to them.

 

Guys don't even call it dating. That's WAY too serious. God forbid. Dating, that's like marriage. The word seems to be, "talking." Like, when I seen guys at the club who were with guys I knew, they'd be like: "oh, we're talking".

 

I'll never give up on dating, but right now life has been so crazy that I've not been focusing on it. I'm meditating on my relocation and finances, and trying to finish my degree. On top of that, the holidays from Thanksgiving to Superbowl/Valentines day just tends to be a futile time to really date new people anyway. It's just one thing after the next. Even football season adds to the stress of dating lol. A couple years ago, I watched a couple break up after the Denver Broncos losing the Superbowl, because the guy cheated on him in his house. When I asked the guy what kind of relationship they established, they were only "seeing each other", not in an actual relationship. I told the guy, unless you firmly established a relationship, no one really knows you're actually together. I certainly didn't know they were together. Not to mention, guys can be opportunist and will go in for a drunk kiss and not think twice about the consequences.

 

Americans need to get their priorities in check. We put too much emphasis on things that aren't important, instead of each other.

[Juan Vancouver]

Thor is a very lucky guy!

 

Thank you, that;s very sweet, but if you met him you'd soon realize I am the one who won the lotto. He is the nicest, kindest man I know.

[Andy2]

Now the irritatingly intelligent are complimenting each other!

 

LOL.

 

Mike and Juan are, obviously, highly intelligent. What makes their intelligence not "irritating" is that each man tends to be kind to other people, even in sharp disagreement. They both strike me as emotionally generous as well.

 

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[mike carey]

Mike and Juan are, obviously, highly intelligent. What makes their intelligence not "irritating" is that each man tends to be kind to other people, even in sharp disagreement. They both strike me as emotionally generous as well.

All of that, Andy! I wuv them both!

[RussJohnson]

Maybe If I write longer posts with more words people will think I'm more smart like and such

 

 

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Hey Gurl!

 

On or off during sessions?

[+ Truereview]

Maybe If I write longer posts with more words people will think I'm more smart like and such

I hate to break it to you, RJ, but you've done a nice job of outing yourself ...as a pretty smart guy.

I find succinctness very hot.

[seaboy4hire]

As someone who was in a pretty ltr while working I can testify that dating or being in a relationship and working can work. What made it work? Trust, honesty, making time for the other and communication. Regardless of the working situation, the four things mentioned are important in a non working situation relationship as well. Without one you can't have the others and without those mentioned you have nothing. Just my 1/2 cents worth on the topic.

 

Hugs,

Greg